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Why You Should Be An Optimistic Person: Valuable Secrets of Positive Thinking

Why You Should Be An Optimistic Person_ Valuable Secrets of Positive Thinking

People often believe that being a positive or a negative person is something you are born with – you are either one or the other and you can’t change. But in most cases, they are wrong. This is just the attitude you choose to have. For instance, one person will strongly believe that they can get that job. Another person will strongly believe that they won’t get a job.

Which do you think gets it?

People adopt these attitudes as their own protective mechanisms. For a pessimist, it’s the comfort of knowing that you didn’t expect anything and you can’t be disappointed when you don’t get it. For an optimist, it’s believing that everything happens for a reason and that they can overcome it. At least, that’s how it’s supposed to be. But optimists and pessimist alike often mess up with their beliefs. Oh, and who got that job in the end, you wonder? The one who prepared the best.

Benefits Of Positive Thinking

Over the years, several studies have confirmed that Optimism has many health and societal benefits.

  • Less stress
  • Better coping mechanisms
  • Higher levels of motivation
  • More success in relationship
  • Higher grades/lower numbers of dropouts
  • More likely to commit to a healthy lifestyle

These are just some of the perks but certainly the most noted ones. However, it’s not always like this. Some people believe that all they need is a positive attitude – but this is a lie.

Optimistic people succeed because they believe that they can overcome any obstacle, accepting that it’s hard.

But there are those who believe that their dreams will come true and all it takes is to trust in that long and hard enough. Those people rarely ever succeed because they had it wrong from the beginning – they often say that everything will be easy and that success will come quickly. When it doesn’t, they get disappointed and stop working on their goals.

This is the biggest pitfall people face. It’s hard sometimes to be optimistic and accept the realistic parts at the same time. But if you can pull it off, there is no stopping you.

Benefits Of Negative Thinking

Some case studies have shown that negativity has certain adaptive and coping benefits.

People who were negative to begin with handled rejection and poor outcomes well – they didn’t expect much so they didn’t wallow when it didn’t happen for them.

This is the one side of negativity that proves to be useful time after time. But it’s mostly a protective mechanism that works in a strange way.

“Admittedly, there are some perks of being a negative person. But some people go overboard trying to get everyone to see the world the way they do. It’s uncomfortable and it gives negative people bad rep”, – says Myra Allonby, a blogger from OriginWritings.

Some say that people who think positively attract good things and that people who think negatively attract poor outcomes. This may be true.

However, it’s more about the fact that negative people believe that they will fail so they don’t put in as much effort.

The Best Way To Go

In the end, the best thing you can do for yourself is be optimistic about your outcomes but take on a realistic approach when it comes to handling obstacles.

Just being positive doesn’t work. What works is knowing that things will get hard and that you might even fail but trusting that with enough time and effort, you will succeed.

This approach is sometimes called realistic optimism and scientists strongly believe that most successful people take it on as their mantra. Find a positive side to everything. For instance, you failed – but you get to learn something and the next time you won’t. This is a good mechanism that will prove useful to any individual.

“You need to learn to embrace everything that comes for you and find the things that work while letting go of the stuff that doesn’t. Worries and negativity don’t amount to anything”, – says Geoff Mersea, a content writer from Writemyx and 1Day2write.

Be A Positive Person

Adopting this kind of attitude takes time. The first step is realizing that it’s not something you are born with but rather something you learn. Hopefully, these tips will help you become a more successful person.

Author’s bio:

Sherie Raymond works as an education writer and editor at Academic brits. She loves to write articles for online publications, namely in the educational and medical field. Sherie does yoga in her free time.

5 Secrets To Make Your Boring Day Job Exciting Again

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Can you recall how many times you tried dragging yourself to work?  It can be definitely hard to be enthusiastic and excited about going to work after you have been doing it for quite a while. This can be very hard for most of us, however, let us rekindle your drive for your job.

Why Low Career Libido Happens?

Then, one day you wake up that you just do not feel the zeal for your work the way you once did. Nothing about your job has changed. However, it is your drive to do things which has suddenly died down.

We may not truly and fully understand this phase in our careers. Yet, our first instinct is to tell ourselves to pack things up and leave. Remember, as long as our job provides us with various opportunities, we are not being stagnant; so why don’t we exert some effort to bring the passion and drive back?

Though it can be hard to have an enthusiastic attitude about your job, even if you once found it to be exciting, it is easy to be caught in the pothole.

