5 Positive Thoughts Your Heart Needs Before Going To Sleep

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Rejection, disagreements, conflicts, self-pity, hurt all these companions are hard to let go of.
After a hard day’s work when you reach home, all these emotions finally get to you. Your heart needs to let go all the burdens.

You have to maintain a professional, emotionless facade at your workplace or institutes. But the mask falls off when you reach home.

You fell the overload of these repressed emotions and going to sleep with them in mind can really be dangerous for you.

It’s not a joke. It could lead you straight to depression.

Save your day from negative thoughts.

Just think of it this way. Every one must have a smartphone, and you need to charge it periodically after the battery drains.

It’s similar to your body and your mind. Giving into the negative thoughts is like saying, “Screw it! Let the phone die. What do I need it for?"

Just like you need your phone for almost everything today, you need your body and mind, both of them working in sync.

So, you shouldn’t just satisfy your physical cravings but emotional ones as well.

So, when you go to bed next time. How about you feed your soul and mind as well? Watch for your heart needs.

Here are 5 positive thoughts that will help you with your goal.

1. “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."

What you have to understand here is the difference between addiction and passion. When you are passionate about what you have planned you should not divert from the path even in face of some obstacles or roadblocks.

Addiction will lead you astray. It could be your addiction to toxic things that appear toxic like alcohol, drugs, gambling or it could be something completely harmless as watching movies all the time.

But both of them lead you astray.

Gambling is a perfect example for us to explore here.

Suppose someone who is good at numbers decides that gambling is a job for him. But is he being smart about it?

Is he investing the money he earned or just gambling it away in a string of wins and losses?

Is he drinking it all away? When it stops being productive in all sorts of ways (financial, spiritual, etc), should seek new and positive things.

The right time to move on is when the passion turns into addiction. No matter how hard it is welcome the new life that is waiting for you.

2. “Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future."

Hope springs eternal or does it?

How many times have you felt so lost that you never thought that you could wake up the next day? That you just couldn’t take it anymore. Why do these things keep happening to me?

This is when you start to get the feeling of doom and you feel like someone is actually telling you ‘abandon hope all ye who enter here.’

When it happens why don’t you try saying this to yourself?

“Well, boohoo. I’m so sorry your feelings are hurt, Princess."

You are going to get hurt. There’s no way around it. Sulk for a few days if you have to but there will come a time when you have to say enough is enough and get over it.

Let your experiences shape you. If you just broke up with someone you might feel like relationships are not for you. Think about this, would you have been happy with that person in long term? Why did it not work out? What does your heart needs?

You are not the reason it didn’t work out. Things were just not meant to be. You were not suited for each other. So, rather than giving up on relationships altogether, why don’t you learn why you didn’t suit and avoid that in the partner you next choose?

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3. “Storms make trees take deeper roots"

This is a new one but you must have heard about how “Even the stars need darkness to shine."

This thought means mostly the same thing.

When you weather the storm you emerge a victor. Because even when everything else was blown away by the storm, you stood strong and kept control on the thing.

You did not let the storm blow you away like it did all the other things in sight. It only made you take deeper roots.

So, congratulate yourself that you are still standing strong. You can hold on for far much longer and be this amazing individual that you are.

Isn’t it a good thing to tell yourself before you fall asleep?

It is.

4. “IF you are searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror."

If you are looking for a partner because you feel that he/she can give a new and better direction to your life then think again.

Or better yet why don’t you find a mirror and take a good look at the person who can actually do that for you?

You are the only one who can decide what to do with your life. No one else can help with it. You can try yoga and go for spiritual retreats but they will only work as deep down as you have made the choice to do it.

Next time you look in the mirror don’t admire yourself, for a change think about what kind of changes you want to happen in your life and how you can go about making them.

“Mirror Mirror on the wall who’s gonna change it all?"

You. The answer is always going to be you.

5. “Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else."

Here’s another thought worth remembering.

Remember seeing a girl/guy out there and thinking wish I looked like her/him?

Do not feel sorry for yourself and you actually think about it. They might look cool but they could be plastics. There are many people out there who look just like them.

And then there is you. You might not have the same style or you might not like putting much effort in what you look like but you are you.

You are unique, the way you dress defines you. It is what sets you apart. Why do you want to be clones of other people running out there? Be yourself and enjoy being it.

Here’s the thing. If you go looking for negative things you will find them just the same way if you go looking for positive things you will find them.

And you will make mistakes along the way. Sometimes you will want to give up and say, “I can’t carry the facade of being happy, I do it every day at work or outside the house. Why do I have to keep it up even at home? I need a break."

