By Elena D. Calin
This article contains fragments from the book Magic Sparkles of Happiness, Chapter 3 ~ I Am Bless And Bless Is Me
“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning." – Mahatma Gandhi
I am joy and joy is me.
I am bless and bless is me. I am love and love is me. I am abundance and abundance is me. I am prosperity and prosperity is me. I am happiness and happiness is me. I am strong and strong is me. I am powerful and powerful is me. I am success and success is me. I am beauty and beauty is me. I am peace and peace is me.
I am inspiration and inspiration is me.
I am thankfulness and thankfulness is me. I am freedom and freedom is me. I am vitality and vitality is me. I am perfection and perfection is me. I am gorgeous and gorgeous is me. I am ready and ready is me. I am kindness and kindness is me. I am self-respect and self-respect is me.
When we could be only happiness, then we will feel only happiness.
We would receive only happiness since only happiness we would recognize. We would attract only happiness. Only happiness would stick to us. We would be a form that holds only happiness. To all other feelings we would just remain immune.
We would give only happiness to others. We could not give anything else. We could not give nothing since all the time we would give happiness. We could not stop ourselves from not giving happiness to all the people, no matter their age, language, skin color, social status, disabilities, abilities, level of studies, thinking. Because we would be only Happiness.
A man said to the Buddha, “I want Happiness."
Buddha said, first remove “I", that’s ego,
then remove “want", that’s desire.
See now you are left with only Happiness.
Let’s think empowering thoughts…
… and fill ourselves with happiness so that we overflow with happiness at least three times a day. We give happiness to others when we overflow from within ourselves with happiness. That means we would feel, in almost every corner of our inner self, the feeling of happiness, and then more. More means that we multiply our happiness.
We multiply our happiness when we feel grateful while we feel the feeling of happiness. Therefore to overflow with happiness we need a simple reason for being happy and practice gratitude simultaneous. When you overflow with happiness, you are happiness and happiness is you.
The same process applies to everything else. To overflow with love, first you start practicing feeling the love and then you multiply that feeling by being grateful. When you overflow with love, you are Love and Love is you. A little secret to help you start practicing Love is: start practicing kindness, then loving-kindness, then you pass to feeling the Love.
Albert Einstein said: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them."
I believe that the awareness of a certain word makes you feel that word.
Therefore, when you are aware of a problem, first transform your level of awareness and then, try to solve that awareness. Most of the time, when you have an emotional struggle, the main reason is because you are focusing too much on a certain negative word.
For the moment, you find yourself located at the level of awareness of that negative word. The solution is to develop your awareness for the positive word, which is the opposite of the negative word.
The transition can be made with the below Step 2, where you are negating the positive world, you are saying not together with the positive word. Therefore you can jump through levels that take you to the positive feeling represented by the positive word, when you start from the negative feeling represented by the negative word, by taking the following simple steps:
Step 1) Name a single word for your negative emotion.
This is the easiest part because you are complaining about it in your mind, so you know what you are struggling with. For example name it like: sad, angry, mad, complaining. Then acknowledge it saying: “I am sad. I feel sad."
But, don’t stay too much in this state of awareness. Take the next step 2.
Step 2) Replace the negative word with two words, composed of not and the opposite of the negative word.
For sad we have happy, therefore you will have not happy. Spend some time by focusing on these words. You can repeat to yourself: “I am not happy. I don`t feel happy."
Then, think at the information stored in your mind related to what not happy means to you. In this stage, you will see that your brain will come with a list of happy things that you lack in the moment. This is precisely what you need. You can write it down and look at your treasure.
The list is a treasure because now you have a list with things that make you happy and you can start doing them and start being happy. But before going through the list, make step 3 also.
Step 3) Start repeating in your mind only the positive word, without not.
In our example you can say the word happy. You can also say happiness. Say in your mind the words at least 35 times, and then increase the reinforcement to 40, 60, 100, 200, 400, 1000 times until it makes sense to you, until your brain starts to reflect and focus on these words.
To make it easier and more powerful, write it down on a piece of paper. You can write the word happiness as many times as you need, until you feel the awareness of the word. Write it with big letters (this always has the biggest impact) and even in different colors.
I strongly believe that not what we say to ourselves troubles us so much, but what we don’t say to ourselves is troubling us, especially when we need to hear certain words in our consciousness. Most of the time we all search the feeling of relief, and in this way you can offer to yourself some self-relief.
If you do not know and really understand what a positive word stands for…
… then look it up in the dictionary, research it on internet and read articles and books about that word (there are many books about loving-kindness, acceptance, gratitude, equanimity, warm-heartedness, self-love, relief, abundance, peace of mind, mindfulness, confidence, happiness).
If you do not know positive words then put positive words in google and click on the first list that comes in your search. It is the list of positive words that I’ve created and published on Positive Words Research, the website that I founded at the beginning of 2013. Inspire yourself from this list whenever you feel you need a positive word.
The direct link of this list of positive words is:
A sentence is an accumulation of words.
When we grow up we need to take the responsibility of being our own teachers. And when a positive word weakens in our mind, we need to give ourselves the task to reinforce that word.
Except writing the word, a more powerful way to reinforce the word “happiness" in your mind is for you to start researching on the word happiness. Read in a dictionary what it means.
Increase your awareness by reading articles on the Internet about the word happiness. Read books about happiness. There are a lot these days. Find and learn all the positive words that are connected to the word happiness. There are so unbelievably many related words to happiness.
“Well, you know, a lot of people look at the negative things, the things that they did wrong and – which I do. But I like to stress on the things I did right, because there are certain things that I like to look at from a positive standpoint that are just positive reinforcement." – Tiger Woods
I will again give you another homework which is to build your own personalized happy moment:
Make your own blessings replacing the sparkles with your own words:
I AM * * * * * AND * * * * * IS ME
“It takes a long time to become young" – Pablo Picasso
This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.
The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.