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How Do You Bounce Back From Failure Ideas and Tips

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Failure is one life’s toughest teachers and it’s always there to tell us a thing or two about what we did wrong. but how do you bounce back from failure? Often times, it feels harsh, unsolicited and downright hurtful. Other times it feels like it’s there, looking back at us from over our shoulders, always hitting those shame and guilt buttons we have deep inside. 

How Do You Bounce Back From Failure?

Every time failure sets in, there’s also an emotional storm raging inside us – some of us have the ability to weather this storm with more ease, while others go straight through it, leaving no parts of themselves unscathed. But what if there’s a way to look at failure differently and bounce back from it with new-found strength? Here’s how you can achieve this internal shift regarding failure:

1. Reframe the Setback Realistically

When we face failure in our lives we tend to go back to it over and over in our minds and endlessly ruminate everything that happened, without really going anywhere. We place the event in the same light every time we revisit it, without really creating a new context around it. The challenge is to, first of all, be honest with yourself and admit failure in the most objective possible way, without exaggerating the downsides of indulging in your negative feelings. 

The next step is to release all emotions when you replay the events in your mind and try to implement counterfactual thinking. You can do this by replaying the events back in your mind and think about what you could’ve done differently, so you wouldn’t be facing this outcome now. This kind of exercise will help you become more responsible, instead of playing the victim and submitting to your emotions, while also providing a valuable lesson for your future endeavors.

2. Don’t Stay in Failure for Too Long

Truly resilient people are able to leave this defeatism scenario early on, while also allowing themselves to feel hurt by their failure. Resilience is actually built on failure, by learning the right lessons and keeping your eyes on the prize. There are so many famous inventors and artists that have failed countless times, yet they didn’t surrender to this negative-colored context and kept striving to obtain the desired results.

JK Rowling, the famous Harry Potter novels author, wrote her first manuscript after a failed marriage, with a small baby she needed to care for all by herself, while her living means were meager and insufficient. And as if this wasn’t enough, she sent her manuscript to twelve different publishing houses only to have her mailbox filled with rejection letters before she finally got accepted. There are many such cases of resilience throughout history, just as there are cases of people who quit on their dreams and goals just before they could reach them. It’s important to get back up and connect yourself with your ‘why’ and empowering emotions as often as you can.

3. Reconnect to What Makes You Happy

Dwelling too long on the negatives can dull your senses, your ability to clearly perceive your life’s purpose and your natural tendency to navigate towards what makes you happy. After each failure, it’s important to take the time and reconnect yourself to what really and truly makes you happy at the time being. 

It doesn’t really matter what it is – it may be dancing by yourself in the dark, wandering aimlessly in long walks or singing out from the top of your lungs. It needs to be an activity that solely fulfills you, regardless of what other people say. An activity that heightens your feelings of joy, excitement, satisfaction, and involvement. Whatever it is, engaging in this type of activity after failures will reconnect you with who you truly are and give you the sense of meaningfulness that was perhaps lost in the process. The pursuit of happiness is something we all need to engage in from time to time, regardless of our minor or major setbacks.

Ultimately, failure still remains life’s biggest teachers, regardless of how harsh its teaching style is. By paying enough attention to what new lesson it brings us regarding ourselves and the world, we may be able to bounce back from it sooner, while also finding new and better ways to achieve our goals the second time around.

About the Author

‘Claudia Spataru is a free spirit located in Bucharest, Romania and always in search of answers to life’s greatest questions. She loves to understand how people work, what makes them tick and find ways to help them reach higher grounds. She adores the sea, traveling and laughing.’

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Much Ado About Success: Possible For Everyone in 6 Steps

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Success! What an overused, misunderstood word!

Many motivational speakers speak about what produces success. They promote varied ideas to gain it, such as writing goals, developing self-confidence, setting minds on objectives, etc. But they don’t tell what success is!

Yes, writing goals is helpful — and keeping them in front of us. Rewriting them, adjusting them, is part of that. Today, writing goals is especially helpful because of countless distractions around us, especially the non-factual ones.

Yet, at least one successful person never wrote down goals. Rush Limbaugh said he’s never done that—and none can claim he’s not successful in his arena, no matter our political persuasion. So, writing goals isn’t a requisite.

