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How Looking At The World Through Rose Colored Glasses Can Change Your Life

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Did you ever wake up in the morning and everything seemed black, gray, and sad? It was pouring rain and your head was throbbing. On the way out to work, you spilled your coffee on your scrubs you had prepared for a change and perfectly ironed the night before. You got stuck in a massive traffic jam, and your boss was quite upset at the time you showed up to work… It was one of those mornings.

Don’t let this all affect your mood! Remember the small trick of digging into your pocket, pulling out your rose-tinted glasses, putting them on, and suddenly the world will be sunny, your brain will be clear, and your stain on your shirt will not matter. Can this really be?

What are Rose-Tinted Glasses?

Rose-tinted glasses are not a physical tangible thing; rather, they are a symbol of a state of mind. It is a change in the outlook of how you view the world. You always have the power to view things in two ways; positive or negative. Rose tinted glasses means only looking at the positive side to things.

How Do They Work?

The psychological path of your brain is one of the strongest paths in a human. It can even dominate physical feelings! So all you have to do it put yourself into this positive thinking mode. Which literally means looking at every situation and finding the positive. Once your brain views and thinks of the positive, you will start believing the positivity of your situation, and then feel positive – which will turn your day from black to yellow.

Note: You can still feel pain and sadness wearing rose-colored glasses, but it will be from a different perspective, and you won’t feel that you’re suffering as much. Look at this simple math:

Pain + rose colored glasses = Less pain

Pain – rose colored glasses = More Pain, more stress, more anxiety, etc.

Putting This Into Practice

Let us start with the following scenario:

You woke up and everything seems black and dreary. How can you make this day more positive?

How about realizing it’s just a few clouds blocking the sunshine. Imagine – beyond the clouds is a whole beautiful sky that you will be able to view as soon as the clouds pass! Doesn’t that make the gray morning sky better?

How do you turn a rainy day awesome, you ask? Think positive. What will the world be without rain? If you go down that road you will realize quite fast how you want it to pour!

Coffee spills are no big deal once you put on the glasses! Think about the blessings of being able to hold and drink a coffee. There are many people out there who lost their arms and are on feeding tubes!

Did the boss yell at you? Think “this too shall pass” while your boss lets out all his steam. Keep quiet and keep on repeating in your mind that “this will pass…this will pass.” It will calm you down as he lets out his frustration on you. Later that day, once he calmed down, you can explain to your boss the reason you came late. I have no doubt that he will assure you it was ok you came late and understand you.

An Exercise of How to Acquire Rose Colored Glasses:

Since this is a mindset, you will have to practice installing this “program” into your brain.

Take paper and divide it into two.  On the left side write down 10 “bad” things that happened to you in the past week. On the left side think of how you can look at the “bad” in a positive light. Do this often at first. You will see that the first time will be tough. You will have to use your imagination, or you might even need an unbiased outsider to help you find the positive – but I can assure you that as time goes on, things will get simpler.

I would suggest you wear a “be positive” reminder for the beginning. Put on a pink bracelet or watch to serve as a cue to start being positive.  You can also put some motivational sticky notes near your work desk, bed, and on the fridge.

To conclude, changing a mindset is tough work, but doing so will change your life from dark black and gray to bright pink and yellow! And always remember: Whether you think you can or you think you can’t; either way, you will be right!

Bio:

Paul Priceman is a passionate male nurse advocate both in his personal life and professionally with Murse World. Priceman works tirelessly works to promote male nurses in the US and worldwide. He is also involved in researching and writing about various different fascinating and intriguing healthcare related topics. In his spare time, he enjoys skiing in the winter, swimming in the summer and daydreaming all year round. 

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Your Mood VS Your Job

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We have to make money somehow, right? For that reason, a lot of us do jobs we don’t like. We spent the better part of our days going to places we’d rather not be to do things we’d rather not do. All, so that in the time left over we can buy and take part in the things that do matter to us.

The question is, is this worth it? That’s something you’ve no doubt asked yourself if you’re in this position. Is it worth sacrificing the best hours of your day in order to get that bread on the table (or that expensive phone in your hand)?

Most of the articles out there that cover this question are pretty much somebody dressing up in pretty words a big screamed ‘no’. The problem with that, however, is that a lot of these people are engaged in counterfactual thinking. That’s where you imagine what would have happened if you had done something differently and then romanticize it to kingdom come.

My life would have been so much better if I would have kissed her, not said what I said, or not taken this job. The problem with it is that people forget to include what could have gone wrong when they chase such thoughts. She might have been completely unsuitable, you might have regretted not speaking your mind, or you might have ended up not getting another offer and living under a bridge.

