What You Are Telling Yourself That Is Keeping You Single

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Not all of us want to be in a relationship, which is completely fine. The rest of us oscillate between loving being single and wishing we weren’t. It rocks when we are playing the field and not having to check in with anyone, but it sucks when everyone around us seems to be bursting with joy in their relationships. Sometimes we cannot help but feel a little frustrated for being single.

Our search for healthy love is one of the most defining missions of our lives

The nagging question just keeps getting louder, “Is it me?". I wish I could tell you with all certainty that it is not you, but it just might be you. This does not mean that there is something wrong with you. I am sure you are amazing and capable of being in a fantastic relationship. But you see, most of the times, our single status has everything to do with our beliefs and attitudes.

The truth is that you hold more power over your romantic destiny that you ever thought possible. To a large extent, you create the world that you live in, consciously or unconsciously. There are a lot of bad habits that you may indulge in and things that you tell yourself that may be locking the doors to a lasting relationship:

  • I love being alone with all the freedom and creative time it affords me.
  • I do not deserve a relationship.
  • I am not good enough.
  • No one will ever love me.
  • I am not ready.
  • I have no time to date right now.
  • I cannot date a guy/girl who…..

When it comes to dating and relationships, sometimes you are your own worst enemy

What are some of the things you have told yourself that you think are sabotaging your ability to connect with potential partners?

Let us talk about the things that many of us are telling ourselves that are getting in the way of finding our soul mates.

I will date when…..

I will date when I am finished with my Ph. D.
I will date when I lose at least 10 pounds.
I will date after my career takes off.
I will date when I am ready.
I will date when I find the perfect guy/girl.
I will date when my child goes to school.

“The greatest amount of time wasted is the time not getting started.”
Dawson Trotman

There is a huge problem when you keep postponing something that is important to you. Firstly, the only time that you are guaranteed is ‘now.’ Many of us are obsessed with timing. There is no such thing as the right time. No matter what else your life involves at the moment, dating should never be wholly sidelined if you hope to get into a long-term relationship.

There are no guarantees in life, and no one can predict what the future holds. After all, life is a series of unexpected events. Indeed, you might find that life is more interesting when things do not go according to plan, rather than when everything is well choreographed. Makes life more authentic, doesn’t it?

You may think postponing dating buys you time but in reality, time will not wait for you. Right now is the perfect time to seek for your soul mate.

“Procrastination is like a credit card; it is a lot of fun until you get the bill.” Christopher Parker

I am looking for the perfect partner

When looking for a romantic partner, we all desire certain characteristics. However, no one is perfect. I have seen people wielding a long list of attributes that they want in potential soul mates. A certain level of education, given financial status, a particular religion, no children or a certain number of children, a certain number of teeth… Just kidding. The chances are that you might not find this package in a single individual. The pursuit of perfection leads to finding fault with everyone that you meet which will only work against you.

I am looking for the perfect guy/girl today will be later turn out to be I will never truly be in love.

Worse still, some of us have very unrealistic expectations. Snap back to reality and realize that you are also not perfect. So what if the guy/girl is a little rough around the edges? So what if she talks too loudly? So what if he is a tad too dark? There is nothing wrong with setting standards, but we must keep our expectations realistic if we do not want to be alone for the rest of our lives.

Affection is when you see someone’s strengths. Love is when you accept someone’s flaws.

All the good ones are taken

It seems as if the world has been overrun by fickle men and players, shallow women and gold diggers. Apart from you, of course! Is it possible? Is it really possible that all the billions of people out there are all either married or horrible? This is the lamest excuse to not play the dating scene. Worse still, it is a self-sabotaging excuse.

Telling yourself that all the good ones are taken is giving yourself a free pass to throw in the towel and let yourself off the dating hook. You do not have to put yourself out there, after all, the good ones are taken!

Look at the flipside. Out of the billions of people in the world, you only need one person who is right for you. You need to reframe your mindset.

The perfect partner does not exist, but there is a partner who is right for you.

