Lemons Into Lemonade: How To Turn Negative Events Into Positive Expression

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The fact is, many of us rely on creating to express our emotions. All of us on are especially familiar with this process. Creating to express our emotions in any form has potential to be a healthy and life-giving experience.

We can use art and creative writing as a means to turn our negative feelings into a reckoning for positivity. Here are some thoughts about negative experiences and how we can write them into a corner when they try to bully us.

The Dangers of Holding in Our Pain

Our culture glorifies the idea of holding in your emotions. Men are often called weak for being expressive, and women are called crazy for expressing their emotions in any way. Neither of these is fair, as emotions are simply a part of the human experience, and there’s nothing weak about admitting to what you feel.

Here’s the fact: suicide rates are on the rise. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the suicide rate in the United States increased 24 percent from 1999 to 2014. The amount of adolescents — and we are talking early adolescents — that contemplate ending their lives or do end their lives as a result of cyberbullying has increased as well. In a recent UK study, 26 percent of respondents had suicidal thoughts, as a result of cyberbullying.

We have to normalize emotions and offer people practical ways to handle their trials in life. Even social work professionals admit we need to start thinking out of the box. I propose one of the best outlets for pain is through creative writing.

Write It Off

There is something so satisfying about forming the perfect sentence to describe what you’re going through. As long as you’re doing it for you and not to impress others, I think being able to work hard on this transfer from mind to paper is therapeutic. By writing about your negative experiences, you can process them, and learn from them. If you’re comfortable with it — share and relate it to others.

Here are some suggestions to turn your negative experiences into lemonade, through the power of writing.

Poetry Exercises

Poetry, lyric writing, and the like are the best places to employ your artistic license, due to the common “show don’t tell" mentality that’s so popularized in these communities. I personally find it useful to use poetry prompts in order to challenge yourself. The point of doing these exercises is to force you to write down your thoughts in a different way than just “I feel sad" or “I am angry." You also are usually writing less — but it’s harder to get a good flow going. It’s a new form of expression for a lot of freelance writers and similar creatives and can influence your other writings as well.

Descriptive Nonfiction

This is something I struggled with originally due to my past writing song lyrics with metaphors. I had to drop all of that — which I now consider being mostly fluff — and switch to describing the actual scenes around me. Descriptive nonfiction lives in “show don’t tell," more strictly than poetry does.

Retell your story. Use color, shape, and other physical descriptions. How red was your face from embarrassment or hurt? What were other people doing? How they moved, their facial expressions, and how did their face change and move as well? What words were they using? Of course, “show don’t tell" can also make for a traumatic retelling of a hard time, so gauge yourself and see if you can handle it first.

Letters to Yourself

Years ago, during one of my first breakups, I found myself writing letters late before bed. These letters were addressed to me, oddly enough. I never called it journaling or felt like I was writing a diary. I was very clearly writing a letter. Even though I was the recipient of these letters.

Physically writing my thoughts down on paper felt like I was transferring my emotions — like they were physically leaving my body. This was one of my initial experiences with the therapeutic effects of writing, and since then I’ve used writing to help myself through other breakups, loss of friends and family, and stressful life events.

Freewriting

It has been said that “bad writing is good for you," and this may certainly be the case in your situation. Freewriting offers the comfort of no restrictions – just straight up word vomit until you need to eat again.

Some find this to be a positive and freeing experience. It offers them a way to put some elbow grease into releasing their emotions, but they don’t have to worry about anything else. This isn’t typically the writing you show people, but certainly, you can if you would like. It’s your lemonade.

Get a Little Abstract

Use weird prompts and exercises — and by “weird" I mean unusual to you — to stretch your writing and give you new ways to express yourself. The thing with writing prompts is that they work like writing games. You have to use them to finish a piece based on rules and restrictions you don’t typically adhere to. Some of the most satisfying pieces of writing I’ve done have been based on odd prompts, and it always feels like a new way to express my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.

How To Encourage Others

As I mentioned earlier, we need to normalize negative emotions. Make them something to talk about, and make it usual to talk about them. Let’s innovate a bit and give struggling people healthy and positive ways to handle their pain.

We must live by example first, because telling people to talk about their issues doesn’t shut out the voices — external or internal — that make them feel uncomfortable doing so. Being encouraging and transparent, ourselves, can do that.

Now, how much more as a writer can we share our experiences tangibly, especially with other writers? We all struggle with life, so writing them down for others may actually give them something to lean on, and maybe vice versa. Make your own lemonade from life’s hardships.

Ultimately, transparency begets transparency

With that in mind, let’s strive for honesty and humility with each other, so we can destigmatize depression, formulate it into something positive, be it through writing or whatever other form of creation you choose, and gain something from it rather than lose everything to it.

