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How To Enjoy Your Wedding Day

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There are many standards and traditions when it comes to weddings. The dress should be white. The venue should be picturesque. The tablecloths need to go with the plates, which need to go with the flowers, which need to go with the bridesmaid dresses … The list goes on.

Getting caught up in the stress is natural when there are so many expectations, especially after you’ve spent months planning your big day. However, when the day finally arrives, it’s important to step back, take a deep breath, let go of potential mishaps, and enjoy your day.

Doing so can take quite a bit of work, but when you look back at your wedding day, you’ll remember how you felt. Though there will be a lot going on, preparing yourself to stay positive on your wedding day will ensure that you enjoy it.

Keep Your Priorities in Check

You have done all the planning. You have the perfect photographer, a conflict-free seating chart, and you’ve even hand printed the calligraphy on every invitation. You’ve personally attended to every detail, so it can be hard not to focus on them on the wedding day — but you have to stop yourself from doing that.

You can plan out down to the second, down to the smallest of details, and still, something will go wrong. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you won’t have a perfect wedding, it just means that you need to stay in the moment and let some of the mishaps slide.

To help you get through some of the moments when it’s difficult not to focus on the details, you can have a few phrases ready to help you focus on what’s important. You can try laughing at it and saying something like “c’est la vie”, or you can ignore it and go find something else to think about, like your new spouse or talking to some family members. It’s best to have a mental list of a few different phrases or options that you can turn to so that you can truly enjoy every moment.

Bridal Party Responsibilities

Even after you’ve prepared yourself for the fact that not everything will run smoothly, it’s impossible to be ignorant of any last-minute hiccups or sudden issues that come up. Yes, you should enjoy your day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tend to these problems in some way.

You can make sure everything runs smoothly by assigning different members of the wedding party — or other trusted invitees — specific responsibilities to be in charge of. This can also make your wedding a more positive family get-together by making more people feel involved.

For example, you can assign one of your bridesmaids the job of making sure everything goes well with the catering. You can assign one of the groomsmen the job of making sure no one eats the cake before you have the first bite.

Whatever details you are worried could go wrong, assign them out to someone else so that you don’t need to worry about it on your day. Be sure to make a list of everything you can think of, assign them out, and choose one person to be the go-to for unforeseen issues so that you don’t have to worry about them.

Money Can’t Buy Everything

Unless you have that much money. Or at least a wealthy relative willing to grant your every-wedding-day desire. However, it is especially advised not to use a credit card to fund your wedding. The day should be about pronouncing your love for your new life partner and making lasting memories, not having a reception that will rival the Kardashian’s. Besides, having to pay back hundreds or thousands of dollars during your first months as a married couple can put a strain on what should be a happy time in your relationship.

Another reason to reevaluate your budget is that a higher budget may overshadow a happy marriage. The Hustle reported that couples who spend less than $1,000 on their wedding tend to have happier, lasting marriages. Of course, you should take this — and any other statistic that tries to predict future happiness — with a grain of salt.

If knowing this relieves some of the pressure you feel to have a perfect wedding, then it’s a sign that you shouldn’t worry about having an expensive, fairytale wedding. However, your wedding day is for you and your fiance, and as long as you put the health of your relationship and future happiness first, then do whatever the heck you want. Even if your new mother-in-law may not approve.

Weddings can be stressful, which is why preparing yourself mentally is just as important as buying your wedding dress. Rely on your family, focus on what’s happening in the present, and try to remain in a positive frame of mind as much as possible. With a little bit of preparation and a little bit of letting go, you can truly enjoy your wedding day.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

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How To Stay Happy Every Time

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They say that life is a matter of choices and being happy is the choice for many people. If you want a happy life, it is essential that you should take steps to bring happiness into your life. If you wish to be joyous at all times, here are some tips to help you out.

Workout more

Studies show that exercise will help with releasing the good mood endorphins. After a workout, you will feel in a better mood after an activity. Not just heavy workouts, a simple walk to the market will get you in a good feeling. It’s one of the easiest ways to stay happy.

Think positively

A favorite saying reads “happiness is the precursor to success”. Only when you are happy, you will be in a position to attract success. Positive thinking is yet another key towards happiness. When you think positively, the energy levels will increase. Further, it will improve your productivity and creativity by as much as 30%.

Get rid of negative thoughts

Some people are troubled by contrary ideas, and they have a hard time in getting rid of the same. The best way to get rid of negative thoughts is to write them on a paper and tear the same into pieces. You can either rip it, trash or even you can burn the paper.

Of course, doing this might not reduce the toxic effects of negative thoughts. But, when you do the same on a regular basis, you will get rid of them say, psychologists. If you are using anti-depressants, get some useful tips to quit antidepressants. Leading days without these medicines will boost your confidence levels and will help you stay happy.

Practice mindfulness to stay happy

Have you heard about mindfulness? It means that you should accept the present moment without any judgment on your part. It is turning out to be a favorite trend in medicine and psychology.

It will help with bringing down stress levels and boosting mood. When you enjoy the present moments with happiness, rather than thinking about the past and worrying about the future, you can lead a happy life forever.

Think why you are grateful

Thinking about the things that you are thankful for every morning when you wake up is an excellent idea to build your happiness. The human brain always tends to pay attention to the negative things. But, you should get out of them, if you wish to lead a happy life.

