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6 Tips To Develop A Positive Attitude And Stop Complaining

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Everyone wants to be happy and have success in life. However, it depends mainly on our attitude to others, to life and to ourselves. In particular, many people act as victims. Something is wrong and they feel that everything is playing against them or being stuck in the routine.

Whatever the reason, people who behave like victims are often depressed, negative and apologetic about their fate. They can be aggressive with others and with themselves. Unfortunately, it’s a terrible vicious circle. It’s also useless – feeling pity has never solved much.

What do you need?

Develop a positive attitude – a positive outlook on life. It is from this moment that you begin your journey towards a happier life. In fact, I would say even more: if you have a positive attitude then it is almost impossible to return to a vicious circle, as above.

Everyone has goals and aspirations in life. To be able to achieve one’s goals, you must have the right tools. Although some tools require special skills in some areas, often the most powerful ways are the simplest and are adaptable to any situation.

A positive mental attitude is part of these powerful tools and can be used to reach your dreams and greatest desires in life. There are 6 aspects to take into account to get a positive view of life. Here’s a quick summary of these 6 features, and some easy-to-use tips for you to be at the top of each of these areas and help you change your attitude easily.

  1. Health
  2. Perspective
  3. Gratitude
  4. Social Environment
  5. Have a tattoo that reminds you peace
  6. Listening to emotions

1. A healthy life – You are what you eat

I cannot stress enough the importance of living a healthy life. Seriously, if you always feel tired, hungry, fragile, chances are you will not be very positive! Healthy living involves a good diet and exercise: you need both to feel good.

By drinking a lot of coffee or energy drinks like Red Bull and eating foods that are too sweet, your energy and mood will change more than in roller coasters. It’s hard to stay positive when you’re short on sugar and caffeine. Calm down with the coffee, get away from it. Try to replace the treats with fresh fruit. Eating healthy products without dyes, preservatives and other added products will help you maintain a stable energy level, avoiding these energy falls. Also, if you feel a little tired and depressed, get some exercise! It sounds counterintuitive but walking or running for 30 minutes can really get your body going and air your mind.

As I said, healthy living is a very important factor in developing a positive state of mind, but it is also one of the hardest to follow, it takes a lot of discipline.

2. Positive perspective 

See things on the right side.
Something vital to cultivate a positive mind is your ability to see life on the bright side. In general, people tend to exaggerate negative situations and relativize positive points. This happens when we put ourselves in a “frontal” position when we have to put ourselves in the shoes of an objective observer, measuring the positive and the negative.

What we are trying to do here is to balance the balance. You will be surprised to see how many times an insurmountable thing is revealed in the end achievable. By changing the perspective on things, we analyze situations or events in our lives in order to eliminate negative prejudices.

The next time you have a problem, big or small, take a step back. List the negative and positive points. Some people never change because they are afraid to change their life, although here is a tip for such people.

Try to list 3 things you could do to turn negative points into positives

For example, imagine having requested a promotion at work, but it was refused. Obviously, the bad thing is that you did not get your promotion. But what are the positives? Go see your employer and ask him why this promotion was rejected. You have now used this experience to turn it into information.

This information is very expensive – you have obtained an objective answer about the future of your career. Now, what can you do to change the negative to positive? Well, if you discover that the promotion has been rejected for a lack of aptitude in a certain field, you can see this event positively by acting in the field concerned and obtain new qualifications. We have just turned a negative experience, applying a new perspective, in positive action!

Seeing things on the right side, allows you to experience each event/situation. Moreover, you can use it enthusiastically to move forward, instead of constantly thinking about it, complaining and regretting. One of the strengths of putting things in a new perspective is that it is a universal method. It is as important and effective to apply it, in the small daily events of your life as in the greatest moments.

3. Gratitude for you and towards others

Being grateful for what you are, for your life and for others, is also a key to staying positive. This can really help you stay focused on the positive aspects of your social interactions and in your life.

To have gratitude means that you know how to appreciate what you have. The past is past, and there is nothing to change it. Reminiscing about the negative experiences and mistakes of the past is useless – other than depressing you. Focusing on what you have today can be a very good exercise. Look where you are in life. Instead of focusing on the missed opportunities of the past, look at what YOU HAVE. All your successes, the people who support you, the sources of happiness in your life right now. That includes just about everything: your job, your friends, your family, your goals… absolutely everything.

