Looking for Something that Can Make You Happy? Try Gardening!

Finding a relaxing and useful hobby to pass the time can be exhausting in itself. There are so many options to choose from. Yet the main reason you are looking for something to do is because you want to feel happier.

Gardening is one of the few hobbies that can serve both as a pass-time as well as a full-fledged part-time job, depending on your interests. What are some of the main reasons you should consider if you want to take up gardening and feel a little happier in doing so?

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  • Personal exercise

While not overly demanding when it comes to physical activity, gardening can be a good way for you to get out of the house day after day. This is especially important for housewives, elderly people, children on school breaks and similar house-bound groups.

Watering your plants, planting new ones and keeping the garden pest-free are a constant activity that requires regular checkups. It can also be a good way to develop responsibility and discipline for people who are too relaxed about their obligations.

  • Stress-free activity

Whether you decide to plant flowers, fruit or vegetables, gardening is a very relaxing activity. Planting your crops and following their development through yearly seasons is relaxing and fulfilling. Seeing those plants grow and bloom will give you an especially notable sense of pride because you are to thank for their wellbeing. As such, gardening is particularly useful for people who deal with anxiety issues and need something to help them relax.

  • A healthier diet

Gardening can be a good way to enhance your diet and live a healthier life as a result. People tend to grow their own vegetables and fruits in order to avoid any GMO products that can end up on the table. This can also help you develop useful recipes and ingredient lists by using an online writing service to help you out. It is especially important if you have small children or people with health issues in your family, for you to consider gardening in order to produce some basic vegetable needs for your cooking.

  • Better focus and reflexes

While gardening may not be a very physically demanding activity, it can assuredly help you develop better reflexed, and focus a lot more on what you are doing. The reason for this is that gardening does require your attention and care. Especially with the garden maintenance part of the equation. Your plants will require constant watering, trimming and pest protection. All of this require a hand-eye coordination and DIY approach to problem-solving.

  • Budgeting on groceries

It’s much cheaper to grow your own fruits and vegetables than to buy them outright from the local supermarket. While it may not seem like it at first, you will get your money’s worth by the end of your garden’s lifecycle, when winter approaches.

People tend to grow plants at home not only because it’s healthier, but more affordable as well. Even though you may not feel the difference if you only plant a couple of seeds from different plants, those that opt for a more ambitious garden will assuredly spend less money this way.

  • Making new friends

Gardening can help you grow your social network in unexpected ways. There are multiple social groups, NGOs and nature preservation societies that welcome gardeners and help them get started. This process is especially beneficial for people with lower self-esteem or problems with socializing, since it can help them flock towards people with similar interests. While you will have a lot of fun growing your garden by itself, there will be more and more likeminded people around you who have something to add and strike up a conversation in the process.

In Summation

It’s easy to see the multitude of benefits that gardening can bring to people, not the least of which is the sheer happiness that comes with growing plants. While some people prefer growing fruit, others decide on vegetables and then improvise as they go along. Decide what kind of a garden you want to start off with and you will quickly be on your way towards personal happiness and learning useful things about how you can use homegrown plants for your benefit.

Author’s Bio

Alaine Gordon is a young and talented freelance writer. She has been writing professionally since 2010 about almost everything, starting from psychology and to the finance. Alaine Gordon graduated from the University of Colorado with B.A. in Journalism, 2011. She is open-minded, creative person who loves to make people smile. Her credo is ‘Life is a fun enterprise’. In her free time she loves traveling, reading science fiction and knitting. Her huge dream is to visit every single country in the world.

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Happy Couples Habits

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What makes some couples “perfect”? The way they treat each other? Do they complement each other? Or is it the fact that they change each other’s imperfections into strength? First of all, when it comes to relationships, there is no standard of “perfection”, everyone can have a happy and perfect couple in their own way, all depends on what their definition of happiness is.

Habits Happy Couples Have

In my case, in my relationship, perfection is defined by those things which we do with each other. Things we fully know but never mention, because we are completely different from each other. Being comfortable just by keeping each other’s efforts in mind.

  1. They are not affected by the outside world

Truly strong and content partners have a very healthy habit of standing with each other, even if no one is against them or try to stop them, they will remain in support. In the outside world, there are good and bad, some people are going to try to come between you and your partner. They can try to put strange misconceptions about your partner in your head. This is the place where you stand by your partner without any remorse. This is the true love – staying there for one another.

Obstacles can come in your relationship in any form and size. There might be something that doubts you about your partner’s past. It revolves around the society with disagreement in your immediate relationships. Trust your inner guidance and check if you feel so but only because you want it. Not because social pressure.

