How to Have a Strong Marriage?

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Everyone falls in love with someone at least once in his or her lifetime. Here is how you can maintain a strong marriage bond with your spouse.

The marriage is one of the most beautiful bonds a man or a woman gets to experience in his or her life. It may seem a vulnerable and weak bond but at the same time, it is one of the strongest bonds ever. Nowadays, individuals find the love of their life on the social media as well with the help of Optimum Packages.

Apart from social media, different dating sites and matchmaking sites have opened their business of bridging the gap between the two individuals. Whether you belong to the group of individuals who met each other through a friend or a cousin, couple who fell in love in the first sight, two hearts who made a bond on a website or two humans who crossed each other’s path by chance, keeping your bond stronger is only depending on you.

You can find many individuals giving you tips on making your bond stronger and making it free of arguments and fights. Many websites and online forums are full of the content telling the couple the way they should act in order to make their marriage successful and strong.

However, it is not possible to listen to all the opinions and apply them to your marriage. Keeping that in mind, here is a list of the best ways you can make your marriage stronger forever.

Arguments are Healthy in a Marriage

Understand that arguments and fights are healthy for any relationship you can name in this world. Having arguments mean that there is something that you do not know and understand about the other person. They give you a chance to sit together, listen to each other, and understand the situation from each other’s point of view.

When they say, “Where there is love, there are fights", they say right. If you love each other, then you will always be eager to learn more and these fights give you a chance to learn more about each other. Do not give up and learn more from the fights to become better.

Listen to Each Other

Where the majority of individuals in the world love to prove their points to others, be one who is eager to listen to other humans. Science has started listening as the top-most effective way of learning. Learn to listen each other and do not just listen with your ears but your heart and mind open to the words coming your way.

If you manage to stay receptive to the things the other person is explaining, then you will definitely know the way you can make your bond stronger. It is not necessary that you just take out time to listen each other only at the times of fights but listen to the sorrows, tensions, and worries of your partner every day. Ask them how their day went and the issues they are hiding in themselves.

Walk by Their Side

It is important to tell one another that you care and you would never leave them alone but it is even more important to stay true to your words. Prove to them that whatever you say would become your action in the time of need. It is no doubt easy to say the words but the commitment of a person surfaces when he or she stays loyal to the words.

You both will face many issues in your individual and together life. Some problems will try to break your bond while others would try to break you as a person. However, you need to stay strong for yourself and to put your partner back after they are broken. Be the rock-solid pillar of each other when the storm is blowing hard.

Share Your Life

Marriage is not a bond of two bodies but of two souls and two lives. When you get married, do not just welcome your spouse in your home but welcome it into your life and heart. Remember that you both are no longer separate entities but you both make one entity.

Share your lives with each other, share your feelings, issues, happiness, sadness, and materialistic things as well. Make each other a part of yourself and to do so, spend your spare time together. The best way to do so is by enjoying some TV shows together. Get your married life a gift by buying Optimum 400 package today!

Alex Brian

Author’s Bio

Alex Brian is an entrepreneur, marketer, and writer. As Hawaiian resident, he loves beaches and bathing in the sun. That’s where he finds his inspiration to author in-depth guides that teach E-commerce store owners ways to manage, grow and scale their business. In a former life, Alex co-founded a custom menswear company which generates 6-figures in annual revenue through its website and retail.

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Why Self-Love Is a Key to Success and it Helps You Grow

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If someone were to ask you the following question, what would your answer be?

How much do you love yourself?

The answer to this question belongs only to you, and the importance is much higher than you believe. Self-love can have a grand impact on the choices you make in life, the things you are inviting in, and the effect you have on other people.

‘Your life is your own creation. Living on the basis of self-criticism will never bring you to improvement. If you want to achieve the things you aim for, you must learn to love yourself’ – explains Luke Megaton, a psychology writing expert at UK BestEssays.

For those who believe that criticizing yourself is essential to becoming successful, here is the truth behind the two choices:

Self-Love vs. Self-Criticism

Criticizing oneself is a choice, a tendency people have. Many of us see criticism as a tool essential for our improvement since the idea pushes us to live up to our higher standards.

But, what if I told you that you have been wrong all along? Instead of helping you become better, self-criticism makes you akin to sabotage your dreams and goals.

Without self-love, you can only hurt your productivity and performance. By doing this, you are hurting your well-being.

