“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi
The important words in this quote are: THOUGHTS, WORDS, BEHAVIOR, HABITS, VALUES, DESTINY.
Gandhi used the word “positive” in relation with the first 3 words: THOUGHTS, WORDS, BEHAVIOR. The remaining 3 words HABITS, VALUES and DESTINY do not have the word “positive” associated with them. Why? When you focus to keep positive your THOUGHTS, WORDS, BEHAVIOR then you do not have to work on keeping your HABITS, VALUES and DESTINY positive, because they will become automatically positive and benefit you. Your thoughts, words and behavior are the cause (the source), while your habits, values and destiny are only consequences.
According to a study, for a mature brain, 80% from the THOUGHTS are internalized sentences, the rest being images and other. A significant amount of your thoughts are only sentences and sentences are made of simple words. Words are words. but thoughts are also words, at least in a significat amount.
You need to know positive words in order to create positive sentences. It is good for you to have the ability to not create negative sentences, which a lot of people do by understanding the negative, fighting, corecting, refraiming it. What is quite essential for your well-being is to have the ability to create positive sentences in you mind, so that you know how to thnk positively, so that you can be happy.
Awareness of a Certain Word Makes You Feel That Word
Albert Einstein says: “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.”
It tells us that when you have a problem, first increase your level of awareness and then try to solve it. Applied to the world of emotions, when you have an emotional problem first increase your level of awareness and then try to solve it. But what awareness should you increase? the negative or the positive one? Read further.
You feel bad and hurt because you are focusing too much on a certain negative word, trying to understand it, not getting over it and letting it go. You are staying UNDER the negative emotion (to UNDERstand it) not getting OVER it by increasing the energy of your positive emotions which will lift you higher than your problems. You label negative emotion with negative words and you get yourself stuck with that emotion. For the moment you are located at the level of awareness of that negative word. The solution is to increase your awareness for the positive word, which is the opposite of the negative word, but not quite like the antonyms.
For example: the oposite of anger is self-love, self-compassion, self-kindness. You become aware of the fact that you are burning yourself with anger because you are disconnected from yourself. Anger is always created because we dont take care of ourselves when we really need to.
Three steps advise:
- Label with a single word your negative emotion. For example: “I am sad”, but dont try to understand it. Because your brain will focus on the word “sad” and provide you answers about why you are sad. But you do not need to know why you are sad, you acctually need to know how you can be happy. Read step two.
- Immediately replace the negative word with a positive word: “I am not happy”. Now is time to understand why you are not happy. You will see that your mind will focus on the word happy and provide solution for you about what to do to be more happy. But dont stop here, read step three.
- Start repeating in your mind the word “happiness”. Even better, you can write down on a piece of paper the word “HAPPINESS” with caps. Do this reinforcement of the word “happiness”, at least 35 times. Then, start researching about the word: happiness. Read in the dictionary what happiness means. Increase your awareness by reading articles on internet on the word happiness. Go further and read books about happiness. You will discover an magic new world you never knew about.
Bring more magic into your life researching the word GRATITUDE or inspire yourself from the List of Positive Words created by Positive Words Research.
Continue your researches about positive words, because it will take you to the positive side of life. Anyway life is short, you do not have time to think and do something else than beauty in your life.