How To Practice Gratitude And Benefit From Its Magic

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How To Practice Gratitude And Benefit From Its Magic

“Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

This is a famous quote from a famous book, the Bible, Matthew 13:12.

Gratitude is a practice, a skill. It means to retake knowledge of certain things that you are enjoying or you have enjoyed. It is the ability to be aware by choice.

Dear readers of Positive Words Research, I will show you the power and magic of gratitude from the light of two aspects:

1.)   How I’ve discovered the power and magic of gratitude

Since 17 years old I write my thoughts. At the beginning I wrote on paper, filling many notebooks. Then I’ve written my thoughts in Word and further on various blogs. After some years I started reading my past writings. I saw that I have written about beautiful things but also a lot about tensioned moments in my life. There were a lot of pages filled with negative emotions such as anger, sadness, even grief, and depression on some pages, disappointment, powerlessness, and even self-hate. While reading these pages written by the younger me, I noticed something. Every time my younger me felt some relief, some light, some hope it was in the moments I was being thankful for something.

On every page full of tension there were one or two sentences where I was saying something like:

  • Yes, but I am thankful that I got into faculty;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that I have a cat;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that I have a job;
  • Yes, but I am thankful that I was promoted;
  • Yes, but I am grateful that even if I couldn’t spend Christmas with my parents and brother, because of all the arguing and fights in my family, I got to spend a lovely Christmas with the family of my best friend;

I realized that I was practicing gratitude unconsciously. Currently, I am of the opinion that every human being is practicing gratitude to some degree. One can not live a human life without practicing some kind of being grateful. But, you either practice gratitude:

  1. unconsciously, in a small way or bigger way, depending on your inheritance and education, or;
  2. consciously, in a small way or bigger way, depending on your awareness and power of choice.

I started practicing gratitude consciously during 2012. The stepping stone in my transition was the book The Magic written by Rhonda Byrne. Through this book Rhonda taught me why gratitude matters and how to practice it.

To make a beautiful note: while practicing some exercises from the book, I’ve arrived on the website TheFreeDictionary.com, clicked on the related words of the word gratitude and discovered the world of positive words. This stepping stone drove me to start making this website, Positive Words Research.

Rhonda starts her book with a quote: “Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”. Yes, it is the same quote as above. She says that the meaning of this quote is better understood when you read it like this:

“Whoever has gratitude will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

This makes me think of a Romanian old saying:

“To the ungrateful one, life takes back the gift that was given.”

Gratitude is the land on which all other positive emotions will flourish. To benefit on long-term of positive emotions, practice gratitude.

2.)   5 Examples of how I practice gratitude

  1. The gratitude rock. I took a small stone that looked interesting to me. I am placing this stone in places where I can easily bump into her: in my pocket, on the table near my bed or near the flowing tap water in my house. Every time I see the gratitude rock I make myself think of something I am grateful for. Sometimes I think of more things I am grateful for in my life.
  2. The gratitude exercises before falling asleep. After going to sleep and before falling asleep I think of nine things I am grateful for that happened that day: 3 related to myself, 3 related to events during the day and 3 related to the work I do in my job. After remembering all these nine aspects, I choose the best thing that happened to me that day.
  3. Writing appreciations on paper. I write appreciations and gratitudes on paper for every aspect of my life. I do this exercise especially for the tensioned things in my life. It could be a memory, an event that happened recently or I feel some tension towards a person.
  4. I bless and thank every object around me. I pick a moment during the day and whatever is around me I say thanks to it.
  5. While I walk I pick a moment and for every step that I make I say thank you.

In conclusion, I want you to remember two aspects:
1. Practice gratitude for tensioned things in your life; write a list of ten appreciations for the memory, event or person for whom you feel tension;
2. Practice gratitude to benefit on long-term of positive emotions.

 “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

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About the Author:calin-elena

Elena Calin is the person behind Positive Words Research. During 2013 she started researching positive words and begin building this site. You can contact her using the contact form from this website or become friends with her on Facebook.

Whoever Has Gratitude Will Be Given More And He Will Have An Abundance

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“Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.” Bible, Matthew 13:12, meaning “Whoever has gratitude will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude, even what he has will be taken away from him.”

Therefore, whoever has gratitude and appreciation for what he/she already has will be given more, and he/she will have an abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude and appreciation for what he/she already has, even what he/she has will be taken away from him.

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The only one positive word that you’ll ever need to use (and two other nice ones)

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I have always been a fighter, even when I was down, especially when I was down.

I was such in a bad shape, physically, emotionally and spiritually just after my divorce, with two small children from my marriage, a home that I freely gave away to my ex-wife, exhausted after years of suffering and failures of fixing my marriage, that it was hard for me to look at life in a positive way.

I was a man filled with guilt towards my children that I had failed them in building a happy and complete family for them. I felt guilt, remorse, sadness. As a devoted catholic, I felt that I had lost my soul and was going to hell. I was only 29 years old and felt way too young to go through all of these.