1. Self-confidence and self-esteem

Developing better self-confidence is helpful. But, the current practice of giving unwarranted ‘rewards’ for just competing for causes confusion, not confidence. Plus, the culture’s habit of name-calling when people stand up for something or someone damages confidence. Yet, thinking we need to tell ourselves how smart or talented we are or how we can do something better than another isn’t the answer, either. We know within ourselves if we are smart or talented, and to compare ourselves to others is pointless.

Nothing builds self-esteem more than striving for, and doing, good — and doing what is right, despite risks. Seeking goodness, utilizing our talents in the best ways, helping others, all help us see our true worth, which develops our confidence and happiness! It may seem odd initially, but self-esteem increases humility which is attractive! Why else seek humility?

St Augustine said, “It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” St Augustine was a learned man, a theologian, a philosopher, an influential man in his era and today. Could he be right?

2. Patience and Goals

Now, setting our minds on our ultimate objectives is important. Yet, if the goal is a long-range goal, (the best ones are!), we need the patience to live with the delay, not get discouraged and stay focused. Why else seek patience?

Psychologists report that patience is power, born of understanding! So, we grow in internal strength and endurance, making life easier, and making our bodies healthier!

Of course, for ‘believers,’ prayer is powerful for goal assistance, though we don’t always see the effect. One thing, for sure: prayer never hurts!

3. Our own kind of success

But striving for/gaining success is never good when it’s a result of ‘walking on others.’ If we leave a trail behind us of people hurting because of our activities/words, then that’s a fake success. It cannot produce goodness but results in a rotten tree that produces rotten fruit. We may obtain more money, more power, more prestige. But in truth, we’ll be a failure. Looking inside ourselves, if we’re honest, we cannot feel good about obtaining gain through others’ losses. Though we may try to puff ourselves up, ignore our faults, and forget others’ pain, we will ultimately find misery from guilt.

If we experienced harm through someone rising in rank due to unethical practices or injustice, we cannot let ourselves sink to the same level. We can find our own success, no matter where we are, what our status is, how much we make.

4. Ingenuity

In addition, we don’t find success via mandated to-do lists. Without freedom of using our ingenuity, we may accomplish tasks, but not find success in them. Likewise, if we mandate others, that doesn’t create success for us or them.

I don’t claim to have all the answers. I’m no expert and I’ve not made millions or even hundreds giving advice on success. I’ve only advised teams, in several companies, and I was ‘in the trenches with them,’ working for their successes as well as mine. Most of this is based on a combination of common sense, experience as a manager and an underlying, referring to wise leaders, and studying ‘success.’

5. So, what is ‘success?’

‘To each, his own!’ We can be successful in challenging conversations. We can find success in difficult projects. We can appreciate success in our hobbies.

There are different degrees, different types, of success. We’re only failures if we quit trying. The famous Zig Ziglar said, “A failure is an event, not a person.” So, when we persist, we’re being successful in advancing toward our goals!

So, perhaps ‘success’ is simply found in setting our minds on goals, being patient, and doing good in helping others in the meantime!

Consider a poor, old woman who begged for food and money. She said, “When you don’t have anything, then you have everything.” Sound like success? Hint:  She didn’t beg for herself.

6. Actions speak for themselves

Mother Teresa served others/ loved everyone through her words and actions. She served the lowly, the dying, the dirty, never thinking about herself. In her humble work in an obscure location, was she successful?

She received the Nobel Peace Prize for spreading love, and 120 other awards/ honors, including the highest U.S. civilian award, the Presidential Medal of Freedom. But she would not claim success, only continual efforts.

Mother Teresa made powerful statements, relevant here:

If you’re kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you do good today, people forget it tomorrow. Do good anyway.

If you do your best, it will never be enough. Do your best anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some will be jealous. Be happy anyway.

If you’re successful, you’ll win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

There’s not much to be said after that!

Author’s Bio

Monica Walker

Monica Walker is a wife of 50 yrs, mother of 5, grandmother of 23.
She was a Region Manager at Augustine Institute, a Manager & Mortgage Underwriter at Bank of America, and the Owner of Rushmore Resources.
She is a Published freelance author — various city publications, weekly & monthly church publications, an Author — three books ready to publish, and a Poet/ Songwriter–ninety songs ready to submit.
She was also listed as an “Outstanding Young Woman of America,” and was a Guest on the televised Business Awakenings show. Monica lives in the United States.

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How To Be Happy In An Unhappy World In 7 Easy Steps

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Can we be happy in this crazy world? Speaking of the world today as a place of happiness appears to just be “Pollyanna” positive thinking, not dealing with reality.

