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Perfectionism Ruins Your Life! Here Are 7 Tips to Overcome It

Why can’t my skin be perfect?

I’m doing my best, but what if my boss hates the project?

I will win this thing!

If you dig deep enough, you’ll recognize some aspects of perfectionism deep within.

Everyone has faced the challenge of wanting to be better than anyone else. Being better than we already are is a good aspiration. But that’s not enough for us. We strive to perfection, and that’s when the problems begin.

The strive for improvement is an absolute necessity in life. It pushes you to learn more, try harder, and make progress. However, when this strive turns into perfectionism, it’s a reflection of your big ego. It makes you constantly unsatisfied with the things you achieve.

Have you ever had to deal with a perfectionist? Maybe a partner, a boss, or a parent? How impossible was it to make them happy with your achievements? Why would you impose such high expectations on yourself?

Perfectionism can really ruin your life. Daniel Winslet, a team leader from Best Essays, sees that from a student’s point of view: “Do you know how many students are striving to make their perfectionist parents happy? Too many. Since they are so used to being pushed, they start imposing impossible expectations to themselves. Although they can write well, they are not confident in their abilities. They hire professional writers even when there’s no need for that. A perfectionist doesn’t recognize the it’s good enough limit. That complicates their lives to a great extent.”

Is there a way to control this state of being? Yes. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. We’ll list 7 tips to help you with that.

1. Appreciate the Journey

Winning at something is easy to celebrate, right? But the moment when you meet a goal is not the only one worthy of a celebration. All small steps that get you there are important. Pay attention to the progress, no matter how insignificant it seems. This will teach you that every move forward is important. You’ll still keep an eye on the goal, but you’ll understand that the wider perspective is what matters.

2. Understand the Value of Mistakes

When you look at the photos of popular Instagram yogis, you’re mesmerized with their power and grace. That’s because they show you the final result of a long process of making effort. Throughout that process, they fell down from a handstand countless times. They went through misalignments and pain. They are still not perfect. No one ever is.

Don’t let mistakes stop you from working further. Acknowledge their value. They teach you lessons. When you correct a mistake, you’re getting a lot better at what you do.

3. Don’t Turn Ideals into Absolutes

Everyone has ideals. A perfectionist translates them into goals. If a perfectionist is a writer, they want to be the next Dostoevsky. When they write something, they don’t believe it’s good enough for that ideal. So they don’t bother publishing it.

Turn your ideals into guidelines; not absolutes.

4. Don’t Rush with Your Judgments

Growth is a process. Goal-achieving is a process. Overnight success? There’s no such thing.

Let’s say you start a YouTube channel and you want to make it a huge success. Chances are, you won’t achieve that with a single video. You’ll have to keep working and engaging your audience. Each day, you’ll be attracting more viewers.

If you get disappointed after the first video because it doesn’t get you millions of views, you won’t continue doing this. If you keep going, you’ll reach the millions at one point.

Do not judge your achievements too soon! Let the process take its time.

5. Avoid the Comparison Trap

Why is it called a comparison trap? – Because comparing yourself to other people traps you in a place of constant disapproval. You feel like you’re never good enough, since there’s always someone accomplishing more. This behavior is harmful.

You can compare yourself only to yourself. Think about where you are at this moment. Envision where you want to be. Pay attention to the progress and that will be good enough.

6. Acknowledge Your Uniqueness

You can’t be someone else. You can’t meet other people’s expectations? That’s okay. It’s more important to find out who you want to become.

You’re a unique individual with special preferences. Your attempt to be perfect in the eyes of other people gets in the way of achieving your unique potential.

7. Stay in the Now

Perfectionists constantly think about a more successful future. That’s not a bad thing, as long as it doesn’t take you away from the present moment. Do not keep your focus on the goals all the time. You can envision a better future for yourself, but perceive it as the growth you’ll achieve starting from this moment.

Staying in the present moment is not just a random mindfulness technique everyone is talking about. It’s wisdom. It works.

Will you sacrifice your happiness to perfectionism? Of course not! You’re already great. You can become better, but you shouldn’t be unhappy if you don’t become perfect. Each step forward is important, no matter how insignificant it seems.

Author’s Bio

Joan Selby is a life coach, a writer at Writerzone.net and a blogger; a graduate of California Institute of the Arts and a fancy-shoe lover; a writer by day and reader by night, giving a creative touch to everything. Find her on Twitter and Facebook.

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Reduce Stress By Positive Thinking. This Guide Will Help You

Have you been feeling empty and tired recently? Okay, these are the first signs of coming depression. Not to develop it to the full extent, you need to get out from the darkness and come back to the light of life. We know what you need to cure the upcoming disease – positive thinking! If you wish to find out how to reduce stress by positive thinking, then keep on reading!

Stop Negative Self-Talk

Everyone talks to oneself, right? The point is how you do that in various situations. For example, you failed the exam in college. The first thing that comes to your mind has to be probably: “I am useless” or “I failed it again.” Guess what? This is a completely wrong way of thinking. You should get rid of such thoughts right away!

Instead, you have to forgive yourself and motivate for the future: “Next time, I will do better,” or “It is okay to make mistakes. I have still passed the test though the score is not the best.” If you are feeling the depression is coming, change the strict attitude to yourself by comforting kind words.

Be Grateful

You should always be grateful to everything that surrounds you. In the period of upcoming depression, you should remind yourself of how grateful you are even more. To embrace a more positive attitude, you have to stop for a moment and see how much you have: the loving family, the opportunity to study in college, two arms and two legs that allow you to function fully, and many other things.

To understand clearer what you should be grateful for, write down all the things you have, both material and nonmaterial, and smile when the list is over. Why smile? Because there are many things you should say “Thank you” for when you wake up each morning!

