12 Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are

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Don’t worry, you are doing better than you think you are!

It’s understandable to feel “stuck” when things didn’t turn out the way you expected or you don’t think you are supposed to be where you are now. Everything seems to be going wrong. You get depressed. You get discouraged. You raise existential questions, and although it can be a good thing because you will reach some realizations about what you can do to change the direction of your life, it is also very likely that you may fixate on what is missing.

Maybe it’s time to look around you and appreciate what you have, claim the power to change what you can, and see life as glass half-full. Here are 12 signs you are doing better than you think you are.

12 Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are

1. You have all the basic human needs.

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the very basics are the physiological needs: food, water, shelter, clothes, education, and sanitation. Now, look around you. If you have all these basic human needs, consider yourself blessed. You may not be rich enough to have a big house or have the abundance of food and clothing, but as long as you have a roof over your head, are able to eat whatever and whenever you like, and you have clothes to wear, your life is better than others’.

2. You value your relationships.

You have friends and family that support you in everything you do. You now understand that quality is more important than quantity. You learned to let go of toxic people in your life, and devote your time and effort to those who deserve it. You give them time, and treat them the way you wanted to be treated. You value their emotions and you don’t take them for granted.

3. You love unconditionally.

You are not the selfish person you were before. You know when to give and when to take. You love unconditionally without asking or expecting anything in return. That alone makes you a better person. You understand the differences and uniqueness of each individual, and you accept them.

4. You have goals and dreams.

It may seem like you’ve been trying your best to reach your dreams, but they are still far from happening. As long as you still have goals that you want to accomplish, and you don’t stop trying, you are still doing better than you think you are. You just have to be more patient, and eventually, you’ll get there. Pursue your passions and chase after your dreams.

5. You have a healthy dose of fear and the courage to face them.

A healthy dose of fear is good. It keeps people grounded and serves as practice for making sound decisions. Having the courage to face your fear and eventually defeat it is one of the characteristics of a mentally strong person. You don’t let fear hold you back, and you can make your way around it.

6. You are a changed person and you learned from your mistakes.

You do not let your past define you and you are not the same person you were before. You acknowledged and learned from your mistakes and you treat them as valuable lessons in life. They say experience is the best teacher and you definitely learned how to do things differently when you encounter the same issues next time.

7. You welcome challenges and seek opportunities.

You take on new challenges with enthusiasm and regard weaknesses as opportunities for self-improvement. You push yourself to your limits and discover something new about yourself. You realize how strong you have become. New opportunities excite you and you look forward to the future.

8. You can handle rejection well.

If you experience rejections in the past, chances are, you can better handle any rejections that may come your way. You don’t beat yourself up or base your self-worth on one incident. Instead, you can turn it into an opportunity for self-growth. You grow stronger with each rejection and you become better.

9. You were able to pull yourself up and bounce back from bad situations.

We all have problems; the only difference is how we solve them. They say it’s not how you fall, but how you get back up that counts. It is as simple as passing the most difficult subjects when you almost failed. That is already something to be proud of.  There is that rewarding feeling when you are able to overcome a huge obstacle in your life or get past something that seemed impossible at the time. If you do, give yourself a pat on the back because you have become a better person.

10. You don’t let yourself go and you prioritize your health.

You understand that health is the most important thing to prioritize in order for you to accomplish other things. Even if you are preoccupied with life, you don’t let yourself go. You take care of your physical appearance, you maintain your weight, and you try to live a healthy lifestyle. You know what to do when you don’t feel good or who to turn to when you need help to stop feeling bad.

11. You add value to the world by helping out other people.

Sometimes in order to feel blessed, we must first be a blessing to other people. You feel good when you are able to help people in need. You feel needed when your friends or family turn to you for help. You feel the joy when you are able to solve another person’s problem even as you contemplate yours. Sometimes, you might even feel that your struggles are nothing compared to theirs, which makes your problems would seem like a vacation to others. Simply being nice to people is already a big deal. You also know that empathy is a gift. You may not realize it because it may not seem much to you, but you are already making a difference in their lives.

12. You have a healthy mindset.

You are self-aware and positive. Although situations bring you down sometimes, you can still look back and laugh about it. You always try to strike a balance in all aspects of your life and you don’t let little things bother you. Your path may still be unclear, but you still move forward and make choices that benefit you. You understand that you cannot change the past, but you know you can change what happens from now on, as long as you take full responsibility for your life.

