Words With The Power To Change Lives on Film

Words With The Power To Change Lives on Film

One of the most beautiful testimonies to the power of literature is Peter Weir’s film Dead Poets Society (1989), starred in by much-missed actor, Robin Williams. The film is centered on a teacher that changes a group of student’s lives, through his words. In one of the most memorable scenes, he tells them, “We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for.” Words have sparked change, inspired action, and helped human beings understand that they are not alone – even in their darkest hour. How have words changed lives in the film? Read below to discover a few examples.

Words and the Power of Acceptance

In one powerful scene in the recent film Call Me By Your Name (2019, Luca Guadagnino), a broken-hearted teen, who has just lost the love of his life, is consoled by his father. The father utters words that are so unexpected and beautiful, they form part of what critics have deemed the defining scene of this Oscar-nominated film. He says, “In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a parent. In your place, if there is a pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it.” Love, he says, is given only once and powerful emotions – including sorrow – should not be snuffed out, but rather, embraced. The father’s words are life-changing for the son, who resolves to hold on to rather than repress love. This scene is seen by many as an example of unconditional parenting at its finest.

Words as Imagined Perfection

Words sometimes fill a void, live life on behalf of its writer, represent a dream that will never come true. Such is the case in David Lowery’s Ain’t Them Bodies Saints (2013) – the story of Bob, a young man who takes the fall for his girlfriend when a robbery goes wrong and receives a life sentence. Bob writes his girlfriend achingly beautiful words which in effect are merely rhetorical since he will never be able to live the life he wishes to by her side. The words are given deeper effect by having the actor who plays Bob – Casey Affleck – read emotions such as these. “I’ll write to you every day and someday you’ll see a letter from me, and you will look up, and it will be me who’s handing it to you. And then we can forget about words, and I’ll touch your face, and I’ll kiss you.” His words may be a fantasy, but they enable his girlfriend to understand the extent to which she was loved.

Words that Merit the Greatest Sacrifice

These days, people feel considerably more independent when it comes to sharing their message than in the past. In the age of ubiquitous connectivity, everyone’s a mailman and as noted by OnlineStamp.net, people can efficiently print their own stamps at home, bypassing postal workers completely. Only Angels Have Wings (1939) shows us how different things were in the previous millennium. Cary Grant plays a brave airmail pilot who flies over the Andes mountains, risking his life so that the soldiers and their families can enjoy the soothing words of their loved ones. When war strikes, words can be the panacea, the inspiration, and the promise of something better to come.

Words that Woo

Words are capable of making someone fall in love with their writer, as the legendary tale of Cyrano de Bergerac and inspired characters have shown many times in the film. One film that builds on this narrative is Il Postino: The Postman (1995), directed by Michael Radford and Massimo Troisi. Il Postino is itself a remake of the 1983 film Ardiente Paciencia by Antonio Skarmeta. It is set in the year 1950. Famed Chilean poet, Pablo Neruda, is exiled to a tiny Italian island. There, he meets a young fisherman and part-time postman, Mario, who despite being poorly educated, becomes heavily influenced by Neruda’s poetry and philosophy on life. Neruda helps Mario woo the woman of his dreams, reminding him of the immense seductive power that beautiful words can have.

The beauty of words finds its apotheosis in many films that are treasured by aficionados the world over. From those that comfort or inspire to those that express an aching or yearning that will never be soothed, words are capable of eliciting powerful emotions that audiences can sometimes repress in their day-to-day lives. For many, these words are written down or kept in their mind, to be recalled when they feel that only they can really express what one is feeling.

Harnessing the Power of Words

I love words! I love reading words. I love writing words. I love studying words.  I love words by themselves when they make funny sounds like, “plop,” “sizzle,” or “catamaran.” But what I love about words the most is that they can describe ideas that are bigger than what I am able to perceive in my 3-dimensional reality.

I can read words to describe the things I CAN see, but can’t explain, like gravity or photosynthesis. And there are the words that describe things I CAN’T see like quantum physics, God, and the meaning of life. Words can also describe something I may never see in this 3D reality. I may never see a flying unicorn pooping rainbows in the clouds, but there are words to create that image, as I just did. Therefore, in my mind, the unicorn exists.

