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Five Simple Techniques To Deal With Rejection

Deal With Rejection

Marisa Peer shares with us 5 tips for dealing with rejection. Marisa tells us that it’s very easy not to let rejection in when you use the below five simple techniques to deal with rejection. She recommends that every time someone critics you or your activity to answer them in the next order:

  1. Thank you for sharing that.
  2. I actually missed that, would you say again?
  3. Oh sounds like you’re trying to make me feel really bad about myself.
  4. You know that’s not going to work because I’m not going to let that in, you can think what you like and saw what you like but I’m not going to let that in.
  5. Since we’re sharing did you know that critical people have the most criticism reserved for themselves? When you keep criticizing me you’re showing everyone here that you’re really dissatisfied with yourself and that’s a shame.

5 Tips To Help You Deal With Rejection | Marisa Peer

This Week’s Positive Word is LOVE

LOVE

This week’s positive word is

LOVE

You may be thinking this is quite an obvious word this week, but you’d be amazed at how many people miss the opportunity to show love.

Ask yourself, how many times in a day do you show love?

When I first heard about the Law of Attraction, it was the love element that struck me first. ‘The Secret‘ came into my life when I needed it, when life seemed to be throwing challenge after challenge at me. If you haven’t watched, The Secret, I highly recommend it, especially if you haven’t heard of the Law of Attraction, or are just starting to learn about it. The Secret is a great place to start.

At this particular time in my life there was so many challenges; financial, relationships, family … you name it, it was all very challenging … like a snowball effect! There was just one things after another. I didn’t understand why all these things were happening to me, I had negative view on life and would ask myself constantly, ‘Why me???’

However, when I changed my feelings around, turned anger into love and looked outside of myself and my own world, good things started to happen. It’s not only about the words that are spoken, it’s about the actions that are taken, the thoughts that move in and out of our minds constantly.

LOVE

Now, don’t get me wrong, it took effort to turn my thoughts around, it was a real effort in what seemed like utter darkness with no light at the end of the tunnel. But sure enough that light came, not just a dribble of light, not just a small glow, it was a whole load of party lights, fireworks and more!

It becomes an addiction sending out love to people. A good addiction. I receive so much love back now I often find it overwhelming. Plus, the initial effort it took to turn my thoughts around, is just natural now. My thoughts and actions are always full of love. I know this, because of the love I get back. The world would be such an amazing, fulfilling place if everyone could be more loving.

It’s one of the reasons I qualified as a Law of Attraction Practitioner, because I wanted to teach others have marvellous it actually is. The more love you give out there, the more you receive back. So go on, this week your task is to show as much love as you possibly can and reap the rewards.

Positive Words Research – This Week’s Positive Word is LOVE

Secrets of a Long-Lasting Happy Love Relationship

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The secrets of long-lasting happy relationships are:

  1. Building a climate of practicing kindness, generosity, friendship, joy, love, trust & intimacy;
  2. Honoring the “bids” meaning the requests for connection, requests for a response, sign of interest and support, when hoping to connect, however momentary;
  3. Responding to “bids” by turning toward the partner;
  4. The partner recognizes the “bid” and respects that by engaging, showing interest & support;
  5. Each partner meets their partner momentary emotional need;
  6. Scanning environment for things they can appreciate and can say thank you for;
  7. Building a culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully;
  8. Scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right;
  9. Managing not to miss more than 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing;
  10. Responding to “bids” by showing they are there, showing to the partner that he or she is valued;
  11. Kindness glues the couple together;
  12. They build an environment of kindness and emotional stability;
  13. They show each other through kindness that each partner is cared for, understood, and validated—feels loved;
  14. They know and act upon the knowledge that ” when someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship”;
  15. The partners consider kindness as a muscle. They exercise this muscle to keep it in shape;
  16. Partners know that good relationship requires sustained hard work;
  17. They treasure the development and expression of a generous spirit. They express this generous spirit a lot and let it come in when a partner makes a bid so that they can turn toward their partner;
  18. They enhance small moments of emotional connection and therefore constantly gently empowering the relationship;
  19. The partners practice kindness in hard times and during a fight—they consider that this is the most important time to be kind;
  20. The partners express negative emotions in a kind way;
  21. The partners consider that if you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often and built kindness into the very backbone of a relationship;
  22. The partners practice kindness by being generous about partner’s intentions;
  23. The partners practice having an ability to kindly interpret partner’s actions and intentions charitably and they soften the sharp edge of conflict.
  24. Partners appreciate the intent of the other partner to do the things right even if they have executed it poorly;
  25. Partners practice another powerful kindness strategy revolved around shared joy.
  26. Partners show that they are there for each other when things go right. They think shared joy is actually more important for relationship quality. They respond with joy to the partner’s good news.
  27. Finally, there’s active constructive responding. If her partner responded in this way, he stopped what he was doing and engaged wholeheartedly with her: “That’s great! Congratulations! When did you find out? Did they call you? What classes will you take the first semester?”

