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Back To The Start: Dating After Divorce Will Help You Let Go

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Dating after a divorce may sound like a tiring and unpleasant experience. Some people even prefer staying in a dysfunctional marriage just to avoid getting into new relationships. However, all the people in the world are wired to connect with others, and if you take it slow and open up your mind, dating can be one fun and liberating experience.

Take it Slow

Right after the divorce, you should be patient and take some time to heal. Never rush into things and don’t even think about rebound relationships. Those could only cause more problems and unnecessary emotions. During the first few weeks after the divorce, take the time to rethink your desires, talents and reconnect with yourself. After you have a clear image of your future, then it is a good time to get back on the horse and look for a new partner. Remember to have some fun first, before you decide to enter another serious relationship, just so you would not miss out on perks of being single.

Have no Shame

The good thing about divorces today is that they can be done quickly and they are considered normal, rather than an exception. Most Americans want to get it over with fast and, for example, filing for divorce in Oregon is not that complicated. The positive thing about online divorce is that everything is done without any fuss and piles of papers, which gives you the possibility to start dating again in no time. When reentering the world of dating, don’t be ashamed of your past. In real life, relationships fail, people fail and that is perfectly acceptable in today’s culture. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, be confident, accept the reality, and you will have no problem reconnecting with people and fully trusting them.

Have a Support System

You should never date alone. Of course, that does not mean all of your dates should be in a group, but make sure to surround yourself with good friends to support you. Let your best friends cheer for you and gently encourage you to date and have fun. It is always good to have a shoulder to cry on in tough times, and someone to advise and listen to you whenever you need it. With dearest and nearest friends, everything seems easier. You can turn a new leaf and bravely start dating, when you know there is someone to watch your back.

Date outside the Box

Everyone has a type. That is how you ended up with your ex, and it may seem hard to imagine dating someone completely different. However, how can you know that is impossible if you have not tried it? Open up your mind and date different people. If you wish, you can try and stay within “your type”, but it is always fun meeting people that are different than your ex, or even try and find a complete opposite of what you think you like. You will be surprised to see what type of people and personalities attract you, so have fun with them. Better yet, if the person is different than what you’re used to, the future relationship promises completely unique and unusual events to get you outside of your comfort zone for a change.

Talk to your Kids

Having kids at home may make dating after the divorce a bit tough. Now you are their model for everything and you want to be careful. Make sure to talk to your kids about the present situation and what is going to happen. Tell them that you will date again, but that you will not bother them with that too much. Be selective and choose partners only if you know they will be a good role model and that your children can connect with them, too. At the beginning, it is best to keep the dating details to yourself, and only introduce the date to your kids if you are certain about the relationship, in order to avoid causing anxiety with your children because of all the new people in your life. Also, tell them that they are your priority so they can be assured that they are loved and taken care of.

Don’t be discouraged after the divorce. It may seem scary, but dating is one fun experience that will encourage you to heal and have a bright future. Take things slow, talk to your kids and everyone will be happy at the end.

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My name is Alex Williams, born and raised in beautiful Sydney. I am a journalism graduate and a rookie blogger trying to find my luck. Blogs are the perfect opportunity for presenting yourself to a wider audience, getting the chance to showcase my expertise and receiving recognition. I am a regular contributor at BizzMark Blog.

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Hooponopono Meditation Letter to Myself For Empowerment

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Today I will write a Hooponopono meditation letter to myself. Remember and repeat the four Ho’oponopono affirmations which are:

I AM SORRY

PLEASE FORGIVE ME

I LOVE YOU

THANK YOU

I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. I allow the Divine Intelligence to solve the sickness in my body. I allow the Divine Intelligence of the Holy Spirit to find and implement a way for perfectly restoring the health of my body. I am sorry, my body. Please forgive me, my body. I love you my body. Thank you, my body. I am sorry my ancestors. Please forgive me, my ancestors. Thank you, my ancestors. I allow Divine Intelligence to give me the right answer. I am sorry feminine energy from my family, my lineage. Please forgive me feminine energy from my family, my lineage. I love you feminine energy from my family, my lineage. Thank you feminine energy from my family, my lineage. I say to myself: I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. There is great Love for me here. It is safe to be open.

