Month: July 2016

Positive Thinking Helped Me Secure a Great Job

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If you would have told two years ago that I would be writing an article about how I secured a great job through the power of positive thinking, I would have laughed, probably. I was in a real slump, and all I could think about was finding some work. I was confident I could snap out of my perpetual bad mood if only I could get hired, and feel more secure about my career. But I found out it actually works the other way around.

It wasn’t the job that was going to make me happy. My negative attitude kept me from landing my dream job. Once I managed to sort that out, everything else just fell into place. I imagine everyone knows about the great things positive thinking can do for you. You probably know some of these things from your own experience.

I’m not going to go into too much detail about the situation I was in before I found the position I’m currently holding. Every situation is unique, and though I hope some of you are going to benefit from my story, I realize everyone has to find the solutions that work best for them. Suffice to say, I was in a pretty sorry state.

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Friends kept telling me I need to snap out of it. Easier said than done. But eventually, I felt like I ran out of options, so I tried doing some positive thinking exercises. The first thing I did was to try to include as many positive words as I could in my daily conversations. You wouldn’t believe how much that changed my perspective! I tried finding the good aspects in every situation, even the ones that seemed to have nothing positive about them, so I could describe in positive, rather than negative terms.

This helped me understand that there is value in negative emotions, if you look at them in the right light. I was missing out on a great opportunity to learn new things about myself, and to really figure out want I wanted from life, by focusing on the way these emotions made me feel. I started to think about why I had these feelings in the first place, and get at the root of the problem. And then I tried finding solutions.

I started going out more, and talking to people about my passions, about the things that really interested me, rather than focusing all my conversations on my dire situation (which, as it turned out, wasn’t all that dire after all). I found people that shared the same interests.

I discovered that a positive attitude has a tendency to spread to the people around. If I was in a jolly mood, the people around tended to be as well. And their optimism enhanced mine. Being surrounded by positive people made me want to get proactive, so I started taking online courses, and polishing my skills. Now, I had new things to add to my CV.

All of a sudden, I started getting calls for interviews, thanks to the network of friends and acquaintances I had built, and my improved resume.

Positive thinking also allowed me to reconsider the jobs I was being offered. I realized that, back in the days when I felt down, nothing would satisfy. I always found some minor detail in every job description that bothered me, or something I didn’t like about the interviewer. Silly things like this, that kept me from enjoying the opportunities I was given.

By focusing on my positive feelings, I realized there was a whole world of possibilities out there. I just couldn’t see them, because I was so wrapped up in my negative attitude towards everything.

If I had been offered the job I have now when I was stuck in that bubble of negativity, I would have found some reason to turn it down, or accept it reluctantly. Negative emotions, such as frustration, or anger, have a way of ruining your whole thought process.

I guess the point I’m trying to make here is that positive thinking allowed me to get a great job because it allowed me to see it as a great job. It made a person other people want to be around, a person others could trust to get the job done.

Finding a good job isn’t just about sending your resume every which way, until someone hires you. It’s about how you relate to that job, how well you interact with the other people working there. It’s about the environment you’re going to work in. And the environment you make for yourself and those around you is really up to you.

Author bio: Amanda Wilks is a Boston University and a Contributing Editor at Job Application Center. She has a great interest in everything related to job-seeking, career-building, and entrepreneurship and loves helping people reach their true potential.

10 Behaviors Optimistic People Have

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There some behaviors all optimists tend to share that immediately make them stand out in a crowd.

Some believe that practicing these behaviors every day could actually turn a pessimist into an optimist.

1. Optimists Tend to Think in Idealistic Terms

Because optimists tend to see the positive side to everything, they are also more likely to think in idealistic terms. For this reason, it’s great to have an optimist around when you’re embarking on a new project because they can give the courage and motivation you need to take on any challenge. Idealism tends to be contagious.

2. They Are Forgiving

Optimists are really great at finding the good in every person or situation. This is way, they never really hold a grudge. They may be a little bit disappointed, because of their idealistic nature. But they’ll always be quick to forgive and forget, because, deep down, they know everything happens for a reason, and nobody is really to blame in most situations.

3. Optimists Lead Healthier Lives

It’s a scientific fact that optimists are healthier than pessimists. That’s not just because having a positive attitude every day tends to lower your stress levels. Optimists are more likely to engage in healthy behaviors, such as exercising and eating healthy. And because they tend to have a really positive outlook on everything, they’re more likely to continue with these behaviors, even if they don’t see results immediately.

4. Optimists Don’t Give Up

Because they tend to focus more on the positive side of things, optimists tend to stick with a task for a longer period of time, even when things aren’t working out as expected. It helps that they don’t stress out about all the things that could go wrong, and just focus on what they have to do, and that great feeling of having accomplished something that comes in the end. They can look past minor setbacks, and see them as learning opportunities.

5. They Focus on Future Possibilities

Optimists don’t really focus so much on the present. When they look at current actions and events, all they see is the world of possibilities behind them. It keeps them motivated, and willing to put in the extra legwork to see their vision achieved. But it can also lead to some frustration, and sloppiness when things aren’t moving as fast as they would like them to.