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How have you used writing or creativity to cope with bad experiences? Let me know in the comments below!

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions. Avery lives in the United States.

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How Spirituality & Mindfulness Increase Positivity

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Focusing on one’s personal spirituality, practicing mindfulness and honoring self-care are known for naturally increasing positivity in your life. These three different acts can seem a bit ambiguous to those who are unfamiliar with the terms. This may be due to the fact that they can have many different meanings to different people, which is why they are personal to your own journey.

Spiritual traditions such as prayer, meditation, yoga, and journaling are meant to nourish the soul and allow time for self-reflection. Mindfulness is becoming more consciously aware of your thoughts and emotions in the present moment. Self-care is intentionally restoring your mind, body, and soul with activities such as disconnecting from the outside world, making yourself a cup of tea or treating yourself with a massage. Whatever act of self-service that helps you to reconnect with yourself with your own being and revive your inner light is good.

Physical Benefits

Our present-day culture tends to feed into the need to be fast-moving and overly productive. Refocusing your attention to your inner-self has the ability to positively transform your physical body, especially after a day of hard work. Using nothing more than your breath and focus, meditation has shown to greatly reduce stress and stress-related conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome, post-traumatic stress disorder, and fibromyalgia. If your work allows for you to escape to focus on your personal wellness, be sure to do so — even for as little as five minutes a day. Also, be sure to take advantage of communicating grievances to your manager. You’ll be surprised at how much more motivated and productive you’ll feel, after being honest.

Much like comparing a smoker to a non-smoker, personal choices and habits have an impact on our physical health and our ability to heal our own bodies. Healthcare-related research studies have found that having a connection with spirituality or religion helps ill patients better cope with stress and improves their quality of life. Giancarlo Lucchetti led a study that found that individuals with a strong spiritual connection have an 18 percent reduction in early mortality. This serves as evidence that establishing a spiritual life now may potentially prolong your life.

Positive Self-Image

The mind and body are inextricably connected. Treating the mind and body as a holistic system will aid in creating an overall positive self-image. When your physical body feels healthy and well, so does your mental health and vice versa. Practicing acts of self-care enable you to reinforce positive self-image by accepting that you deserve the best out of life. Self-care does not have to always look the same each time. Integrating routine exercise into your life’s schedule or simply looking at yourself in the mirror and saying the words “I love you" is as intensely impactful as treating yourself to something nice or going on vacation. By treating yourself with love and kindness you are simultaneously manifesting positivity and welcoming it into your life.

Start Young

A large percentage of a young person’s time is spent in school receiving their education. Integrating mindfulness practices into a child’s school day has proven to have many positive impacts. Millions of dollars have been invested into studies on the positive effects of mindfulness practices on students with results showing improved sleep, increased retention rates, and lower anxiety levels. Mindfulness practices not only have positive impacts on them at the time of the practice but the effects carry on throughout schooling into higher education. In one study by the University of California Santa Barbara, it was discovered that integrating mindfulness practices reduced mind-wandering, which helped to improve scores on the reading comprehension portion of the Graduate Record Examination (GRE).

Adapting intentional practices that benefit your mind, body and soul will naturally allow positivity to find you and influence your life. The positive outcomes will spill over onto those who surround you, creating a waterfall effect on all aspects of your life. Welcome and embrace mindfulness, spirituality, and self-care into your everyday routine — at work, school and at home. Every movement, encounter, and thought is an opportunity to intentionally be positive in the present moment.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions. Avery lives in the United States.

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How To Encourage A Child’s Brain Development

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The ability of young children to grasp anything is as fast as the speed of light. This is especially from ages birth to three, as they produce 700 new neural connections every second. If you want them to reach the threshold of their potential, you need to take care of many factors, including relationships, experiences, and environment.

The human brain starts developing early in prenatal life- three weeks after conception. Therefore, brain development is something, no parents can compromise. The skills that your child gains in the early years of development will become responsible for the overall academic performance at school. So make sure your child learns ethical practices and acquires great acumen to live a hassle-free life during adolescence.

One of the major differences between brain development in a child versus an adult is the extent and speed of development. The brain of a young child is highly flexible as compared to adult ones. This means that young children’s brains are more susceptible to learning and enriching influences. However, you cannot ignore that your child can develop cognitive problems if they are brought up in a way that limits its development.

The Most Important – Excellent Nutrition

Good food is fundamental for overall child development. You need to maintain a healthy diet for your children to keep them mentally sound and physically fit. If you do not want to miss out any nutrients, vitamins, and omega acids to name a few, you can contact a pediatrician to make a weekly chart of the meals you are going to provide to your children. Sometimes, young ones are more responsive towards a particular dish, of which you need to take care of when preparing the meal.

