How to Discover Your Why to Get Opened to Success

discover

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how." – Friedrich Nietzsche

Nietzsche’s work has often been misquoted and misinterpreted. But let’s stick to this specific quote for now… It triggers something in you, doesn’t it? When you know where you’re headed, you will find the strength to stay on the right path. No defeat has the power to shake your world.

How do we find that why, so we’ll stay strong in the how?

We live, work, and have relationships. Also, have friends. None of it feels exactly right. We’re often exhausted, angry, unmotivated, confused… practically helpless. Do you know what the reason for the negative state of being is? Having no clear reason for our existence.

Most of us haven’t discovered our why because we’re afraid it might be too challenging for us. So we remain in that zone of comfort, living a life that doesn’t make us happy.

How do you make things right? It all starts with discovering your why. Let’s see how you can do that.

  1. Define Your Own Vision of Success

How do you envision success? When you perceive someone as successful, you surely don’t feel that way just because they have money. Success is more. Is about traveling and seeing the world? Or about doing the thing you love? Is it about starting a beautiful family? Maybe it is about having a cozy home?

Define what success means to you. From there on, you’ll be able to start to discover your reason for living.

2. Define Your Current Priorities

  • Are you happy with what you have now? If yes, what are the things you’re happy about? If no, what are the things that make you unhappy?
  • What makes you successful or unsuccessful?
  • Would you change something in your life?
  • What current priorities should you abandon? What priorities should you set for your future?

Don’t cheat! Be honest with yourself. The answers will help you get on the right track.

3. Find Your Current Passion

Maybe you were truly passionate about your profession before, but you lost the enthusiasm somewhere along the way. It happens. Our passions may change over the years, but that change doesn’t happen with our true calling.

Look for the one thing you’re into right now. Don’t be afraid of revealing your current passion. Find ways to move things in that direction.

4. Ask and Answer the Right Questions

Did you discover a specific goal through the above-listed methods? Here are few more questions for you to answer:

  • Why do you want to achieve this goal?
  • What do you hate about your current way of life, your position in it, and your job?
  • Will your life get better once you achieve this goal?
  • Do you have to sacrifice anything to achieve the goal? Will you find the strength to do it?
  • What are the things that you’ll gain as soon as you reach this goal?

These questions will lead you to the answer to the ultimate question: is this your why?

5. Write a Personal Essay

You often forget about the brightest ideas when you don’t note them down. That’s why it’s important to write about your goal.

A personal essay will open your eyes to what your why is and how you can start living in accordance with that calling.

“Personal essays have the power to reveal the thoughts and feelings we’re hiding from ourselves", agrees Paul Clarkson, a writer at AU BestEssays. “In fact, I recommend writing plenty of them. If possible, write one every day. It doesn’t matter how well you can write. This will be a personal practice that no one will grade. It’s all about understanding who you really are and what you need to do now to change for the better."

6. Look for the Meaning

How does your job fit into society? How is your role important not only for you but for other people as well? Is that meaning valuable?

A teacher has a meaning. They are educating different generations of students and they are bringing them into the real world. Every profession has its meaning, but it’s important for you to find the purpose of what you do. Do you believe in that role, or would you like to do something else with your life?

7. Stay Confident

Set all doubt and disbelief aside. When you’re looking for your purpose in life, you’ll definitely face doubts. No matter how strong they are, they shouldn’t stop you from giving your why a try. Think about it: you might have discovered your purpose. That deserves your commitment.

Identifying your calling is not the easiest thing in the world. Even when you find your why you’ll face many challenges on the journey. But guess what: it’s the only right thing to do.

Author’s Bio

Lynn Adamsen is a freelance writer and editor from Edinburgh who has helped individuals and businesses with their writing challenges for almost a decade now. Now she is taking full advantage of the web copywriting course. Feel free to get in touch with@lynn_adamsen.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

A journey from Self Criticism to Self Appreciation

Have you cornered yourself with the following statements?

  1. I cannot do anything.
  2. I am the one doing wrong.
  3. Other people are better than me.
  4. I am good for nothing.