6. They’re More Prone to Taking Risks

Optimists can’t really see all the dangers involved in a task because they don’t see them dangers. They think more in terms of challenges, or puzzles begging to be solved. As such, they are more likely to be risk takers. This tends to make optimists more successful in the long run. All they really focus on is the rewards they are bound to get at the end of the day. Optimists also tend to have higher self-esteem, which means it’s easier for them to see themselves as being capable of accomplishing anything.

7. They Care About Helping Others

Optimistic people make a habit out of helping whenever they can. This practice comes from their belief in people, and what they can accomplish. Because optimists trust not only themselves but everyone around them as well. They know, deep down, that the small amount of time and resources they are gifting is going to bring great benefits for everyone involved. And because they tend to take a genuine interest in other people’s lives, they are more skilled at reading those subtle signs that let them know exactly what others need.

8. Optimists Sleep Better

Pessimists and people who tend to overthink stuff, in general, have a hard time falling asleep, tossing and turning over every little thing that might go wrong in some distant future. Optimists don’t worry about these things so much, and as a result, they tend to sleep better and wake up more refreshed.

9. They’re Proactive

Instead of looking at a problem from every single angle, considering every possible solution, and all the ways in which they could fail, optimists tend to just jump straight in. They are confident in their abilities, and the abilities of those around them. They believe that if anything comes up, they are sure to find a solution as they go. And they find it easier to think as they go, rather than sitting around, making plans.

10. Optimists Tend to Look for Creative Solutions

When it comes to a solution, optimists have a talent, and an inclination, to move away from the beaten path. They tend to be more creative in general, but they’re really excellent when it comes to problem-solving. This is partly due to their natural self-confidence, and partly due to their dynamic and active personality. Since they have the ability to see so much potential in the world around, optimists have a tendency to get bored with stuffy, tried and tested formulas.

Optimists, in general, are distinguished by their strong belief in the ultimate good of the world. Practicing these behaviors might help in that direction, even if you’re not yet thoroughly convinced.

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Back To The Start: Dating After Divorce

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Dating after a divorce may sound like a tiring and unpleasant experience. Some people even prefer staying in a dysfunctional marriage just to avoid getting into new relationships. However, all the people in the world are wired to connect with others, and if you take it slow and open up your mind, dating can be one fun and liberating experience.

Take it Slow

Right after the divorce, you should be patient and take some time to heal. Never rush into things and don’t even think about rebound relationships. Those could only cause more problems and unnecessary emotions. During the first few weeks after the divorce, take the time to rethink your desires, talents and reconnect with yourself. After you have a clear image of your future, then it is a good time to get back on the horse and look for a new partner. Remember to have some fun first, before you decide to enter another serious relationship, just so you would not miss out on perks of being single.

Have no Shame

The good thing about divorces today is that they can be done quickly and they are considered normal, rather than an exception. Most Americans want to get it over with fast and, for example, filing for divorce in Oregon is not that complicated. The positive thing about online divorce is that everything is done without any fuss and piles of papers, which gives you the possibility to start dating again in no time. When reentering the world of dating, don’t be ashamed of your past. In real life, relationships fail, people fail and that is perfectly acceptable in today’s culture. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, be confident, accept the reality, and you will have no problem reconnecting with people and fully trusting them.

Have a Support System

You should never date alone. Of course, that does not mean all of your dates should be in a group, but make sure to surround yourself with good friends to support you. Let your best friends cheer for you and gently encourage you to date and have fun. It is always good to have a shoulder to cry on in tough times, and someone to advise and listen to you whenever you need it. With dearest and nearest friends, everything seems easier. You can turn a new leaf and bravely start dating, when you know there is someone to watch your back.

Date outside the Box

Everyone has a type. That is how you ended up with your ex, and it may seem hard to imagine dating someone completely different. However, how can you know that is impossible if you have not tried it? Open up your mind and date different people. If you wish, you can try and stay within “your type”, but it is always fun meeting people that are different than your ex, or even try and find a complete opposite of what you think you like. You will be surprised to see what type of people and personalities attract you, so have fun with them. Better yet, if the person is different than what you’re used to, the future relationship promises completely unique and unusual events to get you outside of your comfort zone for a change.

Talk to your Kids

Having kids at home may make dating after the divorce a bit tough. Now you are their model for everything and you want to be careful. Make sure to talk to your kids about the present situation and what is going to happen. Tell them that you will date again, but that you will not bother them with that too much. Be selective and choose partners only if you know they will be a good role model and that your children can connect with them, too. At the beginning, it is best to keep the dating details to yourself, and only introduce the date to your kids if you are certain about the relationship, in order to avoid causing anxiety with your children because of all the new people in your life. Also, tell them that they are your priority so they can be assured that they are loved and taken care of.

Don’t be discouraged after the divorce. It may seem scary, but dating is one fun experience that will encourage you to heal and have a bright future. Take things slow, talk to your kids and everyone will be happy at the end.

Biography

Alex Williams

My name is Alex Williams, born and raised in beautiful Sydney. I am a journalism graduate and a rookie blogger trying to find my luck. Blogs are the perfect opportunity for presenting yourself to a wider audience, getting the chance to showcase my expertise and receiving recognition. I am a regular contributor at BizzMark Blog.

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