5 Positive Thoughts Your Heart Needs Before Going To Sleep

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Rejection, disagreements, conflicts, self-pity, hurt all these companions are hard to let go of.
After a hard day’s work when you reach home, all these emotions finally get to you. Your heart needs to let go all the burdens.

You have to maintain a professional, emotionless facade at your workplace or institutes. But the mask falls off when you reach home.

You fell the overload of these repressed emotions and going to sleep with them in mind can really be dangerous for you.

It’s not a joke. It could lead you straight to depression.

Save your day from negative thoughts.

Just think of it this way. Every one must have a smartphone, and you need to charge it periodically after the battery drains.

It’s similar to your body and your mind. Giving into the negative thoughts is like saying, “Screw it! Let the phone die. What do I need it for?”

Just like you need your phone for almost everything today, you need your body and mind, both of them working in sync.

So, you shouldn’t just satisfy your physical cravings but emotional ones as well.

So, when you go to bed next time. How about you feed your soul and mind as well? Watch for your heart needs.

Here are 5 positive thoughts that will help you with your goal.

1. “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

What you have to understand here is the difference between addiction and passion. When you are passionate about what you have planned you should not divert from the path even in face of some obstacles or roadblocks.

Addiction will lead you astray. It could be your addiction to toxic things that appear toxic like alcohol, drugs, gambling or it could be something completely harmless as watching movies all the time.

But both of them lead you astray.

Gambling is a perfect example for us to explore here.

Suppose someone who is good at numbers decides that gambling is a job for him. But is he being smart about it?

Is he investing the money he earned or just gambling it away in a string of wins and losses?

Is he drinking it all away?  When it stops being productive in all sorts of ways (financial, spiritual, etc), should seek new and positive things.

The right time to move on is when the passion turns into addiction. No matter how hard it is welcome the new life that is waiting for you.

2. “Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future.”

Hope springs eternal or does it?

How many times have you felt so lost that you never thought that you could wake up the next day? That you just couldn’t take it anymore. Why do these things keep happening to me?

This is when you start to get the feeling of doom and you feel like someone is actually telling you  ‘abandon hope all ye who enter here.’

When it happens why don’t you try saying this to yourself?

“Well, boohoo. I’m so sorry your feelings are hurt, Princess.”

You are going to get hurt. There’s no way around it. Sulk for a few days if you have to but there will come a time when you have to say enough is enough and get over it.

Let your experiences shape you. If you just broke up with someone you might feel like relationships are not for you. Think about this, would you have been happy with that person in long term? Why did it not work out? What does your heart needs?

You are not the reason it didn’t work out. Things were just not meant to be. You were not suited for each other. So, rather than giving up on relationships altogether, why don’t you learn why you didn’t suit and avoid that in the partner you next choose?

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3. “Storms make trees take deeper roots”

This is a new one but you must have heard about how “Even the stars need darkness to shine.”

This thought means mostly the same thing.

When you weather the storm you emerge a victor. Because even when everything else was blown away by the storm, you stood strong and kept control on the thing.

You did not let the storm blow you away like it did all the other things in sight. It only made you take deeper roots.

So, congratulate yourself that you are still standing strong. You can hold on for far much longer and be this amazing individual that you are.

Isn’t it a good thing to tell yourself before you fall asleep?

It is.

4. “IF you are searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.”

If you are looking for a partner because you feel that he/she can give a new and better direction to your life then think again.

Or better yet why don’t you find a mirror and take a good look at the person who can actually do that for you?

You are the only one who can decide what to do with your life. No one else can help with it. You can try yoga and go for spiritual retreats but they will only work as deep down as you have made the choice to do it.

Next time you look in the mirror don’t admire yourself, for a change think about what kind of changes you want to happen in your life and how you can go about making them.

“Mirror Mirror on the wall who’s gonna change it all?”

You. The answer is always going to be you. 

5. “Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.”

Here’s another thought worth remembering.

Remember seeing a girl/guy out there and thinking wish I looked like her/him?

Do not feel sorry for yourself and you actually think about it. They might look cool but they could be plastics. There are many people out there who look just like them.

And then there is you. You might not have the same style or you might not like putting much effort in what you look like but you are you.

You are unique, the way you dress defines you. It is what sets you apart. Why do you want to be clones of other people running out there? Be yourself and enjoy being it.

Here’s the thing. If you go looking for negative things you will find them just the same way if you go looking for positive things you will find them.

