What You Are Telling Yourself That Is Keeping You Single

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Not all of us want to be in a relationship, which is completely fine. The rest of us oscillate between loving being single and wishing we weren’t. It rocks when we are playing the field and not having to check in with anyone, but it sucks when everyone around us seems to be bursting with joy in their relationships. Sometimes we cannot help but feel a little frustrated for being single.

Our search for healthy love is one of the most defining missions of our lives

The nagging question just keeps getting louder, “Is it me?". I wish I could tell you with all certainty that it is not you, but it just might be you. This does not mean that there is something wrong with you. I am sure you are amazing and capable of being in a fantastic relationship. But you see, most of the times, our single status has everything to do with our beliefs and attitudes.

The truth is that you hold more power over your romantic destiny that you ever thought possible. To a large extent, you create the world that you live in, consciously or unconsciously. There are a lot of bad habits that you may indulge in and things that you tell yourself that may be locking the doors to a lasting relationship:

  • I love being alone with all the freedom and creative time it affords me.
  • I do not deserve a relationship.
  • I am not good enough.
  • No one will ever love me.
  • I am not ready.
  • I have no time to date right now.
  • I cannot date a guy/girl who…..

When it comes to dating and relationships, sometimes you are your own worst enemy

What are some of the things you have told yourself that you think are sabotaging your ability to connect with potential partners?

Let us talk about the things that many of us are telling ourselves that are getting in the way of finding our soul mates.

I will date when…..

I will date when I am finished with my Ph. D.
I will date when I lose at least 10 pounds.
I will date after my career takes off.
I will date when I am ready.
I will date when I find the perfect guy/girl.
I will date when my child goes to school.

“The greatest amount of time wasted is the time not getting started.”
Dawson Trotman

There is a huge problem when you keep postponing something that is important to you. Firstly, the only time that you are guaranteed is ‘now.’ Many of us are obsessed with timing. There is no such thing as the right time. No matter what else your life involves at the moment, dating should never be wholly sidelined if you hope to get into a long-term relationship.

There are no guarantees in life, and no one can predict what the future holds. After all, life is a series of unexpected events. Indeed, you might find that life is more interesting when things do not go according to plan, rather than when everything is well choreographed. Makes life more authentic, doesn’t it?

You may think postponing dating buys you time but in reality, time will not wait for you. Right now is the perfect time to seek for your soul mate.

“Procrastination is like a credit card; it is a lot of fun until you get the bill.” Christopher Parker

I am looking for the perfect partner

When looking for a romantic partner, we all desire certain characteristics. However, no one is perfect. I have seen people wielding a long list of attributes that they want in potential soul mates. A certain level of education, given financial status, a particular religion, no children or a certain number of children, a certain number of teeth… Just kidding. The chances are that you might not find this package in a single individual. The pursuit of perfection leads to finding fault with everyone that you meet which will only work against you.

I am looking for the perfect guy/girl today will be later turn out to be I will never truly be in love.

Worse still, some of us have very unrealistic expectations. Snap back to reality and realize that you are also not perfect. So what if the guy/girl is a little rough around the edges? So what if she talks too loudly? So what if he is a tad too dark? There is nothing wrong with setting standards, but we must keep our expectations realistic if we do not want to be alone for the rest of our lives.

Affection is when you see someone’s strengths. Love is when you accept someone’s flaws.

All the good ones are taken

It seems as if the world has been overrun by fickle men and players, shallow women and gold diggers. Apart from you, of course! Is it possible? Is it really possible that all the billions of people out there are all either married or horrible? This is the lamest excuse to not play the dating scene. Worse still, it is a self-sabotaging excuse.

Telling yourself that all the good ones are taken is giving yourself a free pass to throw in the towel and let yourself off the dating hook. You do not have to put yourself out there, after all, the good ones are taken!

Look at the flipside. Out of the billions of people in the world, you only need one person who is right for you. You need to reframe your mindset.

The perfect partner does not exist, but there is a partner who is right for you.

The sad reality is that if you go through life believing that there are no good men or women out there, you will not find any. Your mind is always inclined to look for evidence to support what you believe.

Interesting fact:
When you believe all the good ones are taken, anytime you come across one who is unavailable, you will think he is the greatest thing you have ever seen. When you come across one who is single, you will search for flaws, and you will surely find them.

Remember, our thoughts are energy; energy that radiates and attracts like experiences. Many of us miss out on finding love by holding on to lies: about ourselves, about men and women. You must realize you are what is keeping you single. Seeking love is not an easy task. The first step is to fight the patterns inside us that hold us back. We cannot shield ourselves from what we might find out there, but we can empower ourselves with the right tools for the job by cleaning up our thoughts.