When we consider the present world, there’s much poverty and persecution on one side. In America, poverty is minimal and the ‘persecution’ is verbal. We would think, then, that America would be happier. But, generally, no.

1. Gratitude for the Blessings

What we find is those in poverty are grateful for every gift, every blessing, every morsel of food, every day of life. They are happy! They have joy! However, in America few are satisfied. There’s envy, grudges, the struggle for more money, power, and status. People are most stressed and worried.

How can someone who has, basically, nothing be happier than one with everything (or the potential for it)? They find happiness within themselves, yet they’re not concerned with only themselves. They are selfless and generous. These people find happiness in life every day, appreciating each meal, each moment.

They know the truth, they know the reality of eternity. Moreover, they’re patient and trustful. Can a wealthy country learn from a “third-world” country? Not in technology, true. Not in politics, no. Probably not in infrastructure, maintenance, or most other areas. But can we learn from the people, the strong souls? YES!

The old adage, ‘There are no atheists in foxholes’ is accurate. Those in ‘third-world’ countries are in ‘fox holes’ and continue to hope. They believe in eternity and what it offers. Also, they know their current situation is temporary. Hope makes them strong.

2. People of Hope

We in America are spoiled. Many have no idea of the struggle we once endured that made us the amazing country we are. We once were also a people of hope… and belief… and love. But, today, most Americans have lost all sense of Faith. It hardly exists. Many of those who do ‘believe,’ don’t live their faith. Thus, the lack of hope—and, as a result, the lack of love. Charity is rarely observed.

Comments on social media are appalling. Hate and name-calling are prominent. People are quick to criticize and judge. Worse, they’re quick to attack. There is little attempt to understand. What good can come of it? Does the hate satisfy? Does criticism bring internal joy? Absolutely not! It hurts us—in many ways.

3. Step Over Criticism

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” So, even if we are criticized or called names, we don’t have to respond similarly. We don’t need to feel offended by those who insult us, showing their ignorance. We can rise above, pause, breath, smile—knowing the insult is untrue, that the name doesn’t apply.  “Let it go” and ignore the ignorant.

We can be faith-filled, hopeful, caring people again. We can build up our faith in an eternal Deity. People can learn to trust. It’ll make a change in attitude, a realization that hate and unrest are upsetting in themselves and within us, hindering, hurting. A change requires yearning for peace, especially internal peace. Isn’t that what we all truly desire?

4. Calm Down In Order To Be Happy

In the recent movie, “Rampage,” the gorilla, “George,” would get upset and his trainer motioned for him to calm down. In the former condition, George was dangerous. When the trainer insisted George calm down, George would respond, calm down, and be able to listen and be reasoned with. Then, he was also the means for doing good!

We’re the same. If we’re upset, we cannot think clearly. So, doing good is the last thing we consider or even want at the time. But we must act like humans and make ourselves calm down to be able to consider all sides of an issue or situation—and then act and react reasonably, fairly. We can all seek and find that peace of mind and heart if we truly desire it. How can we not desire it?

5. We all have faults

No matter what we think, we’re no better than the other person. They may be faulty in an obvious way—but we are faulty in another way.
Continual fretting, constant upset– about political issues and every item on social media which the media and some famous people encourage– affects attitudes, relationships, and also health! It damages bodies internally, causes pain, worsens conditions, and eventually can even kill. Worse, it can erupt in battles with others and someone getting seriously hurt. No good can come of it.

But, also, something few consider today is how it damages the soul. The soul lasts past death into eternity. If we all considered that what we do today in this life determines how we spend ‘forever,’ there would be less pain and less hate in this world.

6. Striving for happiness

So, let’s work on getting along, not jump to conclusions, consider the pros and cons of each issue and the motivations of each side. We should ask ourselves:  Why am I so upset about this? What is the source of the underlying grief I feel? Even if we don’t believe in eternity, we will be happier in this world if we realize we are not “all that!” We’re just another person striving for happiness—may be in the wrong way.

What can happen when we ignore the ignorant, let go of pride, strive for peace, seek hope, and practice love? We will be more productive, more successful—at our job, in our family, with friends, in life. We will be happier in this world. Then, if there’s an eternity, we’ll certainly find ourselves in an even happier place!

7. Is there an eternity?

Blaise Pascal said, “I would rather live as if there was a God and die to find out there isn’t than to live as if there isn’t and find out there is.” It’s called Blaise’s Wager. Blaise was a mathematician, a philosopher, a theologian, a physicist! So, he wasn’t ignorant! He was a wise man providing advice we would do good to follow.

