Top 12 Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are

Don’t worry, you are doing better than you think you are!

It’s understandable to feel “stuck” when things didn’t turn out the way you expected or you don’t think you are supposed to be where you are now. Everything seems to be going wrong. You get depressed. You get discouraged. You raise existential questions, and although it can be a good thing because you will reach some realizations about what you can do to change the direction of your life, it is also very likely that you may fixate on what is missing.

Maybe it’s time to look around you and appreciate what you have, claim the power to change what you can, and see life as glass half-full. Here are 12 signs you are doing better than you think you are.

1. You have all the basic human needs.

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the very basics are the physiological needs: food, water, shelter, clothes, education, and sanitation. Now, look around you. If you have all these basic human needs, consider yourself blessed. You may not be rich enough to have a big house or have the abundance of food and clothing, but as long as you have a roof over your head, are able to eat whatever and whenever you like, and you have clothes to wear, your life is better than others’.

2. You value your relationships.

You have friends and family that support you in everything you do. You now understand that quality is more important than quantity. You learned to let go of toxic people in your life, and devote your time and effort to those who deserve it. You give them time, and treat them the way you wanted to be treated. You value their emotions and you don’t take them for granted.

3. You love unconditionally.

You are not the selfish person you were before. You know when to give and when to take. You love unconditionally without asking or expecting anything in return. That alone makes you a better person. You understand the differences and uniqueness of each individual, and you accept them.

4. You have goals and dreams.

It may seem like you’ve been trying your best to reach your dreams, but they are still far from happening. As long as you still have goals that you want to accomplish, and you don’t stop trying, you are still doing better than you think you are. You just have to be more patient, and eventually, you’ll get there. Pursue your passions and chase after your dreams.

5. You have a healthy dose of fear and the courage to face them.

A healthy dose of fear is good. It keeps people grounded and serves as practice for making sound decisions. Having the courage to face your fear and eventually defeat it is one of the characteristics of a mentally strong person. You don’t let fear hold you back, and you can make your way around it.

6. You are a changed person and you learned from your mistakes.

You do not let your past define you and you are not the same person you were before. You acknowledged and learned from your mistakes and you treat them as valuable lessons in life. They say experience is the best teacher and you definitely learned how to do things differently when you encounter the same issues next time.

7. You welcome challenges and seek opportunities.

You take on new challenges with enthusiasm and regard weaknesses as opportunities for self-improvement. You push yourself to your limits and discover something new about yourself. You realize how strong you have become. New opportunities excite you and you look forward to the future.

8. You can handle rejection well.

If you experience rejections in the past, chances are, you can better handle any rejections that may come your way. You don’t beat yourself up or base your self-worth on one incident. Instead, you can turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. You grow stronger with each rejection and you become better.

9. You were able to pull yourself up and bounce back from bad situations.

We all have problems; the only difference is how we solve them. They say it’s not how you fall, but how you get back up that counts. It is as simple as passing the most difficult subjects when you almost failed. That is already something to be proud of.  There is that rewarding feeling when you are able to overcome a huge obstacle in your life or get past something that seemed impossible at the time. If you do, give yourself a pat on the back because you have become a better person.

10. You don’t let yourself go and you prioritize your health.

You understand that health is the most important thing to prioritize in order for you to accomplish other things. Even if you are preoccupied with life, you don’t let yourself go. You take care of your physical appearance, you maintain your weight, and you try to live a healthy lifestyle. You know what to do when you don’t feel good or who to turn to when you need help to stop feeling bad.

11. You add value to the world by helping out other people.

Sometimes in order to feel blessed, we must first be a blessing to other people. You feel good when you are able to help people in need. You feel needed when your friends or family turn to you for help. You feel the joy when you are able to solve another person’s problem even as you contemplate yours. Sometimes, you might even feel that your struggles are nothing compared to theirs, which makes your problems would seem like a vacation to others. Simply being nice to people is already a big deal. You also know that empathy is a gift. You may not realize it because it may not seem much to you, but you are already making a difference in their lives.

