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A Beautiful Move With Your Significant Other

A Beautiful Move with your Significant Other

There may come an exciting time in your relationship where you and your significant other decide to move in together. It can be a stressful and financially taxing experience, but with the right tools and support, a move can be a beautiful transition into a new chapter with your partner. Below are a few steps you can take while preparing to move that will promote positive communication, and increase overall happiness for everyone involved.

A Beautiful Move With Your Significant Other

1. Communication is Key

It can be easy to get frustrated discussing the inner workings of a move, but being open and honest with your partner will cultivate the best results. When you disagree on a subject, use positive words like “I respect your opinion” and “let’s work on this together” instead of avoiding tough subjects. For example, when it comes time to decide which items you are keeping, you may come to a disagreement. If your partner really enjoys an item that you don’t see fitting for your new space, instead of discarding it, compromise on fixing it up to better suit the design style you’re going for! That way, you have an open channel of communication to discuss items for your new space and suggest ways to incorporate disagreeable pieces without disrespecting your partner’s interests.

2. Sit Down and Plan It Out

A move shouldn’t be rushed, and once you’ve made the decision to combine spaces you should take the time necessary to plan out the process in its entirety. You can use sites that offer a moving checklist to help you organize your thoughts, and cover some bases you may be forgetting. Schedule a few nights a week to go through each of your current homes, get your finances in order, and start packing your belongings. A common mistake is focusing too much on the granular details of moving, and missing big picture items. Be sure you’ve taken steps to pay for a moving truck, and turn on your water and power in your new home before arrival. This makes your home prepped and ready for your move-in day and eliminates any stress of your items not arriving on time.

3. Have Fun Shopping

One of the best parts about moving is being able to decorate and shop for items to match your style and interests as a couple. Whether it’s a trendy DIY project that you found on Pinterest or investing in a new, long-lasting and hard wearing furnishings for your living room space that you have had your eye on, you can choose every last detail to make this a space that reflects both you and your partner’s styles! If on a tight budget, reach out to friends, family, or neighbors and see if they have any pieces they are willing to part with. Or, if you’re interested in fix-er-up items, websites like Garage Sale Finder allow you to find a garage sale closest to you to find some unique items and antiques you’ve been looking for that you just can’t find in stores.

4. Take Time For Yourself

If living together is a new experience, giving yourselves plenty of space to understand the process and adjust can help to limit frustration and conflict. If you move too quickly or don’t take the time to enjoy the experience, you may forget valuable memories that come with sharing a space. It is important to have an outlet to clear your head when the tasks of moving become a little taxing. For example, try downloading a meditation app like Headspace for breathing techniques and positive thinking exercises to help you unwind after loading the moving truck.

Overall, moving should be a fun and positive experience for you and your partner. Take the proper steps toward success and you will have the home of your dreams in no time!

What You Are Telling Yourself That Is Keeping You Single

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Not all of us want to be in a relationship, which is completely fine. The rest of us oscillate between loving being single and wishing we weren’t. It rocks when we are playing the field and not having to check in with anyone, but it sucks when everyone around us seems to be bursting with joy in their relationships. Sometimes we cannot help but feel a little frustrated for being single.

Our search for healthy love is one of the most defining missions of our lives

The nagging question just keeps getting louder, “Is it me?”. I wish I could tell you with all certainty that it is not you, but it just might be you. This does not mean that there is something wrong with you. I am sure you are amazing and capable of being in a fantastic relationship. But you see, most of the times, our single status has everything to do with our beliefs and attitudes.

The truth is that you hold more power over your romantic destiny that you ever thought possible. To a large extent, you create the world that you live in, consciously or unconsciously. There are a lot of bad habits that you may indulge in and things that you tell yourself that may be locking the doors to a lasting relationship:

  • I love being alone with all the freedom and creative time it affords me.
  • I do not deserve a relationship.
  • I am not good enough.
  • No one will ever love me.
  • I am not ready.
  • I have no time to date right now.
  • I cannot date a guy/girl who…..

When it comes to dating and relationships, sometimes you are your own worst enemy

What are some of the things you have told yourself that you think are sabotaging your ability to connect with potential partners?

Let us talk about the things that many of us are telling ourselves that are getting in the way of finding our soul mates.

I will date when…..

I will date when I am finished with my Ph. D.
I will date when I lose at least 10 pounds.
I will date after my career takes off.
I will date when I am ready.
I will date when I find the perfect guy/girl.
I will date when my child goes to school.