The sad reality is that if you go through life believing that there are no good men or women out there, you will not find any. Your mind is always inclined to look for evidence to support what you believe.

Interesting fact:
When you believe all the good ones are taken, anytime you come across one who is unavailable, you will think he is the greatest thing you have ever seen. When you come across one who is single, you will search for flaws, and you will surely find them.

Remember, our thoughts are energy; energy that radiates and attracts like experiences. Many of us miss out on finding love by holding on to lies: about ourselves, about men and women. You must realize you are what is keeping you single. Seeking love is not an easy task. The first step is to fight the patterns inside us that hold us back. We cannot shield ourselves from what we might find out there, but we can empower ourselves with the right tools for the job by cleaning up our thoughts.

Author’s Bio

Christopher Brown
Christopher D. Brown
created the website RedesigningTheMind.com to get to the bottom of our relationship with ourselves and how the world sees us. He has an Advanced Diploma in Social Science and a Graduate Diploma in Technology Education. He enjoys spending time with his young family and if he’s really lucky you can find him in the garden.

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10 Ways To Show Your Partner How Much You Appreciate Him/Her

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If you`ve already found someone you love and who loves you back, you`re really happy! At the beginning of your relationship, everything looks so romantic and wonderful and you may think you`ve finally got an ideal relationship… But over time, it can be a little too easy to fall into a rut and even make a lot of mistakes that, unfortunately, can crack your loving relationship! In order to avoid any kind of bummers like infidelity, breakups, cooling off and so on, you have to teach to be an appreciative partner! It’s really very important because appreciating someone you love is a great daily work that won`t require too much effort. However, it will definitely help you protect your long-term relationship. Luckily, there are so many things you can do to show your love and fidelity. Here are top 10 ways to let your partner know how much you appreciate him or her.

 

  1. Hug your significant other

Leave your business for a few minutes and give your loved one an appreciative hug! Don`t forget that a touch is a basic human need and your touch – cuddling – at the right moment can also convey your appreciation and affection.

 

  1. Give your loved one a massage

We all love massages! Use this trick to show your love and relax your partner after a long working day.

 

  1. Organize a fancy date

Try to plan a spontaneous romantic date in some special place and surprise someone you love. Break the routine of your everyday life and express your affection. Plan a wonderful dinner in your partner`s favorite restaurant and order his or her favorite meal. Your partner will be grateful for such a grand gesture of your love!

 

  1. Leave little love notes or send sweet messages

One of the most romantic ways to show you love your partner is to leave special notes or send cute messages during the day. In such a simple way, you can express your feelings. Show your loved one that you`re constantly thinking about her or him.

 

  1. Notice the little day-to-day things

It’s hard to notice the little things your partner does every day for you because household labor becomes commonplace for us. But it will be really pleasant for your loved one when you say “Thank you, my dear, that you ironed my favorite shirt for today’s business meeting!" Show her you love her and everything she does for you! Or “Oh, how well you mowed the lawn! It looks amazing! You have great hands!" Express your appreciation to him because he’s a special man in your life!

 

  1. Compliment your special someone

Everyone loves the compliments, especially if you say them sincerely. Try to compliment your partner every day because it’s really nice to be appreciated by someone you love!

 

  1. Spend a lazy day together

You`re both so busy… Just remember when you last watch TV sitting on the couch together? What? You can’t remember… Well, show to your partner how much you care and need him or her. Spend a lazy day together – eat junk food, watch movies and snuggle… Be sure, your partner will be happy for the break and your love. Moreover, you’ll both be happy to get some special time together.

 

  1. Buy an unexpected gift

The key word is “unexpected"! So don’t focus on just luxury gifts for her or him. In this case, the monetary value is not important, it’s the fact that you want to give something “just because"! It can be inexpensive, but meaningful or desired one. It can be even a handmade gift!

 

  1. Believe in your partner and always support him or her

Try never to doubt in your partner, whatever happens. Your support and fidelity will help your partner realize how much you love him or her!

