How To Practice Gratitude And Benefit From Its Magic

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How To Practice Gratitude And Benefit From Its Magic

“Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

This is a famous quote from a famous book, the Bible, Matthew 13:12.

Gratitude is a practice, a skill. It means to retake knowledge of certain things that you are enjoying or you have enjoyed. It is the ability to be aware by choice.

Dear readers of Positive Words Research, I will show you the power and magic of gratitude from the light of two aspects:

1.)   How I’ve discovered the power and magic of gratitude

Since 17 years old I write my thoughts. At the beginning I wrote on paper, filling many notebooks. Then I’ve written my thoughts in Word and further on various blogs. After some years I started reading my past writings. I saw that I have written about beautiful things but also a lot about tensioned moments in my life. There were a lot of pages filled with negative emotions such as anger, sadness, even grief, and depression on some pages, disappointment, powerlessness, and even self-hate. While reading these pages written by the younger me, I noticed something. Every time my younger me felt some relief, some light, some hope it was in the moments I was being thankful for something.

On every page full of tension there were one or two sentences where I was saying something like:

  • Yes, but I am thankful that I got into faculty;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that I have a cat;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that I have a job;
  • Yes, but I am thankful that I was promoted;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that even if I couldn’t spend Christmas with my parents and brother, because of all the arguing and fights in my family, I got to spend a lovely Christmas with the family of my best friend;

I realized that I was practicing gratitude unconsciously. Currently, I am of the opinion that every human being is practicing gratitude to some degree. One can not live a human life without practicing some kind of being grateful. But, you either practice gratitude:

  1. unconsciously, in a small way or bigger way, depending on your inheritance and education, or;
  2. consciously, in a small way or bigger way, depending on your awareness and power of choice.

I started practicing gratitude consciously during 2012. The stepping stone in my transition was the book The Magic written by Rhonda Byrne. Through this book Rhonda taught me why gratitude matters and how to practice it.

To make a beautiful note: while practicing some exercises from the book, I’ve arrived on the website TheFreeDictionary.com, clicked on the related words of the word gratitude and discovered the world of positive words. This stepping stone drove me to start making this website, Positive Words Research.

Rhonda starts her book with a quote: “Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”. Yes, it is the same quote as above. She says that the meaning of this quote is better understood when you read it like this:

“Whoever has gratitude will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

This makes me think of a Romanian old saying:

“To the ungrateful one, life takes back the gift that was given.”

Gratitude is the land on which all other positive emotions will flourish. To benefit on long-term of positive emotions, practice gratitude.

2.)   5 Examples of how I practice gratitude

  1. The gratitude rock. I took a small stone that looked interesting to me. I am placing this stone in places where I can easily bump into her: in my pocket, on the table near my bed or near the flowing tap water in my house. Every time I see the gratitude rock I make myself think of something I am grateful for. Sometimes I think of more things I am grateful for in my life.
  2. The gratitude exercises before falling asleep. After going to sleep and before falling asleep I think of nine things I am grateful for that happened that day: 3 related to myself, 3 related to events during the day and 3 related to the work I do in my job. After remembering all these nine aspects, I choose the best thing that happened to me that day.
  3. Writing appreciations on paper. I write appreciations and gratitudes on paper for every aspect of my life. I do this exercise especially for the tensioned things in my life. It could be a memory, an event that happened recently or I feel some tension towards a person.
  4. I bless and thank every object around me. I pick a moment during the day and whatever is around me I say thanks to it.
  5. While I walk I pick a moment and for every step that I make I say thank you.

In conclusion, I want you to remember two aspects:
1. Practice gratitude for tensioned things in your life; write a list of ten appreciations for the memory, event or person for whom you feel tension;
2. Practice gratitude to benefit on long-term of positive emotions.

 “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

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Elena Calin is the person behind Positive Words Research. During 2013 she started researching positive words and begin building this site. You can contact her using the contact form from this website or become friends with her on Facebook.

10 Habits of Supremely Happy People

10 Habits of Supremely Happy People

10 Habits of Supremely Happy People

We all want to be happy. However, no matter how hard we want it, it seems that we never get there. And why is it, we wonder.

The truth is that everything in life is a question of habit. And being happy is no different. If you want to be happy, you need to make it part of your life. Every. Single. Day.

Yes, it sounds easier said than done. So how do we get there? By learning from whom has set happiness as their goal and achieved it.

So here are ten habits of supremely happy people. Get inspired.

