How to Find Strength to Apologize?

It happened – you did something wrong, and you understand you need to bring apology, but you have no idea how to do it. We get how difficult it always is. You have to find the inner strength and bring down your pride – you just have to say it. If you wish to find out how to apologize properly and stay friends with the person offended by you, then keep on reading!

Express Remorse

Saying sorry is obligatory. You can talk for hours, but if you do not say the sacred word, it would be in vain. After you say: “I apologize,” you need to express remorse, namely explain what you have done wrong and how you feel about that now. Your words have to be sincere and authentic, otherwise, your speech would be pointless. If the person feels you are speaking to him/her only because you have to, but you do not feel like doing it, s/he would never forgive you. You have to undergo the situation and speak with all your heart. The good example is: “I am sorry I embarrassed you yesterday. I feel ashamed I behaved that low.”

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Admit Responsibility

You have to show you understand the responsibility you had taken when you said those words or did those actions. You need to emphasize the offended person and explain that you understand how you made him/her feel. To say it sincerely, simply put yourself in that person’s shoes and try to live the situation again – how would it make you feel? If you really feel bad, share your feelings with the offended person – s/he would appreciate it. The good example would be: “I am really sorry that I embarrassed you yesterday in front of the whole office. I know how it feels to be exposed to the crowd in such a manner, and I feel really bad about what I did.”

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Make Amends

Now that you made it clear how sorry you are, it is time for you to offer something to reclaim a fault. You have to offer something you can do for him/her, but it has to be really done in future, that is why think twice before promising anything. Empty promises can bring even more harm, that is why you have to be really careful when saying it. The good example would be: “I realize that I was wrong when I said that you are no good in creating the text for the website. Tomorrow, I am going to admit my guilt publicly and say that you will handle the task amazingly. Will it work for you?”

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Promise that It Will Never Repeat Again

You have to explain to the offended person that it will never repeat again. The person needs to be confident that your words are not empty, and once s/he forgives you, s/he will not have to go through this again. The important thing here is to sound convincing – you need to persuade the person in the seriousness of your motives to get over this conflict and live in peace with him/her. The good example here would be: “From now on, I will think twice before saying something. I will manage my stress and will never snap at you again. I feel really sorry this situation took place.”

Stick to Your Word

The most difficult part is not to lose the rebuilt trust. You have to stick to what you said and really control what you are doing and think about other people’s feelings. Because if the situation takes place again, no one will ever accept your apology and you will win fame of a mean person who cannot control your emotions. You might not lose respect, but you will lose the positive attitude from the environment you are in.

The last advice for those who cannot say the words of apology is to write the apology letter. Yes, it is hundred times worse than the live communication, but it is at least something. To write is easier than to say, that is why write down everything you feel and give it to the offended person.
Check this list of positive words for inspiration.

 

Joshua Robinson is the freelance writer who works for Edu Birdie since 2011. He graduated from the Dudley College of Technology where he did his Media course. Such qualification allowed him to write papers on the various topics and become the favorite of the clients. Six years’ experience of working as a writer broadened his horizons considerably, and he really enjoys doing what he does.

 

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Positive Impact on Others

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Impact People and their lives.

Seeing someone you have helped in the past being upbeat and doing well is always a positive thing.  Knowing that you could be the one to touch their lives and be that ray of light that they needed is a special feeling.

Then one day you run into them again, on a break or just in the hall at work.  You see them and you start smiling and so do they.  In this instance, I smiled and he smiled and said…

“You must be my angel”

Of course, I had no idea what he meant or how to respond, but he proceeds to tell me that he is suicidal again.  I had a feeling that something was wrong when I saw him but just asked how he was doing.

This is a very heart breaking issue for anyone to experience, whether you are the one that is suicidal or the one they come to for help.  Was glad I was at the right place at the right time for him, but still it was a sad moment.

Put on my smile and patted his shoulder to let him know that everything was going to be alright and walked with him to the clinic.  Helped him check in and stayed with him to make sure he was comfortable while waiting.  I told him I would stay but he smiles and assures me he will be fine.

All of this to say, you never know how much you impact someone

You never know when that one special person will be a part of your life.  Just stop for a moment and think about how you react or will react in certain situations.  There will always be someone who needs that extra smile, that little extra bit of encouragement in life.

Often people ignore situations or one another.  Ignoring them by looking down and not smiling or listening to them.  You might be able to tell there is a problem going on but do not want to get involved.