Positive Thinking Meditation

If you do not feel that anything mentioned above helps, then try positive thinking meditation each day. 20 minutes a day will be enough – concentrate on positive thoughts and observe yourself from outside.

Make slow deep breaths and reflect on something that brings you joy – it might be the sunny day at the sea or walking with your dog or spending time with your funny friends. Reflect on how much joy it brings you and smile inside and out.

If you try and think positive, stress will never appear in your life again! Can you not think positive because you are overloaded with tedious essays? Relax! Have a look at our editing services for students and get back to meditation!

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Laugh More

Laughter is an amazing thing that is able to reduce the stress and make our lives longer. If you do not find any reason to laugh in your everyday life, just look at its funniest part!

First of all, you should surround yourself with people who are able to make you laugh. If you do not have any, watch the comedies on TV or enter the groups on Facebook that will post one joke per day minimum. After waking up, visit the group, read the joke, and get the positive vibes for the rest of the day. How to find the correct group? Well, do you love the animals? Then, enter the group 9GAG Cute where funny videos with adorable pets are posted. Seriously, you will not be able to resist and not laugh and melt looking at the cute puppies and kittens.

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Justify the Person’s Bad Behavior

Each time you hear something negative directed at you, do not take it personally. The polite and thoroughbred person will never say anything nasty to anyone. If the person still does something bad, you need to understand that s/he might be upset or angry, s/he might be going through the relationship crisis, or someone is sick in his/her family.

The person says it to lash out and not to hurt anyone. Plus, you might misinterpret his/her intentions and understand him/her wrong. You need to think positively and say to yourself: “I simply misunderstood him/her. S/he did not mean what s/he said,” or “This person had a bad day – I should not feel grumpy about what s/he said.”
Think positive and do not allow anyone to ruin your day!

Author’s Bio

Helen is a prolific writer who inspires other people to find their predestination in life. Her life motto is, ‘Do what you care for, love what you carry out.’
She also believes that each individual on the planet has special expertise, and the only complication is to be open in order to see this talent in its full volume.

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I Am Grateful For My Place And Purpose In The World

I am an inspired individual, whose daily footprint is best expressed through words and thoughts in writing.
Each day is a blessing, some say a gift.

For those of us who have the good fortune of receiving love, support from friends and family, have a choice regarding our education and vocations. They can surely hope to evolve learn and find peace and contentment with our choices.

There are people less able to make choices because illness or a disability or social circumstances limits their dreams, hopes, and aspirations.

Success is measured in many ways, and not necessarily by wealth and fame.

 If I was to define success I would say the following

The success story of humanity lies in the way we interact and share our qualities positively with the rest of the human race. I am most grateful for my journey from youth to present.
I may not be a chief executive or drive an expensive vehicle or possess expensive materialistic items, but my place and purpose and positive choices are important footprints in my daily space and the space I share with others.

Like others, I have experienced suffering and pain, but steered myself through darkness with positive thoughts. My choices have not always steered me along a positive path, but knowing, that others are suffering in the world, are victims of cruelty or geographical disasters, confirmed that I am in position to make choices, some of which are good, some bad.

I am most grateful for my inner strength

Grateful for the gifts life has blessed me with, and grateful that I recognize my purpose as a sentient human being. Grateful for all I have received in my life journey, of living and learning the many different life events and experiences on my journey. Also grateful for the space I occupy on this wonderful planet and the energy I emanate daily to all in my personal and professional arenas.

I am grateful that I feel established and comfortable with the human being I am, my place and purpose. Therefore I find little reason to complain.
My achievements may not be grand or make ground breaking news.

But their significance and purpose are footprints from my journey.
I am at peace with myself , happy and content.

Grateful is a positive word

Below is an acrostic poem to which I can connect with in my life journey. ©

Gracious

Resourceful

Aspiring

Talented

Energetic

Faith (in humanity)

Understanding

Loving

Please see below an affirmation poem I wrote.

purpose

‘Life force’

We are beautiful instruments,
Living in the ever ongoing
Mysterious orchestra of energy.
That delivers our purpose and grace.
So we may emanate our own individual
music to share
and be received as gifts
of humanity in the hearts
of those with whom we
Share our world.

By Stephanie Alexandra Howard ©

I hope you all enjoy.

Peace and Blessings ~ Stephanie Howard.

Author’s Bio

Grew up in the North of England as a young child, steered my way through a difficult relationship with my mother and stepfather. Most of my spare time and school holidays was spent with my sister who had health difficulties.

In the early part of my life journey I was fortunate to have two wonderful uncles in my life. They recognized my creative gift for words and writing thus encouraged me to express myself through words and writing.

I reflect on those moments  in my journey shared with two wonderful human beings and their wonderful minds, whose influence left an impression so  my journey would grow and evolve. As a result I grew to be who I am and express my gratitude, compassion and energy, through my love of words and writing.

I work full time not as a writer, but I am in the process of writing a book a thought/poem/affirmation for each day of the year I belong to the spiritual writers network who have published two of my poems. ©

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Positive Attitude In Life And Love – 5 Positive Affirmations

“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happening at all or by having happened all at once.” ~ Paulo Coelho

If you want to attract love in your life, then you have to give love first. Confirming the love given here will help you to become a lover.

Humans cannot live without air, food, water, and love. As you can see, only love is the abstract of four indispensable things for life.

That’s why we see in society that when people are not able to find love among humans, many people adopt pets. Thus, in one or another form, love should be present in life.

However, just because you want that love, does not mean that you will get love.

First of all, you have to give love. Only when you give love, you will get love. And to give love, you must first love yourself!

Use an affirmation to attract love

There are different ways of experiencing love, some like touching and feeling, some people like to hear love whispering in their ears, others like to show some love with gifts.

The best way to get to love the way you want is to share it with those people you love. Love affirmations will help you in your efforts.

Become a loving person. We draw those people in our lives who mirror our personalities.