To clear things up. A facade is a mask that you put up to fool others. And no matter how hard you try, you can’t fool yourself about your real feelings and emotions.

What you are doing at home is not a facade it is you trying to feed your soul with positive energy. These are just a few positive thoughts. If you go looking you will find so much more. So, think one positive thought a day or a month before you go to sleep.

Don’t just say it out loud and go to sleep. Feel the thought, understand it and it will help you.

Author ~ Ari Banayan

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What Pleasant Words Should You Tell Your Parents Every Day?

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Just like most of the parents do their best to make their children happy, the children aim at returning this happiness to their parents. Though at times, both fail.
Our parents love us in spite of anything. If your mother and father are still alive, don’t miss the opportunity to make them a little happier every moment. Such occasions are multiple. There is no need to conquer the world to make them smile. For your family, you are always the best, and they need no proofs. Gain enough to become happy yourself.

To make your mother and father happier, you should be ready to be a bit more attentive to them and contact them more often. Your family should feel you care about the connection. This is not even about actions but about the positive words that you should address to them regularly.

Words of appreciation and gratitude

We’ve got a lot of reasons to thank our parents every single day. The very first one is that thanks to them we’ve come to this world and were cherished, protected, and supported enough to become healthy and happy.
We need to keep it in mind and show our gratitude to our mothers and fathers for their daily care.

Not all the parents cope with this task. You were blessed to get the ones who overcame all the obstacles to give you good memories of a warm family atmosphere. The chain of such pleasant words can be endless. They loved you despite your behavior. Therefore were always there to give a helping hand in childhood, in adolescence, and even now when you are quite an adult.

Words of understanding

Tell your parents you accept, love, and respect them as they are. It assumes you understand all their weaknesses, strange desires, aspirations, and ideas, though, you may not share them. Everyone has his own story in which every turn of the plot is inscribed in the book of fate. This is how you became who you are. All your ups and downs, disappointments, abuses, betrayals, pain, divorces, and so on contributed to who you are now.

The same with your mother and father. They have a unique path which formed their personalities. Life was not always pleasing them. Broken families and daily difficulties you have no idea about, made them bring some bitterness into your life too.
Just take them as they are and show that you do understand they have reason to act or behave in their way. You do not need to approve, just say in positive words that you understand!

Words of regret

Many of us assume apologizers are weak people who don’t stand conflicts and will merely sacrifice their opinion for the sake of a bad peace. It is completely wrong. Do you realize how much strength it takes to admit you were wrong? Most of us overstep the mark at times, but we should harness our willpower and tell our parents that we are sorry. This is a must.

Apologize for your least pleasant words or actions. You’ll reduce the influence of the negative energy brought into your life and the life of your parents by those undesirable words or actions. It takes little and means so much!

Your parents love you despite anything, but your duty is to show them you value that tender attitude. Studying overload can hardly be an excuse for your misbehavior. Browse this site to find a reliable writer to redirect some part of your writing assignments, but be gentle with your parents. Parents should see you do understand the influence of your rudeness on them and that you will not let it ride if you can reduce the bitter aftertaste of your communication. Express your sorrow to make your relations stronger.

Words of forgiveness

You should not wait for years for your parents to understand their guilt to forgive them some actions or attitude. Hence, the sooner you learn to forgive, the better. You need to understand, that they were striving for your happiness even using the unnecessary restrictions, strict bans, and the carrot and stick policy.

Yes, they chose the wrong methods, but you will not become happier nursing a grudge for years. Tell your parents that you let it go. That does not mean you forgive them to get ready for the next potential hurt. Just on the contrary. Acting this way you destroy the blocks in your relationships giving a chance for more meaningful continuation based on love, respect, and trust.

Words of truth

Inform your family of your real feelings and thoughts. Do not think you can only share your feelings with your parents when they are as bright and sunny as the sun. You can share the reasons for your gloomy mood as well. Be frank with your parents as for their failures and when they were successful.
Tell them what you appreciate most of all and what you can hardly stand. This is a conversation you need to dare. It takes efforts, but the result is just awesome as this way you can improve your relationships.

These are the main positive words we cannot afford omitting if we do care about the people who gave us birth. Some of them can be spontaneous. Others demand preparation and inner determination. But all of them are the obligatory elements of our daily communication with parents.

Author’s Bio

Interested in the science of the relationship between people, Jeremy Raynolds spent his college years studying psychology. Thanks to this base, he reached a keen understanding of the subject and is offering his helping hand to students who faced troubles with writing assignments.

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Harnessing the Power of Words

I love words! I love reading words. I love writing words. I love studying words. I love words by themselves when they make funny sounds like, “plop," “sizzle," or “catamaran." But what I love about words the most is that they can describe ideas that are bigger than what I am able to perceive in my 3-dimensional reality.

