Thoughts Matter: How I switched from Negative to Positive Thinking

Thoughts Matter How I switched from Negative to Positive Thinking

Self-talk which is also known as our inner voice is what we say to ourselves. These words, whether they are positive or negative, strongly influence how we feel and act in our daily lives. Studies show the average person thinks between 50,000-70,000 thoughts every single day! (Davis, 2014)

This translates to almost one thought per second. That’s a lot of words!

These words directly influence the way we behave and feel. Therefore, it’s important to use positive words that are structured to help us live our best lives.

The problem is that the average person is not even aware of the talk going on in their minds and just how much of an impact the talk is having on their daily lives. Patterns are developed over a period of time when the same word is thought over and over whenever an action occurs. Over time it becomes a habit and before you know it a pattern of negative self talk has been created.

There are ways to become aware of the words we use to speak to ourselves and break patterns of negative self talk.

My story on Negative Self Talk

I found that over the past couple of years because I had experienced a lot of change in my life I would over analyze situations to the point where it ultimately led to negative self talk.

Mark Manson, the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck refers to this as the Negative feedback loop from hell. When I realized that I was going down this path of negative self talk and it was influencing my life in ways that were not worthwhile, I realized that something needed to be done immediately.

I had to replace the negative self talk with positive words and positive self talk. The only way I could do this was to recognize the thought patterns I had, create replacement positive thoughts and continue to reinforce the positive. Over time, the positive words/thoughts replaced the negative.

In my video titled, 7 steps I used to Overcome Negative Self Talk: https://bit.ly/2O8Mv2a I talk about the various strategies I used to overcome negative self talk. The 7 strategies I discuss are

  1. Rediscovering yourself – becoming your own best friend
  2. Evaluate all the Relationships in your life
  3. Keep a Thoughts Inventory
  4. Replacement Positive Thoughts
  5. Visualization
  6. Personal Mantra
  7. Morning Affirmation

To hear my story and how I used these strategies to overcome negative self talk, check out my video at https://bit.ly/2O8Mv2a. I would love to hear your thoughts. Please share in the comments below or on the video.

About the Author

Fatima PeermohamedFatima Peermohamed is an avid yogi, hiker and the founder of the YouTube channel Trending Inspiration. Fatima is passionate about helping people shift their mindsets to reach their potential and live their best lives. Follow on Instagram at https://bit.ly/2MFeUIt and subscribe to her channel for more inspiration at https://bit.ly/2PEHZ8K

 

Sources:

Davis, B (July 23, 2013) There are 50,000 Thoughts Standing Between You and Your Partner Every Day! Retrieved from https://www.huffpost.com/entry/healthy-relationships_b_3307916

Manson, M (2016) Suble Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. New York, NY: Harper Collins.

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Tips For A Stress-Free Fall

Autumn can be a stressful time for many people. Maybe you’re going back to school, maybe you’re overwhelmed with the upcoming holiday season, or maybe you’re just sad that summer is over. Whatever the reason, it’s understandable that you may be looking for ways to live your best, stress-free, life this fall.

Tips For A Stress-Free Fall

Tips For A Stress-Free Fall

Make The Most Of Shorter Days

As the seasons change from summer to fall, the one thing that can have the biggest negative effect on people is the sudden lack of daylight. It’s dark when you wake up, and dark again by the time your work or school day is over. While there may not be much you can do to change this, you can certainly try to make the most of the daytime hours you’ve got. And the fall season certainly gives you plenty of great reasons to get outside. Whether it’s looking for the best view of fall foliage, going to pick apples, or even raking leaves; there’s always plenty of reasons to be outside in the crisp autumn air.

Cozy Up Your Home

Shorter days mean longer nights, and if you’re going to be spending more time inside, you’re going to need to be as comfortable as possible. When it comes to fall comfort there are 3 items of which you can never enough:

1. Blankets

It doesn’t matter how warm your home is, or how many sweaters you’re wearing, there’s something about being under a blanket that just feels cozy.

2. Candles

A flickering flame will instantly increase relaxation levels. The more candles you have, the more soothing the ambiance. Pick out some of your favorite scents to make your autumn that much more comforting.