Doctors recommend a balanced, nutritious diet, which contains all essential nutrients, carbs, vitamins, fatty acids, etc., in the right proportion. If your child is stubborn when it comes to taking balanced diet, don’t be afraid of being creative. Plenty of finger licking recipes are available online which contain all diet essentials you need to give to your children. Use them and live happily!

Muscle building

Rather than hitting the gym in the adolescence, help your child grow muscles in the early years of development. This is surprisingly easy. Ask your preschooler or kindergartener roll around on the floor for a couple of seconds. Try to change their posture by asking them to roll in both directions. Raise the level of coordination and strength by asking them to hold on to a toy while they roll. Repeat this activity with small breaks in -between. Not only does this make muscles strong but it also fine-tunes all kinds of developmental skills related to balance, coordination, and strength.

Do not ignore the precautions you need to take. Keep the floor clean, free of dust and mosquitoes. Keep an eye on the balance your child makes because ligaments and tendons are weak in the tender age.

Introduce novel materials

Every new experience for your child will act as learning a new chapter of life. So why don’t you keep your child stimulated with new experiences? Let your child discover the new joys of life by experiencing the real world. This can mean everything from bringing new fabrics and materials to touch and play with to bringing him/her along when you leave the house. The idea is to generate tactile stimulation that develops an understanding of how different materials function. This will even enhance spatial awareness as your child learns how to manipulate and combine different toys to play a game.

Keep the eye contact

Eye contact helps build the ciliary muscles of your baby’s eyes. This technique prevents eye problems in the future, and your child will be able to recognize faces early. According to studies, newborns start responding to facial expressions at the age of 2. This shows that your child is developing the skills of problem-solving while being responsive to social interactions. Figuratively, by keeping the eye contact, you are building the confidence of your child and helping them act like leaders.

Final words

Learning is important at every stage of life, though the young age is the best to learn anything. The responsibility of parents is to make the senses of their children stronger by nurturing them at every point in time either on their own or through a level tuition. Practicing developmental activities is key to stimulate your child’s brain development. Remember, children, grasp with every passing second. Therefore, they can even consume wrong elements if negative energy surrounds them. Stay positive to keep their learning ethical by all means.

Author – Danish Wadhwa – India

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Why Positivity Can Be The Best Defense Against Your Demons

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We all have our own inner demons, such as doubt, insecurity, low-self esteem, or a drive to reach perfection – just to name a few. Inherently, it feels impossible to shake them – but there is hope! The number one course of action to eliminate them forever is to channel the power of positivity. Our mindset affects the choices we make and how we perceive life in general. Therefore, the best line of defense is to utilize positivity in our minds.

This is why positivity can be the best defense against your demons:

  1. You stop seeing tunnel vision

Negativity is very limiting. When trapped by it, you only focus on unfavorable circumstances in the present moment as opposed to the possibilities of a better future, the bigger picture, or the bright side of a situation. When you start to think positively, your mind stops limiting itself to perceiving a negative and most-likely, distorted reality. Here, we’re able to see things for what they actually are, not just what we believe them to be. We also learn to stop associating ourselves with strictly negative traits and actually take a step back to view ourselves in our entirety, which is comprised of both good and flawed qualities, not just one or the other.

  1. It improves your overall health

Positivity affects both emotional and physical well-being and health. Emotionally, positivity prevents the symptoms of depression and anxiety and is a natural stress-reducer. In regards to the physical improvements, your immune system becomes less susceptible to sickness and disease since positive thinking triggers a stronger immune response. Furthermore, this also promotes better cardiovascular health. As a result, when both our mind and body are sound, we feel our best and are more inclined to make decisions that make us happy and healthy, not harmful like excessively criticizing or hurting ourselves.

  1. Positivity leads to emotional resilience

Obstacles stop feeling paralyzing with a positive mindset because believing in the best of things, despite the circumstances, helps you to overcome adversity. Negativity cages you in a self-victimizing mindset, which will make you less likely to take action or responsibility for yourself. When one faces difficult situations in their life with positivity rather than negativity, they develop emotional resilience, learn to use healthier coping mechanisms, and take lessons away from the situation rather than simply complain or feel helpless about it.

  1. It encourages productivity

Negativity inherently drains your energy, but positivity increases it. Consequently, this propels you to take more action and put more effort into your obligations in the work or school place. Positivity stimulates brain activity which leads to stronger cognitive function and attention span, which propels you to finish tasks and get things done more efficiently. In other words, you feel eager to accomplish goals one after the other which can translate into your personal life!