 

  1. Listen to your loved one

Sometimes you ignore your partner when he or she tells you something. But such behavior can be really hurtful! Try always to listen to your loved one. Even if you find it not so interesting or you feel you`ve heard it all already. Make the effort and listen to your significant other. Listening is a key to a harmonious relationship.

Conclusion

Being a good partner is learning to show your appreciation for the little things and little actions every single day. It isn`t so difficult to do, but it is very important for your relationship! Never forget that!

Author’s Bio

Andrew Guerra is an editor of https://bestquoteslist.com/ He likes to share his thoughts with the people around. His writing on motivation and love has appeared to make our life better. Andrew believes in fairness and human wisdom.

 

 

Best Ways To Use A Journal To De-Stress

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Technology is advancing quickly but some values and traditions keep up with it while staying the same. One of those traditions is definitely journaling. Young generations find that the beauty of journals and journaling far surpasses blogging and online diary keeping – pen and paper are here to stay.

At the end of a long day, it’s best that you sit down with a cup of tea or coffee, turn off all of your devices and start writing. Not only is journaling popular and beautiful but it also has a therapeutic effect and helps you de-stress.

If you still haven’t decided to pick up the pen and begin, here are some benefits that you’ll notice if you journal every day.

  1. Journaling can help you get rid of negative thoughts

When you put those words on pen and paper, you slowly start to let go of all of your negativity. Words are now on paper, not in your head. You’ll find that it’s a lot easier to go about your life once you release all of your bad energy on the page. It would become easier to de-stress.

This kind of experience is something you would hardly have online since typing does not give the same satisfaction.

One study even says that if you write your thoughts down and then throw them away, you’ll be able to keep them at bay for a while. Of course, thoughts regenerate but once you throw them away, you’ll be able to forget about them, at least a bit.

  1. Journaling is empowering

“Through journaling, you can track your own life and what happened to you, how you felt and what made you sad – it gives you perspective. This new perspective on your life will enable you to draw lessons that you would otherwise miss completely", – explains Carol Garner, a Psychology writer at Bestbritishessays.

Whatever bothers you, write it down and after a while, you’ll be able to see what you can learn from that.

  1. It gives you a chance to spend time without technology

Technology can sometimes have a therapeutic effect on people, especially when they use social media to connect with friends and family etc. However, it’s always a good idea to turn off all of your devices and dive into the wonderful world of writing your thoughts down.

  1. Gratitude journaling reduces levels of stress and makes you happier

Gratitude journaling is a great practice where you write down everything that you are grateful for or happy about in your journal. This is believed to have a therapeutic effect since it draws positive energy and brings it to you. It helps you learn to look out for the better things in life. After a while, you’ll be noticing details that you are thankful for with an ease and all thanks to your journal. It can even help you think less about negative things in your life by simply thinking more about good things.

  1. Give yourself wise advice

Once you notice that there are lessons to be learned in your journal, you’ll see all of your mistakes and wrong steps. Write about it in the third person so you can have some more perspective on the whole situation.

Jason Horn, a Personal Coach at Ukservicesreviews comments: “Journaling about a big decision you’ll have to make or a tricky situation that you are in will help you see it clearly. Then you could give yourself the kind of advice that you give to your friends and listen to what your heart tells you. Journaling has that kind of therapeutic effect on people and it helps them realize what they need to do".

How to Start Writing a Journal and de-stress

There are plenty of ways that you could start journaling. First, you could get an actual notebook and write in or a new email where you’ll send yourself journal entries, or a private blog. After you have decided upon this, you’ll probably wonder what to write and how to write it.

For the beginning, you could use some tools to help you out:

Studydemic or Academized to give you some writing guidance if you don’t think that you are a talented writer.

AcademAdvisor and Bigassignments are online editing and proofreading tools that can be useful to you if you are a perfectionist or if you simply want your journal to be beautiful and mistake-free.

Oxessay is a formatting tool which will give you an excellent insight on formatting – it was recommended by Uktopwriters.