  1. Complete acceptance

Happy and strong couples accept each other without any need to completely change one another. Anyone who really loves you, will not try to change anything about you (unless it is a habit of life-threatening). They will care about the differences between you. They support you to be the person you are.

People with happy relationships realize that in fact by changing each other, they are not different from robbing. That, in turn, makes the relationship so far last. They appreciate equality, respect differences and permit each other to have their own full place.
This happens when we are really ourselves and are comfortable in our skin so that we can be satisfied with our life. A person who feels such satisfaction, it will, in fact, lead a healthy relationship.

  1. More than enough time without asking for it

Time is one of the most priceless gifts in the world, especially in the busy world of today. If you can still take enough time for your partner, you are telling them (indirectly) that they mean the world to you.

There are only a few things in this life that we can give and never get back: words that have said and given time. Happy couples know this very well when it comes to spending time with each other. They also respect each other when they take their important time alone.

  1. They listen to each other

Happy colleagues listen to one another, really listen to words and understand them. They speak patiently and speak when they know that they need it, this is the most important part. A strong sense of communication is one of the most important factors of the long-lasting relationship. Even when you do not even know what they are talking about, it will give them comfort if you pay attention to them.

  1. No-Fault Games

Powerful couples do not blame each other. Accept their mistakes whole heartedly and learn from it.

Being committed among many other things in the demand of relationship, you see what you did wrong, how you can modify it and prepare for it. When you accept your mistakes and apologize, it ease your burdens and gain respect.
Happy couples accept their falls and have a healthy communication and approach for every situation.

This is the reason why they swallow their pride and accept their mistakes instantly – for the last long period. This deep sense of responsibility always happens between two people, who share the healthy, strong bond of love and respect.

Author ~ Vishuka Chaudhary

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Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ I Used To Not Love And Now I Am Loving

By Elena D. Calin

Chapter 2 ~ I Used To Not Love And Now I Am Loving

“I’d far rather be happy than right any day.” – Douglas Adams

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I used to not feel loved and now I am feeling so loved. I just feel, now, so loved.

I used to not feel so alive and now I am feeling so alive. I just somehow feel alive now. I used not to feel like this. And now I feel like this.

I used to think I am not blessed and now I am feeling blessed. It just happened for me. I feel blessed. I used not to feel like this. I used to feel different. Now I feel blessed. It happened to me.

I used to not love people so much. Maybe I loved a few people. And now I am feeling love for so many people. I love singers, dancers, writers of movies, people that take care of the bakery in front of my house, the ones that take care of the park near me where I love to walk, and the neighbors that keep me secure in my house because we all live, together, in a building. And all the other people, so many people that are just amazing. Now I am just used to loving people.

I used to not love my body. And now I am feeling so much love for my body.

My body is a miracle; I used to not believe this. Just that now I do feel like this. I feel love for my body. I used not to feel it. And now I feel this love. I used not to respect myself so much and now I practice self-respect. Life is so much easier if I give self-respect to me when I need it. I love self-respect.

I used to think mainly at the not so good stuff that was happening all around the world. And I felt that these pictures are making me feel like I was living in a not secure world.

And now I am thinking mainly at all the good, beautiful, fabulous, mesmerizing, breath taking stuff that is happening all around the world. I have no control over all the not so good stuff which is happening in the world. Just that now I am also thinking that I have no control over the good stuff that is happening in the world.

This good stuff is multiplying in the world without me controlling it.

No matter if I have trust in people or I don’t, in reality there are these millions of people that are committed to see beauty in the world. They surf, they throw themselves from the cliffs into the water and then climb back to do it again. They run in races, they give birth to children, they dance, they teach other people how to dance, they just do all these millions of good stuff in the world.

And I could, and maybe actually I did, dedicate my life in visualizing all this beauty on Earth. The more I picture all this beauty, all this magic abundance, I know that I will not have time in my life to, at least, think of them, not to discover them, just to have a picture of them in my mind.

Then I remember that all is abundance. Therefore time is also in abundance for everyone. So I know and feel that I will have more than enough time to picture and discover all the beauty on this paradise which we all call Earth. Because we all live forever, right?

I used to not trust myself and now I am doing it.

I trust myself. And it seems that since I trust myself, others trust me also.

I used not to smile when I was walking alone on the street and now I smile whenever I remember to. And some people passing on the street besides me smile also without thinking why, just because they had a glance of my smiling face. And I like this, to make them smile, only because they passed me by. So I try to remember and do it as often as I can.

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I used to think other people consume my love and now I am happy that they feel my love.