Chose to care

For example, I could have just spoken to this man, smiled and walked on.  I CHOSE to take the extra step and listen. That because I picked up on the fact that something might be wrong.

When you see a co-worker or even a stranger looking sad or know they are having a bad day and you smile at them or just speak to them, they feel you caring.

Having an impact on someone means that you took the extra time to care.  No matter how small you think it is, I can promise you that it is noticed.

Take the time to get involved!

Just that one smile or conversation could be a life changing moment for them, even though it seems simple to you.

For example, the next time you see a homeless person in McDonalds or a gas station, someone you see each day on your way to work, just smile at them or tell them good morning.

It is really the simple things in life that stick with someone. It really does not take much to be nice or have an impact, sometimes we just need to be reminded. I truly hope that these words make at least one person stop to think.

 

Melonie Shelton

Author’s Bio

My name is Melonie Shelton and I’m a 44 year old single mom.  I have 1 daughter in college and we live in Arkansas. Work for the VA hospital and have a side business doing mostly abstract art, but some wood working as well.  I never meet a stranger one of my goals has always been to help others.

 

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Choosing Your Words Wisely In an Argument

 

Choosing Words Wisely

Choosing Your Words Wisely In an Argument

We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t argue. It’s the source of new ideas, and the universal language of building and resolving our everyday issues. Arguments wage war, bring peace, and uphold a sense of law and order throughout our communities. We even argue with ourselves.

 

Whether you love to argue, or you avoid it like the plague, you will surely encounter many more situations where you will have no choice but to stand your ground. Come equipped with common sense and a simple strategy.

 

Shut Up and Listen

 

I know, it hurts. You feel like everything they say is wrong. You’re just waiting for them to take a breath between words so you can interrupt, step forward, and throw your arms around to make your point louder. Instead of immediately going on the defense, try taking a step back. Put enough space between you and the other person so they can breathe, and comfortably say what they need to say. Then, let them say it — let them say all the wrong things and even nod your head and encourage them to continue.

 

Though it may not seem like they notice, they do. Subconsciously they feel less threatened, and they can see you acting less hostile. You might even notice the tone in their voice normalizing. Listen long enough, and they’re bound to want to hear a reply. This will give you the opportunity to be heard when it’s your turn to speak.

 

Remain Calm and Collected

 

Some of the greatest arguments of all happen inside a locker room during halftime at a sports game. The players gather and blame, they point a trembling finger at anyone but themselves as an attempt to avoid the coach’s disapproval. The coach is their sagacious wizard, and must conduct an effective halftime speech to each individual player to both analyze and inspire the situation as a team. This is not easy. Their job is on the line, and they realize that now is not the time to be punching lockers or strangling players. They must remain focused on the end goal.

 

The same rule is applied in personal situations. Keep your head steady. When it’s not, you’re more likely to say something impulsive and possibly hurtful to your argument. Remember the old adage: Think before you speak.

 

Critique the Argument, Not the Person

 

This still applies even if the argument has to do with you or your opponent. Don’t attack the person, address the topic. Many people feel the need to condemn their opponent, and insult their intelligence. This is lousy, and what typically turns a sporty argument into a fist fight. Think of arguing as a game of chess: Always be three steps ahead of your opponent, plan out your maneuvers, and strike their defense where they least expect. Those that feel the need to critique their opponent, creating vicious ad hominem attacks, have blatantly admitted to losing the argument.

 

Many people want to know how to win any and all arguments, as if there was some magic phrase they can hiss to make their argument more justifiable. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. You have to open your eyes to the situation and be creative, because arguing is the hardest art form to master.

 

An article written by Logan Randall

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Secrets of a Long-Lasting Happy Love Relationship

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The secrets of long-lasting happy relationships are:

