Serenity is a state of contentment. Contentment was named by Dalai Lama as the key ingredient for inner happiness.
But how do we attain a constant feeling of serenity?
REBT therapy invented by Albert Ellis says that, in the same time, people rationalize, experiment some emotions and have a certain behavior. Therefore, in order for you to attain a state of serenity means that you need to work on your rationalization, emotions and behavior.
Rationalization means thoughts: what thoughts you have and the way you think.
To improve your thoughts Positive Words Research puts at your disposal the best list of positive words in the world. Check this list and incorporate in your vocabulary as many positive words as you can. It is scientifically discovered that a human brain thinks more than 30,000 words a day, meanings a short to medium book… this is a lot of words. Make sure some of them are positive words… and this is only for one day… just compute how many words you think in a week, or month, or year… an abundance of words. Keep your brain happy feeding him with positive words. In this way you will keep your brain serene and make sure it will not mess up your life by being a brain that thinks negatively.
The way you think, means that, you have moments when you think: while you sit on a chair, while going with the subway, while walking to work, while running, while writing, while talking with friends, while you meditate. Be aware of these moments and think about high emotional subjects only in some moments, when you have more time and energy. Try not to think important subjects of your life anywhere you go. Make a rule just not to think about consuming and stressful problems in some parts of the day, like after 9 o’clock in the evening or in the morning. This will keep a balance in your life and sustain serenity all day long. You will feel content because you will not force yourself to think intense and immediately when you have a problem. You will develop a power over your brain to make him think problems when you want not when something happens in reality. You brain will not react anymore to problems from reality, keeping your inner peace.
There are emotions that help you and emotions that don’t help you. Basically intense negative emotions over a long period of time are bad and will never help you. Well-being is attained when you have constant positive emotions over a long period of time, over 6 months and maybe very short lived soft to medium negative emotions and no intense negative emotions.
Emotions are created in time and are strongly correlated with our thoughts. This is what Albert Ellis has discovered.
Abraham Hicks says that emotions are our guiding system, informing us of the packets of thoughts that we think, so that we can take notice and change our thoughts for more positive ones. Also Abraham Hicks says that thoughts are vibration. The quality of the thoughts you think matches the vibration of your body, high or low. Serenity, peace, happiness, contentment, joy are high vibrations correlated with positive thinking. You think positively when you use positive words in your thinking.
Thoughts, most of the time, are just internalized words. Behavior you then correlated with your words, because you tend to do what you’ve said. The, the behavior that you have, generates thoughts in your mind. Because you will think about what you do, and then rethink, over long periods of time, about what you did. The quality of your thoughts will impact your serenity.
I’ve researches the positive word Serenity in The Free Dictionary and I’ve found some interesting other positive words correlated with this word: tranquility, placidity, repose, quiet, peacefulness, peace, heart ease, calm, composure, stillness, calmness, quietness, quietude, placidity, calmness, quietude, peacefulness, untroubledness, calmness, composure, equanimity, ataraxia (peace of mind).
Serenity means serene and content thoughts, serene and content emotions, serene and content behavior. All these will give you a feeling of well-being which is happiness and peacefulness through your life.
Please excuse me for my bad English. I am not a native English speaker. I hope you understand what I’ve written. Comments are most welcome. – Elena Calin, the founder of Positive Words Research