Self-Criticism Holds You Back

Here is how criticizing yourself reflects on your life

  • Self-criticism will make you focused on your flaws and decrease your confidence
  • Self-criticism builds on your fear of failure, which will make you give up easy and lead to rushed decisions
  • When you criticize yourself on regular basis, you are very unlikely to learn from the mistakes you are making

Yes, criticism may be beneficial for you in some cases, but you must find your own limit. As Alexander Pope once said: ‘’To err is human, to forgive, divine’’.

Self-Love Helps You Grow

  • Increases your motivation
  • Boosts your perspective and improves your decision-making skills
  • Self-love improves your relationships by making you happier and more confident
  • Self-love decreases depression and anxiety and boosts your psychological health
  • Makes you resilient, which helps you raise from failure and learn from the mistakes you make

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do to achieve great things in life. Starting with feeling good to looking confident in the eyes of others, you must learn how to love yourself more, and criticize yourself less.

Learning to Apply Self-Love in Your Life

Believe it or not, self-love is a learnable thing. There are so many things in life that will make you feel less worthy than you are. Some of these could decrease your self-confidence and make you judge your decisions.

Sometimes this will be beneficial and help you change the bad things. Although in most cases, letting others kill your self-love is the worst thing you can do.

If you want to improve your life and well-being, here is how you apply and grow self-love in your life.

1. Find your mantra

Have you heard the word mantra’? To fight the stillness and anxiety, practice some meditation and find your mantra. Once you do, return to it every time you need a little boost. It helps you grow your inner peace and empower you.

2. Get yourself some alone time

It is as simple as that – if you want to love yourself, find the time to love yourself. Whether it is a warm, calming bath before bed or drinking your favorite hot chocolate in front of the TV, get yourself some alone time. During this time, love yourself and nobody else.

3. Find support

There will be times in life when you are struggling – we all have such times. However, just because you are having a rough patch doesn’t mean that you should do it alone.

We all need people in our lives, but not just any people. People who value us as individuals, and are positive. Such people will help you get through hard times and grow your qualities.

4. Let yourself be vulnerable

Open up to others, no matter how hard it seems. People spend days and years keeping things to themselves, only to let these things out at the worst time possible. Set some time aside to be vulnerable with the people you love. Seeing people who love you will help you love yourself more.

5. Notice yourself

In times of challenge and doubts, notice yourself. Instead of criticizing your every move when things go bad, seek the positive things you have. We all have them. It makes us grow and develop even more.

Put yourself in the shoes of people who love and admire you, and notice yourself from that position. Who do you see?

6. Write to yourself

Yes, as ridiculous as it sounds, writing to yourself works. You can write yourself a letter or start a diary, but the important thing is to keep the conversation between you and yourself.

Talk to yourself as if you are talking to your dearest friend. Advise ‘your friend’ in tough times and tell them everyone can make mistakes. You can comfort yourself instead of attacking yourself, same as your best friend would do.

7. Make a gratitude list

What are you grateful for? Write down five to ten things you are grateful for each day. It is very simple but very beneficial for your well-being and motivation. If you want to increase your self-love, give yourself good reasons to love yourself.

It can be something as simple as seeing a friend you haven’t seen in a while or eating your favorite ice cream on your day off. Just think of the things you feel grateful for.

Practicing your self-life can make all the difference in your life decisions and success. If you learn to stray from criticism and aim towards appreciating and loving yourself, you can grow and achieve more than you ever hoped for!

Author’s Bio

Warren is a marketing enthusiast and a blogger at UKBestessays.com, who loves music. If he doesn’t have a guitar in his hands, he’s probably embracing new technologies and marketing techniques online! You can meet him on Twitter and Facebook.

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Be Kind to Each Other: 10 Inspiring Acts of Kindness

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Surely, many of us are tired of the selfishness of others, and from the endless series of atrocities that are happening in the world. The news that we hear daily, sometimes make us seriously doubt that a person is generally able to care for someone else except himself. Nevertheless, everything is not so bad. Here to your attention: 10 inspirational acts of kindness and human compassion.

1. The work of Mother Teresa

In 1999, on the eve of the new millennium, during the voting, the Americans recognized Mother Teresa as the most respected woman of the century. According to a survey conducted by CNN, she is admired more than Martin Luther King, John Kennedy, Albert Einstein and Helen Keller.