Divine Intelligence is transforming and releasing my problems, my stress, and worries and transforms them into Pure Love. I am sorry my body for taking upon yourself this burden. Please forgive my body for taking on you this burden. I love you, my body, for taking on you this burden. Thank you body for taking on you this burden in such a wonderful and intelligent way. You are a magnificent body. I super love you.

I let God cancel these programs and memories that have manifested disease… dis-ease… in my body. I let the Holy Spirit cancel, delete, uncreate and di-story (take the story out of it) throughout all times, space and realities, dimensions or any other levels or realms, all these programs and memories that have manifested dis-ease in my body. My sorry is completely received. My forgiveness is completely received. My love is completely received. My thankfulness is completely received. The work is done. The programs and memories are completely deleted, uncreated and di-storied. In that place is now empty space. Space is created. I have just created space in that place. And it will be filled with Pure Love and Light. I love being healthy. Thank you for my health. May all be forgiven for all humanity. May we all be healthy.

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Energy Clearing Letter to Myself To Gain Power And Clarity

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Enjoy below a wonderful and powerful energy clearing letter to myself. Read the following clearing affirmations and let go of negative patterns.

Energy Clearing Letter to Myself

I love myself and life and people love me. All the people around me are kind. And I am kind. I am kind. I am happy. I am Joy. I am happiness. I am gratefulness. I am blessed. I am Hope. I am faith. I am Kindness. I am loving kindness. I am compassion. I am funniness. I am light. I am light. I am releasing heaviness. I am ease.

I am grace. I am transforming energy with ease. I am releasing tension. My heart is happy. My heart is in the joy energy. My heart attracts joy and blessed circumstances. My heart is strong. I am strong. There is Great Love for me here. I love being alive.

I release stress and worry. I release easily and joyfully the stress and worry from my body. I instantly joyfully release all panic. Life supports me. Joyfulness supports me and is in my body and all around my body. There is plenty of joyfulness events in my life. I love Ease. I love my energy. I love my masculine and my feminine energy. There is plenty of good things going on in my life. I love the events happening in my life. I love change. I really love change. I live for Change. Change is so good for me and I love it. I am so happy. There is so much contentment in my body right now. There is so much blissfulness surrounding me from all parts. Thank you for the way I want to live life.

Thank you for the way I want to live life. Thank you for my viewpoint. Thank you for my guidance. Thank you for my knowing. Thank you for my insight. Thank you for standing by my conviction. I am grateful that I have the power and I am showing this power in my kind way. I have the power to stay my ground. I love my vision. I love my inspiration. I love how I perceive the present and the future. Thank you for clearing my brain. I am grateful for a brain full of clarity. I am grateful for my meditation skills. I am happy with my skills. I trust myself. I trust my abilities to know things. I know. Thank you for my knowing. Thank you for receiving wisdom. Thank you for me being open to all this wisdom. Thank you for having this doors open to wisdom. I trust my wisdom. I am sincerely grateful for trusting my wisdom. There are many possibilities for me. There are so many happy possibilities and happy events for me in this life. There is great happiness surrounding me always. There is super great JOY surrounding me always.

Thank you for my peaceful body. Thank you for the peace flowing through my body. Thank you for the peace and kindness flowing through my heart. There is Great Peace for me in my body. Going more deep in my body makes me realise how much peace is always at my fingertips, at my disposal. Thank you for my Faith. My prayers are good. My life is blissful. My life is happy and joyful. My heart is joyful. My body is joyful. My emotions are joyful. My brain is joyful. My soul is joyful. My spirit is released. My body is released. My brain is released. My mind is released. Thank you for this releasing, this ease.

Love is finding me, always. Love will always find me, always. Kindness is finding me, always. Kindness will always find me, always. There is Great Kindness for me in my life. Life is for me. Kind life is for me. A life filled with love is for me. An abundance of love is for me.

I breathe Light through the middle of my Heart and I expand this field above Earth. Earth is in my heart, but the energy of my heart is bigger than Earth. I open to receive more and more love. I am loved. I open to receive Pure Love and Light.