1 ~ They appreciate little things

One thing that happy people have in common is the fact that they can appreciate little things that happen in their lives. Every smile, laugh, moment with a friend, walk out, anything that can bring them joy is celebrated as if they had won the lottery. They don’t think that only big achievements are meaningful.

2 ~ They build relationships and interact with people (face to face)

Relationships are crucial to happiness, and those who got there know it very well. So they spend quality time cultivating them. It means that happy people might not have many friends, but they will be close and loyal ones. They will be sure that they can count on their friends and family if needed. And they will meet them regularly in person, so they can share experiences and ask for support – something essential for happiness.

3 ~ They work on improving themselves

Self-improvement is at the top of the list of priorities for happy people. They know that they can’t change the others, but, if they can only change themselves, they might live much better. The enemy within you is usually much harder to deal, but the reward for those who have accomplished is priceless, they believe. So happy people are aware of their flaws and try their best to become a better person every day.

4 ~ They spend their time on what matters for them

Happy people know that time is precious, so they won’t waste it on activities that have no meaning for them. They know what brings them joy, and what their goals are, and they will prioritize both. They won’t be impressed by any type of pressure coming from outside, even if it happens to be disguised as an urgency. They also know that they excel when doing what they love, so rarely they try to change it.

5 ~ They show gratitude

People who have achieved happiness know how to say thank you. And not just because their parents have told them to do so. It comes from their hearts, from their certainty that life is a gift. So they will show gratitude for the opportunity to be part of the world, from the air that they breathe to the time that every person spends listening to them. And they will be happy for it.

6 ~ They talk about ideas, not people

Happy people love to put their brains in motion. It makes them productive, creative, and boost their imagination so they can write or work on it later. They will spend time talking about ideas, testing them, and learning from books and people. On the other hand, they will not waste any minute judging people’s life choices, as they know that it is pointless. Of course, they will want to know enough so not to repeat their mistakes, but it is very different from gossiping, as you know.

7 ~ They take care of their health

We all know how essential is to be healthy for our happiness, but do we really care about it? Or do we only remember what our body needs when it is too late? Happy people don’t make this mistake. They will take good care of their body when they are in perfect health. They will exercise, eat balanced meals, and sleep well no matter what.

8 ~ They live in the present

Happy people don’t wait to be happy. They are happy now. Today. They don’t think that life will be better when they get a job or get married, or graduate, or become a parent, or buy a house. They believe that they can be happy even though they have none of these things. Above all, they don’t expect that any material achievement, or something that also depends on somebody else, can make them genuinely pleased in the long term.

9 ~ They have goals (and work on them)

Another thing that makes people feel happy about their lives is having goals and working on them. It gives them a sense of purpose, a reason to wake up every morning and say hi to the world. They know why they work hard, and why things are the way they are. They have a plan, a to-do list, and they check it and make something small happen every day. In other words, they know why they are alive.

10 ~ They take risks and embrace changes

Happy people are ready to pay the price to be happy. If it means leaving their job, moving abroad, starting their own business, or getting a divorce, they will. Not that they don’t care or suffer the consequences. But they understand that they can make no contribution to the world if they are unhappy about themselves. So they will take risks and embrace changes whenever it feels right.

The Takeaway

There is much more that can be said about habits of happy people, but these ten topics are a good way to start. They will require much discipline from you, have no doubt. However, nobody said that being happy is easy in the beginning.

The good thing is that, after a while, your body and mind will get used to your new state of mind. And when the idea becomes a real habit, then happiness will be part of your life.

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Kerry Creaswood is a young and ambitious writer from Savannah, GA. She is fond of various forms of art and thinks that everything we can imagine is real. To find more about Kerry – check her Twitter

Whoever Has Gratitude Will Be Given More And He Will Have An Abundance

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“Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.” Bible, Matthew 13:12, meaning “Whoever has gratitude will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

Therefore, whoever has gratitude and appreciation for what he/she already has will be given more, and he/she will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude and appreciation for what he/she already has, even what he/she has will be taken away from him.

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5 Unusual Ways How to Stay Positive Forever

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5 Unusual Ways How to Stay Positive Forever

Positivity is so important. It means less medical problems, a longer life and – most obviously but still most importantly – that you are happier. The thing is, how do you actually become more positive? That’s the 10,000 dollar question, isn’t it?

So that’s what we’re going to look into today. Five unusual ways for you to stay positive and keep the misery at bay.

1. Work on your mental resilience

The opposite of depression, according to Peter Kramer, isn’t happiness. It’s mental fortitude. So if you want to be able to stay positive, make sure that’s what you work on. How do you do that?