Moreover, I felt so alone because in taking this decision I practically destroyed the two pillars of my life: family and church.

I had nothing left except my car and I said to her (yes, I refer to my car as “she”): “Now it’s just you and me baby”, that definitely made me smile a little and then drove away with a sack full of books and another one filled with my clothes.

One year of struggle followed – one year in which I tried to keep my children happy and unaffected, pay the bills, do well at my job and maintain everything at a decent level. One year in which all I wanted was to separate myself from the world and do nothing, just to mourn. Just wanted to fall into a deep depression and die.

The only one positive word that you'll ever need to use
Picture made by Valentin Nedelcu near Baneasa forest, Bucharest, Romania

 

The first nice positive word is HOPE

My spirit never lets me die, though, or maybe it was my huge ego or maybe it was God’s Grace. I don’t know what it was exactly but something made me keep going in a steady, organized and calm manner. I always felt that no matter how sad I was, I needed to keep the good things in my life because soon I will build on them the wonderful life that I had always hoped for. And that was hope, my friends.

Hope gave me the perseverance to finalize the most challenging project I had ever had at work – just a few month after my divorce. Hope gave me the courage to face off all the accusing voices, the patience and kindness to take care of my small children and make them happy and joyful when they were with me, the will to go on and pursuit happiness.

The second nice positive word is FAITH

Hope came along with Faith or better said True Faith and that was when I understood deep inside me that God is greater than any church or spiritual practice and I have a personal relationship with Him. I am His child and He loves me infinitely and unconditionally. This is my True Faith and this gave me balance, tranquility, and strength, tremendous strength, and resilience.

I kept everything in place as good as I could. Hope and Faith helped me survive and keep balance. I was a survivor, baby! And was holding on superbly and gaining such a deep respect for myself.

The third nice positive word is LOVE

However, only when I understood Love my life changed.

All these wonderful things happened in my life in only a few months:

  • Got my dream job;
  • Bought my new home;
  • Made great new friends;
  • Got into a fulfilling and happy romantic relationship;
  • And most importantly, regained my inner peace.

Maybe you think I am now happy that all are turned out so well but the true thing is that I was also happy before all of this started to materialize. So happy, fulfilled and joyful for no reason but one: Love.

More exactly Love for God. Why? How? Didn’t you say you didn’t believe in Church any more? But I also said I found my True Faith: I am God’s child and He loves me infinitely and unconditionally.

Someone told me to love myself to get rid of the guilt and remorse but I couldn’t, just couldn’t. My love was so low I could not love myself a bit, so I said to myself I want to try to love God instead because He is so great that He loves me unconditionally anyway, at least let me return the favor a little bit.

So I started to repeat in my thoughts: “I love you God”, whenever I felt remorse “I love you God”, whenever I felt miserable “I love you God”, whenever I failed on something “I love you God” and soon, but really magically soon I started to feel joy “I love you God”, started to smile “I love you God”, started to be optimistic “I love you God”, started to be positive “I love you God”, started to feel self-love “I love you God”, for no reason at all “I love you God”.

I have spent hours and hours just listening to devotional music and feeling so happy and grateful for the Love and Grace of God.

I feel grateful “I love you, God”

I feel happy “I love you, God”

I feel peaceful “I love you, God”

And then a lot of wonderful things started to happen to me. Of course, I made some actions towards achieving them but still I feel so blessed and I am conscious that my Loving Heavenly Father helps me every step of the way: 10% me, 90% God. That’s so generous of Him, isn’t it?

During my lifetime I have communicated with God using many words and prayers but I feel the closest to Him when I make it really simple and say “I love you God” and instantly feel His immense Love and Grace:

“I hear you, my child”

“I love you”

“I am with you”

Hope and faith made me a fighter, a survivor but Love healed me, transformed me and made me complete.

No matter what hardships you are struggling with, no matter how disappointed you are, just remember and repeat: LOVE – the word that will heal you, comfort you and make you complete.

If you cannot use any of the other positive words just use this one and it will be enough. LOVE is the only positive word that you’ll ever need to use in order to change your life!

God’s Grace and love be with you always!


This article was written by Valentin Nedelcu. Valentin practices a career as a tax advisor, his passion is teaching people how to obtain financial freedom and he is a father of two children: a boy of 4 years old and a girl of 2 years old.


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Sentences created with the positive words BLESSED, GRATEFUL and APPRECIATE

Positive Words Blessing Gratitude AppreciationI feel blessed. I am blessed. God is blessing me. God is blessing the entire world. God is blessing people.

I am grateful for myself. I am grateful for how things happened and unfold in my life in every detail. I am grateful for God. I am grateful for how Earth looks nowadays. I am grateful for how my life looks every moment in every detail. I am grateful for every life experience in every detail.

I appreciate myself. I appreciate all people that I meet in my life. I appreciate my present. I appreciate my energy. I appreciate my living in every detail. I appreciate the way I live in every detail. I appreciate my manifestations. I appreciate earth. I appreciate God. I appreciate my receiving. I appreciate every detail that I take in.