What makes her special? Her acts of kindness

Mother Teresa, nee Anez Gonzhe Boyadzhiu and named Angel of Mercy, was a missionary and a nun of the Roman Catholic Church. She dedicated her whole life to helping other people. Today, when people think of saints, they usually remember Mother Teresa.

In 1950, Mother Teresa founded the Order of the Missionaries of Mercy. The main task was to take care of the sick, homeless and helpless. In 1979, it was suggested that the reputation and sanctity of Mother Teresa may be somewhat exaggerated. She really dedicated her life to helping people doing random acts of kindness. Though, her homes for the dying sometimes could offer nothing but prayer for the relief of suffering.

Mother Teresa died in 1997.

2. “Linus Project”

The “Linus Project” is a non-profit organization. It distributes conventional and quilted home blankets to sick or injured infants, children, and adolescents in hospitals, shelters, social service organizations and charitable organizations. The goal is simple: to give people a sense of security and comfort when they need it most.

The Linus project in each state has local leaders, and there are volunteers, the so-called “blanketeers”. Their acts of kindness are not great, but inspiring a lot.

Linus Project

For example, in Fayette County, Georgia, volunteers have been sewn, hooked, and then distributed 1155 blankets to provincial children since 2010. In 2012 they sent 147 hand-sewn blankets to children affected by Hurricane Sandy.

3. “Anti-protests”, caused by the Church of Westborough

The Westborough Baptist Church (WBC) is mostly known for its anti-gay performances. More representatives of this church are often seen at various high-profile military funerals. They arrange pickets there, holding banners in their hands with different calling slogans.

One can only imagine what began when this very ambiguous church suddenly announced that their protests are nothing more than an attempt to stir up the public.

Students at Vassar College found out that the Westborough Church was going to hold a picket at their campus. As they were loyal to representatives of the LGBT community, they immediately organized a counter-protest.

Other “anti-protesters” from the Angel Action organization brought three-meter angel wings with them and hid the representatives of the church from the sight of others. Another group, the Patriot Guard Riders, also used “non-violent means of protection” – shields. Therefore they did not allow representatives of the church to hold a picket at the next military funeral.

Bikers against child abuse

4. “Bikers against child abuse”

“Bikers against child abuse” (or BACA) is another non-profit organization. Since 1995, they have been working to protect children from violence and to raise public awareness of the violence against children. Their goal was to ensure the kids who have been physical, emotionally or sexually abused, no longer to be afraid of being injured. Because the absence of fear is an important step on the path to healing. The group also helps to fund therapy and therapeutic activities.

Volunteer bikers from this organization strive to ensure that children feel safe. They also try to help in situations where law enforcement officers, employees of childcare agencies, and other people abuse children cruelly.
By that, they perform wonderful acts of kindness.

Would not you feel safe if you had a big crowd of guys on the Harleys on your side?

5. The work of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation

The work of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation is not only one of the great acts of kindness, but also a dramatic act of charity.

By 2011, Bill and Melinda Gates had already transferred 28 billion dollars to the Fund (that is, more than a third of their fortune).

The fund, for example, has allocated $112 million to the Save the Children organization to help newborns in various “at-risk” groups and 456 million MVI organizations developing new vaccines against malaria.

6. Pope John Paul II forgave his potential killer

A murderer from Turkey named Mehmet Ali Agca has three times shot at Pope John Paul II on St. Peter’s Square in the Vatican. It happened on May 13, 1981. One bullet jumped off the index finger of the Pope and hit him in the stomach. Another touched his right elbow. Later, John Paul II says that he survived only thanks to the divine intervention of the Virgin Mary.

May 17, 1981, just four days after the assassination attempt, the pontiff publicly forgave Agca. He said that he forgave him when he was taken to the hospital in the ambulance. Moreover, in 1983, the Pope visited Agca in prison, where he served his 19-year sentence. During this meeting, John Paul II took his potential assassin by the hand, and forgave him, this time looking into his eyes.

 

7. Nelson Mandela invites his jailer to his inauguration

Nelson Mandela was convicted of sabotage during apartheid in South Africa, after which he spent 27 years in prison on Robben Island.