If you have, then you have been in the self-criticism zone. Self-criticism by definition is to disapprove or criticize oneself/one’s own actions. In this fast-moving world, where competition is everywhere, people tend to self-criticize themselves. There is something called positive criticism and negative criticism. The type that hampers the growth of a person is negative criticism. This can lead a person to think very low of oneself. There is a fine line between self-criticism and self-correction. There are people who would call, self-correction, which is a positive way to point out the mistakes and work on them. And then, there are the other categories of people who take it in a negative way leading to depression, discontentment etc. I am sure nobody likes to stay in the disapproval land thus, there are a couple of ways, through which one can overcome excessive self-criticism.

An Exit from Self Criticism

I have been an average student all my academic life. What stopped me from crossing the average line was excessive criticism. Any competition or exam, I was never happy with my performance. I was always finding the grass greener on the other side. This continuous self-disapproval made me feel very low about myself. Even the things that I was best at, I started to fail in them. It wasn’t long when I realized that self-criticising was getting me nowhere. Then I made an exit plan from the criticizing zone.

  1. Treat yourself like a friend:

    One thing that I realized during the self-recovery period was that in all the hard times I had myself to lean back on. People in the midst of everything tend to forget that they are the constant support to themselves. One would feel a lot better if one starts treating oneself like a friend. Thus this is the first step.

  2. Self Reflection:

    This does not mean to reflect on the mistakes, rather this means to reflect on all the things happening in one’s life. This would give a person a better perspective towards life and oneself. Self-reflection can help a person look at things from a neutral and unbiased way.

  3. Acceptance of the present situation:

    It was always difficult to accept the things that were happening with me, thus moving on was complicated. Once I accepted the situation, I figured a different way out, which was less painful. Accepting the situation is a tough task. Sometimes people undergo very hard times and accepting those situations is not easy. But one has to come to terms with reality and move on because life is all about the next step that you take.

  4. Adjusting one’s expectations:

    Expectations can either make you or break you. If you perform well in any field, people tend to expect more from you. Disappointing people is tolerable, but disappointing oneself can break a person. Hence it is important to adjust the expectations according to one’s ability. Everyone is not same and this truth needs to be accepted.

    self-appreciation

An Entry to Self Appreciation

How many of us appreciate ourselves on the smallest achievements, or successes? As far as I am concerned my appreciation varied with the results of others. I often compared my success with others and found myself behind them. This was not self-appreciation. It was a comparison. Appreciation is very important to move ahead. For instance, if a child is appreciated on any kind of success, the child’s confidence reaches another level. The child will work harder to get more appreciation. And I am sure that all of us like appreciation, then why not start appreciating ourselves? There are some ways how one can do that:

  1. Knowing the difference between Self Love and Self Obsession:

    The first step towards self-appreciation is to love oneself. Loving oneself means, to accept oneself as a whole. It includes the perfections and the imperfections that the person has. Being comfortable with one’s own company is also a sign of self-love. Self-love can turn into a self-obsession. Thus one needs to draw the line there.

  2. Be true to yourself:

    If the person has accepted oneself completely then this step is easy. In order to avoid the self-guilt and blame game, it is better to accept the truth. Lying to one’s own self will lead a person nowhere.

  3. Appreciate where you are:

    One must appreciate, for how far one has come. Stuck in the swamp of self-criticism, one forgets to acknowledge this aspect.

  4. Say what you feel:

    It is better to let it out than keeping it in. Be confident and put forth your views. Let the idea/ thought/ view be as stupid or good as possible. Say what you feel, even if it is different from what the others feel.

If one follows this plan, they would notice that they have arrived the destination i.e. the self-appreciation land. When you feel stuck in the self-criticism area just remember these words by Louise L. Hay:

Remember you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens."

You will be surprised to see what you have, to offer yourself.

Author’s Bio

Joane Smith is a writer associated with Write me an assignment fast
She has written articles on various topics, like education, parenting etc. She likes to travel and cook occasionally.

 

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

Why You Should Focus on a Healthy Lifestyle?

In order to have a happy and healthy life, you have to work on your lifestyle. While it would be amazing to download an app that changes our life for the better, that is impossible, and you have to make some effort. A healthy lifestyle is a combination of a well-balanced and fitness along with healthy sleep pattern, avoiding alcohol, and stress management.