Here I’m going to try to avoid. Sound good? Then let’s get to it.

The instant gratification mindset

The first thing that we have to discuss is that sometimes we don’t do a job for the money, but for what comes afterward. Yeah, the smartphone is nice and the car is cool, but they’re bonuses as we climb the ladder to something better.

Obviously, this is true if you’re trying to make a career. But even if that’s not what you’re doing, even if there is no real future for you at the job you’re at, there can still be good reasons to hang in there. You’re developing skills you’ll be able to take with you. If you hold the job for a few years, you’ll be able to jump in at a higher level when you do make the switch, or you’re building up a nice little nest egg which in the future will allow you to follow that dream.

The mindset that what we do has to be meaningful right now means that we’re never willing to hang in there for our knowledge, skills, and prestige to grow enough so that we can get somewhere more meaningful. It takes time to master things. Just as importantly, often it takes sticking with something for a while to demonstrate your mastery. And if you’re not willing to put that in there, you can end up regretting the life you’ve lived.

The comfort zone thing

Of course, the reason we hold onto jobs we don’t really like isn’t just because we’re trying to climb the ladder. Sometimes it’s because we’re frightened of the uncertainty that would come along with making a change. You’re plunging yourself into the unknown. Things might go badly. Who knows what’s out there?

Now, to be clear, we have comfort zones for a good reason. They’re there to make sure we think twice before we do something risky or stupid. At the same time, they can become straight-jackets that hold us back from following our dreams.

For that reason, you have to do two things when you’re thinking about whether it’s time to quit your job.

  1. Consider if you actually have any real future in the job you’re at. Can you climb a little higher? Is there a situation down the line where you can get some responsibility or position that will suit you better?
  2. If you do quit, how likely are you actually to find something better? What will it pay? And what can you do in a worst-case scenario?

While considering both of these, remember that we’re incredibly bad at imagining the future. In his book, Stumbling on Happiness the Psychologist Daniel Gilbert explains how we strip away the mundane from our fantasies and forget that we can be used to everything – even what at this point seems a dream job or a nightmare place to be. He suggests that the best way to find out how happy we will actually be is to look at other people who are already there and find out how they feel. Chances are, we’ll feel pretty much the same.

Even if you don’t follow that advice, do make sure you factor in that life still goes on. That means that it doesn’t matter if you work for the queen of England, a trusted translation service, or the local burger joint, your back will still hurt, you will still get the flu, your family will still be there and the morning sun will still feel good on your face.

Is versus really the right word?

Another thing to consider is whether it has to be one or the other. Is there only mood versus your job or can we also think about mood via your job or your job via your mood? In the book The Happiness Advantage, psychologist Shawn Achor explores how much better we are at living and working when we’re actually happy. It turns out, the advantage is huge, with it boosting our creativity, our memory and a whole range of other things.

Mainly, that’s down to understanding what happiness is for. Happiness is a signal that everything is going well, that we’re in a good place and can relax and that we can take a few risks in our head and our lives.

He suggests that the best way to succeed at your job is to make sure that you’re happy with it. Now, obviously you can quit your job and look for something better in order to improve your happiness, but that’s hardly the only way. You can also change how you look and what you do there, to boost your happiness and reap the benefits thereof.

And that, in turn, will make the job better and give you the potential to go to more exciting and interesting places.

So, which should it be?

Should you quit your job or hang in there? Should you try to change things or just do your best to get through every day? To my mind, there are two big considerations that will answer that for you:

  1. What does the future hold if you stick it out, is that what you want and can you hang in there until it happens? If the answer here is ‘not much’, ‘not really’ and ‘no’ then that makes it pretty obvious. You should probably think about doing something else. Of course, do remember the point I made above about the skills you learn and the knowledge you pick up. That can be very valuable down the line.
  2. What can you do to make your job better? Sometimes making some changes in your job can already make things far more enjoyable. Find ways to deal with the stressors. Talk to your boss. Improve your situation. Maybe then you can have your cake and eat it too.

Author’s Bio

At a relatively young age, Donald Fomby has already amassed impressive experience as a freelance writer. Currently, he is a valued member of the writing team at PickWriters.com. Donald studied Computer Science at Texas A&M and is a loyal Aggies football fan to this day.
In his spare time, Donald writes Sci-Fi short stories. He’s active on the convention scene as well. He also enjoys local music and has a soft spot for authentic Texas BBQ. He has a passion for technology, social media, and travel that make him a  great fit for PickWriters.

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Positive Words Research – Your Mood VS Your Job