Another important point is to show that you appreciate others. If there is someone in your life who has had a positive influence in your life one day, be it a mentor, or someone who has supported you in a difficult time, or one of your friends: tell them! You could invite them to dinner, to see a movie, to give them a small gift. You could simply write a card or letter and let them know that you appreciate what they did for you. All of these options make very strong gestures and have the benefit of making you and your friends feel happy. It is very effective to develop a positive attitude.

4. The social environment

Positive creates positive. One of the most important points in your social environment. It is common to say “you are what you eat”, and it is true. If you eat healthily, you will be healthy, you eat fat, you will probably end up overweight.

Something else is very important, people with whom you spend your time play a very big effect on your mood and attitude. That’s right, negative people tend to hang out with other negative people. Very often, a source of conflict between you and some people is that there is something that annoys you at home. This person can show a character trait that you do not like, being shameless or disrespectful, or it tends to lie or other negative traits.

If someone gives you that kind of feeling, then you should consider spending less time with him. A trap in which many people fall is that they want to help the other to grow, to change, but it is impossible. A change is made first by one’s own will.

The important thing to remember is: spend time with positive people, you will become more positive. It will influence your character and your attitude.

5. Have a tattoo that reminds you peace 

Almost every person has a small or big tattoo but there is a most important thing to tell you that every tattoo has a big meaning. There are so many unique tattoos with deep meaning and you can choose one that reminds you every time: I am a positive thinker, I love peace, I don’t hurt people, I always help others, etc.

Remember you are a good person, not a gangster or some kind of bad person so choose a tattoo with the meaning of love and peace.

6. Listening to emotions

Moods tend to be uncontrollable and are vulnerable to vicious circles. One of the reasons some people take a negative attitude is because they are already in a negative state of mind. It is too late, they are in a spiral. And most do not realize is in this state that becomes self-destructive!

The fact that you are still reading this article shows that you are already aware that something is wrong. It is a major and decisive step. The next step is to apply these concepts and continue to listen to your emotions. If you feel that you are falling back into this negative spiral, you must step back and clear your mind. Do something that you like or change your activity to distract yourself. Once you are out of this negative mood, you can evaluate your situation. Look at the good things of course and make the necessary changes.

Author’s Bio

My name is William Jacob and I am a professional writer. After completing my study I started my career as a blogger and as a writer. I am 5 stars rated author at HolyPakistan.com. I have 4-years experience of writing in different niches like health, travel, lifestyle, business.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

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Maintain Positive Mindset: Understand And Make It Work

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Why attitude matters?

 In order to attract the fortunate situations to our life, deep understanding of the positive attitude towards every aspect of life is everything needed. Numerous famous people such as Einstein, Edison, Beethoven and many others, acknowledge the fact that our mind is shaping the things surrounding us. All of them understood the power of thoughts. However, it is difficult for most people to understand that keeping a positive attitude can really change our life and can make the life unbelievable.

Such a relation arises because people are afraid of thinking about what they want in life. Vice versa – they tend to focus on aspects they don’t like. Most people consider complaining more usual rather than thinking positively. Thus, learning to develop a positive outlook on life is the most important goal to set.

How long should I wait for the good things to start happening? 

After thinking positively for a while, people might be interested why it might have no impact on their life.  The answer is very simple: there is such a notion as time and there is a difference between thinking about advantages and imagining oneself experiencing these aspects. The most important factor, which helps to understand whether someone is moving in the right direction is emotions, which have a test function on whether there is a need to change one’s thoughts.

Once a person has learned to think positively, another important aspect is keeping the positive attitude. For instance, if to consider a student struggling with writing a term paper, he may choose to focus on the successful outcome, like finding the best academic writing agency offering low prices. On the other hand, being worried and afraid of not handing in a paper on time, which might be transformed into reality, including finding the agency offering poor quality papers for cosmic prices such as thepensters. There are many different tips helping people change their relationship to life. That starts with ignoring negativity to always finding something good in any case, stopping exaggerating, having regular exercises, being grateful for everything and many others.

Thinking positively and feeling well cannot become a routine or something one does as a morning exercise

On the contrary, it should be referred to as a constant therapy which combines imagination and gratitude. So, how to have a positive attitude? The answer is to work really hard to understand the way every person attracts either positive or negative situation in their life and to learn to make a habit of thinking emphatically, which would bring joy and happiness. It has to be thought-out as totally creative process everyone has to take pleasure from.