A common misconception is that it’s enough to work on just one or two of these factors and experience tremendous benefits. For instance, some people make diet tweaks but overlook fitness entirely. The new year is almost here, and one of your resolutions is to focus on a healthy lifestyle. Here are some important reasons why you should introduce fitness into your life.

healthy lifestyle

We don’t exercise enough…

Some people have an active lifestyle while others exercise occasionally or not at all. The US Department of Health and Human Services reports that less than 5% of adults participate in 30 minutes of physical activity each day. Also, only one in three adults achieves the recommended amount of physical activity within a week. More than 80% of the US adults don’t meet aerobic and muscle-strengthening exercise guidelines just like 80% of teens.

…and obesity rates in the US reached all-time high

Due to consumption of unhealthy diet and sedentary lifestyle, rates of overweight and obesity have risen significantly in the US. In fact, they reached all-time high according to the latest report published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Their figures show that about four in ten US adults have a BMI that classifies them as obese. Shockingly, adult obesity rates have increased from 30.5% in 1999-2000 to 39.6% in 2015-16.

Fitness aids weight management

Overweight and obesity increase the risk of different diseases and health conditions. Excess weight has a negative effect on quality of life. Makes you more susceptible to diabetes and cardiovascular diseases. It’s more likely to develop arthritis, and so much more. A growing body of evidence confirms that physical activity is vital for weight management.

One study analyzed the efficacy of aerobic exercise on weight loss. Results found that weight loss from baseline to 10 months for 400 and 600kcal/session groups were 4.9kg and 5.6kg while people in control group (no aerobic activity) gained weight.

Testosterone Boost

As men age, their testosterone levels decrease. This process is accelerated by many factors including a sedentary lifestyle. Symptoms associated with low testosterone include weak sex drive, fat accumulation, weight gain, loss of muscle mass, hair loss, and many others.

On the other hand, fitness increases production of this much-needed hormone, thus preventing all these symptoms. Fitness might protect you from health conditions contributed by hormonal imbalance. For instance, a study of the Mechanisms of Ageing and Development found that strength training can induce growth hormone and testosterone increase in men regardless of their age.

Stress management

Lack of sleep, busy lifestyle, too many things to do but not enough time… These are just some of many factors that cause stress. When left unresolved, stress creates numerous problems. Can lead to low energy, lack of productivity, and it contributes to many other problems such as anxiety, depression.

Stress can also aggravate symptoms of some health condition you may have. Fitness proves to be an amazing way to alleviate stress and get some much-needed relaxation.

Plus, the Journal of the Osteopathic Association published a study which found that workouts in a group setting have a more favorable effect on stress reduction and quality of life than individual training sessions. This is an amazing reason to start working out with your friends.

sleep better

You’ll sleep better

Modern lifestyle and sleep deprivation seem to go hand in hand, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Lack of sleep depletes your energy, makes it difficult for you to function at work and school. Also contributes to weight gain, and it affects cognitive functioning.

Introduce fitness into your lifestyle, and you’ll sleep better. The journal Mental Health and Physical Activity found that people who exercise regularly feel less sleepy during the day. Workout helps you sleep better at night. Other studies confirmed that regular physical activity improves quality of sleep in the middle- to older adults with sleep problems.

Enhanced libido

As seen above, regular physical activity is tied to improved testosterone production. Testosterone is important for your sex drive, which is why the decreased concentration of this hormone causes low libido.

A sedentary lifestyle is a major killer of your sex drive due to its effect on weight gain, hormone levels, and impaired blood flow. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior revealed that men who exercise regularly experienced greater sexual enhancement.

Not only regular exercise helps increase libido, but it also allows you to perform better between the sheets. See, fitness pays off.

Stronger Erection

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is defined as the inability to achieve and maintain an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Occasional erectile dysfunction is a common problem, but in some men, it can be persistent.
Although can be frustrating for both an affected man and his significant other, this sexual problem is entirely manageable.

The British Journal of Sports Medicine featured a study which found that men with ED could benefit from exercise or any other type of physical activity.