“Active constructive responding is the kindest. Active constructive responding allows the partner to savor her joy and gives the couple an opportunity to bond over the good news. In the parlance of the Gottmans, active constructive responding is a way of “turning toward” your partners bid (sharing the good news). Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.”

The secret of a long-lasting happy relationship, proved by science, is that a lasting relationship comes down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

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Positive Words Research – Secrets of a Long-Lasting Happy Love Relationship

Have the Nerve to Love Yourself

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Note to my future self: You are beautiful. Always have the nerve to love yourself. And to show it.

Those were harsh days for your health, you know it.

But, your mother brought you that rose. Your father gave you that necklace from sweet bread. You are beautiful. Love yourself. Capture your beauty. Look at yourself with appreciation. Even in the hardest moments in your life, you were so beautiful. Show yourself that.

Back To The Start: Dating After Divorce

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Dating after a divorce may sound like a tiring and unpleasant experience. Some people even prefer staying in a dysfunctional marriage just to avoid getting into new relationships. However, all the people in the world are wired to connect with others, and if you take it slow and open up your mind, dating can be one fun and liberating experience.

Take it Slow

Right after the divorce, you should be patient and take some time to heal. Never rush into things and don’t even think about rebound relationships. Those could only cause more problems and unnecessary emotions. During the first few weeks after the divorce, take the time to rethink your desires, talents and reconnect with yourself. After you have a clear image of your future, then it is a good time to get back on the horse and look for a new partner. Remember to have some fun first, before you decide to enter another serious relationship, just so you would not miss out on perks of being single.

Have no Shame

The good thing about divorces today is that they can be done quickly and they are considered normal, rather than an exception. Most Americans want to get it over with fast and, for example, filing for divorce in Oregon is not that complicated. The positive thing about online divorce is that everything is done without any fuss and piles of papers, which gives you the possibility to start dating again in no time. When reentering the world of dating, don’t be ashamed of your past. In real life, relationships fail, people fail and that is perfectly acceptable in today’s culture. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, be confident, accept the reality, and you will have no problem reconnecting with people and fully trusting them.

Have a Support System

You should never date alone. Of course, that does not mean all of your dates should be in a group, but make sure to surround yourself with good friends to support you. Let your best friends cheer for you and gently encourage you to date and have fun. It is always good to have a shoulder to cry on in tough times, and someone to advise and listen to you whenever you need it. With dearest and nearest friends, everything seems easier. You can turn a new leaf and bravely start dating, when you know there is someone to watch your back.

Date outside the Box

Everyone has a type. That is how you ended up with your ex, and it may seem hard to imagine dating someone completely different. However, how can you know that is impossible if you have not tried it? Open up your mind and date different people. If you wish, you can try and stay within “your type”, but it is always fun meeting people that are different than your ex, or even try and find a complete opposite of what you think you like. You will be surprised to see what type of people and personalities attract you, so have fun with them. Better yet, if the person is different than what you’re used to, the future relationship promises completely unique and unusual events to get you outside of your comfort zone for a change.

Talk to your Kids

Having kids at home may make dating after the divorce a bit tough. Now you are their model for everything and you want to be careful. Make sure to talk to your kids about the present situation and what is going to happen. Tell them that you will date again, but that you will not bother them with that too much. Be selective and choose partners only if you know they will be a good role model and that your children can connect with them, too. At the beginning, it is best to keep the dating details to yourself, and only introduce the date to your kids if you are certain about the relationship, in order to avoid causing anxiety with your children because of all the new people in your life. Also, tell them that they are your priority so they can be assured that they are loved and taken care of.

Don’t be discouraged after the divorce. It may seem scary, but dating is one fun experience that will encourage you to heal and have a bright future. Take things slow, talk to your kids and everyone will be happy at the end.

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My name is Alex Williams, born and raised in beautiful Sydney. I am a journalism graduate and a rookie blogger trying to find my luck. Blogs are the perfect opportunity for presenting yourself to a wider audience, getting the chance to showcase my expertise and receiving recognition. I am a regular contributor at BizzMark Blog.

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Together

Together

Nassim Haramein posted publicly today: “A visual metaphor for the entire universe: everything is connected by the structure of space itself, even if it is not apparent to us on the surface…“. This affirmation was accompanied by the below picture representing trees with strong roots connected and the word together

I love this representation of the reality we all live in. We look around and see the things and our mind tell us that we are separate. We look at out bodies and think we are separated. But in reality, in every second, we are not separated, we are connected. This knowing brings me peace.