Tips to overcome the struggles you might face adjusting to new way of thinking

 Someone might find it difficult to train their mind for thinking in a completely different way to the one they are used. Therefore, different tips might be really helpful. Firstly, it is important to pay attention to all the emotions felt during the day. If a person feels down, stressed, guilty or afraid it is important to start thinking immediately about something bringing joy, e.g. a child or someone you love. Another useful trick is to start helping other people around in any possible way. For instance, such famous people as Bill Gates or Mother Theresa are ones of the happiest people on the planet due to their taking care of others.

Another useful tip is avoiding negative people and surrounding yourself with those who think emphatically. One more useful tip to make happy thinking work is using positive affirmations. These can be sentences about personal characteristics, for instance, “I am happy and successful.”
Many therapists suggest positive affirmation as the most useful technique for improving one’s life. It is important to replace negative thoughts and expressions with the opposite ones: “I am grateful for my work.”

Focus on solutions

On the other hand, there might be cases from which people see no way out. It is worth considering that no matter what situation we are in, no matter how difficult it might look, there should always be a solution to the problem. Consider the fact that someone else in the universe might have already experienced such a case.
Another useful trick is repeating the fact in your mind that nothing is impossible and there is always someone around you, who would give an advice. Or a complete stranger might teach you what to do. What is even more important, the ability to learn not to focus on the problems you have will act in such a way that the problems might simply float away. Instead, focus on finding solutions.

Author’s Bio

Helen is a prolific writer who inspires other people to find their predestination in life. Her life motto is, ‘Do what you care for, love what you carry out.’
She also believes that each individual on the planet has special expertise, and the only complication is to be open in order to see this talent in its full volume.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story. 

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Magic Sparkles of Happiness: I Am Bless And Bless Is Me

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This article contains fragments from the book Magic Sparkles of Happiness, Chapter 3 ~ I Am Bless And Bless Is Me

 “Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I am joy and joy is me.

I am bless and bless is me. I am love and love is me. I am abundance and abundance is me. I am prosperity and prosperity is me. I am happiness and happiness is me. I am strong and strong is me. I am powerful and powerful is me. I am success and success is me. I am beauty and beauty is me. I am peace and peace is me.

I am inspiration and inspiration is me.

I am thankfulness and thankfulness is me. I am freedom and freedom is me. I am vitality and vitality is me. I am perfection and perfection is me. I am gorgeous and gorgeous is me. I am ready and ready is me. I am kindness and kindness is me. I am self-respect and self-respect is me.

When we could be only happiness, then we will feel only happiness.

We would receive only happiness since only happiness we would recognize. We would attract only happiness. Only happiness would stick to us. We would be a form that holds only happiness. To all other feelings we would just remain immune.

We would give only happiness to others. We could not give anything else. We could not give nothing since all the time we would give happiness. We could not stop ourselves from not giving happiness to all the people, no matter their age, language, skin color, social status, disabilities, abilities, level of studies, thinking. Because we would be only Happiness.

A man said to the Buddha, “I want Happiness.”

Buddha said, first remove “I”, that’s ego,

then remove “want”, that’s desire.

See now you are left with only Happiness.

Let’s think empowering thoughts…

… and fill ourselves with happiness so that we overflow with happiness at least three times a day. We give happiness to others when we overflow from within ourselves with happiness. That means we would feel, in almost every corner of our inner self, the feeling of happiness, and then more. More means that we multiply our happiness.

We multiply our happiness when we feel grateful while we feel the feeling of happiness. Therefore to overflow with happiness we need a simple reason for being happy and practice gratitude simultaneous. When you overflow with happiness, you are happiness and happiness is you.

The same process applies to everything else. To overflow with love, first you start practicing feeling the love and then you multiply that feeling by being grateful. When you overflow with love, you are Love and Love is you. A little secret to help you start practicing Love is: start practicing kindness, then loving-kindness, then you pass to feeling the Love.

Albert Einstein said: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.”

I believe that the awareness of a certain word makes you feel that word.

Therefore, when you are aware of a problem, first transform your level of awareness and then, try to solve that awareness. Most of the time, when you have an emotional struggle, the main reason is because you are focusing too much on a certain negative word.