12. You have a healthy mindset.

You are self-aware and positive. Although situations bring you down sometimes, you can still look back and laugh about it. You always try to strike a balance in all aspects of your life and you don’t let little things bother you. Your path may still be unclear, but you still move forward and make choices that benefit you. You understand that you cannot change the past, but you know you can change what happens from now on, as long as you take full responsibility for your life.

If you can relate to these, and realize that you have them in you, then you are doing better than you think you are. Do not get blindsided by the things that seem to be not working in your life and focus on those that do. You may not be happy with the way things are right now, but you still have the chance to change and have a brighter future.

12 Signs That You are Doing Better
Diana-Beyer

Author΄s bio: Diana Beyer is an experienced, self-driven specialist and content writer at BestEssay.Education who is passionate about writing. She is always seeking to discover new ways for personal and professional growth.

Why Is Important To Take 10 Mindful Minutes And Do Nothing

Here is an incredible video from TED. The speaker is Andy Puddicombe. His speech is called “All it takes is 10 mindful minutes”. The following words are the transcript of this talk and at the end of this post, you will find the video. Enjoy below the speech!

Transcript of “All it takes is 10 mindful minutes”

We live in an incredibly busy world. The pace of life is often frantic, our minds are always busy, and we’re always doing something.

So with that in mind, I’d like you just to take a moment to think, when did you last take any time to do nothing? Just 10 minutes, undisturbed? And when I say nothing, I do mean nothing. So that’s no emailing, texting, no Internet, no TV, no chatting, no eating, no reading. Not even sitting there reminiscing about the past or planning for the future. Simply doing nothing. I see a lot of very blank faces. You probably have to go a long way back.

And this is an extraordinary thing, right? We’re talking about our mind. The mind, our most valuable and precious resource, through which we experience every single moment of our life. The mind that we rely upon to be happy, content, emotionally stable as individuals, and at the same time, to be kind and thoughtful and considerate in our relationships with others.

This is the same mind that we depend upon, to be focused, creative, spontaneous, and to perform at our very best in everything that we do. And yet, we don’t take any time out to look after it. In fact, we spend more time looking after our cars, our clothes and our hair than we — okay, maybe not our hair, but you see where I’m going.

The result, of course, is that we get stressed. You know, the mind whizzes away like a washing machine going round and round, lots of difficult, confusing emotions, and we don’t really know how to deal with that. And the sad fact is that we are so distracted that we’re no longer present in the world in which we live.

We miss out on the things that are most important to us, and the crazy thing is that everybody just assumes, that’s the way life is, so we’ve just kind of got to get on with it. That’s really not how it has to be.

So I was about 11 when I went along to my first meditation class. And trust me, it had all the stereotypes that you can imagine, the sitting cross-legged on the floor, the incense, the herbal tea, the vegetarians, the whole deal, but my mom was going and I was intrigued, so I went along with her. I’d also seen a few kung fu movies, and secretly I kind of thought I might be able to learn how to fly, but I was very young at the time.

Now as I was there, I guess, like a lot of people, I assumed that it was just an aspirin for the mind. You get stressed, you do some meditation. I hadn’t really thought that it could be sort of preventative in nature, until I was about 20, when a number of things happened in my life in quite quick succession, really serious things which just flipped my life upside down and all of a sudden I was inundated with thoughts, inundated with difficult emotions that I didn’t know how to cope with. Every time I sort of pushed one down, another one would pop back up again. It was a really very stressful time.

I guess we all deal with stress in different ways. Some people will bury themselves in work, grateful for the distraction. Others will turn to their friends, their family, looking for support. Some people hit the bottle, start taking medication. My own way of dealing with it was to become a monk. So I quit my degree, I headed off to the Himalayas, I became a monk, and I started studying meditation.