  • When you get up daily, remind yourself of three essential things in your life that you are grateful and work out for you to stay happy.
  • Even, you can keep these things in writing and can look at the same then and there to feel grateful.
  • You can use social sites if you feel inclined.
  • You can call up your better half to express your gratitude, or you can also thank your colleague for a vital help you got from him/her.
  • Even, you can try to give back by helping a person, who is in real need of something.
  • Otherwise, you can volunteer for an hour on a daily basis.

Treasure your experiences as compared to your belongings

Nowadays, many of us are turning materialistic. Even though they can bring the satisfaction that you were able to spend on them, it just brings short-term happiness. But, when you treasure your experiences as compared to your belongings, you will feel happy always. The past happy experiences in your life will stay in your memories. To remind of those good days, just take out an old photo album.

In addition to these things, focusing on your positives will surely bring you happiness. Remembering your strengths then and there will also help you gain the required contentment.
So, practice these tips and let pleasure be with you for your entire life.

Author ~ Akshay Patni

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Time Is An Illusion Science Proves Without Memory There Is No Time

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Science finally proves that time is an illusion and that without memory there is no time. Time is just memory stored in space. Our own memory is not stored in our brain, it is stored in space and our brain is just connected with that place in space.

But how this discovery that time is an illusion impacts our lives, perception of reality and our thinking?

The scientific discovery that time is an illusion benefits me in more ways. I thought about it and I reached five conclusions that I consider will ease life and improve well-being.

1. Live in the Present

If time is an illusion, doesn’t exist and it’s just a memory, why re-living memories. And I am refering here at bad memories. The notion of forgetting and forgiving takes another form, easier. Forgetting and forgiving means just not focusing anymore on those hurting memories. Let them be, there are just a bunch of information stored somewhere in space, anyway.

2. Jump to Positivity

If time is an illusion, doesn’t exist, then there is no need for the notion of “going through time”. Therefore, there is no need for so much learning through the hard ways. You can just jump through time, and because there is no time, it actually is… jumping through memories.

You can connect to the memories of someone positive that was generous enough to share it publicly with the world, and jump into the ocean of good feelings and emotions. For example, start with this list of positive words. This list of beautiful words is also a list of positive feelings and emotions. Pick a positive word and look through the vast internet for the meaning and the articles written about it. In this way, you will actually jump in the good, nice, inspiring and happy memories of someone else. And just like that, you are connected with 3-4 happy consciousness (memories) of 3-4 positive people. You will be happier.

3. Connect with Positive Memories

If time is memory stored not in our brain, but in space, then we can randomly connect with any positive memory that we want. We could label certain memories as happy memories and we could just draw that positive energy from our memories by focusing on the label. This is where gratitude helps us. If we label each day 2-3 things that make us happy then it will be easier for us to remember it in the future. Because when we are grateful today, we are actually labeling memories as happy memories. We are improving our future well-being and diminish the time it takes to keep alive and even restore our happiness.

4. Release Fear of the Subconscious Mind

If time is memory stored in space, then the subconscious mind could be all these memories stored in space, by us and by everyone. This is not frightening, it is actually more relieving if you look from another point of view. Release the fear of the subconscious mind that so many people feel… and try to change with many development programs. I am not against personal development. I just want to underline the importance of what you focus on in your personal development. Ask yourself: On what energy and consciousness are you focusing? Does it make you happy? Is it fun? Do you feel love when you learn or train yourself? My opinion is that we came here on Earth to have a lot of love and fun. And when you are not feeling happy, that is a clue to do something else.

I see a lot of people working so hard to change their subconscious mind. But memory can not be changed, you can just disconnect from that memory and connect with another memory… maybe with the memory when you have gone back in time and changed your own memory. But this is not true, this is just you creating another story for yourself, another memory. The old memory is well long behind you already stored in space. Yes, this is one way to do it, to take the old hurting memory, keep it close to you but rewire it into a more empowering story. But the hurting memory will still be close to you, hurting you.

There is another way, a new way. Disconnect from the old hurting memory and live in the present. Be grateful for what happens today, for the memories you are creating today. Connect with positivity all around the world, connect with lighter and shorter ways of doing things.

5. Release Lack of Time and Regain Freedom

If time is memory, you can release time by releasing memories. Once a month I do a reflection which can be considered a meditation but it’s more like a connection with the empty space. I call it the release-connect technique. I release memories, good or bad and I connect with empty space. In this way, I diminish my attachment to various memories (good or bad) and make space for new memories to unfold. You can try it also. How do I do it?

I take some moments alone and start to picture that I am a locomotive carrying a lot of wagons behind me. Then I picture myself going in space where I can float. And the wagons slowly distance themselves from me floating away from me. They are not destroyed, they just safely float away from me with all the loads and burdens that they have. I trust that they are stored by the Universe somewhere and labeled properly. Then I just imagine myself a simple locomotive floating in space, being so light and free of everything. This is how I get my complete freedom.

See what Nassim Haremein, award-winning of the Einstein 2017 prize, has to say about the fact that time is an illusion and without memory, there is no time. The link will open a short video posted by Nassim on Facebook. Click here: without memory, there is no time.

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Elena-D-Calin

Elena is passionate about positive words and she is the person behind Positive Words Research. She also likes science discoveries related to spirituality and psychology.

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