When in 1990 he finally got out, he had no desire to take revenge on his former jailers. Moreover, one of them he invited to his presidential inauguration, held in the1994 year. A white man named Christo Brand was invited to the 20-year anniversary of the release of Nelson Mandela. Another jailer, James Gregory, also told a lot about his friendship with the famous political prisoner.

 

8. Ivan Fernandez Anaya deliberately loses to Abel Mutai

Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was in the lead in the cross, which was held in the Spanish Navarre in the December 2012 year. The runner thought he had already crossed the finish line, in fact, it was about 10 meters before it.

The Spanish runner, Ivan Fernandez Anaya, who claimed second place, could have taken gold, but he did not. Instead, Fernandez Anaya caught up with Mutai and gestured for him to finish first. Later, Fernandez Anaya said that he did not deserve the first place, and preferred honesty to victory.

9. Time-sparing possibilities for students

People, who devote their lives to education, in most of the occasions are limited in time.

When you are young, the world tries to give you a lot of different possibilities and magic moments to tell about in old age. In other words, it is a crime to waste the precious time only on the studying. Programmers and professional writers know how to fix this problem; they have invented special websites, like Edu Birdie that give the fast writing help. Everyone may use them if one feels the necessity.

10. The Christmas Truce

By December 1914, the First World War had already claimed almost a million lives, but for one day – Christmas, a truce was established between British and German soldiers.

The truth of the story is not confirmed still, and how much its details are exaggerated. The British soldiers in the trenches on the front suddenly heard a familiar motive coming from the German trenches that were nearby.
It was “Silent Night” (English “Silent Night”), with which the unauthorized fraternization between the enemies began.

The Christmas Truce

During the Christmas truce, there were no shots or explosions. Soldiers, who were tired of the war, simply shook hands, and then shared cigarettes and threw canned food throughout the Western Front.

Author’s Bio

Helen is a prolific writer who inspires other people to find their predestination in life. Her life motto is, ‘Do what you care for, love what you carry out.’
She also believes that each individual on the planet has special expertise, and the only complication is to be open in order to see this talent in its full volume.

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Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ I Love People and People Love Me

Chapter 5 ~ I Love People and People Love Me

This article contains fragments from the chapter 5 of the book Magic Sparkles of Happiness.

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“There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer….

No door that enough love will not open

No gulf that enough love will not bridge,

No wall that enough love will not throw down….

It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble,

How great the mistake,

Sufficient realization of love will resolve it all.

If only you could love enough,

You would be the happiest and most powerful being in the universe." – Emmet Fox

I love my work and my work loves me.

I love life and life loves me. I love people and people love me. I love appreciation and appreciation loves me.

I love my daily activities and my daily activities love me. I love the Universe and the Universe loves me. I love books and books love me. I love my city and my city loves me.

I love self-love and self-love loves me. I love grace and grace loves me. I love serenity and serenity loves me. I love relief and relief loves me.

These affirmations make you feel love.

Feeling love makes you happy.
This self-training makes you conscious of how many things you actually love that you were not too aware of. What we love, we also have, in our reality.
So whatever you have, including the fact that you have yourself, you love.

You need to loudly say it or write it on a piece of paper that you love it. You might think you don’t feel that you love what you have since you never took the time to say that you love them.

All is love in this world; therefore what you have, you already have loved them. So say it, to yourself, say that you love everything you already have.
Bring this love into your consciousness. It is a long list, right? And is a long list for everyone. Every one of us already has a long, long, long list of things we already love.

We should take more time to become aware of them, to count them. And we will get used to become mesmerized of what we have. We will feel content, blessed and serene.

“What you seek is seeking you" – Rumi

Happiness is an energy process created by a higher force.

It exists in our world. Maybe in other worlds this process doesn’t exist. Although I think this higher force made it universal since it is one of the most beautiful creations and God loves this process very much.

I am comparing doing daily happiness with doing daily archery. Do we know what archery is? Yes we do… but in general. We acknowledge (validate) the existence of archery in the world. Same with happiness, we know it exists… but in general.

We acknowledge (validate) the existence of happiness in the world. But to acknowledge it, is not the same as to feel it. How do we feel it, if we don’t know much about it?

Related to archery, we could ask ourselves “How can I shoot every day from a bow?". Because not many of us know much about archery, we don’t know how to practice it, do we?

Same with happiness, we can ask ourselves “How can I be happy every day?". Let’s suppose we don’t know how to shoot with the bow and let’s also suppose that we don’t know how to be happy. What do we do next?