And you will make mistakes along the way. Sometimes you will want to give up and say, “I can’t carry the facade of being happy, I do it every day at work or outside the house. Why do I have to keep it up even at home? I need a break.”

To clear things up. A facade is a mask that you put up to fool others. And no matter how hard you try, you can’t fool yourself about your real feelings and emotions.

What you are doing at home is not a facade it is you trying to feed your soul with positive energy. These are just a few positive thoughts. If you go looking you will find so much more. So, think one positive thought a day or a month before you go to sleep.

Don’t just say it out loud and go to sleep. Feel the thought, understand it and it will help you.

Author ~ Ari Banayan

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How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

Success rarely comes without any challenges or hurdles.  It is far too common to see people succeeding after a reasonable delay. So what’s so special about inspiring success stories?

Once in a while, we come across individuals who rose from anonymity and the depths of despair to become a scion of success and inspiration. These people succeed when the odds are stacked against them when the chips are down and all seems lost. This kind of success is sweeter than anything else in the world. Would you want to know how do they do it?

In order to know how to rise against the odds, we must know why most people cannot do the same.

Why do we give up?

People give up easily when the going gets tough because they are afraid of failure. We all come across a point in our lives when we fail numerous times and nothing we do seems to work for us. These are the times when we have to push ourselves the hardest and tap into our mental strength to see those failures eventually become a success.   It takes years of training to think positively and for the brain to have that mental strength. There is a lot of hard work involved and it is something that people are afraid of when it comes to following their dreams. No one is willing to put in the required time, effort and patience to endure the hardships.

Until all people are willingly going to accept the fact that nothing comes without a price in this world, there will be fewer success stories and more people listening to them.  If you think you have little time to develop your mental strength owing to your regular job or any other work, think again! We all were given an equal number of hours and seconds in a day, it’s only a matter of some utilizing it to its best, while others just not being able to manage it properly.

We also give up because of being surrounded by discouraging emotions and people. Hearing negative things about our capabilities and that too on a consistent basis can lead many of us to actually believing in them and hence becoming weak enough to give up easily, sometimes, even without trying. You must develop a strong will power to remain unaffected and immune to what others are saying. Plus, choosing your friends wisely can help a lot. Stick around people who are successful and have nothing but positivity to offer. Mere observation of such personalities can teach you a thing or two about fighting against the odds

Another big reason why our lives blow up in the face under tough circumstances is because of our lack of patience. It’s a huge struggle for us to be constantly patient especially when nothing seems to be going according to plans. Our impatience either makes us do something stupid or leads us to give up before the goal could have been achieved.  Changing this habit can make a lot of difference.

What needs to be done?

The first thing that one should do when a storm comes is held the ground. The same is true for you as well. Instead of getting bogged down, it’s important to create processes and methods to get yourself out of the rut.

Be creative

You must have heard that tough times call for tough measures. However, tough measures without any thought going into them cannot help you out. You have to be creative with your solutions when there is little that you can do to change your situations. Before you take any decision, you need to have multiple ideas in mind. The first alternative that comes to the mind in such a situation is pretty obvious that have been used earlier also. However, if the solution would have been so simple, you wouldn’t have probably called it a tough situation.  Truly creative alternatives remain hidden in the depths of mind which require too deep and persistent thoughts to be revealed.  See the bigger picture; you may discover something that can help you.

Find support

As you look back at your life, you would find that all your success had some minor or major contributions from someone you knew. Asking for help during tough times won’t make you appear weaker. There are too many of us who suffer in isolation, just because we are afraid of asking for help. By hiding our hard times from our connections, we will end up feeling more miserable. Everyone faces challenges in their lives and if you share them with people you know, it can become easier to overcome them. Always remember, you are seeking support today, however, you can always return the favor when the time comes.

Keep feeding your mind with positive thoughts

Just like the body needs all sorts of healthy food to recover from any illness, the mind also requires a healthy dosage of positive thoughts and inspiration to face challenging times. Talking to leaders, achievers, and successful people who have fought against the odds in their lives is a good way to start. Reading their biographies or their articles will also help you prepare effective strategies to face challenging situations.  Feeding your mind with positiveness will do a lot for increasing your mental strength and as they say, most wars are won or lost in the minds before they are fought on the battlefield.

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Author Bio:

Saurabh has written this article keeping in mind the needs of the job seekers community, to help them be a better professional.  His write-ups extensively cover all the aspects of job searching and working life, right from subscribing to new jobs, to getting ready for an interview, and working at an office. If you want to read more of his articles, follow him on, LinkedIn and Twitter

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