Wedding day

How To Enjoy Your Wedding Day

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There are many standards and traditions when it comes to weddings. The dress should be white. The venue should be picturesque. The tablecloths need to go with the plates, which need to go with the flowers, which need to go with the bridesmaid dresses … The list goes on.

Getting caught up in the stress is natural when there are so many expectations, especially after you’ve spent months planning your big day. However, when the day finally arrives, it’s important to step back, take a deep breath, let go of potential mishaps, and enjoy your day.

Doing so can take quite a bit of work, but when you look back at your wedding day, you’ll remember how you felt. Though there will be a lot going on, preparing yourself to stay positive on your wedding day will ensure that you enjoy it.

Keep Your Priorities in Check

You have done all the planning. You have the perfect photographer, a conflict-free seating chart, and you’ve even hand printed the calligraphy on every invitation. You’ve personally attended to every detail, so it can be hard not to focus on them on the wedding day — but you have to stop yourself from doing that.

You can plan out down to the second, down to the smallest of details, and still, something will go wrong. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you won’t have a perfect wedding, it just means that you need to stay in the moment and let some of the mishaps slide.

To help you get through some of the moments when it’s difficult not to focus on the details, you can have a few phrases ready to help you focus on what’s important. You can try laughing at it and saying something like “c’est la vie”, or you can ignore it and go find something else to think about, like your new spouse or talking to some family members. It’s best to have a mental list of a few different phrases or options that you can turn to so that you can truly enjoy every moment.

Bridal Party Responsibilities

Even after you’ve prepared yourself for the fact that not everything will run smoothly, it’s impossible to be ignorant of any last-minute hiccups or sudden issues that come up. Yes, you should enjoy your day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tend to these problems in some way.

You can make sure everything runs smoothly by assigning different members of the wedding party — or other trusted invitees — specific responsibilities to be in charge of. This can also make your wedding a more positive family get-together by making more people feel involved.

For example, you can assign one of your bridesmaids the job of making sure everything goes well with the catering. You can assign one of the groomsmen the job of making sure no one eats the cake before you have the first bite.

Whatever details you are worried could go wrong, assign them out to someone else so that you don’t need to worry about it on your day. Be sure to make a list of everything you can think of, assign them out, and choose one person to be the go-to for unforeseen issues so that you don’t have to worry about them.

Money Can’t Buy Everything

Unless you have that much money. Or at least a wealthy relative willing to grant your every-wedding-day desire. However, it is especially advised not to use a credit card to fund your wedding. The day should be about pronouncing your love for your new life partner and making lasting memories, not having a reception that will rival the Kardashian’s. Besides, having to pay back hundreds or thousands of dollars during your first months as a married couple can put a strain on what should be a happy time in your relationship.

Another reason to reevaluate your budget is that a higher budget may overshadow a happy marriage. The Hustle reported that couples who spend less than $1,000 on their wedding tend to have happier, lasting marriages. Of course, you should take this — and any other statistic that tries to predict future happiness — with a grain of salt.

If knowing this relieves some of the pressure you feel to have a perfect wedding, then it’s a sign that you shouldn’t worry about having an expensive, fairytale wedding. However, your wedding day is for you and your fiance, and as long as you put the health of your relationship and future happiness first, then do whatever the heck you want. Even if your new mother-in-law may not approve.

Weddings can be stressful, which is why preparing yourself mentally is just as important as buying your wedding dress. Rely on your family, focus on what’s happening in the present, and try to remain in a positive frame of mind as much as possible. With a little bit of preparation and a little bit of letting go, you can truly enjoy your wedding day.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

5 Habits to Help You Stay in the Present Moment in Everyday Life

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Living in the present is a goal most people have tried to re-commit to, but it’s a lot easier said than done. Most of us spend a lot of our time reflecting on the past (the good and the bad) and planning or worrying about the future. The ability to stay in the present moment is rare, and it takes a lifetime of practice.

Rare are the times we’re truly aware of the awesome moments as they unfold. It’s why most people say their wedding day and other major events “fly by.” Fortunately, for some events, we know how important it is to have photographs and videos. Hence the massive wedding industry advertisements. It’s great to preserve those memories, but they’re still in the past.

How can we actually stay in the present moment on a daily basis?

Here are five habits to help you hone present-moment living and shake off the negativity that can come with trying to stay in the present moment or future:

1. Actively take note of what’s happening at the moment

Tapping all your senses including the tastes, smells, textures, what you hear and what you see is one of the best ways to pull yourself back to the present. It isn’t easy. However, the influx of experiential marketing showcases that as humans we’re hungry for full-sensory experiences. We’re so used to just energizing a few senses that the others are desperate for attention. Throughout the day, take note of what your senses are discovering, and you’ll be whisked to stay in the present moment.

2. Try meditation

Meditation isn’t easy and “true meditation” means you’re living in the moment with zero to minimal distractions. There’s a reason meditation guides will so often remind you that, “If you feel yourself getting distracted, simply acknowledge it and bring yourself back.” We’re both in need of more sensory experiences and always trying to distract ourselves.

Meditation doesn’t require any special equipment, and you don’t need to force yourself to sit for hours in vain. A few minutes per day, preferably in the morning and night, is a great help. There are also countless tools from candle gazing to guided tapes.

3. Tackle your technology addiction

Most of us struggle with some form of technology dependence. Download an app that keeps track of how often you check your phone to give yourself a reality check. Make a pact with loved ones that when you’re together during certain events, such as dinner or a date, phones are on airplane mode.

Technology is a major distraction and can do more harm than good when we depend on it too much. How can you lessen technology usage in your life?

4. Get in touch with nature

Whether you live in a metropolitan or a rural area, you’ll be able to find green spaces that help you get centered. Check out parks, nearby trails, or take short day trips to the great outdoors. Forest bathing is a way of connecting with nature on a deeper level. Leave the phones at home and make yourself aware of the awesomeness of your surroundings. Nature is a natural antidote to living in the past or future.

5. Start writing

Whether it’s starting a journal or writing a handwritten letter to surprise a loved one, writing forces our brain to focus and slow down. Our brains tend to work faster than our hands, which is why so many studies have shown that writing things down helps us remember them better than typing.

For a double whammy, write positive affirmations and work towards cognitive reconditioning of your self-talk. Penmanship is also a fading skill, and if we don’t use it, we lose it. Focusing on bettering penmanship is an easy, accessible, and fruitful goal that also has calming and meditative properties.

Living in the present isn’t a resolution that requires waiting until the New Year. Know that you’ll slip up, but making it an active goal on a daily basis will get you closer to living a calmer, more joyful life. What can you do right now to make the most of this moment?

About the Author

Trevor is a freelance writer and recovering addict & alcoholic who’s been clean and sober for over 5 years. Since his recovery began, he has enjoyed using his talent for words to help spread treatment resources and addiction awareness. In his free time, you can find him working with recovering addicts or outside enjoying about any type of fitness activity imaginable.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.