You’ve probably come across a couple of people in your life that seem to have this implacable calm to them. They maintain a healthy distance from whatever is negative, while at the same time accepting themselves, other people and whatever is going on in their lives. How do they do it? Although a beautiful feeling, that inner peace you can sense in them is more than just an abstract concept. It’s a state of being that you reach by working on several little, but important aspects of your life. Let me show you what these are:
1. Clear Up That Waiting List
Whenever we set ourselves tasks that we don’t eventually finish, we add them instead to this invisible, but heavy-weighing waiting list of things-yet-to-be-done. If you are unable to finish certain things, make sure you completely remove them from your life unless you want that emotional burden to get larger and larger. It may seem overwhelming at first, but just start with the smaller tasks and you’ll soon get the ball rolling.
2. Choose to Be Responsible In Your Relationships
Unfortunately, responsibility in regards to other people doesn’t come easy to us nowadays. We tend to think that it’s others making us behave in a certain way and that we cannot always be held accountable for our reactions. This couldn’t be further from the truth – our behavior is up to us entirely. However if at times you feel anger or frustration just beneath the surface, you should just walk away from the situation for a while and come back with a fresher perspective.
3. Slow Down and Process
Adrenaline is key in today’s society and we sometimes can’t help ourselves but get another shot of it to get us through the day. That means we always tend to run on high-energy, moving from one goal to another, even at the expense of our well-being or relationships. Try to slow down and find a different, more relaxed pace in your life. I promise you you’ll lose absolutely nothing. Instead, you will achieve the inner peace you covet so much and simply be happy.
4. Ask Questions Whenever You’re Unsure
Lots of anxiety typically builds up around uncertainty. This is why it’s best to just dive right into fuzzy situations and ask the questions you need to get clarity in your life. This will not only help you but will help other people as well to get a better feeling of what’s expected of them or what they can receive from you.
5. Clean Your Workspace, Clean Your Mind
If you spend your day in a cluttered environment, you’ll find that your brain also gets foggy pretty quickly. We need space and cleanliness to function properly, so take the time to declutter your workspace or living room. You’ll become more relaxed, more mindful and more productive. Soon enough, you’ll want to have this positive emotion in other aspects of your life as well, so start simplifying and organizing your life.
6. Break Down Your Issues
Life is a beautiful, complex journey that’s often filled with challenges that can feel insurmountable. Whenever you are up against such an issue try to breathe in and zoom out. Will you still feel its impact in five years’ time? Are there people out there that are facing challenges greater than yours? How can I tackle the issue step by step? What’s the first thing I can do about it? What’s the worst thing that could happen if I don’t get the desired effect? By asking these questions, you can rid yourself of anxiety and get a clearer picture of what can be done.
7. Live and Let Be
This is one of the most powerful ways to achieve inner peace and happiness. Buddhists discovered a long time ago that acceptance represents the key to a positive mind and a more fulfilling life. Stop ruminating on what someone did, said or on something that happened to you. Stop feeding that endless loop, accept everything that’s going on and start creating new emotions instead. Allow yourself the opportunity to be more present in your life and more appreciative of it.
If your life so far has been an endless race and you don’t seem to catch a break, this is a clear indicator you need to find a new way of being. Take some time to introspect and ask yourself what’s an ideal version of yourself and what it would take for you to become that person. In the end, nothing else matters but for us to be in perfect alignment with what we need and want from life, while also respecting what our resources and natural gifts are.
About the Author
‘Claudia Spataru is a free spirit located in Bucharest, Romania and always in search of answers to life’s greatest questions. She loves to understand how people work, what makes them tick and find ways to help them reach higher grounds. She adores the sea, traveling and laughing.’
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