3. Warm drinks

Here’s a question for you: you’re sitting on the couch, under a blanket with a candle burning on the coffee table; what are you holding in your hand? If you said “nothing" then it’s no wonder you’re having trouble relaxing. A nice warm cup of tea, cocoa, or decaf coffee is the perfect way to top off a relaxing night.

Plan Ahead

There are many yearly fall tasks that can be taken care of early on. Things like picking a Halloween costume, planning a Thanksgiving dish, and holiday shopping are all things that can be incredibly stressful when left until the last minute. The secret is to start tackling these tasks and making these decisions as soon as you feel fall coming around the corner. Using new scheduling apps like Trello can really help you get a handle on all the items on your fall to-do list. Get them out of the way early, or check them off little by little throughout the season. Either way, you’ll be setting yourself up for a much more peaceful season.

Give Your Mind A Rest

Taking time out to improve your mental health is important year-round, and the transition from summer to fall can sometimes cause issues with seasonal depression and anxiety. If you’re someone who struggles with these issues, it may be a good idea to seek guidance from a mental health professional to help you ease into the season. If this isn’t an option for you, then bear in mind there are many mental health apps out there that you can use to keep you focused and relaxed as you move into autumn.

By Capri F.

Capri is a health advocate who is passionate about educating others on public wellness and safety. She focuses her research on mental health. She enjoys spending time outdoors, dancing, and practicing yoga.

Positive lifestyle – How travel makes you a better person

Traveling is by far one of the best ways to become a better person. Though, in this day and age, it has been reduced mostly to lounging on a beach and setting aside your personal life for a few days. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it seems the true spiritual nature of traveling has been forgotten. Losing yourself on foreign land can light up various fires within you, ones you didn’t even know existed. Traveling helps you regain the connection you hold with your inner self which is often neglected due to our busy lifestyles. What’s more, it makes you appreciate the Earth more than anything else.

Positive lifestyle - How travel makes you a better person

Positive lifestyle – How travel makes you a better person

1. You become more open-minded with every step

Traveling means that you’ll encounter numerous different people and cultures. Most of those you’ve only heard of and read about, which means that you don’t have all the facts straight. There is a lot of prejudice surrounding cultures different from our own and getting to know the unfamiliar is the most effective way to fight them.

Being open-minded and tolerant to ways different to your own makes you grow as a person and allows you to experience life to the fullest. What’s more, it gives you lots of different perspectives on life, essential for understanding it. Finally, it blesses you with new friends from all over the world.

2. It reminds you to stay humble

Throughout your life, you’ve probably been told how special and unique you are. That’s not false, but this statement usually makes us forget that other people are just as special and capable as we are. Because that perspective is lost, it can lead to an arrogant and unhealthy attitude.

Travelling reminds you that you aren’t the only one who’s amazing and worthy of the world. Nobody owes you anything, and if you want something you have to put in an effort. It keeps you grounded and level-headed, helping you to appreciate what you have and what you are yet to gain. Being humble is the key to success and maintaining healthy relationships with those around you.

3. It teaches you not to waste your money

In our daily lives, we spend money pretty freely and don’t pay much attention to it. That’s probably why we always complain about how we’re out of money again. When traveling, you face this problem head-on. You need to be frugal and save your money if you want to have a good trip.

It also reminds you that you can live without all the luxuries you surround yourself with and will help you stay within a healthy budget when you come home, too. Traveling is more about gaining experiences than spending money, and this is something you’ll transfer to your daily life almost subconsciously. Then you’ll have a life that doesn’t revolve around money and more opportunity for new adventures.

4. It inspires you to be more eco-friendly

When you go on a real spiritual journey, you reconnect with nature. Leaving the urban setting is a great reminder of how beautiful our Earth is and how much can be done to preserve such beauty. After you’ve returned from your trip, you’ll remember to do everything you can to help nature stay intact.

There are many ways to get close and personal with nature, but the walking tours in Tasmania just might be the most intimate encounter there is. When you walk through the wonders of the land on foot, you experience it wholly. Taking any other means of transportation takes away the feeling of truly being one with nature. After all, encounters such as this are something you’ll never forget.

5. It awakens the adventurer within

Whether you’re traveling alone or in a group, one this is for sure- the adrenaline is addicting. Unfamiliar soil wakes up your natural instincts and heightens your senses. In your home environment, you’re used to the things the way they are and don’t see any new challenges.