  • Sleep enough. Getting a good night’s sleep is one of the happiest things that we can do. What’s more, when we get enough sleep we make certain that we’re far less likely to ruminate and will be far quicker to switch away from negative thought.
  • Eat well. Stay away from processed foods, sugars, and alcohol. Instead, aim at eating plenty of the omage-3, protein, as well as whole grains, beans, potatoes, vegetables and other minerals. Stock up on vitamins in the B C, D, and E range.
  • Exercice. I don’t really need to tell you that, do I?
  • Practice mindfulness. Really. Do. Mindfulness makes you better able to step away from negative emotions. So make sure you spend more time being aware of who you are and that you are not your thoughts and emotions.

2. Give

Did you know that giving makes the giver happier than the receiver? That’s right. So, become more generous with your time and your money and you’ll find your life becoming most positive – both because you are giving and because you are sure to feel valued.

Start with what I call ‘random acts of kindness ’. Help somebody in the grocery line. Give a big bill to a particularly good street musician (the arts need to get sponsored after all), help out at a school, a charity or a church. It doesn’t matter how you do it, as long as you do it. Make both yourself and the world more positive.

3. Realize positivity is internal

We often get so obsessed with the world outside of our heads that we forget that happiness and positivity are only a matter of how we perceive the world. So make more time to work on that perception.

That means, taking ‘you’ time where you shut out the outside world through such practices as yoga or meditation or gratitude writing. So do not worry if you cannot – it is what you get from it, not what you put on paper and focus on your mental landscape.

It also means learning that how the outside world affects your inner harmony is largely a matter of perception.

For example, if during a bank robbery you get shot in the shoulder you could see that as an example of bad luck (you got shot) or of good luck (you didn’t get killed). The former will make the experience negative.  The latter will make it positive. Which one you choose to accept as your perception of the events as they transpired will decide how you view that event.

4. Focus on experiences rather than things

Money on time spent on experience have more bang for their buck than the same money spent on things. So, don’t buy a new couch when you’ve got one that’s perfectly alright. Instead, go on a holiday with the family.

Sure, you might think that the holiday will mean the money is gone and the couch will stick around for a very long time indeed, but is that actually accurate? After all, a lot of our lives are lived through our memories and a good memory can be incredibly valuable, both in terms of how you see the world as well as your relationships with – for example – your family.

The good will and good memories that you create during experiences can last a long time, far beyond when you’ve gotten used to the new couch and no longer really pay attention to it.

5. Realize the difference between status and happiness

A lot of the time when we think we’re pursuing happiness – like when we try to get a better job, get that new car, or buy a bigger house – we’re actually pursuing status. Now, don’t misunderstand, status has its uses. People with high status can get a lot of things done and can get people to do a lot of things for them.

Still, they are not the same thing and it is important that you realize when you’re pursuing one or the other. How do you know? It’s quite easy. When the underlying motivation is to impress others and the main route to happiness is other people’s appraisal of you, then you’re pursuing status.

If on the other hand, it’s just about how you feel about yourself, then it’s a matter of happiness.

Being able to differentiate between these two will mean that you can choose when you’re going to pursue your own positivity and when you’re just trying to get a leg up on the people around you.

Why is this important? Because status is a zero sum game. That means that when you gain status, the people around you have to drop in the regard of others. And that makes sense, after all, we’re all competing for the same mental real estate.

Happiness, on the other hand, is not zero sum. When I’m happier, you don’t need to be less happy. We can both be happier together. So, in the long run focusing on making ourselves and those people around us happier rather than higher status will create far more positivity. And that has to be what it’s all about, doesn’t it?

Last words

Positivity is a state of mind. Sure, that might sound banal, but that doesn’t make it less true. For that reason, the best place to seek positivity is within yourself, rather than in the world around you. That doesn’t mean the world around you doesn’t matter, but it matters far less than you might realize.

That’s why some monks – who live a life of abstinence and self-denial – are far more positive than the average person in society will ever be. They’ve realized that it’s all about having the right outlook in life and rather than focusing on having more, they focus on feeling more.

If you can embrace that, then nobody will ever be able to take the positivity and happiness away from you again.

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Dante Munnis is a content manager and contributor on the Essay Republic, who is interested in self-development, web related topics, and success issues. He shares ideas for students living a better life and building habits that stick. You can get in touch with Dan via Twitter.

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Gratitude and Appreciation Letter to Myself

Look for things to appreciateToday I will write a gratitude and appreciation letter to myself. Gratitude is a very high vibrational energy.