Therefore, if you want people to love you, begin to love better people, use a love affirmation for the purpose.

The following love affirmation should be your constant companion.

If you feel like making your own love affirmations to attract love and to replicate them, mix two or more positive references, preferably in front of a mirror, at least one hundred times daily for six to seven months daily.

As time passes, you will find that after making a conscious effort without any hesitation, you will become a more loving person and attract more people who love your life.

1. Life Is Good

Life is good. But why is it so easy to focus on the bad and forget everything else? When you’re single, it’s easy to think like that.

How It Can Help: When you have a positive outlook on life, naturally you have a positive attitude towards your relationship. That can only make things better.

What To Do: Practice Gratitude. Some people find it useful to keep a gratitude journal so you have something to look back on when it’s hard to muster positivity.

2. I Deserve This

You absolutely deserve love and happiness. You deserve romance, true partnership, and anything else that you want out of a relationship.

How It Can Help: When you feel like you do not deserve the good things in your life, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The same is true when you feel like you are worthy. Also, feeling like you are not worth is Not cool.

What To Do: Remind yourself that you deserve this happiness whenever you feel doubt. Give you a mini pep-talk.

3. I’m Beautiful

Of course, you are beautiful. You have to be able to rely on yourself and your own self-worth.

How it can help: Being able to see your beauty is part of healthy self-esteem, and healthy self-esteem is necessary for healthy relationships.

What To Do: Stop all negative thoughts. You may be wondering how many times you have to do, but do not give up. You’ll finally retain your brain.

4. This Is My True Partner

Your partner is not a child you have to look after, a master you have to serve, a defocus you have to deal with.

How It Can Help: Equality is a beautiful thing. It makes life easier, and fairer, but also more enjoyable.

What to Do: Share the responsibility! Share the love, share the work, share the blame. Compromise. Approach life as a team.

5. This Person Is Not My Everything

It can feel like this, but this is not true. You have to be the center of your world as a healthy, independent, full rich person.

How It Can Help: When your attitude is to increase your lifestyle but is not your everything, you keep your friends, maintain your hobbies and interests, and basically you are happy. And if the day comes when you lose them, you’re still fine on your own feet, no matter how sad it is.

What To Do: Be you. Keep your friends. Get a healthy place where you can be alone and take care of yourself, even if you are in a relationship.
Appreciate that your partner is amazing, but never lose sight of your personality.

Author ~ Vishuka Chaudhary

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10 Movies That Will Motivate You on Writing New Bestseller

Writing can be tough, even if you’ve been doing it for a long time already. Things like writer’s block do happen even with the best of writers, and while the best way to overcome them is to simply continue working, sometimes it doesn’t feel simple at all.

We all have our ups and downs and often all we need is not some more willpower to keep going but a bit of motivation. Sure, one can try to overcome themselves and keep writing despite doesn’t feeling like that at all. But isn’t it better to take a few-hour break from it, find some motivation, and then return to your writing – and actually enjoy the process? It’s not our homework anymore, after all.

For many of us, movies are the best inspiration. They not only tell us stories – they show them in all their vividness, being as illustrative as possible. So here are 10 movies that could inspire you to write a new bestseller.

Stranger_Than_Fiction1. Stranger Than Fiction (2006)

Once upon a time a man named Harold Crick start hearing a voice, which seems to narrate his own life, making it look like he’s a character in a novel.

The summary itself is intriguing, of course. But that’s not the only reason you should watch this movie. If you have been writing for a while, you’ve probably experienced this amazing feeling when your characters seem to start acting on their own, dictating you what to write about. This film will remind you of that, also reminding how important it is to not become too attached to your first draft or original plot.

2. Genius (2016)

This is an autobiographical film about Max Perkins – an editor, who discovered F. Scott Fitzgerald, Ernest Hemingway, and, finally, Thomas Wolfe. The whole film is about Max’s relationship with Thomas – but not only about that. It also shows the importance and the complexity of the editing process, illustrates writer’s struggles, and demonstrates that’s writing is not only about inspiration but also about hard work.

3. Music and Lyrics (2007)

This romantic comedy is actually about one of the toughest moments in any writer’s life: when you need to create something good while feeling the pressure of a deadline. Though the film is about songwriting, it illustrates any creative writing process very vividly and realistically. You might get some inspiration from it – or simply have a good laugh.

4. Young Adult (2011)

Young adult movie is more about people, who refuse to grow up despite their age. The main character is an author of teen fiction, and while a certain part of the movie is dedicated to her personal relationships, there’s still plenty of things that writers can use for inspiration. For example, you could relate to her struggles with capturing some specific characters and learn something from the methods she uses to understand her audience better.

5. Dead Poet’s Society (1989)

This film illustrates the writers’ struggles brilliantly. Is there any point of writing when you don’t know who’s going to read it? Should we start writing in the first place or should we choose something else to do? Many of us have asked themselves these questions – and this film can help you find the answers. Perfect inspirational pep talk for many writers.

6. Kill Your Darlings (2013)

We often hear that it’s good to learn from the best – well, why don’t we try then? This film allows doing so: it tells us the story of the friendship of Jack Kerouac, Lucien Carr, Allen Ginsberg, and William S. Burroughs. You’ll be able to see that despite their talent, these writers were ordinary people struggling with their lives and their emotions – just like many of us.

Julie_and_julia7. Julie & Julia (2009)

This film is about Julie Powell – a blogger, who is committed to making every recipe from the cookbook written by Julia Child and writing about this on her blog. While it’s more about blogging that about book writing, it still shows us how important it is to be consistent in what you do even if it seems no one else cares about it.

8. Barfly (1987)

It’s a semi-autobiographical movie about Charles Bukowski that allows us to take a peek into the author’s life, to experience his downfalls and hardships along with him, and to remember how important it is to not give up even after so many failures. The persistence is often the key when it comes to writing – and this film emphasizes its importance one more time.