I can read words to describe the things I CAN see, but can’t explain, like gravity or photosynthesis. And there are the words that describe things I CAN’T see like quantum physics, God, and the meaning of life. Words can also describe something I may never see in this 3D reality. I may never see a flying unicorn pooping rainbows in the clouds, but there are words to create that image, as I just did. Therefore, in my mind, the unicorn exists.

And there lies my fascination with words: endless possibilities

In the world of words, anything can happen. From the tiniest who in Whoville to the ever-expanding infinite source of all-that-is, and everything in between, all can be explained with words. (Except for the “ineffable.") And so for the last few years, I was absorbed in a world of words.

Reading, writing, and listening to words all day, I got lost in the world of ideas and stories. Some stories were so inspiring that I beat myself up for not being “that hero" myself. Other stories were just so fun to imagine, I lost touch with reality. Either way, I lived in my head, and neglected the “real world." I forgot there is life outside of words. I forgot I had a body, and I gained a novel’s worth of weight. I finally I realized it was time to reclaim my life in “reality".

So, I dragged my sedentary butt to a yoga studio

I didn’t realize how far I had let my body fall off the radar, but I was stiff and creaky. I begrudged all the things my body couldn’t do in class. Then one day I had a teacher who spoke my language. She instructed us on how to do the “tree" pose. We faced a window that overlooked a pond, and we were guided to pick a tree to gaze at.

“Be the tree," she said, as we stood on one foot. There was something romantic about the idea of becoming the tree, and I felt like I had made a long-lost connection with an old friend. I was a tree, and the tree was me. And like photosynthesis, I transformed that idea into energy.

In another session, the instructor was trying to get us to pull our shoulders back, but instead of saying pull your “shoulders back," she said, “squeeze your wing-blades." My heart instantly took flight. Shoulder blades are shoulder blades, but unicorn wings, (or angel wings) are magical! I had never thought of my body as magical before.


Suddenly, being aware of my body was fun!

I imagined myself flying over hill and vale suspended by my “wing" blades. There was something heroic in that image. It instantly reminded me of riding my bike as a kid, when I pretended I was riding a horse through a sun-kissed savannah. And here I was as an adult on my hands and knees envisioning myself as a unicorn. Eventually, I learned to play with other ideas inspired by poses, such as warrior and happy baby.

What I learned is that the thing about words, is they are just the “carrier of meaning." They are not the thing itself. As Alan Watts said, “the menu is not the meal." You can’t drink the word, “coffee." But you can use the word “coffee" to order a cup of coffee that you CAN drink. And if you are at certain coffee shops, you can even order a unicorn coffee drink.

And then I remembered reading various spiritual texts that talked about speaking words to create things into existence. Both the Bible and Vedic texts have phrases that say, “In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God (Brahman), and the word was God (Brahman)." And of course, Genesis states, “God SAID let there be light."


Through speech, the word became flesh

And that is how I realized a fun way to use words to embody a magical life. So here is a way that I’ve been playing with words to speak the reality I want to live in my existence.

Pick some powerful words that you want to feel, and speak them. Let your body be the bookmark. Overlay the sparkly feeling of the word you want to embody in everything you do. Speak the words, and feel the meaning in your body. Here are some examples:

“Shake it off." shake off feelings of resentment, self-doubt, or any other bugger. Literally, shake your body and envision yourself sloughing off that old skin.

“Jump for joy!"

Literally, jump, and feel the joy. Speak the word, jump and feel the joy!

“Reach for the stars"

This reminds me of the closing statement of Casey Kasem, but stretch your arms to the sky and imagine reaching for the stars. What star do you want to pull from the sky? Put a power word in the star, and put it in your pocket. It will always be there.

“Grow / Expand"

Take a deep breath and envision your lungs as well as your awareness growing and expanding. Let your awareness expand beyond your body as you fill your lungs with everything around you, including the breath of trees and gas of stars.


“Leap to new heights"

Take the leap… take some leaps in your house, and envision the thing you want in life that you are leaping towards.


“Love" Love yourself

How do you love yourself? Treat yourself to a sensory experience. Love the tea you drink. Love the bath. The power of touch has been proven to release oxytocin and create a sense of calm. Try gently brushing your fingers on the inside of your forearms, and send love to yourself. Feel the tingly sensations. It is love.


“Tall and Light (and light)"

These are the words I use to correct my posture. I imagine myself tall like a tree grounded in the earth, and light like a feather suspended from heaven. The point is to sense the “space" — that quantum airiness— between the vertebra and stand tall. Do not be weighted by gravity, but light on feet. Be confident and also be a light in the darkness. Be a beacon of light.