If you can relate to these, and realize that you have them in you, then you are doing better than you think you are. Do not get blindsided by the things that seem to be not working in your life and focus on those that do. You may not be happy with the way things are right now, but you still have the chance to change and have a brighter future.

Diana-BeyerAuthor΄s bio: Diana Beyer is experienced, self-driven specialist and content writer at BestEssay.Education who is passionate about writing. She is always seeking to discover new ways for personal and professional growth.

6 Non-Threatening Ways to Get out of Your Comfort Zone

new-hobbyWe read about people who have quit their jobs, found their passports, and taken off to another country with only a few hundred dollars in their pockets. In many ways, we envy them – we wish we had the “guts” to do something like that. We don’t have the guts, because we have never left our comfort zones, even in small ways. 

Starting Small

And that is rather the key. We will never consider a major exodus from our comfort zones because we have not built up to it. That adventurer who has just left for parts unknown? He has practiced getting out of his comfort zone for years. He began with small things and worked his way up so that now he does not fear huge changes – he embraces them. He has developed a sense of self-confidence that allows him to take risks. So it should be with you. You can practice getting out of your comfort zone right now, and these small steps can lead to bigger ones.

6 Non-Threatening Ways to Get out of Your Comfort Zone 

1. Take a Course About Which You Know Nothing

Maybe you have always admired people who can draw or play an instrument. What’s stopping you? Sign up for some lessons or a course at the local community college. Get yourself out among others who share that interest. Get away from TV and Facebook and just do it.

 

2. Practice Random Acts of Kindness

Reaching out to strangers is difficult for those of us who have always lived within our own little circles of friends, acquaintances, and institutions (workplaces, church, etc.). Participating in a “soup kitchen” event on Thanksgiving, sponsored by your work or church is comfortable. Seeing strangers in need and reaching out to them on a personal level is quite different. That mother ahead of you in line at the grocery store who must put some items back? Approach her and offer to pay. Every time you make contact with a complete stranger is a time you get out of your comfort zone. Soon, you may find yourself striking up conversations with complete strangers all the time – new “worlds” open up.

 

3. Visit Different Places of Worship

Whether you consider yourself a religious person or not, it is always a good thing to expose yourself to religions, cultures, and belief systems that are “foreign” to you. If you consider yourself a Christian, how about attending services at a mosque of a Jewish temple? Or, how about a “new age” gathering? You will expose yourself to a variety of thought and make connections with those who view life very differently.

 

4. Think About Writing for Publication

O.K. so this is not an option for everyone, but think about it for a minute. You have a lifetime of experiences and ideas to share. Take those to the next level by sharing them with others. You don’t have to be a skilled writer – there is a host of writing services out there, like WritingDaddy, that can take our thoughts and ideas and translate them into creative articles and blog posts that you can then submit for publication. Over time, you may develop your own skills and discover a great outlet for connecting with others.

 

5. Food – Yes, It Can be a Path Out of Your Comfort Zone Too

Instead of basking in your traditional “comfort foods,” try foods you have never eaten before. Go to a Thai or Vietnamese or Indian restaurant. Get online and retrieve some African and Middle Eastern recipes. We get stuck in our old favorite foods, but changing out what we eat may work toward changing out how we think about other things too.

 

6. Try a New Hobby

We have developed “outside” interests, and we are comfortable with them. Perhaps we garden, work on cars, play a sport, or play an instrument. It’s time to change this out. Take up photography, a different sport – something totally foreign to you.

 

Small Steps Lead to Larger Ones 

These steps are no threatening to your very being – you are not abandoning your life’s work or friends and family. You are, however, gradually coming to see that change can be a good thing. Once you are at ease with change, you can begin to make larger changes that may indeed move you on a new path of wonder and adventure.

 

Diana-Beyer

Author΄s bio: Diana Beyer is experienced and self-driven specialist who is passionate about writing. She is always seeking to discover new ways for personal and professional growth.

8 Things You Can Do To Become Your Own Life Coach

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Look around you. Everywhere you can see people performing better in their jobs, making smart career decisions and scaling the ladder of career success. But, what is their secret? The secret to becoming a better you is by hiring a life coach.