9. Misery (1990)

It’s definitely not the brightest film. The main character, Paul Sheldon, is a famous novelist, who’s been writing romance books about a woman called Misery for a while. He became famous for that books but eventually decided to end the series in order to focus on more serious novels. That was until he got into a car accident and found himself trapped in a home of his crazy fan, who refuses to let him go until he rewrites the last book, continuing Misery’s story.

While it does seem pretty grim, the film illustrates how much impact does our writing have on the others. It is also about the importance of listening to yourself and to following your creative impulses no matter what.

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10. Midnight in Paris (2011)

Another story about a writer (screenwriter, actually) that, however, takes an unexpected turn. When Gil Pender goes to Paris with his fiancee and her family, he suddenly finds himself going back in time every midnight, meeting cultural heroes of the past.

While we cannot do time-travel (hopefully, yet), we can still try tailoring this technique to our creative process. For example, why not pretend to have a brainstorm with the writers that inspire and influence you? This might seem a bit weird but it could actually help you with your creative struggles a lot – and it boosts your imagination as well.

When we were students, we struggled with essay topics ideas for college. And when we grow up and become writers, it also still could be a struggle sometimes – but, hopefully, you’ll be able to make everything better with the help of these films!

Author’s Bio

Christina Battons is creative writer and content strategist from LA. Currently, I write for various sites. My posts address the topics about self-education, writing, motivation, professional development. In my spare time, I prefer to read novels and crime thriller stories. Feel free to follow me on @battonschristi to ask questions or see my works.

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5 Good Reasons to Start Your Day with Morning Meditation

Meditation is one of the most delightful ways to start our mornings with. Don’t get me wrong, doing this activity anytime during the day can be beneficial for both our mental and physical health, but mornings have a special vibe to them!  Breathing in, breathing out, and letting ourselves go with the flow is just easier in the mornings, right after our good night’s sleep.

There are a lot of people who include meditation in their morning routines, which I personally find it smart to do. You don’t really need more than five to ten minutes to meditate if you really focus on your thinking. Get rid of distractions and just be yourself, alone, with your thoughts.

So why mornings? Whenever we wake up, we feel powerful and determined to begin our day, don’t we? Pressing stop on that ‘strength’ and letting our feelings flow will release the pressure of ‘having to go through the day.’ If we meditate in the morning and truly understand what is that we desire from ourselves during the day, the pressure of ‘being good enough’ will go away. We are going to be thankful for the opportunity to live, and no more. Isn’t this a great way to begin our day? Take a look at the following reasons to start your day meditating and give it a try, will you?

1. No distractions

Mornings are known for their quietness and stillness. When we wake up, the world around us seems to be so static, so motionless. It’s like we stopped time, and we are alone on our little planet. That is why meditation during this time of the day is so beneficial.

Our minds and bodies are going to respond to the stillness, and together they will create the perfect environment for our meditation. That happens neither at lunch nor in the evening. During the day, everything moves so quickly, most of the times leaving no room for us to focus on our own thoughts.

2. Choose spiritual over material

So many people believe that drinking a cup of coffee in the morning and having a good breakfast will keep them going through the day. While it might be true for some, my experience has taught me the opposite. If I do not think about myself in the morning, when will I do it? Coffee, food, TV shows… they are all just material things which lack relevance if our minds are not doing well.

For me, developing spiritually little by little every day brings me lots of benefits, while “developing materialistically” would probably keep me at the same spiritual level. As a writer at writing service, I can’t stop developing spiritually – I need to stay in “spiritual” shape for my clients, who need me all the time. Interacting with people every second of the day can be overwhelming, that is why I need to concentrate on myself in the morning. Help yourself so you can help others, right?

3. Meditation means better focus

As you already know, you will focus as much as possible on your thoughts during the sessions. This creates a very good habit for the future. While the hustle and bustle of the city doesn’t seem to be affecting us, it subconsciously makes us lose concentration and focus on our actions.

If you want to stay focused throughout your day, meditation is your best friend. Practicing it will develop new skills for you, and will teach you many interesting life coping techniques.  Just take a deep breath, and explore your mind.

4. No more useless stress

I am pretty sure I am not the only one in here stressing over life. We have so many things in our mind all the time that sometimes, the glass just becomes full. That is when we know we need to take a break, or quit our job, or just enjoy endless relaxation. Unfortunately, this is not how life works. While some of you are able to leave your offices whenever you want to, for us the best things don’t look so bright. That is why we need to find a balance in our lives in order to fully enjoy it.

Through meditating I found the balance I needed in my life, and I am very happy I chose it. Meditating each morning made me understand that stressing over different matters won’t change anything. Taking a deep breath and finding solutions will. Meditation clears your mind and opens new perspectives. It clarifies the meaning of life and defines problems as easily solvable. Don’t even get me started on how I have no more headaches thanks to this awesome practice!

5. Increasing awareness

I could spend days talking on this subject. There are just so many things out there to discover, and few humans choose to search for them. I know, it’s easier to stay in our comfort zones and relax, but how are we evolving if we are not seeking new answers? Self-awareness increases confidence, motivation, and understanding of the world itself. This makes us aware of all the decisions we take, therefore raising satisfaction.

More awareness means more consciousness about your life, and more consciousness means better decisions!

Wrapping-Up

Try to incorporate meditation into your morning routine. Wake up 10 minutes earlier than usual and start working on your spirituality. Drink a good coffee after, and think about the reasons you are doing this – aren’t they clearer now? Keeping both mentally and physically healthy is going to bring numerous advantages for you. So enjoy this wonderful and unique experience, and lose the overwhelming feeling of stress!

Author’s Bio

Justin is a teacher from Leicester, UK. When not teaching his little students and rooting for Leicester FC, he loves to share his thoughts and opinions about education and self-improvement with other people on different blogs and forums.You could follow Justin on Facebook and Twitter.