“Be a pineapple"

I had to throw this in for my daughter who loves pineapples: The saying goes, “Stand tall, wear a crown, and be sweet on the inside." All that metaphorical goodness contained in a tropical fruit!


And my favorite: “Sparkle!"

In everything I do, I try to imagine “sparkle." Sometimes I incorporate into my breathing exercise envisioning sparkly light filling up my body with glitter. Sometimes I look for “sparkle" when I wash dishes and the sunlight catches the suds and sparkles. Be the sparkle, or find the sparkle. But if you focus on sparkle, find a way to embody or discover sparkliness in your life.


The opportunities to link fun words and images into your day-to-day living will give you a fresh new way to live in your world. (And help keep your mind from wandering into the bad neighborhoods of self-doubt and negativity.) You can use the words to imbue magic with everything you do. What other fun words can you speak into existence?

Kari Erkkila

Author’s Bio

Kari Erkkila is a recovering perfectionist who loves to play with words and art. Positive Words have become a favorite tool for exploring how language can be used to create a joyful life and a better world. Follow her journey on Instagram (Stink Big and Skurlfriend), or join the Facebook group, Stink Big!, a community for people who THINK big thoughts about being creative, but have been too afraid of “stinking."


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What kind wishes can you say to your family at Christmas?

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Christmas is a blissful time. We are celebrating the birth of Jesus and having the most peaceful time with our friends and family. But aside from fun and pleasure, there are a lot of holiday to-do’s without which the celebration just can’t be perfect. And one of the most important things to do is to sign Christmas cards.

Whether you lack ideas, which merry Christmas wishes to say to your dearest ones, we prepared a guide for you to make the best Christmas card sayings this year.

  1. Decide on purpose of writing

Creating a touchy message won’t be a time-consuming activity if you take time to think what is your purpose of writing. Of course, the primary purpose is to congratulate your beloved ones with this blissful holiday.

But what exactly do you want to say them? What kind wishes and words your relatives need? Make yourself a great cup of hot tea and think about what your dearest want to hear from you on Christmas day.

  1. Start with short greeting

The first thing you should write on the card is Xmas greeting. Make your opening festive and exciting to keep the recipient’s interest heated. You can write usual “Merry Christmas!" or “Happy Holidays!". Few kind words will be enough for the beginning.

  1. Add a personalized message

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If you are writing a festive card for your family member, you are probably close to that person. That means you have many precious moments of fun and happiness shared with this person in the past. This will show the recipient that you enjoy reminding yourself those good times.

Personalize the card with sentiments using details and some information only you two know. Tell about some great news, events that are coming up and plans for holidays. The recipient will appreciate your sincerity.

  1. Make it humorous

Jokes are good at uplifting someone’s state of mind. You can look for some Christmas jokes on the Internet as easy as find help with coursework online or print a funny card that will make the recipient laugh.

Winter holidays are a time when no one can be sad or depressed. And giving funny festive card is your perfect method to cheer someone up. Write a few funny lines if you are sure that recipient will enjoy your joke.

  1. Write some religious lines

Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Jesus. Some people honor the religious side of the holiday. It will be great to add some Bible verses and religious saying about the birth of God’s Son if you are sending your card to the person who celebrates their faith.

  1. Use festive quotes to spread the magic of holiday

Quotes, either funny or wise, can bring inspiration your beloved ones during holidays. Winter holidays mark the beginning of New Year and bring new hopes and expectations. Motivate your closest people to believe in themselves and fulfill all the resolutions in the upcoming year with heartfelt quotes.

  1. Back to classics

Classic Christmas card messages are always a heartwarming way to wish all the best for the ones you love. A classic message is suitable for just everyone. Here is a list of famous classic Christmas greeting that will make your relatives feel happy and grateful.


Christmas Wishes

  • Have a holly, jolly Christmas!
  • May the gladness of Christmas give you hope!
  • Have a silent night, holy night.
  • In winter snows let’s all be jolly!
  • And so I’m offering this simple phrase: Merry Xmas to you!
  • Ho-ho-hope you have been good this year!
  • All I need for Xmas is you!
  • Have yourself a merry little Christmas, let your heart be light!
  • Noel, Noel, born is the King of Israel.
  • May your days be merry and bright!
  • May all your Christmases be wonderful!

Once your wishes are carefully written, don’t forget to sign the card. Write a few warm closing words and add your name to the recipient to remember your wishes. Prepare a cute festive envelope and place your card inside.

