If someone were to ask you the following question, what would your answer be?
How much do you love yourself?
The answer to this question belongs only to you, and the importance is much higher than you believe. Self-love can have a grand impact on the choices you make in life, the things you are inviting in, and the effect you have on other people.
‘Your life is your own creation. Living on the basis of self-criticism will never bring you to improvement. If you want to achieve the things you aim for, you must learn to love yourself’ – explains Luke Megaton, a psychology writing expert at UK BestEssays.
For those who believe that criticizing yourself is essential to becoming successful, here is the truth behind the two choices:
Self-Love vs. Self-Criticism
Criticizing oneself is a choice, a tendency people have. Many of us see criticism as a tool essential for our improvement since the idea pushes us to live up to our higher standards.
But, what if I told you that you have been wrong all along? Instead of helping you become better, self-criticism makes you akin to sabotage your dreams and goals.
Without self-love, you can only hurt your productivity and performance. By doing this, you are hurting your well-being.
Self-Criticism Holds You Back
Here is how criticizing yourself reflects on your life
- Self-criticism will make you focused on your flaws and decrease your confidence
- Self-criticism builds on your fear of failure, which will make you give up easy and lead to rushed decisions
- When you criticize yourself on regular basis, you are very unlikely to learn from the mistakes you are making
Yes, criticism may be beneficial for you in some cases, but you must find your own limit. As Alexander Pope once said: ‘’To err is human, to forgive, divine’’.
Self-Love Helps You Grow
- Increases your motivation
- Boosts your perspective and improves your decision-making skills
- Self-love improves your relationships by making you happier and more confident
- Self-love decreases depression and anxiety and boosts your psychological health
- Makes you resilient, which helps you raise from failure and learn from the mistakes you make
Loving yourself is the best thing you can do to achieve great things in life. Starting with feeling good to looking confident in the eyes of others, you must learn how to love yourself more, and criticize yourself less.
Learning to Apply Self-Love in Your Life
Believe it or not, self-love is a learnable thing. There are so many things in life that will make you feel less worthy than you are. Some of these could decrease your self-confidence and make you judge your decisions.
Sometimes this will be beneficial and help you change the bad things. Although in most cases, letting others kill your self-love is the worst thing you can do.
If you want to improve your life and well-being, here is how you apply and grow self-love in your life.
1. Find your mantra
Have you heard the word ‘mantra’? To fight the stillness and anxiety, practice some meditation and find your mantra. Once you do, return to it every time you need a little boost. It helps you grow your inner peace and empower you.
2. Get yourself some alone time
It is as simple as that – if you want to love yourself, find the time to love yourself. Whether it is a warm, calming bath before bed or drinking your favorite hot chocolate in front of the TV, get yourself some alone time. During this time, love yourself and nobody else.
3. Find support
There will be times in life when you are struggling – we all have such times. However, just because you are having a rough patch doesn’t mean that you should do it alone.
We all need people in our lives, but not just any people. People who value us as individuals, and are positive. Such people will help you get through hard times and grow your qualities.
4. Let yourself be vulnerable
Open up to others, no matter how hard it seems. People spend days and years keeping things to themselves, only to let these things out at the worst time possible. Set some time aside to be vulnerable with the people you love. Seeing people who love you will help you love yourself more.
5. Notice yourself
In times of challenge and doubts, notice yourself. Instead of criticizing your every move when things go bad, seek the positive things you have. We all have them. It makes us grow and develop even more.
Put yourself in the shoes of people who love and admire you, and notice yourself from that position. Who do you see?
6. Write to yourself
Yes, as ridiculous as it sounds, writing to yourself works. You can write yourself a letter or start a diary, but the important thing is to keep the conversation between you and yourself.
Talk to yourself as if you are talking to your dearest friend. Advise ‘your friend’ in tough times and tell them everyone can make mistakes. You can comfort yourself instead of attacking yourself, same as your best friend would do.
7. Make a gratitude list
What are you grateful for? Write down five to ten things you are grateful for each day. It is very simple but very beneficial for your well-being and motivation. If you want to increase your self-love, give yourself good reasons to love yourself.
It can be something as simple as seeing a friend you haven’t seen in a while or eating your favorite ice cream on your day off. Just think of the things you feel grateful for.
Practicing your self-life can make all the difference in your life decisions and success. If you learn to stray from criticism and aim towards appreciating and loving yourself, you can grow and achieve more than you ever hoped for!
Warren is a marketing enthusiast and a blogger at UKBestessays.com, who loves music. If he doesn’t have a guitar in his hands, he’s probably embracing new technologies and marketing techniques online! You can meet him on Twitter and Facebook.
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