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Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ I Am Bless And Bless Is Me

This article contains fragments from the book Magic Sparkles of Happiness, Chapter 3 ~ I Am Bless And Bless Is Me

 “Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I am joy and joy is me.

I am bless and bless is me. I am love and love is me. I am abundance and abundance is me. I am prosperity and prosperity is me. I am happiness and happiness is me. I am strong and strong is me. I am powerful and powerful is me. I am success and success is me. I am beauty and beauty is me. I am peace and peace is me.

I am inspiration and inspiration is me.

I am thankfulness and thankfulness is me. I am freedom and freedom is me. I am vitality and vitality is me. I am perfection and perfection is me. I am gorgeous and gorgeous is me. I am ready and ready is me. I am kindness and kindness is me. I am self-respect and self-respect is me.

When we could be only happiness, then we will feel only happiness.

We would receive only happiness since only happiness we would recognize. We would attract only happiness. Only happiness would stick to us. We would be a form that holds only happiness. To all other feelings we would just remain immune.

We would give only happiness to others. We could not give anything else. We could not give nothing since all the time we would give happiness. We could not stop ourselves from not giving happiness to all the people, no matter their age, language, skin color, social status, disabilities, abilities, level of studies, thinking. Because we would be only Happiness.

A man said to the Buddha, “I want Happiness.”

Buddha said, first remove “I”, that’s ego,

then remove “want”, that’s desire.

See now you are left with only Happiness.

Let’s think empowering thoughts…

… and fill ourselves with happiness so that we overflow with happiness at least three times a day. We give happiness to others when we overflow from within ourselves with happiness. That means we would feel, in almost every corner of our inner self, the feeling of happiness, and then more. More means that we multiply our happiness.

We multiply our happiness when we feel grateful while we feel the feeling of happiness. Therefore to overflow with happiness we need a simple reason for being happy and practice gratitude simultaneous. When you overflow with happiness, you are happiness and happiness is you.

The same process applies to everything else. To overflow with love, first you start practicing feeling the love and then you multiply that feeling by being grateful. When you overflow with love, you are Love and Love is you. A little secret to help you start practicing Love is: start practicing kindness, then loving-kindness, then you pass to feeling the Love.

Albert Einstein said: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.”

I believe that the awareness of a certain word makes you feel that word.

Therefore, when you are aware of a problem, first transform your level of awareness and then, try to solve that awareness. Most of the time, when you have an emotional struggle, the main reason is because you are focusing too much on a certain negative word.

For the moment, you find yourself located at the level of awareness of that negative word. The solution is to develop your awareness for the positive word, which is the opposite of the negative word.

The transition can be made with the below Step 2, where you are negating the positive world, you are saying not together with the positive word. Therefore you can jump through levels that take you to the positive feeling represented by the positive word, when you start from the negative feeling represented by the negative word, by taking the following simple steps:

Step 1) Name a single word for your negative emotion.

This is the easiest part because you are complaining about it in your mind, so you know what you are struggling with. For example name it like: sad, angry, mad, complaining. Then acknowledge it saying: “I am sad. I feel sad.”

But, don’t stay too much in this state of awareness. Take the next step 2.

Step 2) Replace the negative word with two words, composed of not and the opposite of the negative word.

For sad we have happy, therefore you will have not happy.  Spend some time by focusing on these words. You can repeat to yourself: “I am not happy. I don`t feel happy.”

Then, think at the information stored in your mind related to what not happy means to you. In this stage, you will see that your brain will come with a list of happy things that you lack in the moment. This is precisely what you need. You can write it down and look at your treasure.

The list is a treasure because now you have a list with things that make you happy and you can start doing them and start being happy. But before going through the list, make step 3 also.

Step 3) Start repeating in your mind only the positive word, without not.

In our example you can say the word happy. You can also say happiness.  Say in your mind the words at least 35 times, and then increase the reinforcement to 40, 60, 100, 200, 400, 1000 times until it makes sense to you, until your brain starts to reflect and focus on these words.

To make it easier and more powerful, write it down on a piece of paper. You can write the word happiness as many times as you need, until you feel the awareness of the word. Write it with big letters (this always has the biggest impact) and even in different colors.

I strongly believe that not what we say to ourselves troubles us so much, but what we don’t say to ourselves is troubling us, especially when we need to hear certain words in our consciousness. Most of the time we all search the feeling of relief, and in this way you can offer to yourself some self-relief.

If you do not know and really understand what a positive word stands for…

… then look it up in the dictionary, research it on internet and read articles and books about that word (there are many books about loving-kindness, acceptance, gratitude, equanimity, warm-heartedness, self-love, relief, abundance, peace of mind, mindfulness, confidence, happiness).

If you do not know positive words then put positive words in google and click on the first list that comes in your search. It is the list of positive words that I’ve created and published on Positive Words Research, the website that I founded at the beginning of 2013. Inspire yourself from this list whenever you feel you need a positive word.

The direct link of this list of positive words is:    

https://PositiveWordsResearch.com/List-of-Positive-Words

A sentence is an accumulation of words.

When we grow up we need to take the responsibility of being our own teachers. And when a positive word weakens in our mind, we need to give ourselves the task to reinforce that word.

Except writing the word, a more powerful way to reinforce the word “happiness” in your mind is for you to start researching on the word happiness.

Increase your awareness by reading articles on the Internet about the word happiness. Read books about happiness. There are a lot these days. Find and learn all the positive words that are connected to the word happiness. There are so unbelievably many related words to happiness.