“The greatest amount of time wasted is the time not getting started.”
Dawson Trotman

There is a huge problem when you keep postponing something that is important to you. Firstly, the only time that you are guaranteed is ‘now.’ Many of us are obsessed with timing. There is no such thing as the right time. No matter what else your life involves at the moment, dating should never be wholly sidelined if you hope to get into a long-term relationship.

There are no guarantees in life, and no one can predict what the future holds. After all, life is a series of unexpected events. Indeed, you might find that life is more interesting when things do not go according to plan, rather than when everything is well choreographed. Makes life more authentic, doesn’t it?

You may think postponing dating buys you time but in reality, time will not wait for you. Right now is the perfect time to seek for your soul mate.

“Procrastination is like a credit card; it is a lot of fun until you get the bill.”            Christopher Parker

I am looking for the perfect partner

When looking for a romantic partner, we all desire certain characteristics. However, no one is perfect. I have seen people wielding a long list of attributes that they want in potential soul mates. A certain level of education, given financial status, a particular religion, no children or a certain number of children, a certain number of teeth… Just kidding. The chances are that you might not find this package in a single individual. The pursuit of perfection leads to finding fault with everyone that you meet which will only work against you.

I am looking for the perfect guy/girl today will be later turn out to be I will never truly be in love.

Worse still, some of us have very unrealistic expectations. Snap back to reality and realize that you are also not perfect. So what if the guy/girl is a little rough around the edges? So what if she talks too loudly? So what if he is a tad too dark? There is nothing wrong with setting standards, but we must keep our expectations realistic if we do not want to be alone for the rest of our lives.

Affection is when you see someone’s strengths. Love is when you accept someone’s flaws.

All the good ones are taken

It seems as if the world has been overrun by fickle men and players, shallow women and gold diggers. Apart from you, of course! Is it possible? Is it really possible that all the billions of people out there are all either married or horrible? This is the lamest excuse to not play the dating scene. Worse still, it is a self-sabotaging excuse.

Telling yourself that all the good ones are taken is giving yourself a free pass to throw in the towel and let yourself off the dating hook. You do not have to put yourself out there, after all, the good ones are taken!

Look at the flipside. Out of the billions of people in the world, you only need one person who is right for you. You need to reframe your mindset.

The perfect partner does not exist, but there is a partner who is right for you.

The sad reality is that if you go through life believing that there are no good men or women out there, you will not find any. Your mind is always inclined to look for evidence to support what you believe.

Interesting fact:
When you believe all the good ones are taken, anytime you come across one who is unavailable, you will think he is the greatest thing you have ever seen. When you come across one who is single, you will search for flaws, and you will surely find them.

Remember, our thoughts are energy; energy that radiates and attracts like experiences. Many of us miss out on finding love by holding on to lies: about ourselves, about men and women. You must realize you are what is keeping you single. Seeking love is not an easy task. The first step is to fight the patterns inside us that hold us back. We cannot shield ourselves from what we might find out there, but we can empower ourselves with the right tools for the job by cleaning up our thoughts.

About the Author

Christopher Brown

Christopher D. Brown created the website RedesigningTheMind.com

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How To Enjoy Your Wedding Day

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There are many standards and traditions when it comes to weddings. The dress should be white. The venue should be picturesque. The tablecloths need to go with the plates, which need to go with the flowers, which need to go with the bridesmaid dresses … The list goes on.

Getting caught up in the stress is natural when there are so many expectations, especially after you’ve spent months planning your big day. However, when the day finally arrives, it’s important to step back, take a deep breath, let go of potential mishaps, and enjoy your day.

Doing so can take quite a bit of work, but when you look back at your wedding day, you’ll remember how you felt. Though there will be a lot going on, preparing yourself to stay positive on your wedding day will ensure that you enjoy it.

Keep Your Priorities in Check

You have done all the planning. You have the perfect photographer, a conflict-free seating chart, and you’ve even hand printed the calligraphy on every invitation. You’ve personally attended to every detail, so it can be hard not to focus on them on the wedding day — but you have to stop yourself from doing that.

You can plan out down to the second, down to the smallest of details, and still, something will go wrong. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you won’t have a perfect wedding, it just means that you need to stay in the moment and let some of the mishaps slide.

To help you get through some of the moments when it’s difficult not to focus on the details, you can have a few phrases ready to help you focus on what’s important. You can try laughing at it and saying something like “c’est la vie”, or you can ignore it and go find something else to think about, like your new spouse or talking to some family members. It’s best to have a mental list of a few different phrases or options that you can turn to so that you can truly enjoy every moment.

Bridal Party Responsibilities

Even after you’ve prepared yourself for the fact that not everything will run smoothly, it’s impossible to be ignorant of any last-minute hiccups or sudden issues that come up. Yes, you should enjoy your day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tend to these problems in some way.