Author’s Bio

Christopher Brown
Christopher D. Brown
created the website RedesigningTheMind.com to get to the bottom of our relationship with ourselves and how the world sees us. He has an Advanced Diploma in Social Science and a Graduate Diploma in Technology Education. He enjoys spending time with his young family and if he’s really lucky you can find him in the garden.

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10 Ways To Show Your Partner How Much You Appreciate Him/Her

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If you`ve already found someone you love and who loves you back, you`re really happy! At the beginning of your relationship, everything looks so romantic and wonderful and you may think you`ve finally got an ideal relationship… But over time, it can be a little too easy to fall into a rut and even make a lot of mistakes that, unfortunately, can crack your loving relationship! In order to avoid any kind of bummers like infidelity, breakups, cooling off and so on, you have to teach to be an appreciative partner! It’s really very important because appreciating someone you love is a great daily work that won`t require too much effort. However, it will definitely help you protect your long-term relationship. Luckily, there are so many things you can do to show your love and fidelity. Here are top 10 ways to let your partner know how much you appreciate him or her.

 

  1. Hug your significant other

Leave your business for a few minutes and give your loved one an appreciative hug! Don`t forget that a touch is a basic human need and your touch – cuddling – at the right moment can also convey your appreciation and affection.

 

  1. Give your loved one a massage

We all love massages! Use this trick to show your love and relax your partner after a long working day.

 

  1. Organize a fancy date

Try to plan a spontaneous romantic date in some special place and surprise someone you love. Break the routine of your everyday life and express your affection. Plan a wonderful dinner in your partner`s favorite restaurant and order his or her favorite meal. Your partner will be grateful for such a grand gesture of your love!

 

  1. Leave little love notes or send sweet messages

One of the most romantic ways to show you love your partner is to leave special notes or send cute messages during the day. In such a simple way, you can express your feelings. Show your loved one that you`re constantly thinking about her or him.

 

  1. Notice the little day-to-day things

It’s hard to notice the little things your partner does every day for you because household labor becomes commonplace for us. But it will be really pleasant for your loved one when you say “Thank you, my dear, that you ironed my favorite shirt for today’s business meeting!" Show her you love her and everything she does for you! Or “Oh, how well you mowed the lawn! It looks amazing! You have great hands!" Express your appreciation to him because he’s a special man in your life!

 

  1. Compliment your special someone

Everyone loves the compliments, especially if you say them sincerely. Try to compliment your partner every day because it’s really nice to be appreciated by someone you love!

 

  1. Spend a lazy day together

You`re both so busy… Just remember when you last watch TV sitting on the couch together? What? You can’t remember… Well, show to your partner how much you care and need him or her. Spend a lazy day together – eat junk food, watch movies and snuggle… Be sure, your partner will be happy for the break and your love. Moreover, you’ll both be happy to get some special time together.

 

  1. Buy an unexpected gift

The key word is “unexpected"! So don’t focus on just luxury gifts for her or him. In this case, the monetary value is not important, it’s the fact that you want to give something “just because"! It can be inexpensive, but meaningful or desired one. It can be even a handmade gift!

 

  1. Believe in your partner and always support him or her

Try never to doubt in your partner, whatever happens. Your support and fidelity will help your partner realize how much you love him or her!

 

  1. Listen to your loved one

Sometimes you ignore your partner when he or she tells you something. But such behavior can be really hurtful! Try always to listen to your loved one. Even if you find it not so interesting or you feel you`ve heard it all already. Make the effort and listen to your significant other. Listening is a key to a harmonious relationship.

Conclusion

Being a good partner is learning to show your appreciation for the little things and little actions every single day. It isn`t so difficult to do, but it is very important for your relationship! Never forget that!

Author’s Bio

Andrew Guerra is an editor of https://bestquoteslist.com/ He likes to share his thoughts with the people around. His writing on motivation and love has appeared to make our life better. Andrew believes in fairness and human wisdom.

 

 

How To Enjoy Your Wedding Day

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There are many standards and traditions when it comes to weddings. The dress should be white. The venue should be picturesque. The tablecloths need to go with the plates, which need to go with the flowers, which need to go with the bridesmaid dresses … The list goes on.

Getting caught up in the stress is natural when there are so many expectations, especially after you’ve spent months planning your big day. However, when the day finally arrives, it’s important to step back, take a deep breath, let go of potential mishaps, and enjoy your day.

Doing so can take quite a bit of work, but when you look back at your wedding day, you’ll remember how you felt. Though there will be a lot going on, preparing yourself to stay positive on your wedding day will ensure that you enjoy it.