“Well, you know, a lot of people look at the negative things, the things that they did wrong and – which I do. But I like to stress on the things I did right, because there are certain things that I like to look at from a positive standpoint that are just positive reinforcement.” – Tiger Woods 

Homework 3:

I will again give you another homework which is to build your own personalized happy moment:

Make your own blessings replacing the sparkles with your own words:

I AM * * * * * AND * * * * * IS ME

 “It takes a long time to become young” – Pablo Picasso

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager

Categories
Affirmations Chatting Gratitude and happiness Happiness I AM Sleep

Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ I Used To Not Love And Now I Am Loving

Chapter 2 ~ I Used To Not Love And Now I Am Loving

“I’d far rather be happy than right any day.” – Douglas Adams

I used to not feel loved and now I am feeling so loved. I just feel, now, so loved.

I used to not feel so alive and now I am feeling so alive. I just somehow feel alive now. I used not to feel like this. And now I feel like this.

I used to think I am not blessed and now I am feeling blessed. It just happened for me. I feel blessed. I used not to feel like this. I used to feel different. Now I feel blessed. It happened to me.

I used to not love people so much. Maybe I loved a few people. And now I am feeling love for so many people. I love singers, dancers, writers of movies, people that take care of the bakery in front of my house, the ones that take care of the park near me where I love to walk, and the neighbors that keep me secure in my house because we all live, together, in a building. And all the other people, so many people that are just amazing. Now I am just used to loving people.

I used to not love my body. And now I am feeling so much love for my body.

My body is a miracle; I used to not believe this. Just that now I do feel like this. I feel love for my body. I used not to feel it. And now I feel this love. I used not to respect myself so much and now I practice self-respect. Life is so much easier if I give self-respect to me when I need it. I love self-respect.

I used to think mainly at the not so good stuff that was happening all around the world. And I felt that these pictures are making me feel like I was living in a not secure world.

And now I am thinking mainly at all the good, beautiful, fabulous, mesmerizing, breath taking stuff that is happening all around the world. I have no control over all the not so good stuff which is happening in the world. Just that now I am also thinking that I have no control over the good stuff that is happening in the world.

This good stuff is multiplying in the world without me controlling it.

No matter if I have trust in people or I don’t, in reality there are these millions of people that are committed to see beauty in the world. They surf, they throw themselves from the cliffs into the water and then climb back to do it again. They run in races, they give birth to children, they dance, they teach other people how to dance, they just do all these millions of good stuff in the world.

And I could, and maybe actually I did, dedicate my life in visualizing all this beauty on Earth. The more I picture all this beauty, all this magic abundance, I know that I will not have time in my life to, at least, think of them, not to discover them, just to have a picture of them in my mind.

Then I remember that all is abundance. Therefore time is also in abundance for everyone. So I know and feel that I will have more than enough time to picture and discover all the beauty on this paradise which we all call Earth. Because we all live forever, right?

I used to not trust myself and now I am doing it.

I trust myself. And it seems that since I trust myself, others trust me also.

I used not to smile when I was walking alone on the street and now I smile whenever I remember to. And some people passing on the street besides me smile also without thinking why, just because they had a glance of my smiling face. And I like this, to make them smile, only because they passed me by. So I try to remember and do it as often as I can.

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I used to think other people consume my love and now I am happy that they feel my love.

Actually people only feel my love when I overflow with it. I used not to know this about life. I used not to know that you give, only when you overflow with something. I used not to overflow with love so often. And this is why, when I overflew love in the past, people felt my love, then the overflow stopped, so the love stopped, I did not feel it anymore and I believed that they’ve consumed my love.
And I so wanted to enjoy more of that love. Just that now I overflow daily with love, I am like a never-ending river. I am grateful for this. I know I used to not feel like this.

I used to not feel young inside my mind and now I feel so young. I know I used to feel I have an old mind; I felt it in the past even if I was less than 25 years old. I used to say that my face looks young but that I feel my mind is so old. Now I feel my mind is so young. I am happy that I will learn so many things in this life.

I used to not feel the freedom and now I feel the freedom.

I used to feel not free. I used to feel that all the people are not living freely, in their small concrete boxes all their life, in our small bedrooms. I used not to understand how they can live like this, not free.

Now I feel the freedom. Now I feel others freedom also.
There are so many free people in the world. There are so many people that freely do what they know they should do.
They follow the Love.

Now I think of all the people that are creating the life they want. And I allow them to do this, in my mind. Now I just do the same, feel free and create the life I want.
I discovered that people are allowing me to have my freedom, nobody actually tries to stop me from doing what I love and being who I love to be. Before this, I was living in illusion. I was trapped by my own perception.

I used to not have fun in what I was doing during the day and now I just have fun in my daily simple activities.

I have fun when I dress, when I walk, when I brush my hair, when I clean my teeth, when I write, when I just say doing nothing. I used to not have so much fun when I was writing and now I just have fun.

Somehow I make it fun. All these ideas come to me and make me smile. Sometimes I believe I can write forever, or I could get dressed forever, or I could brush my hair forever, or I could smile forever. Or I could look at the blue sky forever, or I could walk in the snow in quiet forever, or I could kiss someone forever. So many things that I want to do forever, and all of them are from this world.

I used to not feel good and now I just feel good.

I feel good! And I still have to sleep 7-8 hours every 16-17 hours. Just that now I feel good with this ritual of my human nature. And I still have to get dressed and go to work.

And I still have to eat three times and take other different little snacks during a day. And I still need to wash my body. And I still need to go to the toilet every day. And I still need to wash my hands every time after going to the toilet. And I still have to drink liters of water. And I am tired during the day from time to time. And I still have headaches from time to time. And I still need to buy food for my cat. And I still need to wake up in the morning. So many mornings!

Thankfulness to you and thankfulness to me also that I do all this every day. I used to not feel grateful for doing all these and now I feel grateful. Now I try to color all my doings with the colors of love and gratitude. I don’t try to do all I do, only out of love or gratitude; this is very hard.