For the moment, you find yourself located at the level of awareness of that negative word. The solution is to develop your awareness for the positive word, which is the opposite of the negative word.

The transition can be made with the below Step 2, where you are negating the positive world, you are saying not together with the positive word. Therefore you can jump through levels that take you to the positive feeling represented by the positive word, when you start from the negative feeling represented by the negative word, by taking the following simple steps:

Step 1) Name a single word for your negative emotion.

This is the easiest part because you are complaining about it in your mind, so you know what you are struggling with. For example name it like: sad, angry, mad, complaining. Then acknowledge it saying: “I am sad. I feel sad.”

But, don’t stay too much in this state of awareness. Take the next step 2.

Step 2) Replace the negative word with two words, composed of not and the opposite of the negative word.

For sad we have happy, therefore you will have not happy.  Spend some time by focusing on these words. You can repeat to yourself: “I am not happy. I don`t feel happy.”

Then, think at the information stored in your mind related to what not happy means to you. In this stage, you will see that your brain will come with a list of happy things that you lack in the moment. This is precisely what you need. You can write it down and look at your treasure.

The list is a treasure because now you have a list with things that make you happy and you can start doing them and start being happy. But before going through the list, make step 3 also.

Step 3) Start repeating in your mind only the positive word, without not.

In our example you can say the word happy. You can also say happiness.  Say in your mind the words at least 35 times, and then increase the reinforcement to 40, 60, 100, 200, 400, 1000 times until it makes sense to you, until your brain starts to reflect and focus on these words.

To make it easier and more powerful, write it down on a piece of paper. You can write the word happiness as many times as you need, until you feel the awareness of the word. Write it with big letters (this always has the biggest impact) and even in different colors.

I strongly believe that not what we say to ourselves troubles us so much, but what we don’t say to ourselves is troubling us, especially when we need to hear certain words in our consciousness. Most of the time we all search the feeling of relief, and in this way you can offer to yourself some self-relief.

If you do not know and really understand what a positive word stands for…

… then look it up in the dictionary, research it on internet and read articles and books about that word (there are many books about loving-kindness, acceptance, gratitude, equanimity, warm-heartedness, self-love, relief, abundance, peace of mind, mindfulness, confidence, happiness).

If you do not know positive words then put positive words in google and click on the first list that comes in your search. It is the list of positive words that I’ve created and published on Positive Words Research, the website that I founded at the beginning of 2013. Inspire yourself from this list whenever you feel you need a positive word.

The direct link of this list of positive words is:    https://PositiveWordsResearch.com/List-of-Positive-Words

A sentence is an accumulation of words.

When we grow up we need to take the responsibility of being our own teachers. And when a positive word weakens in our mind, we need to give ourselves the task to reinforce that word.

Except writing the word, a more powerful way to reinforce the word “happiness” in your mind is for you to start researching on the word happiness.

Increase your awareness by reading articles on the Internet about the word happiness. Read books about happiness. There are a lot these days. Find and learn all the positive words that are connected to the word happiness. There are so unbelievably many related words to happiness.

“Well, you know, a lot of people look at the negative things, the things that they did wrong and – which I do. But I like to stress on the things I did right, because there are certain things that I like to look at from a positive standpoint that are just positive reinforcement.” – Tiger Woods 

Homework 3:

I will again give you another homework which is to build your own personalized happy moment:

Make your own blessings replacing the sparkles with your own words:

I AM * * * * * AND * * * * * IS ME

 “It takes a long time to become young” – Pablo Picasso

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager

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7 Secrets to Improving Your Performance at Work Today

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Wondering why some workers are able to churn out gargantuan amount of work, day after day, without ever feeling tired, while you can’t stop complaining about the workload? There might have been times when you felt a certain urge to ask them what is the key to almost miraculous abilities. Almost every time, you probably, stopped short of doing it considering the peer to peer competition that most workplaces have. 

However, if you follow the example of successful entrepreneurs and influencers in the world, and be a little attentive to achieving success in your profession, these secrets can be all yours. This post discusses some points that will help you achieve the same level of performance, expertise and productivity that you always wished you had. 

No matter which part of world you are in, or which country you belong to, if you are on job, there is one thing common that you share with all other professionals: the number of hours in a day. Whether you are working in billion dollar enterprise or bootstrapping a startup, it’s all about how you use your time that has the maximum effect on productivity.