It does not mean that you need to find a new job as soon as you can. Sometimes, a change in your own perspective can turn things around.  There are plenty of different things you can try to help your old job feel like a little more fun and exciting:

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  1. Find some time to goof off with your workmates. It is important to take your job seriously. Just not too much. However, it does not mean that you have to take yourself and the job like too seriously. Have some fun at work. You can try to share some laugh and some fun with your friends at work. These simple things, to my surprise, can turn around the mood at work.
  1. Try changing your daily routine. One of the steps into shaking things up is by checking on your activities or routine. Try changing your assumptions and about what you have gotten used to. Perhaps when you are too familiar with what you do on a daily basis and eventually lost the magic of spontaneity. Everyday feels like a boring routine. Well, you might as well change a thing or two. This will somehow stir some fun and interest. You can change your bedroom setting. Rearrange your breakfast spot. Or hunt for redesigning plans from a huge home improvement blog online and look for painters in Sydney. You will surely find a lot of ideas on how to break the monotony through design and planning of your space.
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  1. Set tour goals beyond what you normally have in a day. This will make you feel motivated. However, not all are great in working with you in establishing your goals and benchmarks for the day. Just do not take it against yourself. List down attainable goals. Plus, you can include goals that will make you exhaust your means and will make you exert extra effort. A milestone will make you achieve larger goals which will keep you motivated as you celebrate a victory along the way.
  2. Take the time to take a break. Just because you feel boredom at work, you shouldn’t also be busy and totally stressed out. The monotony of daily routines can definitely kill your enthusiasm for work. It is never wrong to ask for a time off. Once you had the chance to unwind, you will not feel the boredom that much.
  3. Never be afraid to help someone at work. To add a little fun and novelty into your life, you should get out of your way to make someone’s day even brighter.  You do not have to do something extravagant not it has something to do with your job. Just learn one thing that can help bring some fun into your day. You will get that “helper’s high” when you help others and feel a sudden boost of mood. You will surely feel efficient and motivated instantaneously.

These are just of the ideas we can share to spruce and inject some fun into your boring day at work. How about you? How do you motivate yourself at work? Please let us know with the comments below!

Author Bio

Aiza Mabayag is a Manila-based writer who’s gone full-time freelancing about five years ago. Since then, she’s written for many overseas client including A One Korean Painting, a Sydney-based painting company.

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7 Secrets to Improving Your Performance at Work

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Wondering why some workers are able to churn out gargantuan amount of work, day after day, without ever feeling tired, while you can’t stop complaining about the workload? There might have been times when you felt a certain urge to ask them what is the key to almost miraculous abilities. Almost every time, you probably, stopped short of doing it considering the peer to peer competition that most workplaces have. 

However, if you follow the example of successful entrepreneurs and influencers in the world, and be a little attentive to achieving success in your profession, these secrets can be all yours. This post discusses some points that will help you achieve the same level of performance, expertise and productivity that you always wished you had. 

No matter which part of world you are in, or which country you belong to, if you are on job, there is one thing common that you share with all other professionals: the number of hours in a day. Whether you are working in billion dollar enterprise or bootstrapping a startup, it’s all about how you use your time that has the maximum effect on productivity.

In order to remain ultra motivated and productive, you will have to develop the right habits. You will have to manage tasks, set the right goals, and handle distractions in a better manner. Although the process might be painstakingly slow as old habits die hard, in the end when you are heaped with all the praise and attention of your boss or the industry, all your efforts will be totally worth it. So, here are the productivity hacks that will put you on top of your work.

1. Take one task at a time 

 Although it sounds contradictory, most people would give their best only if they were focused on one task instead of multitasking. Especially during a meeting, we are tempted to do a mail check, or complete our pending tasks which do not require much mental application. Although you might be thinking that you are making good use of time, this split focus makes these meetings less productive. Even if you’re only doing mindless stuff, still you are distracted, which makes you less productive. Most psychologists will tell you that there is no such thing as multitasking. In fact, multitasking stands against everything that requires focus and concentration.

Take one task at a time

2. Make a to-do list

Creating a to-do list of all the tasks that require your attention a day in advance. That can be of great help for those who constantly keep forgetting their schedule. However, to ensure this activity is really helpful, there are two minor improvements that you can include. The first one is to prioritize your tasks in the order of their importance. The second one is to keep your list as realistic as possible. Along with tasks also write the estimated time that each task would take so that you do not clutter your table with more than what you can handle.  In reality, assigning realistic times to tasks will automatically force you to prioritize.

3. Declutter your mailbox

 Technology definitely makes a lot of tasks easier to accomplish and communication is one of them. Mails are the lifeblood of communication in most organizations. It must not take more than a couple of minutes to go through a communication mail and if it’s taking more than that the first thing that you need to set right is your mailbox. Keep your emails to the point and write only when necessary.  Make necessary folders and organize your mails in them.