But I try to do my daily activities, which I am already doing, with drops of love and gratitude in them. It’s like a rain of light pouring on all my doings. And somehow things changed without me directly changing them. Now I just feel good!

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”  – Aristotle

Homework 2:

Please allow me to give to you another homework which will help you to build your own personalized happy moment:

Therefore, make your own blessings replacing the following sparkles with your own words:

I USED TO NOT  *  *  *  * AND NOW I AM  *  *  *  *

Remember that this is a positive exercise meant to lift you higher.

“My hope is that the description of God’s love in my life will give you the freedom and the courage to discover… God’s love in yours.” – Henry Nouwen

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager

Categories
Kind words Mental health Writing Writing tips

100 Years of Homework Writing – 5 Things To Know

Homework has come a long way. This means even as students of this age partake in assignments, it is noteworthy that it is an activity far from being dispensable. Even in the unforeseeable future, students will still be doing different types of assignments on a day-to-day basis.

Before looking into a brief history of homework, the question is of what significance are these tasks to your grades?  A worrying trend is that many students do partake in assignments just for the sake of it. Though when looked at from a scholarly point of view, there is more to it than what meets the eye.  What’s more, is that how you partake in these tasks matters a lot.

1. Well, here are a few practical homework tips to keep in mind;

  • Planning is an important step to doing assignments
  • Always locate a quite place from audio-visual distractions
  • Gather all reference materials you will need before settling to work on an assignment to limit unnecessary movements
  • Consult with fellow classmates if need be
  • Consider checking out a good do homework for me
  • Research on a subject you don’t understand extensively beforehand
  • To save time, you can always start as soon as a task is assigned, start with difficult questions and wind up with easier ones

In the age of the internet, students looking for tips on how to go about these tasks can very well look out for a website that does their homework. There are many of them out there. However, taking note that assignments come in different kinds. It is important to know what sort of work you have been issued with before hiring an ideal helper.

2. A brief look at homework history and pertinent issues

Homework has become so much engraved into learning culture to an extent that it is practically impossible to do away with it. Further, pay someone to do your homework has become something attached to it. Things get more demanding as one climbs up the ladder of academia. Therefore you really must buckle up for challenges that come with it, be it doing things by one’s yourself or hiring a professional assignment helper.

3. Proponents of assignments have always argued from a moralistic point of view.

They say if left to idle while at home, students’ minds can easily become infiltrated with unruly morals. Therefore keeping them busy with assignments is the best thing to do.
On the other hand, those who are opposed to homework hold that students need time to rest from schoolwork, at least to avoid mental saturation. Cumulatively, all these have culminated into attitude change towards certain educational activities.  Though, handling assignments is not as demanding as it was in the 19th century, thanks to the internet.

4. By a click of the button

Students can access tons of information of any kind on any subject. This is good news to those looking for reliable help with my math homework agency. Eventualities such as school dropouts which marred learning in the early 20th century also led to a lot of questions. Particularly with regard to three or so hours which students spend every night at home doing assignments but with little to show for it.

Issues like recitation, memorization, and drilling were largely seen as some of the most unfortunate outcomes out of these tasks. Students could be asked to recite what they have done in their assignments, something which experts argued added no value to academic progress. Another issue that came to the fore was the mental health and well-being of children as experts argued that they couldn’t contain a lot of workloads. A revolutionary era was to be born when publications advocating for the abolishment of homework hit their peak in the 1900s.

While some districts in the U.S and other parts of the world did away with homework, strong belief on assignments, almost cultic or faith-like in nature is still being held by parents, teachers, and educators. This led to a revival of assignments and the reversal of some abolishment policies.

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5. Some of the issues proponents of assignments advocated for include;

  • School work goes beyond the classroom
  • Value embedded on intrinsically intellectual activity and non-intellectual activities
  • Homework makes students more responsible
  • The belief that assignments are liked to how rigorous a curriculum is
  • Good educators are those who issue assignments

It is important to note that every assignment falls within a category, something which you should know as a student. Here are some notable ones:

  • Practical homework which are meant to help student learn and acquire certain skills
  • Preparation tasks which are about new things to be taught in future but can be learnt in advance
  • Extension assignment which seek application of skills and knowledge
  • Integration assignments are about application of skills to specific tasks such as research work

Author’s Bio:

Sydney Whitman is educational worker. She spent years working at University and now works at homework service MyHomeworkDone.com, where she found her realization. Besides, Sydney is a well-known beauty blogger.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

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Affirmations Gratitude and happiness Happiness Kids Meditation Sleep

Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ Exactly in this moment

Chapter 1 ~ Exactly in this moment

“I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of the scenery – air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, “This is what it is to be happy.” – Sylvia Plath

Exactly in this moment the other part of the Earth is sleeping. Millions of people are just sleeping, in this moment, in millions of beds. All of them are breathing, slowly, dreaming millions of dreams.

Exactly in this moment something fabulous is happening somewhere and I don’t know about it and cannot even picture it in my mind. I want, at least, to visualize this picture. Because I know that I will never see it for real.

Exactly in this moment tones of hair are being caressed by someone’s hand all around the world.

Exactly in this moment thousands of kids are given births by their mothers, and I will never see all these small, full of life babies.

Exactly in this moment billions of leaves stay up on trees. Billions of leaves are moving in the wind all around the world. Take a moment and picture this.

Exactly in this moment millions of hearts are just beating.

Now! Just Now! Now again! And now! And now! And now! Now! Now! Millions of them!
There are so much more than 10 hearts, so much more than 100 hearts, so much more than 1,000 hearts, and so much more than 10,000 hearts!
In this exact moment! It is so amazing! I will never see with my own eyes, in reality, all these constant beatings, all the hearts in the world beating in a certain moment in time. At least I can use my imagination to picture in my mind this process and is so majestic.
I just want to be so quiet as I can right now. Who knows, maybe when I am quiet, enough, I can hear the hearts beating.