A life coach is a person who dedicates himself to addressing personal projects, business growth, and general conditions and changes in a person’s personal life and profession by examining what is currently going right, any challenges in the situation and henceforth, choosing a course of action to guide your life to what you want to become.

Unfortunately, many people don’t have the money to hire a life coach. What is the average man got to do then? Self-coaching? Yes. According to many experts, when you administer the right amount of professional coaching techniques to your own goals and experiences, you can be able to achieve whatever you want. You only need to apply discipline and dedication. So, how do you become your own life coach?

8 Things You Can Do To Become Your Own Life Coach

1. Meditate Deep Within Yourself

You cannot realize what you truly want if you do not know and understand what truly motivates you. You need to ask yourself;

  • What do I really want?
  • Why do I want it?
  • How long have I wanted it? Is it to please me, parents or friends?

When you answer these questions, you will find out what really drives you and what you really want to achieve. This will prevent you from chasing the wrong things that will not make you happy, or something that you do not really want. Once you set your target on your new goal, you will realize immense happiness and satisfaction in whatever you want to do.

2. Examine Your Life

Once you have meditated and found out what you truly want, you need to examine and re-examine all areas of your life. Where do you currently stand? Why do you need to address all areas of your life? Because you wholly want to develop yourself as a person, rather than one area of your life only. At the end of the day, you should not develop your career at the expense of your family, or prioritize your family at the expense of your career growth.

You must know that your life is interconnected. Your relationships will affect your work performance. Your health and fitness will affect your relationships and work performance. To be the best version of yourself, you need to ensure that all areas of your life are running smoothly.

3. Set Personal Goals

Now that you know yourself very well, especially the areas in your life that need improvement, sit down, and write the goals that you want to achieve. How do you come up with goals? First of all, they need to be SMART. The goals must be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound. You also need to have a manageable size of goals. Two or three is enough. Too many goals will prove to be a challenge to achieve.

Once you’ve set the goals, then you need to develop a strategy on how you will attain the goals. You need to develop a plan and stick to it.

4. Honesty and Accountability

Stop lying to yourself. The truth might be hard to hear, but you need to hear it. Ask yourself what has been holding you back. Remember, if you are not true to yourself, you will not realize your true potential. But, be honest in a positive way. Look at mistakes as an opportunity for growth. Look at challenges as stumbling blocks that you have to overcome.

Stop with the excuses. Acknowledge that you are in firm control of your success and failures. Accept defeats and mistakes, and make resolutions to turn around these areas.

5. Rewards

Positive reinforcement is a must if you want to boost your confidence and set your sights to higher targets. The advantage of being your own self-coach is that you know the rewards that will motivate you. Make sure it is something fun and appropriate. You cannot celebrate losing one kilogram of weight by taking a vacation, but you do so if say you’ve finally joined a team of professional writers among some of best websites available. It can be a movie or an ice cream treat or spending time with your family.

6. Evaluate Significant Relationships

Who are the people that really matter in your life, and how is your relationship with them? Do they trigger positive or negative reactions from you?

You may realize that there are people that only trigger negative responses from you. You need to cut them off as they will only criticize you, limit you and weigh you down. Positive relationships, on the other hand, can provide you with an endless pond of ideas, inspiration, opportunity and positive reinforcement. Along, the way, cultivate and develop new, meaningful relationships.

7. Have A Support Group

You need all the support you can. It can be your family, friends or colleagues. This will serve as a great motivation to achieving your goal. But, this can only work, if you do not prioritize your work over your family. In addition, they will keep you focused on productive activities.

8. Re-Evaluate Your Initial Strategy

Chances are, you won’t get it right at the first attempt. Along the way, you need to re-evaluate and adjust your initial strategy. Unforeseen problems may arise and you will need to make new plans to overcome them. Unforeseen opportunities may also arise and you need to take advantage of them. You also need to assess your achievements monthly. If the strategy is not leading you there, you will have to re-evaluate.

Don’t worry about failing the first time. Sit down and re-strategize until you come up with a plan that works perfectly.

These psychological tools will enable you to better yourself. Try it and re-adjust until you come up with something that works for you. The most important thing is to believe in yourself. If you don’t, then you are guaranteed to fail.

Diana-Beyer

Author΄s bio:  Diana Beyer is experienced and self-driven specialist who is passionate about writing. She is always seeking to discover new ways for personal and professional growth.