How the 3 M’s Can Help You Reach Your New Year’s Resolutions and Goals

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2017 has left many of us wanting more in our lives. From political to social unrest, we all want to have a more positive and compassionate 2018. According to Psychology Today, the number one New Year’s resolution this year is “be kind.” That’s something to be encouraged by.

We all need a little more kindness in the world. This goal will take just as much work to achieve as any of your other resolutions. Habits and mindsets don’t just happen overnight. You need to put in the work if you want to achieve your dreams and goals.

Fortunately, there are many methods and techniques that will help you find and stay on the path to success. By following the 3 M’s: Mantras, Meditation and Music the goal of a more positive 2018 will certainly be reached. Let’s get started!

Mantras

Words have an incredible amount of power over people. Just a few words can either motivate someone or tear them down, even holding sway over your body’s healing processes. The words you say and hear are crucial to the achievement of your goals.

This is where mantras come in. A mantra is a phrase you repeat to yourself either silently or out loud. By saying these words several times each day, you remind yourself of your goals on a continual basis. It helps to put a written form of your mantra somewhere you regularly look at, such as on the wallpaper of your cell phone or your mirror.

When faced with a decision you have to make, your phrase will be right where you need. It will help you make the right choices to reach your dreams. The most important thing about your mantra is that it must ring true to you and what you’re trying to achieve. It won’t help you to mutter a phrase over and over again that does nothing to lift your soul.

So choose carefully and know that there’s the perfect mantra out there for you. It’s also useful to schedule this practice, even down to putting it on your calendar if you have a busy lifestyle, like one of a student. Keep in mind how many times you would like to say your mantra a day and at what time you will do it. Also, consider if you want to keep this practice for a set amount of days or if you want this practice to last your life.

Meditation

Meditation is a great practice on its own and in conjunction with saying your mantras. Meditating is not only beneficial for your physical and mental health, but also for accomplishing your goals. This practice trains your mind to focus on what you want to achieve and puts you in the right mindset to succeed. The first step is to relax your body so you’re able to focus on nothing else but your breath.

Concentration can escape you if you’re in a tense state. After a few minutes of focusing on your breathing, take the time to say your mantra out loud. By repeating your mantra, you will continue to calm down and prepare yourself for the next and most important step: Manifesting.

Manifesting is when you visualize your dreams and make them into reality. When you come to this part of your meditation practice, picture in your mind what it would look like when you accomplish your goal. Be as specific as you can be.

Even simple details, like the clothes you’ll wear and what you’ll smell, will be beneficial to you in realizing your dreams. By continually imagining success, you will grow more conscious of the opportunities and choices you can make that will lead you closer to your aspirations.

Music

Much like words, music can make us feel an array of emotions. It’s even used to improve mental health. Your favorite tunes can help you get into the zone and encourage you to chase your dreams. However, not all music is created equal. Some types of music increase productivity, while others don’t.

Although research has shown that people who listen to music while working are faster at getting their jobs done and are more creative in their thinking, there are genres of music that actually hinder mental processes. While classical music, nature sounds, and epic soundtracks are known to improve concentration and motivation, music with words has been proven to have the opposite effect.

Just how talking to people can distract you from completing a task at hand, music with lyrics can do much of the same thing. Instead of playing in the background, the words of a song can play the leading role and steal your attention away from what you’re trying to achieve. The simpler the music structure of a soundtrack is, the better.

Music with too many chords can be just as distracting as lyrics. Choice also seems to play a role in whether or not music helps or hinders your progress to your dream. When you’re the one choosing to listen to music, you will receive the benefits mentioned before. However, if you were not given the choice to listen, the songs you hear can impede you.

Conclusion

No matter what your resolutions are this year, a more positive 2018 is within your grasp. By repeating mantras, meditating and listening to music, your chances of completing your goals rises exponentially. So for this New Year, follow the three M’s to experience a marvelous 2018.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

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6 Ways to Make Your Family Get-Together a Positive Experience

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The tradition of holiday family gatherings is a time-honored way to come together and reinvigorate the family bond. It secures the feeling of belonging, inclusion, and affection — important aspects of emotional well-being. More than that, there’s a certain magic in holiday events that brings joy and happiness to the family.

For some families, a wholesome gathering doesn’t come naturally. Between opinionated clashes on politics, nosiness, and relatives with a flair for the dramatic. Some family gatherings can be an exercise of tolerance and patience. With a little planning, you can turn a challenging group into a positive bonding experience.

Be Inclusive

No one enjoys being left out. Make sure all of your family members feel included and wanted. If you have relatives with special dietary needs, make sure there’s food and drink on hand for them. Don’t hesitate to reach out and see what works best. That amount of care shows them they are wanted and their well-being is important.

Be inclusive of the workload as well. Make sure everyone has a task. This prevents family members from feeling overwhelmed. Also encourages other members to have a stake in the success of the event.

Honor the Sad Times

When the family gets together, it’s natural to talk about the good times — and the bad. Don’t dismiss conversation about sad subjects or abruptly change the subject for fear of it being a downer. Support your family. Let them be heard. Talk about departed family members. Discussing sad topics in a supportive way can help heal your family’s hurts.

Plan a Tension Breaker

If your family always goes off the rails at a certain point, or you’re worried about a political conversation getting to be too heated, plan an “impromptu” event. The event can be anything you can start at a moment’s notice, like taking a walk or playing a game. Even moving from one room to another can break the flow of an unpleasant discussion. It presents the opportunity for you to change to a more positive, pleasant conversation.

Turn the Disappointments Into an Inside Joke

Sometimes trying to change people is just impractical to the point of futility. In those cases, the only thing you can do is change your perspective on the behavior. Turn it into an inside joke — even if the only person in on the joke is you. If you try to see the situation with humor and levity, it won’t bother you nearly as much.

Let Go of Expectations

The holidays might be the most magical time of the year but beware of expecting too much. When you set your expectations too high, it’s easy to get disappointed. Oftentimes those high expectations are not fair to the people around you. If you’re in charge of planning the gathering (or food), high expectations can be unfair to you. Let the little things go, and do what you’re comfortable with. Delegate tasks (it’s a good way to include others!).

Keep Your Good Intentions Close and Your Positivity Closer

Maybe Aunt Linda pesters you every year about why you’re not married. Perhaps Uncle Bob talks down about your career. Little things like this can build up and eventually ruin a family gathering. Adjust your perspective to assume that all of these questions come from a place of positive intent — Aunt Linda wants you to be happy. Uncle Bob wants you to feel happier in your work life. Perhaps they pester you with nosy questions because they miss you, and want to know more about your life. If you try to see these behaviors from a new perspective, one that comes from a place of understanding and positivity, you’ll enjoy your time with your family — no matter the occasion — that much more, for years to come.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

 

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.