Self-confidence – An intriguing fact about your mind is that it does not know the difference between reality and imagination. Another fact is that your mind listens very carefully to every word you are saying, words that you speak and thoughts that you think day in and day out form the blueprint that you always move towards.
Positive words and phrases and why they work
If you want to teach your mind confidence, use empowering positive words. I recommend saying these to yourself as much as you possibly can:
I am enough, I matter, I am significant, and I am lovable.
No baby is born doubting himself. No baby is born thinking, “don’t look at me, I have fat legs" or “don’t look at me, I have just messed up my t-shirt." Babies always believe they are good enough. Growing up, different events make us doubt that. Maybe your mom never had a kind word for you. Maybe your dad always expected you to get top grades and showed disappointment when you didn’t. Somehow, along the way, you learned to doubt that you are enough. In a free mini-course on self-confidence, I dive deeper into how that could have happened to you and how you can reactivate and regenerate the inner confidence you were born with.
The words that follow ‘I am’ command your mind towards a destiny, so when you say, ‘I am a loser’, that impacts you. When you say, ‘I am a winner’, it impacts you. The mind doesn’t care if what you are telling it is right or wrong, real or false; it lets it in. Saying ‘I am’, then using very powerful descriptive words allows your mind to accept the words as the absolute truth about you.
How to use the power of positive words to raise your self-confidence
Now that you know how your thoughts and your words shape your mind, it’s time to put their power into practice. There are two things I want you to do.
First, I want you to start noticing every time you are being harsh on yourself. Do you judge yourself when something goes wrong? Maybe you are late for an important meeting or often forget your car keys Maybe you consider yourself clumsy and never miss a chance to critically comment on every little slip. I want you to start noticing the negative harsh words you say about yourself and then transform them.
My daughter used to forget her school bag, but I would never tell her “you are so forgetful". Instead, when she would appear at the front door 2 minutes after she left, I would ask her, “What did you REMEMBER,?" See? A simple word change can tell a completely different story to your mind.
The second thing I want you to do is to create many positive reminders around the house. I teach this in the free mini-course about self-assurance and will share with you right now.
You can write key statements like ‘I am enough’, ‘I am loveable’, and ‘I am significant’ on your mirror and fridge in lipstick or eyeliner, and put empowering words on your screen saver. Change the passwords that you type out on a daily basis so that they say ‘I am enough’ or ‘I matter’ or ‘I am loveable’; add numbers/characters for security reasons. When you start to say, write, and see the key positive words every day, they will absolutely sync in and make a difference. Most of us use the wrong words, and we spend all day saying ‘I am all alone’, ‘no one loves me’, and ‘I am not good enough’. Since you are already talking to your mind, you might as well talk to it positively, saying ‘I do matter’, ‘I am loveable’, and ‘I am attracting love’ because your mind will let those words in, accept them and act upon them.
This post is written by Marisa Peer – celebrity therapist and pioneering hypnitherapy trainer. Named Britain’s best therapist by Tatler magazine, Marisa has spent nearly three decades treating a client list that includes international superstars, CEOs, Royalty, and Olympic athletes.