And there lies my fascination with words: endless possibilities

In the world of words, anything can happen. From the tiniest who in Whoville to the ever-expanding infinite source of all-that-is, and everything in between, all can be explained with words. (Except for the “ineffable.”) And so for the last few years, I was absorbed in a world of words.

Reading, writing, and listening to words all day, I got lost in the world of ideas and stories. Some stories were so inspiring that I beat myself up for not being “that hero” myself. Other stories were just so fun to imagine, I lost touch with reality. Either way, I lived in my head, and neglected the “real world.” I forgot there is life outside of words. I forgot I had a body, and I gained a novel’s worth of weight. I finally I realized it was time to reclaim my life in “reality”.

So, I dragged my sedentary butt to a yoga studio

I didn’t realize how far I had let my body fall off the radar,  but I was stiff and creaky. I begrudged all the things my body couldn’t do in class. Then one day I had a teacher who spoke my language.  She instructed us on how to do the “tree” pose. We faced a window that overlooked a pond, and we were guided to pick a tree to gaze at.

“Be the tree,” she said, as we stood on one foot. There was something romantic about the idea of becoming the tree, and I felt like I had made a long-lost connection with an old friend. I was a tree, and the tree was me. And like photosynthesis, I transformed that idea into energy.

In another session, the instructor was trying to get us to pull our shoulders back, but instead of saying pull your “shoulders back,” she said, “squeeze your wing-blades.” My heart instantly took flight.  Shoulder blades are shoulder blades, but unicorn wings, (or angel wings) are magical! I had never thought of my body as magical before.

 

Suddenly, being aware of my body was fun!

I imagined myself flying over hill and vale suspended by my “wing” blades. There was something heroic in that image. It instantly reminded me of riding my bike as a kid, when I pretended I was riding a horse through a sun-kissed savannah. And here I was as an adult on my hands and knees envisioning myself as a unicorn. Eventually, I learned to play with other ideas inspired by poses, such as warrior and happy baby.

What I learned is that the thing about words, is they are just the “carrier of meaning.” They are not the thing itself. As Alan Watts said, “the menu is not the meal.” You can’t drink the word, “coffee.” But you can use the word “coffee” to order a cup of coffee that you CAN drink. And if you are at certain coffee shops, you can even order a unicorn coffee drink.

And then I remembered reading various spiritual texts that talked about speaking words to create things into existence. Both the Bible and Vedic texts have phrases that say, “In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God (Brahman), and the word was God (Brahman).” And of course, Genesis states, “God SAID let there be light.”

 

Through speech, the word became flesh

And that is how I realized a fun way to use words to embody a magical life. So here is a way that I’ve been playing with words to speak the reality I want to live in my existence.

Pick some powerful words that you want to feel, and speak them. Let your body be the bookmark. Overlay the sparkly feeling of the word you want to embody in everything you do. Speak the words, and feel the meaning in your body. Here are some examples:

“Shake it off.”  shake off feelings of resentment, self-doubt, or any other bugger. Literally, shake your body and envision yourself sloughing off that old skin.

“Jump for joy!”

Literally, jump, and feel the joy. Speak the word, jump and feel the joy!

“Reach for the stars”

This reminds me of the closing statement of Casey Kasem, but stretch your arms to the sky and imagine reaching for the stars. What star do you want to pull from the sky? Put a power word in the star, and put it in your pocket. It will always be there.

“Grow / Expand”

Take a deep breath and envision your lungs as well as your awareness growing and expanding. Let your awareness expand beyond your body as you fill your lungs with everything around you, including the breath of trees and gas of stars.

 

“Leap to new heights”

Take the leap… take some leaps in your house, and envision the thing you want in life that you are leaping towards.

 

“Love” Love yourself

How do you love yourself? Treat yourself to a sensory experience. Love the tea you drink. Love the bath. The power of touch has been proven to release oxytocin and create a sense of calm. Try gently brushing your fingers on the inside of your forearms, and send love to yourself. Feel the tingly sensations. It is love.