If you open your heart and write the kindest words, the recipient will be grateful to have such caring person like you in their life. Share your sincerity and happiness with others and your winter holidays will be the warmest time of the year!

Author’s Bio

Joshua Robinson is the freelance writer who works for Edu Birdie since 2011. He graduated from the Dudley College of Technology where he did his Media course. Such qualification allowed him to write papers on the various topics and become the favorite of the clients. Six years experience of working as a writer broadened his horizons considerably, and he really enjoys doing what he does.

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Magic Sparkles of Happiness ~ I Love People and People Love Me

Chapter 5 ~ I Love People and People Love Me

This article contains fragments from the chapter 5 of the book Magic Sparkles of Happiness.


“There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer….

No door that enough love will not open

No gulf that enough love will not bridge,

No wall that enough love will not throw down….

It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble,

How great the mistake,

Sufficient realization of love will resolve it all.

If only you could love enough,

You would be the happiest and most powerful being in the universe." – Emmet Fox

I love my work and my work loves me.

I love life and life loves me. I love people and people love me. I love appreciation and appreciation loves me.

I love my daily activities and my daily activities love me. I love the Universe and the Universe loves me. I love books and books love me. I love my city and my city loves me.

I love self-love and self-love loves me. I love grace and grace loves me. I love serenity and serenity loves me. I love relief and relief loves me.

These affirmations make you feel love.

Feeling love makes you happy.
This self-training makes you conscious of how many things you actually love that you were not too aware of. What we love, we also have, in our reality.
So whatever you have, including the fact that you have yourself, you love.

You need to loudly say it or write it on a piece of paper that you love it. You might think you don’t feel that you love what you have since you never took the time to say that you love them.

All is love in this world; therefore what you have, you already have loved them. So say it, to yourself, say that you love everything you already have.
Bring this love into your consciousness. It is a long list, right? And is a long list for everyone. Every one of us already has a long, long, long list of things we already love.

We should take more time to become aware of them, to count them. And we will get used to become mesmerized of what we have. We will feel content, blessed and serene.

“What you seek is seeking you" – Rumi

Happiness is an energy process created by a higher force.

It exists in our world. Maybe in other worlds this process doesn’t exist. Although I think this higher force made it universal since it is one of the most beautiful creations and God loves this process very much.

I am comparing doing daily happiness with doing daily archery. Do we know what archery is? Yes we do… but in general. We acknowledge (validate) the existence of archery in the world. Same with happiness, we know it exists… but in general.

We acknowledge (validate) the existence of happiness in the world. But to acknowledge it, is not the same as to feel it. How do we feel it, if we don’t know much about it?

Related to archery, we could ask ourselves “How can I shoot every day from a bow?". Because not many of us know much about archery, we don’t know how to practice it, do we?

Same with happiness, we can ask ourselves “How can I be happy every day?". Let’s suppose we don’t know how to shoot with the bow and let’s also suppose that we don’t know how to be happy. What do we do next?


Among other insights, which I wanted to reveal through this parallel archery/happiness, I also wanted to prove that you cannot take happiness for granted.

Nobody was born with the archery knowledge.

Nobody was born a fully prepared adult which perfectly knows the happiness knowledge. We were all children.
Nobody knew from birth how to shoot with a bow. Nobody knew from birth how to persevere with his efforts, in feeling daily happiness.

Also, nobody can shoot with a bow in your place and then make you feel like you have shoot with the bow.
Nobody can be happy for you and then make you feel that you were happy in your life. Either you shoot with the bow or you don’t.

You just see other people doing it.

Either you initiate the happiness process and feel it or you don’t, you just see other people doing it.

Of course, archery and happiness are two different knowledge that they represent. You might think that archery is easier to learn than happiness.
But in my opinion, you have much more chances of practicing happiness in your life than archery.

There are more people practicing happiness in the world than people who practice archery. Eventually, each of us feel happiness in their life and not many of us will ever shoot with a bow in their life.
Happiness is at everyone close grasp. Take it and be happy!

“Ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you" – Hafiz

Homework 5:

Allow me to give to you another homework to build your own personalized happy moment:

Make your own blessings replacing the sparkles with your own words:

I LOVE * * * * * AND * * * * * LOVES ME

“You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master." – Miguel Ruiz

Author’s word

This book contains positive affirmations that make you feel happy. I recommend you to read throughout the chapters, taking each sentence, one by one. The sentences are arranged in a certain serene flow but can also be read separately.

The writing of this book has begun with my daily writings. I had some blissful, full of love, mesmerizing days when I just felt that I want to connect my own being with positive, high and strong words. Then connect myself with everything around me, connect my consciousness with the reality outside me. In this state I began to write this book.

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