Nassim Haramein is the Director of Research for The Resonance Project which made the movie The Connected Universe.

Source of the picture: Facebook Nassim Haramein Profile

Think Connected,

Elena D. Calin
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Love is Action Movement ~ The Word Rocks Project

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I truly believe in the power of love and kindness. This power is the reason for which every day, in the past five years, I’ve been painting #wordrocks and scattering them everywhere for people to find.

Almost five years ago, my son Antonio created Word Rocks Project. He was only ten years old at that time and willing to leave some joy around to make people smile. We never expected the idea to grow that much. But it did. We are all over the world now. And we keep trying to make people happy through our message rocks.

Word Rocks Project
Picture from the Word Rocks Project

I always have them with me. No matter if it’s walking my dogs, Sgt. Pepper and Hey Jude, or doing groceries,if it’s mailing a letter or having a coffee with a friend. Sometimes I pass by a playground and will pull over the car to leave a wordrock. I will always find a nice spot to surprise someone.

Many people have found amazing comfort and encouragement at the exact right time in running into one of these rocks and being able to keep them as their own.

Knowing that random acts of kindness can bring so much for people, I was encouraged to expand my ideas. Love notes, golden tiny fairies, sparkle unicorns, autumn leaves, messages in recycled med bottles. So many ideas! Energy flows where attention goes. I turned my heart to leave these love messages and love keeps flowing.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project
Word Rocks Project
Picture from the Word Rocks Project

Not a long time ago, I created another project: Love it, Forward List. In few words: every time I get to know someone who is going through a hard time I send a mail to my #loveitforwardlist volunteers explaining what is going on with this person. So they start to “lovebomb”  the person, with letters, cards and a lot of other amazing love things. Right now I have 2.000 volunteers writing the letters with me.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project
Word Rocks Project
Picture from the Word Rocks Project

In this world that is so digital, the power of a handwriting letter is amazing. So, can you imagine when someone receives a couple of letters full of encouragement? The feeling just lifts them up, brings them pure healing joy.

Every day I learn with this project. The world is full – very full – of people in need of love. Or affection. In need of attention and comfort. And this has been a great and deep lesson in my life. It’s wonderful how the rocks have connected me with people around the world I would never have known otherwise.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project

It fills my heart daily that with a simple act of kindness I am bringing positive feelings to people. I truly believe that when you open your heart to a greater love, everything makes sense, and life becomes more beautiful As I always like to say: love shared is love multiplied.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project

These wonderful and inspiring positive words were written by Carol Arêas – a Brazilian living in California, a wordrocker, a kindness encourager, Beatle maniac, Boston Terrier lover & other fairy tales.

Instagram:  Love is Action Movement

Facebook:  Love is Action Movement

Contact:  wordrocks.me@gmail.com

Hashtags:  #wordrocks,  #loveitforwardlist,  #loveisactionmovement

Positive Words Research – Love is Action Movement ~ The Word Rocks Project

You Are Beautiful! You Are Love!

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You Are Love! 

You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are magnificent.

How does that make you feel? Do you believe these truths about you? Well, perhaps it’s time to do so. I believe that about me (well, most times) and so it must be true about you. We are all beautiful beings no matter what, who, where we are.

Here’s what happened to me as I began to discover the truth of who I am…

In 1991, I had a spiritual experience as I merged with my Soul, my Divine Self, my true essence. I became one with All of It, and I discovered It was All Love and It was All Me. It was a Great Big Mirror of Love. It didn’t come through positive word or thoughts at that moment, but purely by Grace. However, it was not to last because my ego kept distracting me from the truth of who I am, distractions, which for many reasons, we have been conditioned with.

I had never experienced anything like this before, but curiously, it.. was.. familiar…the light which was very small until that moment, like a dimmer switch, turned on fully and illuminated everything and I recognized myself! (I just had that awareness: When I’ve shared about this experience in the past, I have been saying it was familiar because it was the same light inside no matter what size the flame is). More accurately now, I see I am that Light and so it was in the recognition of who I truly was that this experience was familiar. Sometimes it takes a near-death experience to realize or experience this, and ironically, although not a near-death experience, I was at a spiritual center and we were asked to reflect on what we would do if we were told that we only had a year left to live and faced with our mortality! Life is so wonderfully choreographed!!!

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The forgetting of who I truly am is absorbed for moments as long as I entertain that voice of the ego. I call this battle of wills, between the lower and higher frequencies, the dark versus the light, Love versus fear, my holy war. My ego constantly instructed me to hide, run, and pretend. And it was louder. The soft whisperings of my spirit or soul, that center of eternal peace, steadfast and always present, got lost in the whirl of ego drama all around and within me.

After years of suffering, now I know all I have to do is listen and I will hear its gentle prompting. It’s always there, always present within me (and around me as I woke up to signs and synchronicities). What a wonderful adventure life is!