 

“Tall and Light (and light)”

These are the words I use to correct my posture. I imagine myself tall like a tree grounded in the earth, and light like a feather suspended from heaven. The point is to sense the “space” — that quantum airiness— between the vertebra and stand tall. Do not be weighted by gravity, but light on feet. Be confident and also be a light in the darkness. Be a beacon of light.

 

“Be a pineapple”

I had to throw this in for my daughter who loves pineapples: The saying goes, “Stand tall, wear a crown, and be sweet on the inside.”  All that metaphorical goodness contained in a tropical fruit!

 

And my favorite: “Sparkle!”

In everything I do, I try to imagine “sparkle.” Sometimes I incorporate into my breathing exercise envisioning sparkly light filling up my body with glitter. Sometimes I look for “sparkle” when I wash dishes and the sunlight catches the suds and sparkles. Be the sparkle, or find the sparkle.  But if you focus on sparkle, find a way to embody or discover sparkliness in your life.

 

The opportunities to link fun words and images into your day-to-day living will give you a fresh new way to live in your world. (And help keep your mind from wandering into the bad neighborhoods of self-doubt and negativity.) You can use the words to imbue magic with everything you do. What other fun words can you speak into existence?

Kari Erkkila

Author’s Bio

Kari Erkkila is a recovering perfectionist who loves to play with words and art. Positive Words have become a favorite tool for exploring how language can be used to create a joyful life and a better world. Follow her journey on Instagram (Stink Big and Skurlfriend), or join the Facebook group, Stink Big!, a community for people who THINK big thoughts about being creative, but have been too afraid of “stinking.”

 

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Words And Phrases That Inspire, Motivate, And Persuade At Work

 

Words are extremely powerful. A person who doesn’t work with words might not know that but all the people starting from marketers and ending with writers understand just how much the word choice matters. By choosing the right words you are able to motivate people, to provoke them, to persuade, and so on. You can use the powerful verbs for your resume to make a better impression on the recruiters. You can also boost sales by putting certain words into an ad. The opportunities are literally almost limitless.

 

Words And Phrases That Inspire

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However, in this article, I want to focus on the words that are used at work. Though we all know that it is important to keep employees motivated and inspired (especially during the long tiring projects), not all of us actually understand how to do that. Here’s how words can help you encourage and inspire your workers a bit more.

1.    Call them by their names

 

It might seem like an insignificant detail but actually addressing a person by their name makes everything you’re saying more personal. It also tells them that you actually remember their names (which sometimes could be a challenge, especially when you work with many people).

By using names you show your employees that they are important to you, that their name is worth remembering. But what’s even better is that also helps to make them feel more self-confident.

 

  1. Focus on what you can rather than on what you cannot do.

 

Obviously, people don’t like hearing “No” – but not only because their request won’t be fulfilled but also because it is often perceived as an unfriendly behavior. Even you aren’t able to fulfill their request at the moment, try choosing another word – for example, “let me see what I can do to help you”. This way you’ll make a positive impact even if it turns out that you haven’t been able to help in the end.

Use this strategy not only when you have to decline someone’s offer. You might be surprised but it can also do wonders with your employees’ motivation. For example, instead of saying “your teamwork is bad”, say “you worked so hard to complete this project and I appreciate that. I hope that you’ll be able to perform effectively in a team too”.

 

  1. “You” matters more than “I”.

 

When you’re saying “I”, “Me”, “Mine” all the time it seems that you’re too focused on yourself and your own goals, not paying much attention to the other people needs. It could make a bad impression even in a company of friends, not saying about work surroundings.

People always want to know what’s in there for them. Why you replace “my goals” with “our goals”, the employees usually start feeling more included and so involved. They could be interested in the project more if you explain them why could it matter for them and how could it benefit them.

 

  1. Remember the “three A” rule.

 

There are three simple words that could affect your employees greatly. Even if you skip the previous tips and start using only this one, you’ll already be able to feel a drastic difference. Mostly because that when you have to watch your language all the time, settling with three specific words could sometimes be easier than adjusting your whole lexicon.

