How To Attract True Love Through Positive Thoughts

Positive Words Research“All you need is love” – the legendary Beatles sang and were absolutely right. Finding true love is as essential for human beings as water, air, and food. But the majority of people can’t even imagine how much it depends on the way we think, speak and act.
The power of positive thinking shouldn’t be underrated. Modern psychologists and philosophers agree that thoughts greatly affect our intentions, and, as a result, our reality. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to control them, without falling into negativity and despair. We attract what we are, like a mirror – if you act out of love and respect to others, are positive in your thoughts and actions, you’re meant to attract not only prosperity and success but also the true love of your life.

Focus on Positivity

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Try to use them as often as possible, be kind, radiate positivity. As soon as it becomes a part of your everyday life, it will become a part of your mind, affecting positive thinking. Be optimistic, try to find at least one good thing in any situation, do the same with people. Use positive affirmations to talk to yourself as well. “I deserve love and I get it in abundance”, “I love what I do and people that surround me”, “I am surrounded by love” – repeat it to yourself, concentrate on what you want and formulate your own affirmations. Create your own positive world, reboot yourself.

Love Yourself

You’re an incredible human being, you’re unique, you’re amazing, you’re wonderful… you have thousands of reasons to love yourself. Just do it. We can’t expect someone to love us if we don’t love ourselves: all our strengths and weaknesses, achievements and mistakes, every single detail that makes our personality just the way it is. Recognize your strong points, be confident, don’t strive to be like somebody else, put aside all doubts. You need to love yourself before anyone else can.

Act out of Love

After you’ve loved yourself, learn how to love everything and everybody around you: your job, friends, enemies, family, new challenges, opportunities, surprises. Never hold grudges and remember bad, vice versa, try to excuse people’s shortcomings, be tolerant, patient and empathetic, change your attitude to the daily routine – enjoy it, stay positive. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale in his famous book “The Power of Positive Thinking” says: “The way to happiness: keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Fill your life with love. Scatter sunshine. Forget self, think of others. Do as you would be done by. Try this for a week and you’ll be surprised”.

Get Over Past Loves

We are talking both about love and hatred. It flows naturally from the previous point – forgive everything, no hard feelings. You will never attract true love, carrying all those memories and insults of past loves, looking back and comparing your partners. Leave all negative emotions, resentment, and anger from the former relationships on the previous page of your life, make a lesson out of it, take it as a valuable experience that will help to avoid the same mistakes in future. Forget and let it go. Only in this way, you’ll be open to starting a new happy chapter of your life.

Dream

What is easier, my friend? Dreaming, or, scientifically speaking, visualization, is another way of positive thinking and it really works! By means of it, you create the situation that you’d like to experience, and this imaginary outcome helps to realize your idea in a real life. When you know exactly what you want, think about the concrete actions to get it, and act. For example, to find your soul mate, at least go for a walk to the public place or sign up for a dating website, communicate with people, maybe what you’re looking for is so close.

Final Positive Thought

Often finding true love turns into a line of failures, but it’s not the reason to give up. If you’re still alone in despair, maybe it’s high time to change your life? – What to start from? – Your thoughts! Follow these easy steps and you’ll be surprised with the difference. If you’re still waiting for some sign from above, here it is

About the Author

Andrew Guerra from SweetTextMessages. Send him an email at sweetytextmessages@gmail.com

Secrets of a Long-Lasting Happy Love Relationship

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The secrets of long-lasting happy relationships are:

  1. Building a climate of practicing kindness, generosity, friendship, joy, love, trust & intimacy;
  2. Honoring the “bids” meaning the requests for connection, requests for a response, sign of interest and support, when hoping to connect, however momentary;
  3. Responding to “bids” by turning toward the partner;
  4. The partner recognizes the “bid” and respects that by engaging, showing interest & support;
  5. Each partner meets their partner momentary emotional need;
  6. Scanning environment for things they can appreciate and can say thank you for;
  7. Building a culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully;
  8. Scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right;
  9. Managing not to miss more than 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing;
  10. Responding to “bids” by showing they are there, showing to the partner that he or she is valued;
  11. Kindness glues the couple together;
  12. They build an environment of kindness and emotional stability;
  13. They show each other through kindness that each partner is cared for, understood, and validated—feels loved;
  14. They know and act upon the knowledge that ” when someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship”;
  15. The partners consider kindness as a muscle. They exercise this muscle to keep it in shape;
  16. Partners know that good relationship requires sustained hard work;
  17. They treasure the development and expression of a generous spirit. They express this generous spirit a lot and let it come in when a partner makes a bid so that they can turn toward their partner;
  18. They enhance small moments of emotional connection and therefore constantly gently empowering the relationship;
  19. The partners practice kindness in hard times and during a fight—they consider that this is the most important time to be kind;
  20. The partners express negative emotions in a kind way;
  21. The partners consider that if you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often and built kindness into the very backbone of a relationship;
  22. The partners practice kindness by being generous about partner’s intentions;
  23. The partners practice having an ability to kindly interpret partner’s actions and intentions charitably and they soften the sharp edge of conflict.
  24. Partners appreciate the intent of the other partner to do the things right even if they have executed it poorly;
  25. Partners practice another powerful kindness strategy revolved around shared joy.
  26. Partners show that they are there for each other when things go right. They think shared joy is actually more important for relationship quality. They respond with joy to the partner’s good news.
  27. Finally, there’s active constructive responding. If her partner responded in this way, he stopped what he was doing and engaged wholeheartedly with her: “That’s great! Congratulations! When did you find out? Did they call you? What classes will you take the first semester?”

“Active constructive responding is the kindest. Active constructive responding allows the partner to savor her joy and gives the couple an opportunity to bond over the good news. In the parlance of the Gottmans, active constructive responding is a way of “turning toward” your partners bid (sharing the good news). Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.”

The secret of a long-lasting happy relationship, proved by science, is that a lasting relationship comes down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

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