(…)

Among other insights, which I wanted to reveal through this parallel archery/happiness, I also wanted to prove that you cannot take happiness for granted.

Nobody was born with the archery knowledge.

Nobody was born a fully prepared adult which perfectly knows the happiness knowledge. We were all children.
Nobody knew from birth how to shoot with a bow. Nobody knew from birth how to persevere with his efforts, in feeling daily happiness.

Also, nobody can shoot with a bow in your place and then make you feel like you have shoot with the bow.
Nobody can be happy for you and then make you feel that you were happy in your life. Either you shoot with the bow or you don’t.

You just see other people doing it.

Either you initiate the happiness process and feel it or you don’t, you just see other people doing it.

Of course, archery and happiness are two different knowledge that they represent. You might think that archery is easier to learn than happiness.
But in my opinion, you have much more chances of practicing happiness in your life than archery.

There are more people practicing happiness in the world than people who practice archery. Eventually, each of us feel happiness in their life and not many of us will ever shoot with a bow in their life.
Happiness is at everyone close grasp. Take it and be happy!

“Ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you" – Hafiz

Homework 5:

Allow me to give to you another homework to build your own personalized happy moment:

Make your own blessings replacing the sparkles with your own words:

I LOVE * * * * * AND * * * * * LOVES ME

“You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master." – Miguel Ruiz

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

Books by the same author:
Hortensio and the Magic Stories
Leader versus Manager

 

Happy Couples Habits

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What makes some couples “perfect”? The way they treat each other? Do they complement each other? Or is it the fact that they change each other’s imperfections into strength? First of all, when it comes to relationships, there is no standard of “perfection”, everyone can have a happy and perfect couple in their own way, all depends on what their definition of happiness is.

Habits Happy Couples Have

In my case, in my relationship, perfection is defined by those things which we do with each other. Things we fully know but never mention, because we are completely different from each other. Being comfortable just by keeping each other’s efforts in mind.

  1. They are not affected by the outside world

Truly strong and content partners have a very healthy habit of standing with each other, even if no one is against them or try to stop them, they will remain in support. In the outside world, there are good and bad, some people are going to try to come between you and your partner. They can try to put strange misconceptions about your partner in your head. This is the place where you stand by your partner without any remorse. This is the true love – staying there for one another.

Obstacles can come in your relationship in any form and size. There might be something that doubts you about your partner’s past. It revolves around the society with disagreement in your immediate relationships. Trust your inner guidance and check if you feel so but only because you want it. Not because social pressure.

  1. Complete acceptance

Happy and strong couples accept each other without any need to completely change one another. Anyone who really loves you, will not try to change anything about you (unless it is a habit of life-threatening). They will care about the differences between you. They support you to be the person you are.

People with happy relationships realize that in fact by changing each other, they are not different from robbing. That, in turn, makes the relationship so far last. They appreciate equality, respect differences and permit each other to have their own full place.
This happens when we are really ourselves and are comfortable in our skin so that we can be satisfied with our life. A person who feels such satisfaction, it will, in fact, lead a healthy relationship.

  1. More than enough time without asking for it

Time is one of the most priceless gifts in the world, especially in the busy world of today. If you can still take enough time for your partner, you are telling them (indirectly) that they mean the world to you.

There are only a few things in this life that we can give and never get back: words that have said and given time. Happy couples know this very well when it comes to spending time with each other. They also respect each other when they take their important time alone.

  1. They listen to each other

Happy colleagues listen to one another, really listen to words and understand them. They speak patiently and speak when they know that they need it, this is the most important part. A strong sense of communication is one of the most important factors of the long-lasting relationship. Even when you do not even know what they are talking about, it will give them comfort if you pay attention to them.

  1. No-Fault Games

Powerful couples do not blame each other. Accept their mistakes whole heartedly and learn from it.

Being committed among many other things in the demand of relationship, you see what you did wrong, how you can modify it and prepare for it. When you accept your mistakes and apologize, it ease your burdens and gain respect.
Happy couples accept their falls and have a healthy communication and approach for every situation.

This is the reason why they swallow their pride and accept their mistakes instantly – for the last long period. This deep sense of responsibility always happens between two people, who share the healthy, strong bond of love and respect.

Author ~ Vishuka Chaudhary

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