4. Meetings should be minimum

 Meetings are the necessary evil that corporate organizations are still finding hard to get over. Mark Cuban, the billionaire CEO of HDNet and owner of Dallas Mavericks thinks “meetings are a waste of time unless you are closing a deal”.    Renault and Nissan CEO Carlos Ghosn says that keeping the length and number of meetings definite is the perfect solution. During his talk with Fortune he said, “The maximum is one hour and 30 minutes. Fifty percent of the time is for the presentation, 50 percent is for discussion.” Most subjects can be handled well within this time frame. There are other topics which require only 15 minutes. Your meeting time shouldn’t be a slave to predefined calendar.

Meetings should be minimum

5. David Allen’s Two Minute rule

By now you must have guessed where this is heading. David Allen, the multi-millionaire productivity guru, has come up with this very unique approach of working. The simple conclusion of this two minute rule is that if there is a task that can be done within two minutes, do it now and get it out of the way. Millions of professionals swear by the effectiveness of this hack. It definitely lessens your procrastination time, so that you can dedicate it for greater purposes. 

6. Short breaks

 Although not exactly a secret, it still needs to be told. Short 15-minutes breaks can help you realign your mind to the task’s requirements in case you have reached a threshold. Taking a break will recharge your senses, and you would be able to look at things with a completely different perspective. This helps moreover when you are stuck at a problem. Work sessions of short lengths (about 90 minutes) followed by a 10-15 minutes break, are more productive than a continuous 8-hour work cycle.

Short breaks

7. Self-confidence is the primary key 

Confidence is an essential ingredient of a successful professional. Anyone who needs to make decisions, take risks and set priorities should be a confident individual. Productivity will automatically follow a confident mindset.  Multiple researches have come up with evidences that speak in favor of confidence as a central factor in achieving tough goals. One’s perception of their abilities is a major motivation to persist in a hostile situation.  One such highly cited test is that of mental rotation.

Scientists and psychologists have been trying to figure out the reasons behind the difference in performance between male and female gender on 3-D mental rotation task. Recent researches suggest that more than any actual difference in abilities it is the perception of these abilities that causes this performance mismatch. Since long people have assumed that females have less aptitude at math and spatial skills than men. Around half of the females also endorse this assumption. This awareness came in their way of performing as good as their male counterparts. When asked to perform the same test while assuming that they were men, females performed much better on the mental rotation task.  Thus what we believe does affect our performance.

Author Bio

Saurabh Tyagi is a blogger and a professional career author with proven expertise in writing for topics related to job search, job trends, different job opportunities, various workplace and industry information, tips and strategies for job seekers. You can follow him on LinkedIn or Twitter.

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The Secret of Mindfulness

Secret of Mindfulness

Find here an inspiring short video that anyone needs to watch at least once in a lifetime. It presents how mindfulness empowers us. This animation is narrated by Sharon Salzberg. Same with positive words. Do not put the effort into not talking negatively. Just put the effort into finding, learning and using on a daily basis positive words. In this way, you will be empowered. It just takes practice.

How Mindfulness Empowers Us: An Animation Narrated by Sharon Salzberg.

Get inspired from this list of positive emotions.

The Secret Of Looking For Things To Appreciate

Look for things to appreciate

The secret of looking for things to appreciate is simple: it will activate the Law of Attractions and will attract more things for you, things that You will love. The trick is that the first steps You will be the one that needs to take them. You need to start appreciating and then the Law of Attraction will be activated, it can not happen before.

When you look for things you like, you activate gratitude. Gratitude is one of the key and main ingredients of happiness and well-being.

Looking for things to like creates the energy of happiness in your body.

How to look for things to appreciate?

According to Christie Marie Sheldon from Love or Above course humans have two main powers: Awareness and Choice.

Therefore in order for you to choose things to appreciate you first need to be aware of them. Ho do you become aware of things to appreciate?

In a very simple and easy way: making a list. What kind of list?

Well, you probably already heard about it: a list of gratitude which is a list of appreciations.

How to do the list of appreciations? Start your sentences with: I feel happy that… because… . I feel sincerely grateful that… because… . I appreciate… because… .

Another key aspect of the magic that appreciation generates is to write a list of appreciation for your problems. How? Just name your problem or your lack and write a couple of appreciations for them. You can even go and write: I appreciate this problem. I bless this problem. I am grateful for this problem. I bless this problem with the energy of love, appreciation and gratitude and many blessings.

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