I clear my energy in a kind and joyfull way. I clear all my cells. I clear my DNA. I clear my energy. Love surrounds me deeply. I am grateful for the clearing of my physical body. I am grateful for the clearing of my soul. I am grateful for the clearing of my mind. I am grateful for the clearing of my spirit. I am grateful for clearing all my layers. I am blissful. I am serene. I am peaceful energy. Thank you for lifting my soul with grace and ease.

Thank you for cutting the cords lower than Love. Thank you for releasing the energy cords lower than Love. I consciously choose Love instead of Fear. I consciously choose kindness than aggressivity. Thank you for my power. I am sincerely grateful for all my power. I stand gratefully and joyfully in my power. I have the right to stand in my power. Life is in joy when I stand in my power. I radiate Light.

I release all the cords that have roots in me and that “I” have grown them to reach other people. I cut the cords that come to me but also the cords that go from me to people, suffocating people. I set all people connected to me completely free. I cut all cords with wich I connected to other people. They are free and I am free. I set all people free of my cords, lower than Love or higher than Love. There is a new start for me now. I release all cords with which I connect to people, drawing their energy. Their freedom is safe for me. People complete freedom is safe for me. The complete freedom of other people brings me much joy and satisfaction.

I gently and happily instantly release all cords that go from Me to any other living being on Earth. I set them free.

I release all cords that I was using to take power from other human beings. I have my own power with which I am comfortable with. There is no greater power in people than the power in myself. It is safe for me to not be connected through a cord and not receive information from other people because I treasure more my peace. I treasure more my own individual power. I don’t need any energy from any other alive person. I have all the energy I need and more (an abundance) inside me. No need to connect with cords to other people. We are all free and this is perfect. I am free and all other living people are completely 100% free and this is so perfect.

May blessings,

Elena D. Calin – Positive Words Research

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4 Most Beautiful Words In English Language To Be Inspired

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I found this post on twitter today:

The 4 most beautiful words in English language from this tweet are:

AURORA (n.) down.

INEFFABLE (adj.) too great to be expressed in words.

ETHEREAL (adj.) extremely delicate, light, not of this world.

JOUSKA (n) a hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.

The words aurora, ethereal and jouska were not added to the list of positive words and I need to add them. The word jouska can be a positive word if it is a happy, joyful and positive hypothetical conversation.

Have a lovely day. Hope you enjoy this tweet.

Elena D. Calin
Positive Words Research
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Morning Affirmations to Lift Your State of Being For the Day

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These morning affirmations will lift your state of being for the entire day. The beautiful universe responds to our happy vibration and will correspond to your song swiftly. It does not matter what your circumstances are, all that matters is your state of being.

Raise the vibration of your state of being with these morning affirmations that are full of light and blissfulness:

Every day in every way I have an abundance of loving people in my life.

Every day in every way I am always loved, adored and respected.

Every day in every way my life is filled with love, romance, and happiness.

Every day in every way I have my perfect partner.

Every day in every way I have lots more successes.

Every day in every way I am always successful.

Every day in every way my business expands thrives and flourishes.

Every day in every way I have lots of wonderful friends.

Every day in every way I make new friends easily and quickly.

Every day in every way I always have lots of fun and good times with my friends.

Every day in every way I always receive everything I desire.

Every day in every way I always receive fantastic business opportunities.

Every day in every way I always have successful outcomes.

Every day in every way I always find solutions.

I have an abundance of prosperity.

I have an abundance of good friends.

I have an abundance of good fortune.

I have an abundance of money.

I have an abundance of good nutritious food and healthy beverages.

I have an abundance of magic and miracles showered on me.

I have an abundance of free stuff given to me.

I have an abundance of holidays and all of the finer things in life.

I have an abundance of good luck.

I have an abundance of even more successes.

I have an abundance of love and romance in my life right now.

Every day in every way I travel to different countries, meet new people and expand my horizons.

Every day in every way people ask for my expertise which is my writing etc.

Every day in every way my bank account is overflowing with more money.

Every day in every way my customer base expands.

Every day in every way I experience and enjoy all of the finer things in life.

Every day in every way I travel in luxury and style.

