Power of consistency

Words Of Encouragement For Depression

Words Of Encouragement For Depression

Depression is a state of mind and a feeling in the body that we find it hard to bear. Depression damages our life a lot. We feel like everything that we do and everything that exists in the word is useless. We feel powerless most of the time. I know a lot about depression because when I was 25 years old (now I am 36) I was diagnosed with it. As I am the founder of this website Positive Words Research much of the work I do for this blog was motivated by me making efforts to win over depression.

It is not easy at all to get rid of depression. This is the hard truth. But you can win over it. I did. I learned a lot of techniques to fight and win over depression. I will share with you five words of encouragement for depression. All the things that I am sharing with you are real actions that I implemented in my life.

Words Of Encouragement For Depression

1. You Have Many Reasons To Be Grateful About Yourself

If you are struggling with depression I know this is hard to believe. Just believe me that one of the secrets of winning over depression, that I was blessed enough to find it, is gratitude. Especially gratitude about myself. I started writing small lists of gratitude for myself and I still do this. Practice gratitude from time to time is a practice that I will do all my life. Sometimes I compute the days, weeks, months since I am born and I name this period as “time since I exist on Earth”. Then I say that I am joyfully grateful or sincerely grateful for all these days, weeks and months.

2. You Have The Power To Play

Including playfulness in my life was one of my top goals in getting rid of depression. Again, it is hard to be consistent in making actions that feel like play when you are in a state where everything seems so hard and serious.

I included playfulness into my life in two ways: working on my new philosophy of life and making actions that are playful. In my new philosophy of life I included sentences like: “Sometimes life doesn’t need to be taken so seriously.” or “Dancing is a shortcut to happiness”. As actions, I searched for actions that are easy and doable so that it can help me be consistent. I developed a practice where “almost” every morning and evening I stretch my body. I do this by doing simple exercises that I learned from my sports teacher when I was in school. Nothing special, nothing extravagant. I also have a practice of dancing in my room, alone, with headsets, keeping my phone in my right hand, looking at me in the mirror. It makes me see myself as being alive.

3. You Are Loved

Working on me feeling loved was a challenge. And it still is. I don’t know why but we humans feel that we are not so loved, we don’t matter so much, we are not so important. Is that “so” that created so many depressive thoughts in my mind. And I realized that we are. We are so loved, we matter so much, we are so important.

One of the tools I use to feel loved is actually a visualization that I am doing. I am sharing this with you in the hope that you feel the love and not drama. I noticed that some people feel drama when I tell them this visualization. Here it goes.

Visualizing Of A Simple Meditation To Feel Loved

I see my heart. I see the hearts of all living humans. I notice that my heart beats at the same time as 7.7 billion other people. We are together now on a planet that is spinning in a huge universe. For 36 years this planet is holding me alive, even if I am such a sensitive being. I actually am one of the 7.7 billion people that are alive now. I am kept safe even if the Earth is pressured every second by physical forces in the universe above my power (life gravitational force etc.). I am actually in a safe place. This safe place was created for me and others because we are loved. I am loved. We are all loved.

4. You Are Enough

I must admit that I still struggle with this one. It is not that I do not feel enough, it is that I do not do enough. And actually, it is the belief that I did not do enough and I can not turn back time to do more, therefore, all is hopeless and without exit. But, I developed a trick to convince myself that I indeed was and did enough.

I Say To Myself A Little I am Enough Story

You are enough. You know why? Because you did good things that you will never know about. You do small things that matter. How come? What did I do? Well, at least once in your life you helped someone that dropped something by picking it up. Maybe that person had a bad day and you showed him that kindness still exists in the word. He went home and was a little kinder with his kids. His kids felt a little more loved. Or were not beaten that day. Kidding, just to make you smile. You are enough. You did enough, so enough that you will never know.

5. You Are Capable Of Being Kind To Yourself

I could name better this paragraph as You Are Allowed To Be Kind To Yourself. I don’t know if you resonate with me but when I suffered from depression I felt like I am not allowed to be kind with myself. I needed the approval of someone or something for me to be kind to myself. Especially kind in my thoughts. I had so many thoughts angry, hateful, damaging to myself. Hard, heavy, negative, so serious thoughts. And I remember I did not think in terms of You can choose kind thoughts just because they feel better. You are allowed to think thoughts that feel light and good.

During my depression period I thought I need, it is mandatory, it is an obligation, to think “any” thought, even if it is such a disempowering thought. “Disempowering” is politely said. Because I had heavy thoughts like “so many people are trapped in the small boxes that they call apartments in things that they call buildings and they say they are happy? How can you be happy when you live like a sheep in a box. We are all trapped without any way out except death”.

I learned that we are blessed to live a human life. And anyway it is only for 80,100,120 years, not that much, why “escape” sooner. Lol.

Of course, I can joke now with myself with the hardest and most negative thoughts of all, because I am in another state of mind, a happier one. But the transition took a lot of work. I did psychotherapy for many years, with a good psychotherapist in my country that helped me a lot and the fact that I did the best list of positive words in the world made a huge difference. I remember that while I was doing this list of positive words I thought: I am doing this list as a trace to happiness, to find my way back to the light if I ever get lost in the dark again.

