While I was reading the book “The Astonishing Power of Emotions” by Esther and Jerry Hicks, I encounter the word “relief”. When I encounter this word, it was not so important for me, but in this book, it is very much praised. I understood why and it becomes one of my favorite positive words. I searched in the dictionary the description of “relief” and among others, I found these:
- a pleasant or amusing change; a diversion;
- a feeling of cheerfulness or optimism that follows the removal of negative emotion;
- deliverance from or alleviation of negative emotion;
- a feeling of comfort or ease caused by such alleviation or deliverance;
- money, food, or other help, given to those in poverty or need;
- the feeling that comes when something burdensome is removed or reduced;
- the condition of being comfortable or relieved (especially after being relieved of distress).
I also found related words with RELIEF as being ALLEVIATION, ASSUAGEMENT, COMFORT (a feeling of freedom from negative emotions, a state of being relaxed and feeling no negative emotion), FREEDOM, EASE, RELAXATION, ASSIST, HELP, AID, CONSOLATION, REST, PAUSE, SUSPENSION, BREAK, BREATH, EASING, MODERATION, CHANGE, WELFARE, REDUCTION, STEP-DOWN, DECOMPRESSING, CURE, REMEDY, REFRESHMENT.
I could not find “giving up” related to “relief”. Relief is not giving up. Relief feels good while giving up does not feel good.
And then I put the word SELF in front of RELIEF and become SELF-RELIEF.
Our responsibility is self-relief. Some people wait for relief from other people, from parents, lovers, husband/wife, brother/sister, friend or they wait for relief to come on holiday or at night when they sleep, or they eat to feel relief. During an entire day they struggle a lot, they fight a lot and they don’t provide to themselves self-relief, exactly in the moment when they need it when they should.
People wait for relief from outside themselves. But relief comes from inside you because it’s actually self-relief. You can, of course, use external resources to provide to yourself relief but you must be conscious that the action must be initiated by yourself, from inside yourself.
Whenever you need relief you should provide it to yourself. Don’t wait for no one to provide it to you; this is freedom. To provide to yourself relief in life whenever you need it, through a simple action, even one such are “taking a deep breath”, “writing your thoughts in a journal”, “taking a walk in the park”, “saying a good word to yourself”, “smile” is the best thing you can do in life.
Don’t wait for relief from no one except yourself, not even from God, if you think God is an entity outside yourself. I for one believe that God is part of me, so when I provide relief to myself I know that is God’s wish actually.
Self-relief can come in many forms. It can be self-love, self-respect, self-appreciation and many other. Or it can be a huge self-relief in the form of self-forgiveness. A lot of people that I know don’t forgive themselves. Some of them don’t even know that they could do this and the others don’t do it because they don’t think they deserve it. But all humans deserve self-forgiveness which is actually a form of self-relief.
Self-relief is about noticing the moments when you need it and respect and love yourself enough to listen to yourself and immediately respond to you in a positive way. Most of the time self-relief is not about making big changes in your life. Self-relief must be consistent because it adds up over time, it compounds.
When you self-relieve yourself every day, making very small actions (sometimes just a deep breath exactly when you need it) it compounds over time (in one year for example) and you reach a good health, good life, good feelings and more good. It adds up. All your small self-reliefs that you do to yourself daily it adds up. This is why they say “small things matter most” because they add up over time. Access the list of positive words to brighten your day!