Actually people only feel my love when I overflow with it. I used not to know this about life. I used not to know that you give, only when you overflow with something. I used not to overflow with love so often. And this is why, when I overflew love in the past, people felt my love, then the overflow stopped, so the love stopped, I did not feel it anymore and I believed that they’ve consumed my love.
And I so wanted to enjoy more of that love. Just that now I overflow daily with love, I am like a never-ending river. I am grateful for this. I know I used to not feel like this.

I used to not feel young inside my mind and now I feel so young. I know I used to feel I have an old mind; I felt it in the past even if I was less than 25 years old. I used to say that my face looks young but that I feel my mind is so old. Now I feel my mind is so young. I am happy that I will learn so many things in this life.

I used to not feel the freedom and now I feel the freedom.

I used to feel not free. I used to feel that all the people are not living freely, in their small concrete boxes all their life, in our small bedrooms. I used not to understand how they can live like this, not free.

Now I feel the freedom. Now I feel others freedom also.
There are so many free people in the world. There are so many people that freely do what they know they should do.
They follow the Love.

Now I think of all the people that are creating the life they want. And I allow them to do this, in my mind. Now I just do the same, feel free and create the life I want.
I discovered that people are allowing me to have my freedom, nobody actually tries to stop me from doing what I love and being who I love to be. Before this, I was living in illusion. I was trapped by my own perception.

I used to not have fun in what I was doing during the day and now I just have fun in my daily simple activities.

I have fun when I dress, when I walk, when I brush my hair, when I clean my teeth, when I write, when I just say doing nothing. I used to not have so much fun when I was writing and now I just have fun.

Somehow I make it fun. All these ideas come to me and make me smile. Sometimes I believe I can write forever, or I could get dressed forever, or I could brush my hair forever, or I could smile forever. Or I could look at the blue sky forever, or I could walk in the snow in quiet forever, or I could kiss someone forever. So many things that I want to do forever, and all of them are from this world.

I used to not feel good and now I just feel good.

I feel good! And I still have to sleep 7-8 hours every 16-17 hours. Just that now I feel good with this ritual of my human nature. And I still have to get dressed and go to work.

And I still have to eat three times and take other different little snacks during a day. And I still need to wash my body. And I still need to go to the toilet every day. And I still need to wash my hands every time after going to the toilet. And I still have to drink liters of water. And I am tired during the day from time to time. And I still have headaches from time to time. And I still need to buy food for my cat. And I still need to wake up in the morning. So many mornings!

Thankfulness to you and thankfulness to me also that I do all this every day. I used to not feel grateful for doing all these and now I feel grateful. Now I try to color all my doings with the colors of love and gratitude. I don’t try to do all I do, only out of love or gratitude; this is very hard.

But I try to do my daily activities, which I am already doing, with drops of love and gratitude in them. It’s like a rain of light pouring on all my doings. And somehow things changed without me directly changing them. Now I just feel good!

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”  – Aristotle

Homework 2:

Please allow me to give to you another homework which will help you to build your own personalized happy moment:

Therefore, make your own blessings replacing the following sparkles with your own words:

I USED TO NOT  *  *  *  * AND NOW I AM  *  *  *  *

Remember that this is a positive exercise meant to lift you higher.

“My hope is that the description of God’s love in my life will give you the freedom and the courage to discover… God’s love in yours.” – Henry Nouwen

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager

 

Secrets of a Long-Lasting Happy Love Relationship

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The secrets of long-lasting happy relationships are:

  1. Building a climate of practicing kindness, generosity, friendship, joy, love, trust & intimacy;
  2. Honoring the “bids” meaning the requests for connection, requests for a response, sign of interest and support, when hoping to connect, however momentary;
  3. Responding to “bids” by turning toward the partner;
  4. The partner recognizes the “bid” and respects that by engaging, showing interest & support;
  5. Each partner meets their partner momentary emotional need;
  6. Scanning environment for things they can appreciate and can say thank you for;
  7. Building a culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully;
  8. Scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right;
  9. Managing not to miss more than 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing;
  10. Responding to “bids” by showing they are there, showing to the partner that he or she is valued;
  11. Kindness glues the couple together;
  12. They build an environment of kindness and emotional stability;
  13. They show each other through kindness that each partner is cared for, understood, and validated—feels loved;
  14. They know and act upon the knowledge that ” when someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship”;
  15. The partners consider kindness as a muscle. They exercise this muscle to keep it in shape;
  16. Partners know that good relationship requires sustained hard work;
  17. They treasure the development and expression of a generous spirit. They express this generous spirit a lot and let it come in when a partner makes a bid so that they can turn toward their partner;
  18. They enhance small moments of emotional connection and therefore constantly gently empowering the relationship;
  19. The partners practice kindness in hard times and during a fight—they consider that this is the most important time to be kind;
  20. The partners express negative emotions in a kind way;
  21. The partners consider that if you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often and built kindness into the very backbone of a relationship;
  22. The partners practice kindness by being generous about partner’s intentions;
  23. The partners practice having an ability to kindly interpret partner’s actions and intentions charitably and they soften the sharp edge of conflict.
  24. Partners appreciate the intent of the other partner to do the things right even if they have executed it poorly;
  25. Partners practice another powerful kindness strategy revolved around shared joy.
  26. Partners show that they are there for each other when things go right. They think shared joy is actually more important for relationship quality. They respond with joy to the partner’s good news.
  27. Finally, there’s active constructive responding. If her partner responded in this way, he stopped what he was doing and engaged wholeheartedly with her: “That’s great! Congratulations! When did you find out? Did they call you? What classes will you take the first semester?”