Over the years, I repeatedly told myself that I was a failure of some sort and I saw how beating myself up would wear me down, completely exhausting me. I first began to see how fear was an illusion, that my mind is like this computer, doing whatever I choose to tell it or focus on. One day, I began my day feeling tired  —  I was born on July 24 and so the theme, 24/7, instructs my life – it kept me up and it kept me tired.

I began my journey back to love and who I was by using affirmations. I remember walking to the bus depot one morning and I said over and over that I was “energetic, enthusiastic and full of life (something along those lines). I saw how I became energized and my walk became enjoyable with every step and affirmation. As I repeated these affirmations and my energy increased, I recall walking past a young man who smiled at me and that fed my increasing energy and light as my heart expanded. I felt so good by the time I reached my destination. I believe that my energy attracted this man’s smile, that what I felt internal, the universe reflected back to me on the outside. This is how positive words, thoughts, actions improve well-being. Try this and see that fear is truly an illusion (Remember, to create your own affirmations in the present tense and as if you are already experiencing them). Fear based thoughts are projections into the future (worries about not having something, a lack of money, for instance) based on past experience. These old fear based behaviors based on fear-based beliefs are patterns that are habitual. It takes work to unglue ourselves from their grip. It helps to become aware of thoughts that are driving our self-sabotaging behavior, and therefore, our experiences by intentionally changing our minds to choose different thoughts, loving thoughts that lighten our gait, our experiences, and our lives.

The affirmation turns into a manifestation, the first part being feeling better leading to increased life-affirming action as we are motivated by our affirmation and drawing to us that which our energy or frequency is. In other words, if I feel great about my life as it is and who I am by thinking so and seeing my life more and more abundantly, I can then attract to me whatever it is I desire, literally waking my dreams up.

Before any change can happen, though, one needs to be in acceptance of what is. This alone will start to change the energy because I am choosing through acceptance to stop the so-called holy war, the fight with myself and the worlds and wholly accept myself and what is. I accept that I am presently tired. Now what will I do? I want to feel good and so choose to end now and go to bed and rest. This life-affirming action even though I am tired, and not optimally my best, I choose Love in this moment by accepting where I’m at and letting go of everything I feel needs to get done and nourish myself with rest because I am worthy of that love no matter what. And because I was graced with knowing I AM Love in 1991, I know I am here to honor that gift of knowing because my Soul’s journey came back to shine and serve humanity on its Great Awakening. Ego will want to have its say, but now I can listen, smile and say, “thanks for the input but we are going in another direction.”…to Love and to who we really are!

You are Beautiful! You are Love!

This amazing article was written by Susanne Wallner Ruby. Susanne is an awesome warm person that strongly believes in the power of the love of all things that connect us all.

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Positive Words Research – You Are Beautiful! You Are Love!

Positive Words Cloud LOVE

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Find here an amazing positive words cloud LOVE with the following positive words:

  1. LOVE
  2. KINDNESS
  3. SERENITY
  4. POSITIVE WORDS
  5. FAITH
  6. EASE
  7. LIGHT
  8. COMPASSION
  9. GRACE
  10. SELF-LOVE
  11. PURE
  12. LOVING-KINDNESS

For more positive words check out our amazing list of positive words.

Positive Words Cloud LOVE

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Photos And Quotes About Love

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Please find here some pictures and quotes about love. This post is a little celebration of love in many of its forms.

Because, love exists in many forms. There is love in relationships, love towards yourself and love for the beauty of life.

Love is complex and yet some say it is simple. Others say that everything is love and others say that there are other things besides love. Some want love very much, others really don’t want it at all. In any case, love has been glorified and talked about for many generations. Therefore, we also offer a small token of gratitude for love through this short post.

The Love For Your Passion

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

Sometimes we have a passion that we have found since we were little and other times the passion for a project finds us. Whatever it is in life, it is good to have a passion. Your passion becomes like an ikigai, a reason for being. I did this collage in 2013 when I started the project Positive Words Research. It is a declaration of how much I love, appreciate and I am grateful for researching positive words.

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The Love For Creativity

“What you seek is seeking you.” – Rumi

Sometimes in the innocence of a desire there is a great power that immediately attracts around you all the resources you need. I took this picture in a mall in my town. I was thinking of doing an article with quotes and real pictures with the word Love. Then I entered in the mall and here it was, the word LOVE written super huge.

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Self-Love

“The softer intensity of Love is Loving Kindness!” – Positive Words Research

Someone said that, you, of all people, deserve your love and affection. We forget that every day. Why? I do not know. But sometimes we remember. And we show some love and appreciation to ourselves. This is me. I did this collage for this post back in 2013.

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Access this positive vocabulary to brighten your day!