These three magic words are: ask, acknowledge, apreciate.

Let’s start with ask. If you start asking people something instead of simply ordering them to do it, you’ll look more friendly to them. A request is often completed more eagerly than a command: the employees feel like they are able to make a decision here, not simply to follow your orders.

Acknowledgment matters a lot too. Sometimes people quit their jobs not because the salary is not enough or the work itself is too tiring but because they want their bosses and team leaders to actually credit them for doing something. Moreover, acknowledgment itself can boost employees’ motivation greatly.

However, while acknowledgment allows employees to understand that they were noticed, it’s the appreciation that helps them make the most out of their duties. Sure, if the appreciation is followed with some kind of bonus, that’s a good thing – however, sometimes the appreciation itself is enough.

That’s why if you try adding these three magic words to your dictionary and using them with your employees, you’ll probably notice the positive changes really quickly.

Sure, using the right, powerful words isn’t easy. Not all of us are used to using them in everyday life, not even saying about work, and old habits do die hard. However, hopefully, these tips will help you focus on the most important words and increase your employees’ motivation with their help.

 

Author’s Bio

Charles is a career mentor, motivational speaker & human resources consultant with over 10 years of experience in HR sector. Apart from career mentoring, he loves photography and football. Find him on Linkedin Twitter, Facebook & Google+.

 

 

Stay Strong Inspiring Words by Melonie Shelton

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Do you ever wonder where strength comes from?  Your own strength?  We all have the strength to get through tough times.  We just have to put our mind to it and have faith in ourselves.  There are many unwanted things/memories I have in my past that you may have as well.  Things that you want to forget or feel like you cannot talk about or that it is not something that should be talked about.  Usually, the things you find yourself and someone else struggling with are the things that NEED to be talked about.  What if everyone kept all of their feelings and struggles to themselves?  It would be a very boring world and no one would ever learn about you or know that they are not alone in this world.  This brings me to family and as I always say, “you don’t get to pick your family”.

Growing up I had what many would call, at least in the South, the perfect family.  We were at church every time the doors were open, the house was clean, manners were taught etc.  As you know, looks can be deceiving.  Just because a family seems picture perfect does not mean they are and you never know what goes on behind closed doors.  Unfortunately, I know this feeling all too well.  You may be nodding your head thinking the same thing or tears may be running down your face.  None of us wants to think of or be reminded of bad memories, but sometimes crying is a way of showing your strength.  I always knew things didn’t seem right, but the mind has a way of blocking out negative things so you can survive.  Being a survivor makes you a strong person.  Yes you!  You are strong even when you think you are not.

By the time I was 22 years old I was having recurring dreams.  I guess my mind decided it was time to deal with some things.  While this was making me mad, it also made me see some opportunities.  I thought to myself, “There has to be someone else out here that has been in this situation or are going through it right now that needs me.”  What I decided to do was find a place that helped troubled teens and even adults.  There are plenty of places out there; just look.  My goal was to be able to reach at least one person to let them know they are special and most importantly that they are strong.  Many call this process mentoring, but you could just call it caring if you wanted.  Now, I know that not everyone is a people person, but someone you know is.  This person would most likely collaborate with you and eventually, you feel more comfortable stepping out of your box.   All it takes is you being strong and reaching out, and I know you can do it.

The first person I took under my wing was a 17-year-old teen girl that was pregnant and court ordered to be in a home for teen moms.  She had a nasty attitude and didn’t care about anything or anyone.  I talked to her and she would never look at me, and yes, this pissed me off.  Therefore, I decided I would have to go another route to get her to listen, not hear, but listen to me.  I knew I was going to have to get on her level.  That is one thing as adults we never need to forget, the feeling of being a teen.  Teens do not feel strong and a lot of the time feel worthless, but if you take the time to get in their space and give them no choice but to hear you, they will do just that, hear you.  This young lady always looked at the floor when I was talking to her.  One day I decided to sit on the floor and look at her under her folded arms and just said “hey!”  Well, that got her attention and by getting on her level it showed her that I really did want to be there for her, that I cared about her.