When you’re traveling, you need to keep your eyes open all the time. Everything you do is a new adventure, even if it’s just getting from point A to point B. That gets your adrenaline going like nothing else, and once you’ve had a taste, you’ll always want more. That’ll push you to be more courageous and will give you the confidence to face new problems head-on.

Conclusion

If anything can be concluded from this it’s that traveling isn’t just luxurious hotels and endless applying of sunscreen. It can have a real effect on changing who you are and the world around you. Therefore, choose your adventures based on their mindful significance, and watch yourself bloom into a better person. This way, you’ll improve your life as much as the lives of those around you, and will also contribute to making the world a better place.

Read more: https://kiarayew.com/can-traveling-change-your-life/

Staying Positive Despite a Chronic or Terminal Condition

When faced with terminal or chronic conditions, the last thing you need is someone telling you to stay positive and to live in the moment. It can seem like a total slap in the face. However, working to find peace within yourself can be the thing that helps get you through those exceptionally hard times.

Oftentimes, it’s the strength and positivity we discover inside of ourselves that can help make us feel better and able to push forward. Of course, it’s also important to remember that you’re never alone in this fight and there will always be a support system for you. Having bad days is completely okay and understandable.

On those days — sometimes weeks — when you find yourself slipping into a dark, dejected place, having the right people and tools on your side can give you the strength you need to climb back out.

Staying Positive Despite a Chronic or Terminal Condition

Staying Positive Despite a Chronic or Terminal Condition

Finding Your Tribe

At first, support groups can certainly seem intimidating to join. When dealing with chronic or terminal issues, however, it’s hard trying to find ways to connect with people who don’t deal with the same obstacles and worries as you. Support groups can often help bridge that gap while also providing you with tools and advice to work through your difficult days.

As experts at Augusta Oncology aptly put it, “One of the most difficult aspects of cancer or any disease is that no one understands what you’re going through. Sure they say they understand, they sympathize with you, but how can they know? A cancer support group is a unique place because it is made of people who know what you’re feeling because they’ve been there … They will understand your fears, worries, concerns, and joys … " Staying positive can be made a lot easier if you have the right group to vent frustrations and problems too, especially a group who truly understands what you’re going through.

Furthermore, with certain chronic conditions, like STIs for example, it can be difficult opening up about your health due to the unfair stigma behind STIs. Support groups provide a safe space to speak about your condition and can provide the strength to help you fight against those stigmas. While the hardest step can be reaching out, you’ll often find yourself wondering how you ever managed without your trusted support group.

Forming More Connections

Another way to find positivity can be through utilizing strategies provided by professionals. Whether you have a close bond with a nurse or two or you decide to attend therapy, asking them for some helpful strategies can take some of the burdens off your shoulders. For example, when faced with a terminal condition (and chronic as well), Bradley University suggests, “While finding hope in the face of terminal illness is often a challenge, nurses are able to achieve this goal by helping patients devise ways to make the most out of their final days, whether that’s spending as much time as possible with family and friends, focusing on personal interests and hobbies or anything else."

Keep in mind that nurses are trained to help you through this — mentally, physically, and emotionally. Reaching out to them or another medical professional can provide you with more support and encouragement. Furthermore, it’s always helpful to have someone’s opinion you respect and value to help plan out your goals and help you live in the moment more. Finding support, and in turn, positivity can come from a number of unexpected places.

Becoming Your Own Ally

At the end of the day, one of the most important things to recognize is that you shouldn’t ever feel pressured to maintain a positive attitude. Feel what you feel, whether it’s happy, sad, or angry. According to Medical News Today, “in order to achieve a stronger sense of fulfillment and well-being, you should learn to treat yourself with kindness … if we embrace our negative emotions, we are less at risk of perpetuating them and more likely to achieve self-healing."

When dealing with chronic or terminal conditions, give yourself the power to feel what you need to feel. Staying present and living in the moment doesn’t always mean the moment will be good. However, knowing that it’s okay to have bad days as well as good ones can help ease those anxious feelings and allow you to enjoy those good days even more.