Sharper memory

Our cognitive abilities fluctuate just like everything else. Sometimes your memory, focus, problem-solving skills, and other cognitive functions are on “fire". Though, in other instances, you struggle. That’s because different factors influence your brain health and its functioning, and sedentary lifestyle is one of them. Introducing fitness to your lifestyle will lead to many positive changes and sharp memory is one of them.

Regular exercise is a strong promoter of cognitive health, studies show. Physical activity influences molecular events via epigenetic mechanisms that have the potential to modulate cognitive abilities. Unhealthy lifestyle characteristic for the modern age is the main culprit of obesity. This is also associated with neurological disorders that hamper cognitive function.

According to researchers from the Harvard University, fitness improves your memory in both direct and indirect manner. When it comes to the direct influence of exercise on memory and cognitive skills, physical activity reduces insulin resistance, inflammation, and stimulates the release of growth factors (chemicals that participate in brain cells’ health). Exercise also promotes the growth of new blood vessels in your brain and production of new brain cells.

The indirect impact of exercise on brain and memory is through its ability to improve sleep and mood. Sleep deprivation and stress/anxiety negatively affect cognitive abilities. We can say that fitness takes an all-around approach toward sharper memory.

Conclusion

Even though most people don’t like to exercise, fitness is an important part of a healthy lifestyle. As seen throughout this article, fitness is necessary for weight management, memory, sexual performance, testosterone, sleep, and many other things.

In order to get the maximum out of your daily workouts, you should pair it with a well-balanced diet. Remember, any kind of activity is better than no activity at all. Your fitness routine should involve something you’re passionate about because you’re more likely to stick to it this way.

Will O'Conner

Author’s Bio

Will O’Conner

He has been a Health & Fitness Advisor for Consumer Health Digest. He loves to write about General Health & Fitness topics. Will also believes in providing knowledgeable information to readers and constantly motivates them to achieve their goals. He is also passionate about traveling, arts and discovers and writes for people.
Connect through: Facebook, Twitter,&Google+.

 

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

 

How Nutrition Affects Your Happiness

proper nutrition

When we feel good, and when our body is healthy, we’re happier. That’s pretty basic logic even children can grasp, so why do we struggle with proper nutrition so much?
A lot of it has to do with poor habits steeped in childhood (such as food insecurity). Also using food for comfort and the addictive nature of some foods are bad habits. Any type of addiction, including sugar addiction, can cause depression, mood swings, dependency, and much more. Addiction to sugar can also encourage binge eating disorder (BED). This is a type of eating disorder, as well as the night-eating syndrome (NES).

It’s not all bad news for sweet lovers

Cacao, the ingredient in chocolate, releases the same endorphins we enjoy when we fall in love. Of course, addiction to endorphins is also possible, and it’s all about moderation. Still, when consumed in moderation, we’re able to alter our mood for the better.
Dark chocolate also comes with a myriad of potential health benefits. It’s a natural superfood antioxidant. Is good for heart health and cognitive function, and protects from free radicals. Aim for a dark chocolate that’s at least 85%. The strength of the flavor and lack of dairy/sugar also helps keep you from over-eating.

Lack of proper nutrition and malnutrition is, unsurprisingly, linked to bad moods

Those with restrictive eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia are known for having intense mood swings. This eating disorders includes purging but also covers any activity that removes calories to an excessive degree, such as exercising for hours.

It makes sense because our bodies are machines that require not just fuel, but the right fuel, to function properly. Lack of nutrition is linked to insomnia because the natural instinct to look for food trumps anything else, including the need for sleep. Radical changes in blood sugar levels can also impact a person’s mood. Malnutrition and lack of proper nutrition don’t make for a happy disposition.

False energy

Depending too much on false energy boosts such as caffeine, whether in soda or coffee, can also shift a person’s happiness position. We live in a culture where it’s not just accepted but encouraged by jokes and memes to be a monster before that morning cup of coffee.
However, needing caffeine – the most commonly used drug in the west – in order to function is a clear sign of dependency. If you think you’re addicted to caffeine, you likely suffer from at least moderate mood swings dependent on your intake. Try starting the morning with warm lemon water first and wait at least 30 minutes before consuming caffeine. Green and black tea, which contain caffeine but less than coffee, are a good alternative and come with health benefits.