Every day in every way I have a luxurious and extravagant lifestyle.

Every day in every way I live in a luxurious property, in a beautiful desirable location.

Every day in every way I radiate love, happiness, success, and vitality.

Every day in every way my life becomes more amazing, more exciting, more prosperous etc.

Every day in every way I am traveling in style to foreign shores and meeting other successful entrepreneurs.

Every day in every way I share my writing gifts with the world.

Every day in every way I become more well known for my talents and expertise.

Every day in every way I have amazing new experiences that enrich my life and widen my horizons.

I am a child of the rich universe and she lovingly looks after me and gives me all of my desires.

Every day in every way I grow younger, fitter and more radiant.

Every day in every way all of the goodness of the universe is given to me.

Every day in every way I am a confident, talented, wise and beautiful woman.

Every day in every way I always receive all of the help and support I desire.

Every day in every way I always have a wonderful company and am surrounded by people who make me smile, laugh and fill my life with fun and great joy.

Every day your life is filled full of song, dance, and adventure.

Every day in every way you are a superstar.

Every day in every way you grow more famous and well respected.

Every day in every way your readership and fan base grows.

Every day in every way you are always given everything you desire.

Every day in every way you step into your magnificence and you let yourself shine.

Every day in every way you are loving, lovable and loved.

Every day in every way you see, feel and hear, the power of love.

Every day in every way everyone always listens to you.

Every day in every way you are in the process of positive changes.

Every day in every way people sit up and take notice of you and your talents and skills.

Every day in every way your customer base expands.

Every day in every way your profits increase and expand.

Every day in every way you have become known as the woman who inspired and empowered a nation.

Every day in every way your income multiplies and expands.

Every day in every way you experience and live what you love.

Every day in every way you always have an abundance of money to live your passions.

All of your good comes from everyone and everywhere.

All of your desires are met easily, swiftly and promptly.

The above affirmations are written by Melanie Molloy. These are her own mantras that she has designed and written. Please feel free to share them so that we can spread the love far and wide. Melanie hopes that you find them as magical and as useful as she has. It also makes a massive difference if you add thank you to the end of all these affirmations. Perhaps write them down in your gratitude diary. Melanie recommends to say them once a day in the morning. Most importantly have fun with them. 

Melanie is a very talented poet and will love to put together a completely free vision poem for you. The vision poem will be a tailor-made poem, that will be designed especially for you, to help you manifest your goals. Get in contact with her through her website:  Author Melanie J. Molloy

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You are Beautiful: Always Remember How Beautiful You Are

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You are so beautiful. You are perfect just the way you are now. You have a good heart. You are blessed. Be ok. All is well. Smile. Your smile is so beautiful Look into your eyes in the mirror and see the shine of your soul there. See yourself also reflected in your eyes. I know you are beautiful. Feel your heart. Your heart beats in the same time as my heart. All is well. You are loved.

You will never know how beautiful you are. Believe it.

Your eyes are beautiful.

Your hair is beautiful.

Your skin is beautiful.

Your legs are beautiful.

Your nose is beautiful.

Your lips are beautiful.

Your soul is beautiful.

Your mind is beautiful.

Your body is beautiful.

Your words are beautiful.

Your thoughts are beautiful.

Your memories are beautiful.

Your hopes are beautiful.

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Why Thank You: Best Thought and Affirmation For The Day

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Why Thank You for being here on Earth. You are loved. You are wanted. You are enough. You are special. I love you. You are forgiven. People enjoy your presence. May you be blessed with pure love and light and unconditional love.

Thank you for everything you have done so far, the good and the bad.

Thank you for existing.

Thank you for smiling at least once in your life.

Thank you for all your smiles.

Thank you for making someone else smile.

Thank you for working so hard.

Thank you for your everyday thoughts.

Thank you for believing in yourself.

Thank you for asking for help.

Thank you for giving help.

Thank you for being here.

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What Is Your Favorite Positive Feeling And Positive Emotion

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This is a quiz for positive feelings designed for voting.

This Poll/Vote quiz is updated by Positive Words Research and by you, the person voting. If you don’t find your favorite feeling in the list, select Other and insert your own favorite positive feeling. Enjoy!