As I write my grateful and appreciative thoughts I will summon and attract the energy of gratitude and appreciation. I remember Rumi said: what you seek, is seeking you. Therefore, I now seek gratitude and know that gratitude is seeking me.

I am sincerely grateful for every detail of my life. I am sincerely grateful for every detail, small or big, of my present life.

I am sincerely grateful and I appreciate fully my past. I love my future and the future loves me.

I feel grateful for my body, job, mother, father, brother, lover, house, good friends, money, clothes, food, my age. There are so many things connected with me. I feel grateful for how the Earth looks while I am alive. I am grateful for Earth. I am  grateful for myself. I am grateful for my body, spirit, soul, mind. I am grateful and I appreciate my thoughts. I accept all my thoughts. I accept and approve of myself. Life loves me. All my diseases hold a true blessing inside them. Every disease that I have is a true blessing for me. Every suffering that I feel is a blessing in disguise.

I feel blessed to live the life that I am living. I feel blessed to breathe air. I am a miracle. Breathing air is enough and I am grateful for this.

I am happy with my body and I feel grateful that my soul has this home. My body lives for me and cares so much about me. My heart beats for me. My stomach digests the food for me. The brain is the only instrument in the world that can receive and transmit thoughts and I also have one. My brain is an extraordinary organ and I am grateful for having it. Thank you for my hands that help me so much all the time. Thank you for my legs that carry me everywhere. Thank you for my entire body, it is an instrument through which the light is flowing. I allow light to flow freely through every organ of my body. I love my body and my body loves me.

Thank you from all my heart for all the people that I have in my life now. I am grateful and I appreciate every person in my life. There is a lot of love between me and these people and together we are creating the world worth living in. Together we are contributing to the kindness of the word. Kindness is a child of Loving Kindness and Loving Kindness is a child of Love. I am grateful for my kindness. I am grateful for my ability to be generous and patient.

Thank you from all my heart for all the air that I took into my lungs until now. There is an abundance of air on planet Earth and I am freely enjoying it. Thank you. I love breathing. Thank you for all the food that my body has taken so far. The Earth is good and kind and has nourished me greatly.

Thank you for every beauty that my eyes enjoyed. Thank you for my ability to see beauty. Thank you for my touch. Thank you for my ability and strength to consciously choose gratefulness and appreciation. Thank you, Myself, for always being willing to release hate, anger, agitated and inflamed thoughts, negative thinking and ways of thinking that generate sadness. Thank you for knowing the truth, the kind path, the nonresistant path and thank you for always being willing to take this path. I am truly a marvelous being, a marvelous creation. God is perfect and kind and I am His creation and always will be. God is kind to me. Life is kind with me. I am kind with me. I appreciate the kindness that I have with me. There was and always will be great Love for me while I am alive.  I am deserving of love. I am enough to receive the purest love and kindness that there is. My soul is part of God’s super soul and it is beautiful and blissful.Pink rose with dots

Thank you for knowing the truth, the kind path, the nonresistant path and thank you for always being willing to take this path. I am truly a marvelous being, a marvelous creation. God is perfect and kind and I am His creation and always will be. God is kind to me. Life is kind with me. I am kind with me. I appreciate the kindness that I have with me. There was and always will be great Love for me while I am alive.  I am deserving of love. I am enough to receive the purest love and kindness that there is. My soul is part of God’s super soul and it is beautiful and blissful.

I am grateful for joyfulness. I appreciate gladness. I appreciate happiness. I appreciate my smile. I love my smile. I am sincerely grateful for my laugh. I am happy with my creations. I am grateful and I fully appreciate in every detail my life experiences. I am truly blessed that I have the ability to look for things to appreciate. I love how I feel when I look for things to be grateful for and things to appreciate. May I always find the way to the energy of gratitude and appreciation.Believe in YourselfYou are Beautiful


This Gratitude and Appreciation Letter to Myself  is part of my project called #ThinkGoodAboutMyself. Through this project, I will create #100GoodThoughtsAboutMe. The second good thing #affirmation2 that I think about myself is:

“I am sincerely grateful and I fully appreciate every detail of myself. If everything that exists in the Universe is connected with me than I am grateful and happy for everything. If life is for me, then I am considering this life a blessing. Gratitude and Appreciation love me and are always with me. I am the Light. I know how to shine. I always shine beautifully. I am the Love.”You are beautiful

Elena D. Calin
Positive Words Research
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