I realized at one point, a few years ago, that we people are not scared of the dark. What we are scared of is not knowing a simple effective tool to turn on the light. Think about it. Every human needs dark to sleep. We love dark when we sleep. We are not afraid of being in a dark place. But we could feel afraid in the dark if we do not know where the electricity switch for the light is, or if we know that there is no electricity in the house. But even then we are still ok with the dark because we know that the sunlight will come. The consistency of the morning light eliminates the fear of the dark and you sleep peacefully.

The secret is for you to know what works for you. Is different for every person. What “sunlight” can you implement in your life to always have your morning light come over you? What is your switch to turn on the light? I would actually go for more switches in your house (your mind, body, soul). When you have light switches in your life you will not be afraid of depression anymore (the dark) because you will always find your way back from it. And at that moment, depression will lose the power it has over you.

Power of Consistency: A key that opens all doors

power-consistency

Wouldn’t it be just wonderful if you could find a single solution to everything in the world?

A dynamic solution like that would of course come with a catch.

Because the answer is “Consistency”. And the catch is that, consistency always comes with “persistence” sashaying on its left arm. The two are inseparable. And tethering on a thin chord not too far behind this power couple, is the little boy wonder we all want – success.

Too much of an analogy? Nevertheless, here are some examples that will prove the formula works everywhere – be it in matters of the heart, sports, professional success, war or great life changing discoveries.

1. Refusing to give up

Hrithik Roshan, the Bollywood actor, launched his own brand- HRX. The brand, a personification of the man himself – a man determined to push himself to his extremes. Being born into an affluent family didn’t make the journey to being one of the top actors in Bollywood easy. From overcoming speech problems as a child to proving his doctors wrong when they diagnosed him with scoliosis and predicted he could never become an actor, Hrithik Roshan has crossed every wall life put in his way, reducing it to nothing more than a speed bump.

After all, this is the man who as a child practiced for 36 hours just to be able to explain to his cook exactly what he wanted to eat. And even today, in the midst of all his success, he still practices every day.

Consistency is not perfection. It is simply refusing to give up.

2. Fitness

If you are a fitness freak, you already know this. If you are not, then you should know, that running for 2 hours a day and then not running for the next 2 weeks will result in nothing but sore muscles. Sporadic spurts of rigorous exercise is strenuous for the body. Instead a steady but consistent increase in intensity will more likely give you better results. “Long term consistency trumps short term intensity” said Bruce lee, world renowned martial artist and action film actor. “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

A consistent workout routine also improves your mental health as endorphins released by the body as a result of regular workouts will enhance your mood and let you experience positive feelings.

3. Love

In any relationship, consistency is key. If you want to win over that girl, be consistent in your efforts, so that she takes you seriously. Lack of consistency could be seen as lack of interest. A man who is consistency will never have to complain about loyalty.

If you are a parent, then you know how the consistent presence and love of your parents (or lack of it) influenced you.

4. War: Consistency and the human mind

Robert E. Cialdini, in his book ‘Influence: the psychology of persuasion’ tells that, once we have made a choice or taken a stand, we have a “nearly obsessive desire to be (and to appear) consistent with that commitment.”

A surprising example of this was seen in the Korean wars when prisoners of war from the United States gave away military secrets, informed on fellow prisoners and even publicly denounced their country, without being beaten or threatened. The prisoners were made to state mild anti-American statements, like the “United States is not perfect.”

The critical step was that they were made to write it down, preventing them from denying the statement on a later occasion, thereby forcing them to corroborate the same. Thus, using these mild remarks the prisoners were then pushed to expand on ways in which this statement was true.

Not wanting to be inconsistent they complied. To remain further consistent, they would agree to read their statements aloud in a discussion group and later maybe even record it as an anti-America radio broadcast. This then kept escalating until they completely change their self-image, not wanting to appear inconsistent.

5. Business: Branding and loyalty

The ultimate objective for any company is consumer loyalty. A consistent presence in terms of visuals as well as messages, will improve the top of mind recall for the consumer.

This is because, through repeated visibility and consistent presence, the brand and it’s product moves to the permanent memory of the consumer. And like in the previous example, if the consumer admits to himself and to another at some point that he prefers one brand over another, they continue to be loyal to the brand,  if only to stay true to their statement. Without brand consistency, customers will lose sight of the message you are trying to portray and vital trust in your business.

However, companies also need to be consistent with their services. No one wants to deal with a company they can’t rely on for consistency. With so many industries being saturated with competitors, inconsistency is often enough of a reason for consumers to take their business elsewhere.

If you are persistent you will get it. If you are consistent you will keep it. This is a principle that applies everywhere. Consistency shows value in whatever you’re chasing.

“Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hardwork gains success. Greatness will come.”  ~ Dwayne “the rock” Johnson

Author’s Bio

This article has been written by a staff writer at CEO Hangout and Trainer Hangout, units of Zaang Entertainment Pvt Ltd.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.