You can make sure everything runs smoothly by assigning different members of the wedding party — or other trusted invitees — specific responsibilities to be in charge of. This can also make your wedding a more positive family get-together by making more people feel involved.

For example, you can assign one of your bridesmaids the job of making sure everything goes well with the catering. You can assign one of the groomsmen the job of making sure no one eats the cake before you have the first bite.

Whatever details you are worried could go wrong, assign them out to someone else so that you don’t need to worry about it on your day. Be sure to make a list of everything you can think of, assign them out, and choose one person to be the go-to for unforeseen issues so that you don’t have to worry about them.

Money Can’t Buy Everything

Unless you have that much money. Or at least a wealthy relative willing to grant your every-wedding-day desire. However, it is especially advised not to use a credit card to fund your wedding. The day should be about pronouncing your love for your new life partner and making lasting memories, not having a reception that will rival the Kardashian’s. Besides, having to pay back hundreds or thousands of dollars during your first months as a married couple can put a strain on what should be a happy time in your relationship.

Another reason to reevaluate your budget is that a higher budget may overshadow a happy marriage. The Hustle reported that couples who spend less than $1,000 on their wedding tend to have happier, lasting marriages. Of course, you should take this — and any other statistic that tries to predict future happiness — with a grain of salt.

If knowing this relieves some of the pressure you feel to have a perfect wedding, then it’s a sign that you shouldn’t worry about having an expensive, fairytale wedding. However, your wedding day is for you and your fiance, and as long as you put the health of your relationship and future happiness first, then do whatever the heck you want. Even if your new mother-in-law may not approve.

Weddings can be stressful, which is why preparing yourself mentally is just as important as buying your wedding dress. Rely on your family, focus on what’s happening in the present, and try to remain in a positive frame of mind as much as possible. With a little bit of preparation and a little bit of letting go, you can truly enjoy your wedding day.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

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6 Easy Ways To Boost Your Personal Efficiency

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We all want to become better, that’s for sure. I bet you’re reading this line because your pursuit of excellence has led you to me. Now that we’ve met, I’d like to propose the following:

My work is different – I’m not a guru, I’m not here to improve you, and I’m not here to make you believe something. I am here because I’m the bird who sings its song without any expectations. If you care to stop and listen to me, you do so because you appreciate the beauty of the song.

Becoming a superhuman or improving your personal efficiency up to skyrocketing levels requires you to do stuff.

As far as I see it, there are several primordial aspects that one must assume and acknowledge before working on complicated aspects.

Here are 6 things you truly need to consider and apply if you really want to create long-lasting change in your personal efficiency. Start small but aim high.

1.    Meditation

First of all, you must understand what meditation really is. There’s a lot of mumbo-jumbo everywhere around the internet, so many of us don’t really understand what true meditation is.

Meditation is a state, not an activity that you must schedule. We are meditating every time we silence our thoughts and engage in the present moment. It is THAT simple.

As Mark Farley, the founder of a popular assignment help enterprise suggests, “All you have to do is start observing what’s going on around you and your body. Use your eyes as tools for vision, your nose as a tool for smelling, your ears as a tool for sound, and activate all your other senses like touch, emotions, and vibration.”

I would add an important remark…

Don’t focus on removing the thoughts. Many people make a true effort to stop their thoughts on command. That’s a trap that leads you nowhere. Instead, focus on your senses and on “now”.

2.    Knowledge of personal efficiency

“Knowledge is power” – you’ve heard it, I heard it, and our neighbors must have heard it too. It has a different meaning for each of us, yet for the wise ones, knowledge is everything.

At one point or another, you’ll understand this statement better, and it will mark the beginning of a new stage in your life.

Life’s all about lessons and growth. The moment you stop, you stop fueling what keeps you alive. For example, do you fail to do something in life? Do you fail to be disciplined or to stick to your goals? It means you do not have sufficient knowledge on how to remove the bad beliefs & habits. It means that you don’t have the “weapons” to fight back. When you embrace the knowledge that’s sitting up for grabs, your life will immediately change and your personal efficiency will boost.

3.    Harmony

Let me ask you a question. Do you live in harmony with yourself?

Simply put…Do you feel what you think?

Or…do you do what you feel?

Or…do you do what you think and feel?

Here’s the simple definition of love/balance/freedom/harmony:

Thoughts + Emotions + Actions. If they are aligned, there will be harmony. If they’re not aligned, there will be suffering.

Right now, most of us experience an internal anarchy because our thoughts, emotions, and actions are in disharmony.

You can get out of this state by simply becoming the ruler of your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Become sovereign and an internal monarch of your world and you’ll be happy and free.