People often ask me what I learned from that time. Well, obviously it changed things. Let’s face it, becoming a celibate monk is going to change a number of things. But it was more than that. It taught me — it gave me a greater appreciation, an understanding for the present moment. By that I mean not being lost in thought, not being distracted, not being overwhelmed by difficult emotions, but instead learning how to be in the here and now, how to be mindful, how to be present.

I think the present moment is so underrated. It sounds so ordinary, and yet we spend so little time in the present moment that it’s anything but ordinary. There was a research paper that came out of Harvard, just recently, that said on average, our minds are lost in thought almost 47 percent of the time. 47 percent. At the same time, this sort of constant mind-wandering is also a direct cause of unhappiness.

Now we’re not here for that long anyway, but to spend almost half of our life lost in thought and potentially quite unhappy, I don’t know, it just kind of seems tragic, actually, especially when there’s something we can do about it, when there’s a positive, practical, achievable, scientifically proven technique which allows our mind to be more healthy, to be more mindful and less distracted.

And the beauty of it is that even though it need only take about 10 minutes a day, it impacts our entire life. But we need to know how to do it. We need exercise. We need a framework to learn how to be more mindful. That’s essentially what meditation is. It’s familiarizing ourselves with the present moment. But we also need to know how to approach it in the right way to get the best from it.

And that’s what these are for, in case you’ve been wondering, because most people assume that meditation is all about stopping thoughts, getting rid of emotions, somehow controlling the mind, but actually, it’s quite different from that. It’s more about stepping back, sort of seeing the thought clearly, witnessing it coming and going, emotions coming and going without judgment, but with a relaxed, focused mind.

So for example, right now, if I focus too much on the balls, then there’s no way I can relax and talk to you at the same time. Equally, if I relax too much talking to you, there’s no way I can focus on the balls. I’m going to drop them. Now in life, and in meditation, there’ll be times when the focus becomes a little bit too intense, and life starts to feel a bit like this. It’s a very uncomfortable way to live life when you get this tight and stressed.

At other times, we might take our foot off the gas a little bit too much, and things just become a sort of a little bit like this. Of course in meditation — we’re going to end up falling asleep. So we’re looking for a balance, a focused relaxation where we can allow thoughts to come and go without all the usual involvement.

Now, what usually happens when we’re learning to be mindful is that we get distracted by a thought. Let’s say this is an anxious thought. Everything’s going fine, and we see the anxious thought. “Oh, I didn’t realize I was worried about that.” You go back to it, repeat it. “Oh, I am worried. I really am worried. Wow, there’s so much anxiety.” And before we know it, right, we’re anxious about feeling anxious.

You know this is crazy. We do this all the time, even on an everyday level. If you think about the last time you had a wobbly tooth. You know it’s wobbly, and you know that it hurts. But what do you do every 20, 30 seconds?

It does hurt. And we reinforce the storyline, right? And we just keep telling ourselves, and we do it all the time. And it’s only in learning to watch the mind in this way that we can start to let go of those storylines and patterns of mind. But when you sit down and you watch the mind in this way, you might see many different patterns. You might find a mind that’s really restless and — the whole time.

Don’t be surprised if you feel a bit agitated in your body when you sit down to do nothing and your mind feels like that. You might find a mind that’s very dull and boring, and it’s just, almost mechanical, it just seems it’s as if you’re getting up, going to work, eat, sleep, get up, work. Or it might just be that one little nagging thought that just goes round and round your mind.

Well, whatever it is, meditation offers the opportunity, the potential to step back and to get a different perspective, to see that things aren’t always as they appear. We can’t change every little thing that happens to us in life, but we can change the way that we experience it. That’s the potential of meditation, of mindfulness.

You don’t have to burn any incense, and you definitely don’t have to sit on the floor. All you need to do is to take 10 minutes out a day to step back, to familiarize yourself with the present moment so that you get to experience a greater sense of focus, calm and clarity in your life.

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