For some, adopting a vegetarian lifestyle boosts their happiness quotient. That’s because they consider “kind eating" healthier for the planet. It’s not the right fit for everyone, but it highlights the importance of researching and knowing what’s in your food and how that impacts your happiness.

Author’s Bio:

Trevor is a freelance writer and recovering addict & alcoholic who’s been clean and sober for over 5 years. Since his recovery began, he has enjoyed using his talent for words to help spread treatment resources and addiction awareness. In his free time, you can find him working with recovering addicts or outside enjoying almost any type of fitness activity imaginable.

 

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

Looking for Something that Can Make You Happy? Try Gardening!

Finding a relaxing and useful hobby to pass the time can be exhausting in itself. There are so many options to choose from. Yet the main reason you are looking for something to do is because you want to feel happier.

Gardening is one of the few hobbies that can serve both as a pass-time as well as a full-fledged part-time job, depending on your interests. What are some of the main reasons you should consider if you want to take up gardening and feel a little happier in doing so?

gardening

  • Personal exercise

While not overly demanding when it comes to physical activity, gardening can be a good way for you to get out of the house day after day. This is especially important for housewives, elderly people, children on school breaks and similar house-bound groups.

Watering your plants, planting new ones and keeping the garden pest-free are a constant activity that requires regular checkups. It can also be a good way to develop responsibility and discipline for people who are too relaxed about their obligations.

  • Stress-free activity

Whether you decide to plant flowers, fruit or vegetables, gardening is a very relaxing activity. Planting your crops and following their development through yearly seasons is relaxing and fulfilling. Seeing those plants grow and bloom will give you an especially notable sense of pride because you are to thank for their wellbeing. As such, gardening is particularly useful for people who deal with anxiety issues and need something to help them relax.

  • A healthier diet

Gardening can be a good way to enhance your diet and live a healthier life as a result. People tend to grow their own vegetables and fruits in order to avoid any GMO products that can end up on the table. This can also help you develop useful recipes and ingredient lists by using an online writing service to help you out. It is especially important if you have small children or people with health issues in your family, for you to consider gardening in order to produce some basic vegetable needs for your cooking.

  • Better focus and reflexes

While gardening may not be a very physically demanding activity, it can assuredly help you develop better reflexed, and focus a lot more on what you are doing. The reason for this is that gardening does require your attention and care. Especially with the garden maintenance part of the equation. Your plants will require constant watering, trimming and pest protection. All of this require a hand-eye coordination and DIY approach to problem-solving.

  • Budgeting on groceries

It’s much cheaper to grow your own fruits and vegetables than to buy them outright from the local supermarket. While it may not seem like it at first, you will get your money’s worth by the end of your garden’s lifecycle, when winter approaches.

People tend to grow plants at home not only because it’s healthier, but more affordable as well. Even though you may not feel the difference if you only plant a couple of seeds from different plants, those that opt for a more ambitious garden will assuredly spend less money this way.

  • Making new friends

Gardening can help you grow your social network in unexpected ways. There are multiple social groups, NGOs and nature preservation societies that welcome gardeners and help them get started. This process is especially beneficial for people with lower self-esteem or problems with socializing, since it can help them flock towards people with similar interests. While you will have a lot of fun growing your garden by itself, there will be more and more likeminded people around you who have something to add and strike up a conversation in the process.

In Summation

It’s easy to see the multitude of benefits that gardening can bring to people, not the least of which is the sheer happiness that comes with growing plants. While some people prefer growing fruit, others decide on vegetables and then improvise as they go along. Decide what kind of a garden you want to start off with and you will quickly be on your way towards personal happiness and learning useful things about how you can use homegrown plants for your benefit.

Author’s Bio

Alaine Gordon is a young and talented freelance writer. She has been writing professionally since 2010 about almost everything, starting from psychology and to the finance. Alaine Gordon graduated from the University of Colorado with B.A. in Journalism, 2011. She is open-minded, creative person who loves to make people smile. Her credo is ‘Life is a fun enterprise’. In her free time she loves traveling, reading science fiction and knitting. Her huge dream is to visit every single country in the world.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

Search