Author’s Bio

Monica Walker

Monica Walker is a wife of 50 yrs, mother of 5, grandmother of 23. Region Manager at Augustine Institute. Manager & Mortgage Underwriter at Bank of America. Published freelance author — various local publications including weekly and monthly entries in church publications. Author — three books almost ready to publish. Poet and Songwriter–ninety songs ready to submit. “Outstanding Young Woman of America”. Guest on televised Business Awakenings show. Multiple, various awards at Bank of America and Augustine Institute. Volunteer for church and small-town activities. Monica lives in the United States.

5 Things To Know About 100 Years of Homework Writing

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Homework has come a long way. This means even as students of this age partake in assignments, it is noteworthy that it is an activity far from being dispensable. Even in the unforeseeable future, students will still be doing different types of assignments on a day-to-day basis.

Before looking into a brief history of homework, the question is of what significance are these tasks to your grades?  A worrying trend is that many students do partake in assignments just for the sake of it. Though when looked at from a scholarly point of view, there is more to it than what meets the eye.  What’s more, is that how you partake in these tasks matters a lot.

1. Well, here are a few practical homework tips to keep in mind;

  • Planning is an important step to doing assignments
  • Always locate a quite place from audio-visual distractions
  • Gather all reference materials you will need before settling to work on an assignment to limit unnecessary movements
  • Consult with fellow classmates if need be
  • Consider checking out a good do homework for me
  • Research on a subject you don’t understand extensively beforehand
  • To save time, you can always start as soon as a task is assigned, start with difficult questions and wind up with easier ones

In the age of the internet, students looking for tips on how to go about these tasks can very well look out for a website that does their homework. There are many of them out there. However, taking note that assignments come in different kinds. It is important to know what sort of work you have been issued with before hiring an ideal helper.

2. A brief look at homework history and pertinent issues

Homework has become so much engraved into learning culture to an extent that it is practically impossible to do away with it. Further, pay someone to do your homework has become something attached to it. Things get more demanding as one climbs up the ladder of academia. Therefore you really must buckle up for challenges that come with it, be it doing things by one’s yourself or hiring a professional assignment helper.

3. Proponents of assignments have always argued from a moralistic point of view.

They say if left to idle while at home, students’ minds can easily become infiltrated with unruly morals. Therefore keeping them busy with assignments is the best thing to do.
On the other hand, those who are opposed to homework hold that students need time to rest from schoolwork, at least to avoid mental saturation. Cumulatively, all these have culminated into attitude change towards certain educational activities.  Though, handling assignments is not as demanding as it was in the 19th century, thanks to the internet.

4. By a click of the button

Students can access tons of information of any kind on any subject. This is good news to those looking for reliable help with my math homework agency. Eventualities such as school dropouts which marred learning in the early 20th century also led to a lot of questions. Particularly with regard to three or so hours which students spend every night at home doing assignments but with little to show for it.

Issues like recitation, memorization, and drilling were largely seen as some of the most unfortunate outcomes out of these tasks. Students could be asked to recite what they have done in their assignments, something which experts argued added no value to academic progress. Another issue that came to the fore was the mental health and well-being of children as experts argued that they couldn’t contain a lot of workloads. A revolutionary era was to be born when publications advocating for the abolishment of homework hit their peak in the 1900s.

While some districts in the U.S and other parts of the world did away with homework, strong belief on assignments, almost cultic or faith-like in nature is still being held by parents, teachers, and educators. This led to a revival of assignments and the reversal of some abolishment policies.

5. Some of the issues proponents of assignments advocated for include;

  • School work goes beyond the classroom
  • Value embedded on intrinsically intellectual activity and non-intellectual activities
  • Homework makes students more responsible
  • The belief that assignments are liked to how rigorous a curriculum is
  • Good educators are those who issue assignments

It is important to note that every assignment falls within a category, something which you should know as a student. Here are some notable ones:

  • Practical homework which are meant to help student learn and acquire certain skills
  • Preparation tasks which are about new things to be taught in future but can be learnt in advance
  • Extension assignment which seek application of skills and knowledge
  • Integration assignments are about application of skills to specific tasks such as research work

Author’s Bio:

Sydney Whitman is educational worker. She spent years working at University and now works at homework service MyHomeworkDone.com, where she found her realization. Besides, Sydney is a well-known beauty blogger.