“Active constructive responding is the kindest. Active constructive responding allows the partner to savor her joy and gives the couple an opportunity to bond over the good news. In the parlance of the Gottmans, active constructive responding is a way of “turning toward” your partners bid (sharing the good news). Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.”

The secret of a long-lasting happy relationship, proved by science, is that a lasting relationship comes down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

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Serenity Makes You Happy and Peaceful

Serenity is a state of contentment. Contentment was named by Dalai Lama as the key ingredient for inner happiness.

But how do we attain a constant feeling of serenity?

REBT therapy invented by Albert Ellis says that, in the same time, people rationalize, experiment some emotions and have a certain behavior. Therefore, in order for you to attain a state of serenity means that you need to work on your rationalization, emotions and behavior.

Rationalization.

Rationalization means thoughts: what thoughts you have and the way you think.

To improve your thoughts Positive Words Research puts at your disposal the best list of positive words in the world. Check this list and incorporate in your vocabulary as many positive words as you can. It is scientifically discovered that a human brain thinks more than 30,000 words a day, meanings a short to medium book… this is a lot of words. Make sure some of them are positive words… and this is only for one day… just compute how many words you think in a week, or month, or year… an abundance of words. Keep your brain happy feeding him with positive words. In this way you will keep your brain serene and make sure it will not mess up your life by being a brain that thinks negatively.

The way you think, means that, you have moments when you think: while you sit on a chair, while going with the subway, while walking to work, while running, while writing, while talking with friends, while you meditate. Be aware of these moments and think about high emotional subjects only in some moments, when you have more time and energy. Try not to think important subjects of your life anywhere you go. Make a rule just not to think about consuming and stressful problems in some parts of the day, like after 9 o’clock in the evening or in the morning. This will keep a balance in your life and sustain serenity all day long. You will feel content because you will not force yourself to think intense and immediately when you have a problem. You will develop a power over your brain to make him think problems when you want not when something happens in reality. You brain will not react anymore to problems from reality, keeping your inner peace.

Emotions. 

There are emotions that help you and emotions that don’t help you. Basically intense negative emotions over a long period of time are bad and will never help you. Well-being is attained when you have constant positive emotions over a long period of time, over 6 months and maybe very short lived soft to medium negative emotions and no intense negative emotions.

Emotions are created in time and are strongly correlated with our thoughts. This is what Albert Ellis has discovered.

Abraham Hicks says that emotions are our guiding system, informing us of the packets of thoughts that we think, so that we can take notice and change our thoughts for more positive ones. Also Abraham Hicks says that thoughts are vibration. The quality of the thoughts you think matches the vibration of your body, high or low. Serenity, peace, happiness, contentment, joy are high vibrations correlated with positive thinking. You think positively when you use positive words in your thinking.

Behavior.

Thoughts, most of the time, are just internalized words. Behavior you then correlated with your words, because you tend to do what you’ve said. The, the behavior that you have, generates thoughts in your mind. Because you will think about what you do, and then rethink, over long periods of time, about what you did. The quality of your thoughts will impact your serenity.

I’ve researches the positive word Serenity in The Free Dictionary and I’ve found some interesting other positive words correlated with this word: tranquility, placidity, repose, quiet, peacefulness, peace, heart ease, calm, composure, stillness, calmness, quietness, quietude, placidity, calmness, quietude, peacefulness, untroubledness, calmness, composure, equanimity, ataraxia (peace of mind).

Serenity means serene and content thoughts, serene and content emotions, serene and content behavior. All these will give you a feeling of well-being which is happiness and peacefulness through your life.

Please excuse me for my bad English. I am not a native English speaker. I hope you understand what I’ve written. Comments are most welcome. – Elena Calin, the founder of Positive Words Research