If this poll is not working properly, vote for this poll here.

Positive Words Research – What is your favorite positive feeling?

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What Is Your Favorite Positive Word And Optimistic Word

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This is a quiz for positive words designed for voting.

This Poll/Vote quiz is updated by Positive Words Research and by you, the person voting. If you don’t find your favorite word in the list, select Other and insert your own favorite positive word. Enjoy!

If this poll is not working properly, vote for this poll here.

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Everyone Needs Help Sometimes: Never Give Up Have Faith

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The golden rule of overcoming mental health obstacles reads, “you have to want to be helped”. I’ve learned this over the span of my mental health journey after some devastating abuse I experienced in my childhood. Sadly, my mother turned to addictive substances when I was just 8 years old. She became addicted to methamphetamine and needless to say, it was devastating for my family.

My brother and I were severely neglected during this time and were put into some very uncomfortable situations. Addictive substances dealers coming and going, a missing mother for extended periods of time, strange paraphernalia around the house – we just couldn’t process it all. Luckily, after just a few months we were court ordered to begin living with our father and the nightmare was over.

It took me years to come to terms with the fact that I would never be able to accept my past and continue positively into my future without help. Asking for help is not always easy, but keep in mind that no one should have to keep abuse a secret. No one is meant to handle it alone.

Unfortunately, I have also had many friends and family members who have struggled severely with their own mental health. However, often times the illness continues untreated because people will not help themselves. No one on earth can help you if you aren’t willing to help yourself.

This is a problem that I struggled with for years. I put my family and friends through hell from time to time because I was miserable and they didn’t know why. It wasn’t until I revealed the intricacies of my abuse and asked for help that I was able to separate myself from the events and know that my abuse does not define me as a person. I was a victim of abuse, but I am not my abuse.

If you are going through an emotionally trying time or are trying to come to terms with past events, I urge you to first think of your family before you continue on your current path. Many people fall into a black hole of depression and don’t know how to get out and/or simply give up. You must remember that it is not the job of your loved ones to lift you up, you have to want help first.

Just because you are suffering from a mental illness does not mean that the world has to treat you differently. It is your job to work towards your mental health goals, thus, you can move into a better future that you create for yourself. Again, imagine your friends and family.

Do they bring a sense of well-being and helpfulness into your life (or at least try)? What are they receiving in return? If the answer is only anger, sadness, and no appreciation because of your mental illness, then it’s time to take a stand against your mental health. The fact of the matter is your mental health may be affecting theirs.

I understand this all too well, I tried to hold in the sadness and anger I had for my past and of course, it didn’t work. I went through spouts of deep depression and occasionally dragged friends and family members down with me or didn’t speak to them at all. It was absolutely not a way to live.

On the other end of the spectrum, if you have a loved one whose mental health is suffering, you may understand how incredibly trying it can be to try to make the situation better. The truth is, you can’t. No amount of love or friendship can erase a traumatic experience and if it isn’t dealt with, the emotional scarring may only deepen.

Regularly, those who suffer from emotional damage turn to addictive substances in order to self-medicate the pain that they feel. This may occur because of a lack of support or a suspected lack of support, especially if the victim is young. They may feel like there is no one to turn to, no one will listen, or that no one will believe them. I am genuinely lucky that I never seriously turned to addictive substances or alcohol. Several of my friends and family members used addictive substances as an escape for the anguish that they endured.

If you believe that someone in your life may have gone through traumatic life experience, please offer to be a part of their support system. Strangely enough, I never considered therapy or counseling until I had become an adult, years after my abuse took place. All it took was one little seed planted in my head by a loved one and I knew that’s what I needed to do.

So, just know that all it takes is letting the person know that there are options available – they do not have to continue suffering. It may take some time for them to come to terms with this fact and ask for help, but someone who wants to be healthy will eventually take the first step towards a better life.

Trisha is a writer from Boise, ID. She is a dedicated vegan who promotes an all-around healthy lifestyle, including mental health. You can find her on twitter @thatdangvegan or check out her blog thatdangvegan.com 

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Positive Words Research – Everyone Needs Help Sometimes

Everyone Needs Help Sometimes