You are not defined by your illness, and you certainly are not alone. Staying positive when faced with some pretty tough conditions will always be an ongoing battle. Grounding yourself within your world — your family, your friendships, your hobbies, and your celebrity crush — can solidify each day as something special and something worth enjoying.

The Positive Effects of Changing Your Sleep

The Positive Effects of Changing Your Sleep The Positive Effects of Changing Your Sleep

You may not feel any immediate effects of missing out on sleep, but if you are consecutively getting less than 7 hours of sleep each night you are making yourself susceptible to sleep deprivation.

The symptoms of being sleep deprived include far more than just feeling tired. If you consistently skip out on a good night’s rest, you can experience a bad attitude, mood swings, a slowed immune system, trouble concentrating, high blood pressure, and a risk for diabetes and other serious conditions.

Putting your health on the line is no joke. You should be serious about getting your 7-9 hours of high-quality, restorative sleep each night. This will improve your life in more ways than just feeling energized. If you work on fixing your sleep routine and consistently getting healthy rest each night, you’ll start to see a lot of beneficial changes in your life.

You’ll have a better outlook on life

Quality sleep is an incredibly important component in keeping your mental health in order. Whether you realize it or not, going through your days feeling tired gives you a negative attitude. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed makes you groggy, moody, and irritable. In fact, severe sleep deprivation can even lead to feelings of depression and anxiety.

When you start getting better sleep more regularly, you’ll find yourself feeling energized and generally more optimistic. Don’t let your exhaustion drag you down; improve your sleep routine to help boost your overall mood for a more enjoyable life.

You’ll be a better employee

Better sleep = better cognitive function. When you’re well rested, you become more alert and have an easier time concentrating. Sleeping can even help improve your memory. A 2010 Harvard study showed that taking the time to sleep on an issue and dreaming can help you reactivate and reorganize information which improves memory and boosts overall performance.

If you’re looking to be a more productive employee, dedicate time to your ZZZs so your brain has the rest time it needs to function better during the day.

You’ll be in better shape

Some of the explanations for being in worse shape when you lose sleep are obvious. When you’re struggling to get through your day you’ll be more prone to pick up sugary snacks or a venti latte. You’ll also be less enthused to work out and be active, and you may choose fast food over a home-cooked healthy meal for the sake of being on low energy.

However, there’s also some science behind it. Being low on sleep triggers a cortisol spike in your body. This stress hormone sends a signal in your body to conserve energy to fuel you, which means your body clings to fat. Being sleep deprived also makes you “metabolically groggy," slowing down your body’s ability to process insulin, a hormone which converts sugar, starches, and other food into energy. A recent study on this found insulin sensitivity to drop by more than 30% when you’re sleep deprived.

So by managing your late nights, you’ll also be able to manage your diet better.

You’ll look better

When you lose sleep, your skin barrier function slows down. This means if you aren’t sleeping enough, your skin isn’t retaining moisture as well as it would with more than seven hours of sleep. You also lose out on the time needed for healing from sun damage. Lingering sun damage makes you more susceptible to skin cancer and it also increases aging.

Of course, there are other factors that affect your skin quality such as genetics, diet, and skincare routine, but quality sleep will help you keep your skin glowing. It turns out that beauty sleep is the real deal, so don’t skimp out on your sleep.

How to improve your ZZZs

Maybe you’re ready to get more serious about your sleep, but you don’t know where to start. Here are some tips to help you start having more healthy, consistent sleep each night:

  • Develop a routine: Help your body fall into a rhythm by going to bed and waking up at the same time each day. This will make it easier to stick to consistent sleep.
  • Try natural remedies: Using essential oils, a warm bath, a cup of herbal tea, or some nighttime yoga stretches can help relax you for sleep.
  • Re-evaluate your mattress: You should be updating your mattress every 10 years for your best sleep. Know the signs your mattress needs an upgrade.
  • Block out noises: Try a white noise machine to mask background sounds if they are disturbing your sleep.
  • Set up your sleep haven: Your bedroom plays a role in how well you sleep. Optimize your bedroom space for a better night’s rest.

Author bio: Laurie Larson is a freelance writer based in Durham, NC. When she isn’t busy writing, she enjoys spending time in nature and her favorite coffee shops.