In a nutshell, she eventually had her baby and actually stayed in touch with me.  This was a domino effect with all of the girls in this home.  I then realized how much THEY were actually helping ME!  This is what I am trying to tell YOU.  You are strong and have a lot to offer someone; all it takes is showing that you care.  Remember, maybe that is all you needed at one time, even as an adult.  Strength is within you and you can help show someone else it is within him or her as well.  You are strong and can stay strong!  By believing in yourself and helping others believe in themselves, you become this ray of sunlight.  You will be so bright that people see you from miles away and are drawn to you.  You can be that light and always remember how strong you are.  Stay strong!

About the Author

Melonie Shelton

My name is Melonie Shelton and I’m a 44 year old single mom.  I have 1 daughter who just started college and we live in Arkansas.  I am a person that never meets a stranger and would give anyone the last thing I have.

Top 15 Positive Feeling Words and Positive Emotions

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Find below a list of the top 15 positive feeling words. The list is made based on the research and accumulated knowledge of Positive Words Research.

Top 15 Positive Feeling Words and Positive Emotions

 1. Grateful

In this category, are include positive feelings such as appreciation (being appreciative and appreciated), thankfulness (being thankful), gratitude.

2. Joyful

In this category, are include positive feelings such as contentment, cheerfulness (being cheerful), happiness (being happy), laughing, funniness, delight (being delightful).

3. Relieved

In this category, are include positive feelings such as relaxation (being relaxed), letting go, forgiveness, security (being secure), safety (being safe), satisfaction (being satisfied), comfort (being comfortable), acceptance, well-being, ease.

4. Free

In this category: being free, authenticity (being authentic), financial freedom, creativity (feeling creative).

5. Peaceful

In this category, are include positive feelings such as equanimity, awareness, clarity, mind emptiness, centered, calm, serenity, meditation, tranquility, feeling peace in your mind on a constant basis (mind peacefulness).

6. Loving

In this category, are include positive feelings such as kindness (being kind), loving-kindness, love, warmth, loving affection, generosity (being generous), self-love, feeling the love of all things, heartwarming, feeling the love in your heart, feeling lovable.

7. Hopeful

In this category, are include positive feelings such as good hope, positive expectation, trust, optimism (being optimistic), positive thinking (using positive words), positivity, positive attitude.

8. Purposeful

In this category, are include positive feelings such as feeling mission oriented (that you have a mission in life), feeling that you have and know your life purpose, knowing your short term and long terms goals.

9. Connected

In this category, are include positive feelings such as connectedness, openness (being open), sociability (being sociable), friendliness, larger than yourself, feeling that your heart is connected with the hearts of all alive people, mindfulness.

10. Confident

In this category, are include positive feelings such as beautiful (inside and out), successful, accomplished, fulfilled, pride (being proud), self-confidence, feeling powerful, inner smile.

11. Curious

In this category, are include positive feelings such as curiosity, interest, passion, exploring, adventure, discovering, learning, inspiration (being inspired).

12. Enthusiastic

In this category, are include positive feelings such as enthusiasm, innocence, pleasant surprises, the feeling that some things are a miracle, excited, amazement (being amazed), euphoria, awed, stunned.

13. Healthy

In this category, are include positive feelings such as vitality, aliveness.

14. Spiritual

In this category, are include positive feelings such as spiritual, bliss (being blissful), greatness, enlightened, feeling unlimited, feeling the perfection of all things as they are, feeling infinite, feeling the Divine.

15. Prosperous

In this category, are include positive feelings such as abundance (feeling abundant), the feeling that your needs are met in a happy, kind way.

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For more positive feeling words check out this list of positive words.

Pronoia ~ Definition and Meaning

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“pronoia” – definition and meaning

Pronoia is a neologism that is defined as the opposite state of mind to paranoia: having the sense that there is a conspiracy that exists to support you or any other person. It is also used to describe a philosophy that the world is set up to secretly benefit people.

The more you learn about the infinite connected universe the more pronoid you become…

“Once you make a decision the universe conspires to make it happen.” Ralph Waldo Emerson