Writingpopulist is a website that will give you plenty of fresh, quality writing tips and advice.

Australian help is a grammar checking tool that will make sure that your text displays no grammar mistakes.

Conclusion

You should definitely start journaling right away – with all of these health benefits, you will learn to de-stress sooner than you think. Let the journal into your life and allow it to guide you through your emotions.

Author’s Bio

Freddie Tubbs is a business writer at Revieweal. Besides, he is running educational blogs at Essayroo and Australianreviewer.

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Much Ado About Success: Possible For Everyone?

 

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Success! What an overused, misunderstood word!

Many motivational speakers speak about what produces success. They promote varied ideas to gain it, such as writing goals, developing self-confidence, setting minds on objectives, etc. But they don’t tell what success is!

Yes, writing goals is helpful — and keeping them in front of us. Rewriting them, adjusting them, is part of that. Today, writing goals is especially helpful because of countless distractions around us, especially the non-factual.

Yet, at least one successful person never wrote down goals. Rush Limbaugh said he’s never done that—and none can claim he’s not successful in his arena, no matter our political persuasion. So, writing goals isn’t a requisite.

Self-confidence and self-esteem

Developing better self-confidence is helpful. But, the current practice of giving unwarranted ‘rewards’ for just competing causes confusion, not confidence. Plus, the culture’s habit of name-calling when people stand up for something or someone damages confidence. Yet, thinking we need to tell ourselves how smart or talented we are or how we can do something better than another isn’t the answer, either. We know within ourselves if we are smart or talented, and to compare ourselves to others is pointless.

Nothing builds self-esteem more than striving for, and doing, good — and doing what is right, despite risks. Seeking goodness, utilizing our talents in the best ways, helping others, all help us see our true worth, which develops our confidence and happiness! It may seem odd initially, but self-esteem increases humility which is attractive! Why else seek humility?

St Augustine said, “It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels." St Augustine was a learned man, a theologian, a philosopher, an influential man in his era and today. Could he be right?

Patience and Goals

Now, setting our minds on our ultimate objectives is important. Yet, if the goal is a long-range goal, (the best ones are!), we need the patience to live with the delay, not get discouraged and stay focused. Why else seek patience?

Psychologists report that patience is power, born of understanding! So, we grow in internal strength and endurance, making life easier, and making our bodies healthier!

Of course, for ‘believers,’ prayer is powerful for goal assistance, though we don’t always see the effect. One thing, for sure: prayer never hurts!

Our own kind of success

But striving for/gaining success is never good when it’s a result of ‘walking on others.’ If we leave a trail behind us of people hurting because of our activities/words, then that’s fake success. It cannot produce goodness but results in a rotten tree that produces rotten fruit. We may obtain more money, more power, more prestige. But in truth, we’ll be a failure. Looking inside ourselves, if we’re honest, we cannot feel good about obtaining gain through others’ losses. Though we may try to puff ourselves up, ignore our faults, and forget others’ pain, we will ultimately find misery from guilt.

If we experienced harm through someone rising in rank due to unethical practices or injustice, we cannot let ourselves sink to the same level. We can find our own success, no matter where we are, what our status is, how much we make.

Ingenuity

In addition, we don’t find success via mandated to-do lists. Without freedom of using our ingenuity, we may accomplish tasks, but not find success in them. Likewise, if we mandate others, that doesn’t create success for us or them.

I don’t claim to have all the answers. I’m no expert and I’ve not made millions or even hundreds giving advice on success. I’ve only advised teams, in several companies, and I was ‘in the trenches with them,’ working for their successes as well as mine. Most of this is based on a combination of common sense, experience as a manager and an underlying, referring to wise leaders, and studying ‘success.’

So, what is ‘success?’

‘To each, his own!’ We can be successful in challenging conversations. We can find success in difficult projects. We can appreciate success in our hobbies.

There are different degrees, different types, of success. We’re only failures if we quit trying. The famous Zig Ziglar said, “Failure is an event, not a person." So, when we persist, we’re being successful in advancing toward our goals!