  1. Building a climate of practicing kindness, generosity, friendship, joy, love, trust & intimacy;
  2. Honoring the “bids” meaning the requests for connection, requests for a response, sign of interest and support, when hoping to connect, however momentary;
  3. Responding to “bids” by turning toward the partner;
  4. The partner recognizes the “bid” and respects that by engaging, showing interest & support;
  5. Each partner meets their partner momentary emotional need;
  6. Scanning environment for things they can appreciate and can say thank you for;
  7. Building a culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully;
  8. Scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right;
  9. Managing not to miss more than 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing;
  10. Responding to “bids” by showing they are there, showing to the partner that he or she is valued;
  11. Kindness glues the couple together;
  12. They build an environment of kindness and emotional stability;
  13. They show each other through kindness that each partner is cared for, understood, and validated—feels loved;
  14. They know and act upon the knowledge that ” when someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship”;
  15. The partners consider kindness as a muscle. They exercise this muscle to keep it in shape;
  16. Partners know that good relationship requires sustained hard work;
  17. They treasure the development and expression of a generous spirit. They express this generous spirit a lot and let it come in when a partner makes a bid so that they can turn toward their partner;
  18. They enhance small moments of emotional connection and therefore constantly gently empowering the relationship;
  19. The partners practice kindness in hard times and during a fight—they consider that this is the most important time to be kind;
  20. The partners express negative emotions in a kind way;
  21. The partners consider that if you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often and built kindness into the very backbone of a relationship;
  22. The partners practice kindness by being generous about partner’s intentions;
  23. The partners practice having an ability to kindly interpret partner’s actions and intentions charitably and they soften the sharp edge of conflict.
  24. Partners appreciate the intent of the other partner to do the things right even if they have executed it poorly;
  25. Partners practice another powerful kindness strategy revolved around shared joy.
  26. Partners show that they are there for each other when things go right. They think shared joy is actually more important for relationship quality. They respond with joy to the partner’s good news.
  27. Finally, there’s active constructive responding. If her partner responded in this way, he stopped what he was doing and engaged wholeheartedly with her: “That’s great! Congratulations! When did you find out? Did they call you? What classes will you take the first semester?”

“Active constructive responding is the kindest. Active constructive responding allows the partner to savor her joy and gives the couple an opportunity to bond over the good news. In the parlance of the Gottmans, active constructive responding is a way of “turning toward” your partners bid (sharing the good news). Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. The spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.”

The secret of a long-lasting happy relationship, proved by science, is that a lasting relationship comes down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity.

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Positive Words that Activates Feminine and Masculine Energy

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Find below a list of positive words that activates feminine and masculine energy.

Feminine words that activates feminine energy

EASE, PERMISSION, KINDNESS, APPRECIATION *, CARING, UNDERSTANDING, RESPECT, DEVOTION, VALIDATION, REASSURANCE, RESPECTFUL, LOVE, COMMUNICATION, BEAUTY, RELATIONSHIPS, HELPING, SHARING, RELATING, HARMONY, COMMUNITY, TALKING, OPEN, INTIMATE, LIFE, HEALING, GROWTH, INTUITIVE, COMPANIONSHIP, RECEIVE – RECEIVING, CHERISHED, CREATIVITY, REASSURANCE, WORTHY, SUPPORTED – SUPPORTING, NURTURE – NURTURING – NURTURED, PRIZE, FEEL, EMOTION

Feminine phrases: quality of relationships, share personal feelings, I like me, nurturing feelings, loving cooperation, sharing needs, providing information, making a request.

Masculine words that activates masculine energy

CAPABLE, CERTAIN, FOCUS, BENEFIT, TRUST – TRUSTING, ACCEPTANCE – ACCEPTING, APPRECIATIVE – APPRECIATION*, ADMIRE – ADMIRATION, APPROVAL, ENCOURAGEMENT, POWER, STRENGHT, COMPETENCY – COMPETENCE, EFFICIENT – EFFICIENCY, ACHIEVEMENT, HONOR, PRIDE, DIGNITY, SOLUTION – SOLUTIONS, SUCCESS, SKILLS, AUTONOMY, LOVE, SERVE, SUPPORT, GIVE – GIVING, PROVIDE, DEVOTED, FULFILL, CARETAKER, SPACE, USEFUL, RATIONAL, STRATEGY – STRATEGIC, PLAN – PLANNING, ANALYTIC – ANALYTICAL, REASONABLE, CONSIDER, ANALYSE – ANALYSING, BELIEVE, OPINION, SUGGESTION, THINK

Masculine phrases: prove themselves, achieve results, feel good about himself, doing things by himself, loving acceptance, feeling needed, someone to serve, good enough, fulfill others, silent acceptance, comforting love, common sense, point of view

* Appreciation and Love are included both at feminine and masculine energy, because based on researches I found the positive words in both feminine and masculine. According to me, appreciation is more masculine, meaning the masculine needs more appreciation than the feminine.