4.    Self-Discovery

There are many points in life when our needs completely change. We first desire to achieve material abundance. Money, fame, power, status…that’s the standard. But then, we will hardly be delighted by the things that we’ve accomplished.

We’ll start seeking other types of experiences. We’ll start studying literature, art, history, and so on. But once we’re done with that, the process repeats.

Eventually and hopefully, we’ll start seeking true knowledge, which is the knowledge of the self. We will realize that we had it all, right here, in our own minds.

5.    Intention

They call it the law of attraction. Simply put, what you intend to happen, it will eventually happen. However, it will hardly happen if your thoughts, emotions, and actions are not sitting in balance, because you actually need to take action to develop new things here, on the physical plane.

How can you change any procrastination state, laziness, belief?

You start with the intention first. You start caring about the thing that you want to happen. Once you know and visualize what will happen, start taking action!

6.    Attachment

Don’t become attached to anything – people, feelings, thoughts, objects, states…they’re all going to trap you.

According to Buddha, the attachment is the root of all evil and the biggest block to self-realization, and that’s become when you conclude something, you make it real, and it will eventually impact you in the future.

If there are no conclusions, every experience will feel like “new”. The past represents our illusions of what happened while the future represents the illusion of what will happen. The present moment is the only thing that matters. Stay there and your attachments will soon go away.

Takeaways

So, as you may notice, there are many powerful actions you can take to arrive where you want. If you care, save this post somewhere on your desktop and keep revisiting it every now and then. Reflect on the topics discussed here and try to see the bigger picture.

Lastly, remember to keep it simple. After all, we’re all playing our individual game. Once you realize that what you’re doing is simply playing, your fear will suddenly vanish and there will be no more irrelevant suffering. You will be free and ready to conquer your world.

Author ~ Mark Thomson

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Happy Couples Habits

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What makes some couples “perfect”? The way they treat each other? Do they complement each other? Or is it the fact that they change each other’s imperfections into strength? First of all, when it comes to relationships, there is no standard of “perfection”, everyone can have a happy and perfect couple in their own way, all depends on what their definition of happiness is.

Habits Happy Couples Have

In my case, in my relationship, perfection is defined by those things which we do with each other. Things we fully know but never mention, because we are completely different from each other. Being comfortable just by keeping each other’s efforts in mind.

1. They are not affected by the outside world

Truly strong and content partners have a very healthy habit of standing with each other, even if no one is against them or try to stop them, they will remain in support. In the outside world, there are good and bad, some people are going to try to come between you and your partner. They can try to put strange misconceptions about your partner in your head. This is the place where you stand by your partner without any remorse. This is the true love – staying there for one another.

Obstacles can come in your relationship in any form and size. There might be something that doubts you about your partner’s past. It revolves around the society with disagreement in your immediate relationships. Trust your inner guidance and check if you feel so but only because you want it. Not because social pressure.

2. Complete acceptance

Happy and strong couples accept each other without any need to completely change one another. Anyone who really loves you, will not try to change anything about you (unless it is a habit of life-threatening). They will care about the differences between you. They support you to be the person you are.

People with happy relationships realize that in fact by changing each other, they are not different from robbing. That, in turn, makes the relationship so far last. They appreciate equality, respect differences and permit each other to have their own full place.
This happens when we are really ourselves and are comfortable in our skin so that we can be satisfied with our life. A person who feels such satisfaction, it will, in fact, lead a healthy relationship.

3. More than enough time without asking for it

Time is one of the most priceless gifts in the world, especially in the busy world of today. If you can still take enough time for your partner, you are telling them (indirectly) that they mean the world to you.

There are only a few things in this life that we can give and never get back: words that have said and given time. Happy couples know this very well when it comes to spending time with each other. They also respect each other when they take their important time alone.

4. They listen to each other

Happy colleagues listen to one another, really listen to words and understand them. They speak patiently and speak when they know that they need it, this is the most important part. A strong sense of communication is one of the most important factors of the long-lasting relationship. Even when you do not even know what they are talking about, it will give them comfort if you pay attention to them.

5. No-Fault Games

Powerful couples do not blame each other. Accept their mistakes whole heartedly and learn from it.

Being committed among many other things in the demand of relationship, you see what you did wrong, how you can modify it and prepare for it. When you accept your mistakes and apologize, it ease your burdens and gain respect.
Happy couples accept their falls and have a healthy communication and approach for every situation.

This is the reason why they swallow their pride and accept their mistakes instantly – for the last long period. This deep sense of responsibility always happens between two people, who share the healthy, strong bond of love and respect.

Author ~ Vishuka Chaudhary

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