Exactly in this moment so many kids are smiling.

They are just smiling right now. No matter what events are happening now in the world, there are these kids smiling, everywhere, who I will never see with my own eyes, but they are there, playing most probably.

I can visualize them in my mind that they are smiling and playing. And some of them are actually laughing. So many children laughing, exactly while I’m writing these words! Exactly now! They are just laughing right now! Such a nerve for them to do this in every moment when there is so much sadness and grief in the world.

Therefore in the same moment pure happiness and deep grief always exist on Earth.

My present happiness depends on what part of the world I am directing my thoughts. My focus adds energy to the pure energy, the laughs of children or the grief of adults. I choose the awareness I am focusing on. Therefore should I focus only on the laughs or only on the grief?

It would be smart to choose to focus on the awareness that in every moment both actually exist. If I am insisting on focusing too much on grief, I neglect (being ignorant) of the happiness that exist in the same moment with the grief.

Should I focus only on the happiness, ignoring grief? No, because I would never understand and own compassion. But I understand and own gracefully compassion because I see with my right eye the grief and with my left eye the happiness. I am not ignorant of either one. And I will have more chances of bringing happiness where there is grief.

Exactly in this moment so many people are breathing.

All living humans are breathing now. Exactly now, people are taking air in their lungs and getting the air outside from their lungs back into the outside world! We are breathing the same air. All of us! On Earth!
I am so grateful trying to picture all these people breathing. Maybe I imagine kids playing with their breaths because they might think it’s funny.
A kid could ask his mother: “What is this, Mom?” And he shows to the mother how he is breathing. The mother smiles and says: “It’s called breathing, and we all do this. Our lungs help us do it. You will do this all your life, remember to do it with joy, and deeply.”
Well, maybe she doesn’t say the last part or maybe it crossed her mind but didn’t say it. Like it happens to me sometime and to you certainly now, because you read this words.

Exactly in this moment thousands of apples are being eaten.

Other thousands of apples are washed exactly now so that they can be eaten in few seconds from now. Hundreds of people are baking an apple pie exactly in this moment. Can you sense the smell of all these apple pies?
Can you picture the joy of each person waiting for the apple pie to be baked? Exactly in this moment other thousands of people of different ages are eating an apple pie that has baked before. They are enjoying every bite, they are biting from it now, and again, just now, they are doing it.
You cannot stop them from eating the apple pie. You cannot stop them from being happy doing it. And again they are biting from the apple pie just now, far away in the world, in which place you and I never know.

Exactly in this moment thousands of people are sneezing.

You can take your time when you want and say “Bless you” or “Good luck” to them whenever you have a free day.
But the time of a day will not be enough. I am kidding, don’t do that. Picture it! Whenever you say you are bored and don’t know what to do, you can just take some moments to say “Bless you” to all the people that are sneezing in every moment. You will never know which ones sneezed. All you know is that they do it, somewhere in the world.

Exactly in this moment…

… millions of animals of every kind, all around the world, are stretching their bodies and yawning. Little new born animals are yawning now. Pets like dogs and cats, from different houses are stretching happy and satisfied. Do birds stretch? I don’t know, maybe we should do a research on this.

Millions of people’s faces just smile exactly in this moment for whatever reason.

They smile with different cheeks, eyes and mouth. And when you think of it, in every moment of our life there will always be at least one million people smiling in the world. And you can never stop them from doing that, and you can never know which one smiled in which moment.
When someone else in another part of the world is reading this book exactly now, and wonders who is smiling now, and you are smiling now, then you could tell to that person that you are one of the million people that are smiling now.  Just that you don’t know who is reading this book now. So you will never know who thought of you right now.

Exactly in this moment millions of people are changing their clothes; are dressing to go somewhere. Exactly in this moment a lot of people are washing their bodies all around the world.

Millions of ladies are painting their nails exactly in this moment.

And you can be confident that all the colours are being used exactly now for the nail polish. I am sure that there is no colour that is not being used by a lady, somewhere, just now, painting with it her nails.

Thousands of men are shaving their face right now, very carefully. Other thousands of men and women are spraying perfume on their bodies just now. It smells so good.

Exactly in this moment millions of people are reading.

Some are reading a newspaper, some are reading a book, some are reading an article on the Internet, and some are reading a sign pointing for direction.

Millions of people are listening to millions of sounds exactly now.

Millions of hands are robbing their eyes right now.

And also right now millions of people are watching millions of beautiful pictures. And they are smiling.

Millions of people are friendly with each other exactly in this moment. They are serving someone with something.

Exactly in this moment the warm wind is caressing millions of faces.

The world is in continuous movement.

The world changes and then re-changes again doing the same things like before. This rhythm of doing the same things all over again, in different moments of time, is changed from time to time, with new things that appear into the world. These new things, these innovations soon become old things. The life, the complexity, the joy and the abundance increases.

“The happiness of our life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)

Homework 1:

The above chapter is an exercise which everyone can do. The exercise has the goal to increase your happy consciousness to a wider level of awareness.

Therefore, make your own personalized exercise by replacing the following magic sparkles with your own words:

EXACTLY IN THIS MOMENT *****************

Remember that these affirmations are presenting to you the reality and are meant to increase your joyful awareness, meaning to increase your ease, serenity, love, gratitude, contentment and your feeling of being positively amazed by the world in which you too are living. Therefore please choose beautiful and mesmerizing pictures for your mind.

BE confident that, someone is reading this book, just now, and that someone is definitely thinking of you. They are definitely thinking of one aspect related to you (either your smile, hair, hands…). When you smile and you think of all the people that are smiling all around the world, and when that someone smiles and thinks of all the people that are smiling all around the world, then that someone is thinking at you, just now, and you are connected in a beautiful spiritual circle, without knowing it.

“Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.” – Anne Frank

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager