Happiness Secret for Women

Message to my future self: To be happy: wash your hair, buy a red rose, paint your nails with green, put on a nice dress, go in the sun and take your picture.

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Your own happiness is your responsibility. You have the right to make things for yourself that generate the happiness energy in yourself. Never be ashamed of this or stop doing these things for yourself. Take the time. Don’t listen to people that tell you different. You deserve to be happy in your own way. No approval for your happiness recipe is needed. Anytime you want, cook yourself a happiness meal.

Have the Nerve to Love Yourself

Note to my future self: You are beautiful. Always have the nerve to love yourself. And to show it.

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Those were harsh days for your health, you know it.

But, your mother brought you that rose. Your father gave you that necklace from sweet bread. You are beautiful. Love yourself. Capture your beauty. Look at yourself with appreciation. Even in the hardest moments in your life, you were so beautiful. Show yourself that.

You are Enough

Today, as a reminder, I have created for my future self the message “You are enough. You are so enough it is unbelievable how enough you are”. I am sharing this message with the world so that you too, remind yourself, that YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE SO ENOUGH IT IS UNBELIEVABLE HOW ENOUGH YOU ARE.

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You were enough. You are enough. You will always be enough. Love yourself and tell yourself when you wake up in the morning that you love your heart. Life is happening for you, not to you. Everything that was created converged together to create you. You are on the leading verge of everything that humanity created.

Life is happening for you, not to you. Everything that was created converged together to create You. You are on the leading verge of everything that humanity created.

You are on the leading verge of everything that humanity created and you ride beautifully.

I saw this video of Marisa Peer today and did this reminder for my future self: YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE SO ENOUGH IT IS UNBELIEVABLE HOW ENOUGH YOU ARE. You need to listen to this video of Marisa Peer. It will change the way you look at you. You will feel enough, become more confident and increase your level of self-love.

Here is the video: The Biggest Disease Affecting Humanity: “I’m Not Enough” by Marisa Peer

What is Self-love? Definition & Meaning

(noun) regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.

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Find below more details about the positive word self-love!

Self-love in 10 most widely spoken languages in the world

  1. Chinese (Simplified):   自爱 (read phonetically: Zì’ài)
  2. Spanish:   amor propio
  3. English:   self-love
  4. Hindi/Urdu:   स्वार्थपरता (read phonetically: svaarthaparata) / خود محبت
  5. Arabic:   حب النفس (read phonetically: hubb alnnafs)
  6. Portuguese:   amor próprio
  7. Bengali:   আত্বভালবাসা (Read phonetically: Ātbabhālabāsā)
  8. Russian:   любовь к себе (read phonetically: lyubov’ k sebe)
  9. Japanese:   自己愛 (Read phonetically: Jiko ai)
  10. Punjabi (Javanese):   ਸਵੈ-ਪਿਆਰ ਨੂੰ (read phonetically: Savai- pi’āra nū)

Other languages:

  1. French:   l’amour de soi
  2. German:   selbstliebe
  3. Dutch:   zelfliefde
  4. Italian:   amore per se stessi
  5. Romanian:   iubire de sine

Five affirmations (mantras) about self love

Repeat these affirmations while breathing deeply in a quiet place.

  1. I love myself. Yes, completely!
  2. I am a gift to the entire world! I am so proud of me!
  3. I am enough! I am worthy!
  4. I am worthy of love and nurturing!
  5. I love me! I love who I am!

Five inspiring quotes about self love

“To love oneself is the begging of a life long romance.” Oscar Wilde

“Self-love is the air beneath the wings of our relationships.” Elin Stebbins Waldal

“I am my own version of beautiful which no one else can be.” Jenna Goodhand

“You yourself, as much as anybody from the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

“Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.” Aberjhani

Five useful articles about self love

Find in the below articles many ways in which you can practice loving yourself more every day.

  1. 30 Ways to Practice Self Love and Be Good to Yourself
  2. 21 Tips to Release Self-Neglect and Love Yourself in Action
  3. What Self Love Means: 20+ Ways to Be Good to Yourself
  4. The Story of Self-Esteem
  5. 50 WAYS TO SELF LOVE!

The only one positive word that you’ll ever need to use (and two other nice ones)

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I have always been a fighter, even when I was down, especially when I was down.

I was such in a bad shape, physically, emotionally and spiritually just after my divorce, with two small children from my marriage, a home that I freely gave away to my ex-wife, exhausted after years of suffering and failures of fixing my marriage, that it was hard for me to look at life in a positive way.

I was a man filled with guilt towards my children that I had failed them in building a happy and complete family for them. I felt guilt, remorse, sadness. As a devoted catholic, I felt that I had lost my soul and was going to hell. I was only 29 years old and felt way too young to go through all of these.

Moreover, I felt so alone because in taking this decision I practically destroyed the two pillars of my life: family and church.

I had nothing left except my car and I said to her (yes, I refer to my car as “she”): “Now it’s just you and me baby”, that definitely made me smile a little and then drove away with a sack full of books and another one filled with my clothes.

One year of struggle followed – one year in which I tried to keep my children happy and unaffected, pay the bills, do well at my job and maintain everything at a decent level. One year in which all I wanted was to separate myself from the world and do nothing, just to mourn. Just wanted to fall into a deep depression and die.

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Picture made by Valentin Nedelcu near Baneasa forest, Bucharest, Romania

 

The first nice positive word is HOPE

My spirit never lets me die, though, or maybe it was my huge ego or maybe it was God’s Grace. I don’t know what it was exactly but something made me keep going in a steady, organized and calm manner. I always felt that no matter how fucked up I was, I needed to keep the good things in my life because soon I will build on them the wonderful life that I had always hoped for. And that was hope, my friends.

Hope gave me the perseverance to finalize the most challenging project I had ever had at work – just a few month after my divorce. Hope gave me the courage to face off all the accusing voices, the patience and kindness to take care of my small children and make them happy and joyful when they were with me, the will to go on and pursuit happiness.

The second nice positive word is FAITH

Hope came along with Faith or better said True Faith and that was when I understood deep inside me that God is greater than any church or spiritual practice and I have a personal relationship with Him. I am His child and He loves me infinitely and unconditionally. This is my True Faith and this gave me balance, tranquility, and strength, tremendous strength, and resilience.

I kept everything in place as good as I could. Hope and Faith helped me survive and keep balance. I was a survivor, baby! And was holding on superbly and gaining such a deep respect for myself.

The third nice positive word is LOVE

However, only when I understood Love my life changed.

All these wonderful things happened in my life in only a few months:

  • Got my dream job;
  • Bought my new home;
  • Made great new friends;
  • Got into a fulfilling and happy romantic relationship;
  • And most importantly, regained my inner peace.

Maybe you think I am now happy that all are turned out so well but the true thing is that I was also happy before all of this started to materialize. So happy, fulfilled and joyful for no reason but one: Love.

More exactly Love for God. Why? How? Didn’t you say you didn’t believe in Church any more? But I also said I found my True Faith: I am God’s child and He loves me infinitely and unconditionally.

Someone told me to love myself to get rid of the guilt and remorse but I couldn’t, just couldn’t. My love was so low I could not love myself a bit, so I said to myself I want to try to love God instead because He is so great that He loves me unconditionally anyway, at least let me return the favor a little bit.

So I started to repeat in my thoughts: “I love you God”, whenever I felt remorse “I love you God”, whenever I felt miserable “I love you God”, whenever I failed on something “I love you God” and soon, but really magically soon I started to feel joy “I love you God”, started to smile “I love you God”, started to be optimistic “I love you God”, started to be positive “I love you God”, started to feel self-love “I love you God”, for no reason at all “I love you God”.

I have spent hours and hours just listening to devotional music and feeling so happy and grateful for the Love and Grace of God.

I feel grateful “I love you, God”

I feel happy “I love you, God”

I feel peaceful “I love you, God”

And then a lot of wonderful things started to happen to me. Of course, I made some actions towards achieving them but still I feel so blessed and I am conscious that my Loving Heavenly Father helps me every step of the way: 10% me, 90% God. That’s so generous of Him, isn’t it?

During my lifetime I have communicated with God using many words and prayers but I feel the closest to Him when I make it really simple and say “I love you God” and instantly feel His immense Love and Grace:

“I hear you, my child”

“I love you”

“I am with you”

Hope and faith made me a fighter, a survivor but Love healed me, transformed me and made me complete.

No matter what hardships you are struggling with, no matter how disappointed you are, just remember and repeat: LOVE – the word that will heal you, comfort you and make you complete.

If you cannot use any of the other positive words just use this one and it will be enough. LOVE is the only positive word that you’ll ever need to use in order to change your life!

God’s Grace and love be with you always!


This article was written by Valentin Nedelcu. Valentin practices a career as a tax advisor, his passion is teaching people how to obtain financial freedom and he is a father of two children: a boy of 4 years old and a girl of 2 years old.


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