  1. Naturally attracts you to positive people

We attract what we are, and that is especially significant in the types of relationships we have in life. When you’re positive, others with a similar thought-process will gravitate towards you. Respectively, this leads to you creating a genuine social circle as well as a reliable support system. Positive people bounce off each other’s energy and uplift one another, not berate or put each other down. Sometimes, the fact that you have a solid group of loved ones with positive attitudes can completely put your demons at rest since they will always remind you that there’s more to you than your flaws.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, positivity will always be the best defense against your demons. It reminds you to think of a better future and improves your overall emotional and physical well-being. Positivity can even disprove therapy myths that would otherwise make you skeptical of changing one’s mindset. At first, it may seem that positivity may seem like a pseudo-inspirational concept, but it annihilates that belief by singlehandedly being the most significant element in a person can welcome into their life, mind, and heart because it changes the way they experience life overall.

Author’s Bio

Trevor is a freelance writer and recovering addict & alcoholic who’s been clean and sober for over 5 years. Since his recovery began, he has enjoyed using his talent for words to help spread treatment resources and addiction awareness. In his free time, you can find him working with recovering addicts or outside enjoying almost any type of fitness activity imaginable.

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Best Ways To Use A Journal To De-Stress

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Technology is advancing quickly but some values and traditions keep up with it while staying the same. One of those traditions is definitely journaling. Young generations find that the beauty of journals and journaling far surpasses blogging and online diary keeping – pen and paper are here to stay.

At the end of a long day, it’s best that you sit down with a cup of tea or coffee, turn off all of your devices and start writing. Not only is journaling popular and beautiful but it also has a therapeutic effect and helps you de-stress.

If you still haven’t decided to pick up the pen and begin, here are some benefits that you’ll notice if you journal every day.

  1. Journaling can help you get rid of negative thoughts

When you put those words on pen and paper, you slowly start to let go of all of your negativity. Words are now on paper, not in your head. You’ll find that it’s a lot easier to go about your life once you release all of your bad energy on the page. It would become easier to de-stress.

This kind of experience is something you would hardly have online since typing does not give the same satisfaction.

One study even says that if you write your thoughts down and then throw them away, you’ll be able to keep them at bay for a while. Of course, thoughts regenerate but once you throw them away, you’ll be able to forget about them, at least a bit.

  1. Journaling is empowering

“Through journaling, you can track your own life and what happened to you, how you felt and what made you sad – it gives you perspective. This new perspective on your life will enable you to draw lessons that you would otherwise miss completely", – explains Carol Garner, a Psychology writer at Bestbritishessays.

Whatever bothers you, write it down and after a while, you’ll be able to see what you can learn from that.

  1. It gives you a chance to spend time without technology

Technology can sometimes have a therapeutic effect on people, especially when they use social media to connect with friends and family etc. However, it’s always a good idea to turn off all of your devices and dive into the wonderful world of writing your thoughts down.

  1. Gratitude journaling reduces levels of stress and makes you happier

Gratitude journaling is a great practice where you write down everything that you are grateful for or happy about in your journal. This is believed to have a therapeutic effect since it draws positive energy and brings it to you. It helps you learn to look out for the better things in life. After a while, you’ll be noticing details that you are thankful for with an ease and all thanks to your journal. It can even help you think less about negative things in your life by simply thinking more about good things.

  1. Give yourself wise advice

Once you notice that there are lessons to be learned in your journal, you’ll see all of your mistakes and wrong steps. Write about it in the third person so you can have some more perspective on the whole situation.

Jason Horn, a Personal Coach at Ukservicesreviews comments: “Journaling about a big decision you’ll have to make or a tricky situation that you are in will help you see it clearly. Then you could give yourself the kind of advice that you give to your friends and listen to what your heart tells you. Journaling has that kind of therapeutic effect on people and it helps them realize what they need to do".

How to Start Writing a Journal and de-stress

There are plenty of ways that you could start journaling. First, you could get an actual notebook and write in or a new email where you’ll send yourself journal entries, or a private blog. After you have decided upon this, you’ll probably wonder what to write and how to write it.

For the beginning, you could use some tools to help you out:

Studydemic or Academized to give you some writing guidance if you don’t think that you are a talented writer.

AcademAdvisor and Bigassignments are online editing and proofreading tools that can be useful to you if you are a perfectionist or if you simply want your journal to be beautiful and mistake-free.

Oxessay is a formatting tool which will give you an excellent insight on formatting – it was recommended by Uktopwriters.

Writingpopulist is a website that will give you plenty of fresh, quality writing tips and advice.

Australian help is a grammar checking tool that will make sure that your text displays no grammar mistakes.

Conclusion

You should definitely start journaling right away – with all of these health benefits, you will learn to de-stress sooner than you think. Let the journal into your life and allow it to guide you through your emotions.

Author’s Bio

Freddie Tubbs is an Australian business writer at Revieweal. Besides, he is running educational blogs at Essayroo and Australianreviewer.

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