Keep Your Priorities in Check

You have done all the planning. You have the perfect photographer, a conflict-free seating chart, and you’ve even hand printed the calligraphy on every invitation. You’ve personally attended to every detail, so it can be hard not to focus on them on the wedding day — but you have to stop yourself from doing that.

You can plan out down to the second, down to the smallest of details, and still, something will go wrong. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you won’t have a perfect wedding, it just means that you need to stay in the moment and let some of the mishaps slide.

To help you get through some of the moments when it’s difficult not to focus on the details, you can have a few phrases ready to help you focus on what’s important. You can try laughing at it and saying something like “c’est la vie", or you can ignore it and go find something else to think about, like your new spouse or talking to some family members. It’s best to have a mental list of a few different phrases or options that you can turn to so that you can truly enjoy every moment.

Bridal Party Responsibilities

Even after you’ve prepared yourself for the fact that not everything will run smoothly, it’s impossible to be ignorant of any last-minute hiccups or sudden issues that come up. Yes, you should enjoy your day, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tend to these problems in some way.

You can make sure everything runs smoothly by assigning different members of the wedding party — or other trusted invitees — specific responsibilities to be in charge of. This can also make your wedding a more positive family get-together by making more people feel involved.

For example, you can assign one of your bridesmaids the job of making sure everything goes well with the catering. You can assign one of the groomsmen the job of making sure no one eats the cake before you have the first bite.

Whatever details you are worried could go wrong, assign them out to someone else so that you don’t need to worry about it on your day. Be sure to make a list of everything you can think of, assign them out, and choose one person to be the go-to for unforeseen issues so that you don’t have to worry about them.

Money Can’t Buy Everything

Unless you have that much money. Or at least a wealthy relative willing to grant your every-wedding-day desire. However, it is especially advised not to use a credit card to fund your wedding. The day should be about pronouncing your love for your new life partner and making lasting memories, not having a reception that will rival the Kardashian’s. Besides, having to pay back hundreds or thousands of dollars during your first months as a married couple can put a strain on what should be a happy time in your relationship.

Another reason to reevaluate your budget is that a higher budget may overshadow a happy marriage. The Hustle reported that couples who spend less than $1,000 on their wedding tend to have happier, lasting marriages. Of course, you should take this — and any other statistic that tries to predict future happiness — with a grain of salt.

If knowing this relieves some of the pressure you feel to have a perfect wedding, then it’s a sign that you shouldn’t worry about having an expensive, fairytale wedding. However, your wedding day is for you and your fiance, and as long as you put the health of your relationship and future happiness first, then do whatever the heck you want. Even if your new mother-in-law may not approve.

Weddings can be stressful, which is why preparing yourself mentally is just as important as buying your wedding dress. Rely on your family, focus on what’s happening in the present, and try to remain in a positive frame of mind as much as possible. With a little bit of preparation and a little bit of letting go, you can truly enjoy your wedding day.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

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Love Letters: How Writing Can Improve Relations With Your Partner

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In this post, you are going to discover how, for example, writing love letters, could be a fountain that nourishes relationships. There is a reason why a student would want to hire assignment experts to help him or her complete school work. It is to say; they that have the muse, talent, and power to put words down on paper are capable of achieving anything through the art of writing.

Words cannot be undone. Think about it this way. Have you ever said something to someone you love that it hurt them so much but you never did realize how deep their hearts were wounded until the following morning? It happens and while sometimes people never plan to say things that pierce through the hearts of loved ones like a thousand knives, there are times when anger would drive one to make careless utterances, even in writing.

In love and hate, words have the power to wring tears even from the most hardened of hearts. On the flipside, words can soothe like breeze by the Seaside. You would want to relish in the moment of beautiful words till forever. You may want to ask; why do people care so much about writing love letters even in this age of desktop publishing? Typed or handwritten, words have the power of making anyone fall in love. Just like a picture would speak a thousand words, words on paper have the power to speak to a million souls all at once and they could be so touching that everyone who read your piece would yearn for more.

Love of writing

Writers can speak many different languages of love in a single piece of literary composition. Shakespeare’s sonnets and love quotes from Rome and Juliet, Merchant of Venice among other literary works by renowned authors who pour their souls on paper to paint the beautiful picture of love are sure-fire proofs that powerful words burn like eternal flames. Some say the life of a writer is a solitude one and utterly boring. They may be right. But in those very moments of silence and loneliness, words find their power to fly out of souls and into the world of readers.