In order to remain ultra motivated and productive, you will have to develop the right habits. You will have to manage tasks, set the right goals, and handle distractions in a better manner. Although the process might be painstakingly slow as old habits die hard, in the end when you are heaped with all the praise and attention of your boss or the industry, all your efforts will be totally worth it. So, here are the productivity hacks that will put you on top of your work.

1. Take one task at a time 

 Although it sounds contradictory, most people would give their best only if they were focused on one task instead of multitasking. Especially during a meeting, we are tempted to do a mail check, or complete our pending tasks which do not require much mental application. Although you might be thinking that you are making good use of time, this split focus makes these meetings less productive. Even if you’re only doing mindless stuff, still you are distracted, which makes you less productive. Most psychologists will tell you that there is no such thing as multitasking. In fact, multitasking stands against everything that requires focus and concentration.

2. Make a to-do list

Creating a to-do list of all the tasks that require your attention a day in advance. That can be of great help for those who constantly keep forgetting their schedule. However, to ensure this activity is really helpful, there are two minor improvements that you can include. The first one is to prioritize your tasks in the order of their importance. The second one is to keep your list as realistic as possible. Along with tasks also write the estimated time that each task would take so that you do not clutter your table with more than what you can handle.  In reality, assigning realistic times to tasks will automatically force you to prioritize.

3. Declutter your mailbox

 Technology definitely makes a lot of tasks easier to accomplish and communication is one of them. Mails are the lifeblood of communication in most organizations. It must not take more than a couple of minutes to go through a communication mail and if it’s taking more than that the first thing that you need to set right is your mailbox. Keep your emails to the point and write only when necessary.  Make necessary folders and organize your mails in them.

4. Meetings should be minimum

 Meetings are the necessary evil that corporate organizations are still finding hard to get over. Mark Cuban, the billionaire CEO of HDNet and owner of Dallas Mavericks thinks “meetings are a waste of time unless you are closing a deal”.    Renault and Nissan CEO Carlos Ghosn says that keeping the length and number of meetings definite is the perfect solution. During his talk with Fortune he said, “The maximum is one hour and 30 minutes. Fifty percent of the time is for the presentation, 50 percent is for discussion.” Most subjects can be handled well within this time frame. There are other topics which require only 15 minutes. Your meeting time shouldn’t be a slave to predefined calendar.

5. David Allen’s Two Minute rule

By now you must have guessed where this is heading. David Allen, the multi-millionaire productivity guru, has come up with this very unique approach of working. The simple conclusion of this two minute rule is that if there is a task that can be done within two minutes, do it now and get it out of the way. Millions of professionals swear by the effectiveness of this hack. It definitely lessens your procrastination time, so that you can dedicate it for greater purposes. 

6. Short breaks

 Although not exactly a secret, it still needs to be told. Short 15-minutes breaks can help you realign your mind to the task’s requirements in case you have reached a threshold. Taking a break will recharge your senses, and you would be able to look at things with a completely different perspective. This helps moreover when you are stuck at a problem. Work sessions of short lengths (about 90 minutes) followed by a 10-15 minutes break, are more productive than a continuous 8-hour work cycle.

7. Self-confidence is the primary key 

Confidence is an essential ingredient of a successful professional. Anyone who needs to make decisions, take risks and set priorities should be a confident individual. Productivity will automatically follow a confident mindset.  Multiple researches have come up with evidences that speak in favor of confidence as a central factor in achieving tough goals. One’s perception of their abilities is a major motivation to persist in a hostile situation.  One such highly cited test is that of mental rotation.

Scientists and psychologists have been trying to figure out the reasons behind the difference in performance between male and female gender on 3-D mental rotation task. Recent researches suggest that more than any actual difference in abilities it is the perception of these abilities that causes this performance mismatch. Since long people have assumed that females have less aptitude at math and spatial skills than men. Around half of the females also endorse this assumption. This awareness came in their way of performing as good as their male counterparts. When asked to perform the same test while assuming that they were men, females performed much better on the mental rotation task.  Thus what we believe does affect our performance.

Author Bio

Saurabh Tyagi is a blogger and a professional career author with proven expertise in writing for topics related to job search, job trends, different job opportunities, various workplace and industry information, tips and strategies for job seekers. You can follow him on LinkedIn or Twitter.

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