So, perhaps ‘success’ is simply found in setting our minds on goals, being patient, and doing good in helping others in the meantime!

Consider a poor, old woman who begged for food and money. She said, “When you don’t have anything, then you have everything." Sound like success? Hint: She didn’t beg for herself.

Actions speak for themselves

Mother Teresa served others/ loved everyone through her words and actions. She served the lowly, the dying, the dirty, never thinking about herself. In her humble work in an obscure location, was she successful?

She received the Nobel Peace Prize for spreading love, and 120 other awards/ honors, including the highest U.S. civilian award, the Presidential Medal of Freedom. But she would not claim success, only continual efforts.

Mother Teresa made powerful statements, relevant here:

If you’re kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

If you do good today, people forget it tomorrow. Do good anyway.

If you do your best, it will never be enough. Do your best anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some will be jealous. Be happy anyway.

If you’re successful, you’ll win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

There’s not much to be said after that!

Author’s Bio

Monica Walker

Monica Walker is a wife of 50 yrs, mother of 5, grandmother of 23.
She was a Region Manager at Augustine Institute, a Manager & Mortgage Underwriter at Bank of America, and the Owner of Rushmore Resources.
She is a Published freelance author — various city publications, weekly & monthly church publications, an Author — three books ready to publish, and a Poet/ Songwriter–ninety songs ready to submit.
She was also listed as an “Outstanding Young Woman of America," and was a Guest on the televised Business Awakenings show.

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Top 5 Most Inspiring Jobs for Helping People

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We all have different goals and views on how we see our lives pan out. No matter what you are trying to achieve, your passion and DNA won’t likely change. When it comes to helping people, you need to have a passion for it before you get started. Getting up every morning knowing that you are going to help someone is exciting and satisfying.

Every individual would like to feel they accomplished something at the end of the day. Helping others is a great way to do just that. Seeing nursing resumes makes me happy because I do believe that there is a reason behind the qualification. Of course, this is just one example and there are many other ways you can combine your career and helping others.
Check these inspiring jobs that could be what you were looking for.

  1. Nutritionist

Our society is becoming more aware of the importance of eating food that is good for our bodies. Even with this knowledge, some of us do not know what that means and need some assistance. Nutritionists spend a lot of time studying to help those who are a bit lost in this area. You are not only going to help people feel better about themselves but also become healthier.

  1. Social Worker

Perhaps one of the most admirable careers is one of the social workers. When you step into this career, you need to do it because you really care about helping others. If this is you, find out how a cover letter should look and apply to do the degree. If you are passionate about following this line of work, you are going to help a lot of people. Social workers do not always get the recognition that they deserve, but you are going to go home very proud of yourself.

  1. Teacher

What would the world be without good teachers? We leave the future of tomorrow up to them and the faith that is bestowed upon teachers is amazing. All of these jobs require a level of passion, but this is one where you have to also love teaching others. It seems obvious, but people do not always think about it. If you love teaching and you want to help our society, this might be the best option for you.

  1. Human Resources

If you still want to work for a large company, but you have a love for helping people, human resources is a great option. Start that new grad cover letter and be assured that it is worth it. Human resources do not only help the company, but also the employee which is a double dose of satisfaction.

  1. Medical field

The list won’t be complete without adding this one. Doctors in all specialties are helpful to every living human being. Nurses are in the same category and it really depends on where you see yourself in the medical field. Without the help of doctors, we would have a much higher death rate, so it’s crucial that we continue to have new graduates.

Conclusion

You always want to follow your heart when it comes to everything that you do. Forget about the earning power and fancy building. Focus on where you see yourself in the future and look at these inspiring jobs. You want to come home happy after a long day and not bored or unsatisfied.

Author’s Bio

Charles Hampton is a content manager and an amateur guest post writer. His hobby is reading and, extreme sport. He also writes short stories and dreams of publishing his book. Charles`s life credo is “Just do it!"

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