So, does it mean those who love writing are capable of stemming relationships with their partners in the midst of raging storms of disagreements or fall-outs? Well, let’s find out how possible that could be.

Love letters: Improve your relationship the writer’s way

If you have ever fallen in love with a writer, you have fallen heads over shoulders with their words. Love letters are as old as the hills but they set ablaze hearts in love. Writing can help improve your relationship in the following ways:

· A direct expression of what the heart feels

Writing remains a timeless way of expressing thoughts, emotions, and feelings. And when you connect this timeless truth with making amends with your partner through words on paper, there is no other better to put it. Words spoken from deep within the heart are those we express in literary composition. Every sense accompanies this craft to an extent that we feel completely immersed in writing apology letters than we would say sorry by word of mouth.

· Writing touches the Soul

Stories behind some of the greatest songs ever written reek of soul ties with a craft that is now one of the best ways of influencing decisions and changing minds; writing. If you dream of beautiful words, wake up and put them down on paper. Writing sweet lyrics for a loved one is perhaps a good explanation as to why musicians make men and women believe in the power of words.

Words literally lift the human soul to higher grounds and into spaces yonder. The universe is made real by ink on paper. A make-believe craft that finds its way into resolving conflicts in relationships. Tell her those sweet magical words and it will be enough to wipe her tears in times of disagreement. You may want to consider writing my paper help to test the waters using poems.

· In all honesty, words are found

There are days when you will fear a relationship is on the rocks and if one cannot find their way around words, things could move from the frying pan into the sun. In all honesty, words are expressive of the deeper self. And while writing love letters, words may look puffed up, but how else could one explain the feeling that cannot be expressed in deed?

· Writing helps you discover a partner

As powerful as they are, words have exposed strengths and weakness of those with who we are in love. Pouring your soul on paper is undoubtedly a good way of making worlds of fiction and reality meet. Through it, you will find your partner.

Finally, it Bridges Long distance relationships

There are days when people in love become worlds apart, maybe because of circumstances. Love letters will help bridge the distance that threatens to tear apart relationships. They remain of epic beauty and appeal just as would roses presented to a loved one on a valentine’s day.

Author’s Bio

Robert Mora is a freelance corporate advisor, researcher, and writer. He is fond of the history of design and modern arts. Robert has a blogging passion, so he likes to share his thoughts with internet users.

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WOW Now!: The New Guide To Reclaim An Abundant And Spectacular Life

 

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I first met Florin three years ago and I had the feeling that I meet a dear friend. Since then, I’ve met him tens of times for a variety of events and a boot camp on how to write a book. He is a person dedicated to his passion, perhaps one of the most passionate people I had the opportunity to learn from.

Two years ago, I bought his book, “WOW Now!: The New Guide to Reclaiming an Abundant and Spectacular Life”. Moreover, I’ve bought the book directly from Florin with a personalized dedication and his autograph, which I am very proud of.

WOW Now! it is a book that helps you understand the mechanisms through which the brain conveys information to the conscious and subconscious. Also, in this guide book, I found interesting working techniques that helped me to form new daily productive habits and removed the unproductive habits.

The WHY & HOW

The working techniques presented and explained in WOW Now, helped me understand why the events in my life were different than I had planned and I understood the frustration of so-called “failures.” However, this guide book has brought me more than understanding the causes of these failures. I found in the book techniques to modify these causes and to bring me benefits in the actions that I perform.

It’s a book easy to understand and read, with simple techniques that encompass a vast area of actions. Health, relationships, well-being, positive and productive attitudes are just some of the important aspects of life that I have improved with the help of Florin Pasat and his guide book, WOW Now!

The DO, DOJO & the Magic Tool

WOW Now! helped me to understand what my “Path” is. According to Florin’s teachings, each person has her/his own Path, a DO (the Japanese word for Path). For each DO there is a DOJO – a training room. WOW Now, was the Tool I needed for training in DOJO in order to take the first step to my DO/Path.

The Path/DO is a life-long journey. Therefore, I enjoyed seeing Florin launching WOW Now guide on Kindle. Moreover, I can have this tool/book with me all the time on the phone from now on. It benefits me since I can access knowledge and techniques from the book at any time. I can show it to friends when they need it and I can use it as a powerful GPS for my Path/DO.

My DO – The Gratitude DO

I am grateful for all the information, techniques and secret ingredients I have received through this book and through the communication with Florin, who has always answered any questions I have had. Thank you! Arigato!

Author’s Bio

Anca Nicoleta Istrate is Editor, Research & Development Manager & Loving Kindness Ambassador at PositiveWordsResearch.com and passionate about personal development.

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