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Inspiring Words In Leap Stories With Elena Daniela Calin

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Enjoy this wonderful interview ~ Leap Stories by Dialogue Digital with Elena Daniela Calin, the founder of Positive Words Research.

Leap Stories by Dialogue Digital: a video series of interviews with a dialogue on overcoming fear and living with unwavering faith. We speak to Elena Daniela Calin, Founder of Positive Words Research.

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5 Steps To Train Yourself to Be More Positive Every Day

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Everyone in the world would like to be positive and optimistic in their personal, professional and social life. People used to say a lot of times with others and also to themselves that they are positive and optimistic. However, they become negative when they face some bad situations in their life. Keep in mind that successful positive thinking people were effective to deal with their bad moments in life. They always consider that horrific moments are good means for them to taste the real feelings of good moments and also consider that bad moments are a way to develop their personality, skills and many more.

According to Winston Churchill, “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” If you are negative to the difficult things that take place in your life, you can take this quote to your heart because you can get inspired from it and become a positive person. Being positive in your life offers you a lot of benefits like ability to take any risk, develop positive mindset, control your emotions, control your overall life, manage negative situations effectively, face challenging situations with ease, offer better health, boost your motivation, avoid stress and worries, build meaningful friendships and great relationships, etc.

Following are some of the steps or tips to help you to train yourself to be more positive:

1. Believe In Your Abilities and Skills

One of the first things that you should have in your life to become more positive is developing a faith in your skills and abilities. If you don’t have believe in your abilities, skills, knowledge and capabilities, you will automatically develop negative views about you. Believing in your abilities and skills gives you a lot of self-confidence and assurance about you. Train yourself to have ample faith in you, so you will be able to face any challenges and difficult situations in your life. It is also a great way to dig deep within you to overcome your unnecessary fears. If you believe in you, you can never let any person to bring you down.

2. Create Positive Thinking

If you would like to train yourself to be more positive, you should make sure to create positive thinking. People who have negative thinking in their life can never become a positive person. Negative thinking people will always think negatives and will not be able to take a step forward with confidence. Train your mind to reflect on what you want in life, and keep away from thinking about what you don’t want. Negative thinking depletes your energy and it is destructive. You can never find a good thing even in a positive thing if you maintain negativity in your life. So, think positive, take action with a positive state of mind, move forward in your life with positive mind, and never let negative aspects come into your mind under any circumstances.

3. Train Yourself to Smile

Smile can cure almost every bad feeling that you have in your life. If you maintain a smile in your face and if you could spread the same smile in your all activities every day, you will never think about negative things and be more positive. With a smile, you can face challenges in your life, take terrible things lightly, overcome difficult situations with ease, manage hardships in your life, and more importantly, influence the lives of people who are negative in their life. Keeping smile with you denote a happy, clean, pure and perfect mind where there is no negative or pessimistic thoughts. You can track your mind into being more positive is through smiling. Give a smile to the challenges, hardships, and many issues that occur in your life daily.

4. Forget Past and Live In The Present

You can train yourself to be more positive by forgetting past and living in the present. The best parts of people who are negative thinkers live in the past and they never ever try to forget bad or bitter things that occurred in their life. Forgetting bad and bitter things that happened in our past life is a great skill because it let you to live happily as well as peacefully. It will also aid you to think positively in your life and do things that are necessary for the moment. Thinking about past things will hinder your growth and stop you from doing even important things in your present life.  So, delete or format past events and live in the present to be more positive.

5. Share With Others

Sharing is a crucial thing in order to be happy and positive in our life. If you show the courage to share your personal matters with a person whom you can trust gives you more relief and energy. It will also aid you to rub out your negativity and develop a positive mind that is pure and spotless. When you share your matters with others, he or she can aid you to think positively and guide you to erase your negative feelings. Stress, tension, panics and worries can contribute to your negative thoughts.

Sharing will let you to avoid your stress, tension, panics and worries. You should also aim to be friends with positive people because others thoughts can influence your life greatly. In order to keep up their positive mindset, positive thinkers only surround themselves with people and things that will aid them to flourish positive attitude.

Author Bio

I am Robert Lynch I have been working as a freelance writer for the past several years now. One of the main reasons why I chose freelance writing career is that it gives me ample chances to bring out my skills and knowledge. Presently, I work for a best custom essay writing service online and it offers me to expand my writing skills and knowledge. I also love writing articles for different blogs online. I have also written contents for many websites and online publications so far.

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