Take your life back: 5 signs your work is stealing you from your family

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You come home from work. And you feel tired.
Because you really are. It feels like you have a soul-sucking job that eats you alive. You die a little every day at your office.
The workload is crazy, the pressure is insane and if you just take one moment to rest, you will fall behind.

To cope with all the challenges and demanding bosses, you bring your work home, trying to complete everything and impress the whole company.
You put your mask on every time you get out of the house. Nod and smile at work to build connection and relationship. You even go out with your coworkers sometimes, just to get your connection going.

However, you are too tired by the time you get home

And you really don’t have any energy left.
Your home is the only place you can be yourself. So if tired, you let your family know that. If you are busy, you let your family know that you are busy. So that they will leave you alone.

However, once they get used to it, you will no longer play an important part in their lives anymore. Before you know it, a solid wall between you and your family has been built. And before you know it, you retire and you are all alone, just like you wished tens of years ago.

You don’t want that to happen, do you?

We all want our families and friends to be with us, stay with us forever. But are you really acting that way? Or you let your job become a wall between you and them?

Here are 5 signs your job is stealing you from your family.

  1. You roll your eyes when someone talks about work-life balance

Work-life balance is a term that people talk about a lot. But that term is not applicable to you. If you have work-life balance, who is going to finish that project, who is going to complete that job, and who is going to get the promotion? Not you for sure.

So, screw work-life balance. Your life can wait, can’t it?
This is an example of a workaholic. You might be a workaholic if you think that way about work-life balance.

It is easy for you to deter your life to the future when you first start your career, but it is not okay for the family. Your family is not going to be the same forever. Your children will grow up and leave the house. Before you realize, you don’t have that much time with family. It is vital maintaining balance unless you want your work to be your life.

  1. You start working before dawn and come back home after your family falls asleep

It’s not that you are madly in love with your job, but it’s because you are too busy. If you don’t slowly kill yourself to work every day, you will fall behind.

To make sure you are catching up with your work, which is increasing every day, you have to start working before dawn and only come home after your whole family is asleep.

In fact, you don’t talk to your family more than 5 sentences a day. You see your co-workers’ faces so much more than seeing your children.

  1. You say no to family occasions to focus on your work

It is harder and harder to arrange a trip with your family, to stay away from your work for a while. You don’t know when it started. But every time you want to go on a trip with your family, something urgent comes up at work and only you know how to solve the problem.

You don’t remember the last time you went to see your children’s play at school, last time you have a romantic night out with your spouse because you are working all the time.

  1. You feel like your family doesn’t support you

Nonetheless, you will feel resentful toward your family because you start to hear their complaints about you not spending time with them. You feel like they don’t understand.

You are doing this for them, because of them. They are on top of your priority. But why don’t they see it that way?

The thing is, you might mean well and they are truly the reasons why you work so hard to provide for them. But what you are doing doesn’t make them feel that way.

  1. If you sit with your family, you don’t know what else rather than your job to walk about

Because you don’t have time to get out there and live your life because you are trapped in your job. You are very talkative when it comes to job-related matters. However, you fall out of the loop when you try to have a normal conversation with your family.

You don’t know the movie they are talking about because you don’t watch movies. Also, you don’t know the name of your kids’ best friends because you never talk to them.

It seems that you don’t understand what they say and they are not interested in what you have to say. You weren’t born to work. You were born to live a worthy life.

Don’t let your work get in the way of your life. Don’t use your work as an excuse for not having enough time to love and be loved.

When you are sick and tired, your job is not there for you. When you are vulnerable and lonely, your job doesn’t cheer you up. When you are on your deathbed, your job is not there, holding your hand and be with you until your last breath.

So don’t make your job the top priority in your life. Family comes first.

If you are guilty of letting your job steal you from your family, don’t stay late at work, don’t bring work back home. Get off and go home on time. And make sure you smile, laugh and appreciate your family for always being there for you.

Author’s Bio

Mai Pham believes we can create our own happiness. She helps overwhelmed and frustrated people to ditch their stress and enjoy their lives again. Grab her free actionable cheatsheet: 5 Simple Tips to Release Stress and Bring You Calm in Under 5 Minutes and join her free 7 Joyful Days Challenge email course. Find her on Facebook and Twitter.

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Recognizing Depression in Older People

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For many older people, especially those in poor health or living alone, the onset of depression can be severe. However, by maintaining positive mental and physical health, coupled with adequate support from family and friends, older people can continue to lead happy, fulfilling lives long past the age of retirement.

Seniors may find it hard to acclimatize to having an abundance of spare time on their hands, which could lead to boredom. The best way of maintaining happiness through retirement is to keep occupied as much as possible, whether that’s through joining a social group or giving your time to volunteering. Even if the person doesn’t have the physical capacity to do either of these, they could concentrate on a new hobby which doesn’t necessitate leaving the house.

Good physical health

Maintaining good physical health will manifest itself in feeling happy and fulfilled mentally. Even mild daily exercise like a 15-minute walk or some light yoga will keep an older person in great shape, while it’s recommended to keep as healthy a diet as possible. These will all complement one another perfectly to result in a physically flourishing and mentally strong senior citizen.

While these are all actions that the older person can take, their happiness will most likely be enhanced by renewed support from family and friends. The older person would probably accept an invitation to an adult son or daughter’s house once a week. All the more so if the younger adult gets involved in an activity with them. This can help to reinforce the bond between them and gives the older person something to which they’ll eagerly look forward every week.

Growing old does not need to automatically mean sinking into a depressing, morose retirement. Rather, it can be a time spent on enjoying the finer aspects of life and cherishing moments spent with family and friends. It could even help an older person to add a few extra years to their life thanks to the preservation of thriving mental and physical health.

Author bio

Alice Lucey is the Director of Be Independent Home Care, a nurse-owned and managed home care provider in Ireland. She is a firm believer in older people being allowed to continue living in their own homes due to the provision of home care so that they can maintain their independence. She often writes content on a broad range of matters concerning care for older people.

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How Avoiding Negativity Improves the Work Day

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“A happy employee is a productive employee". We’ve all heard this quote numerous times, but is there any truth to it? It turns out, there is. A recent study done by the University of Warwick showed the productivity of a happy employee increased 12 percent when placed in a positive and happy environment. So, how do we create this happy environment for ourselves?

In with the Good, Out with the Bad

Negativity has a scientific term when associated with the biological systems of the body. The emotion of negativity is directly related to the hormone cortisol. Cortisol’s primary function is to trigger a stress reaction in the human body. It is our body’s natural built-in system to create the feeling of stress. In today’s world, the concept sounds foolish. However, if you were a caveman crossing paths with a saber-toothed tiger, you may want a built-in system that lets you know you are in a dangerous situation.

Have you ever heard stories of police officers or military talking about the hair on the back of their neck standing up? That’s cortisol letting the brain know it is in a hazardous environment. In these hazardous environments, cortisol being dumped into the system in large quantities over a short period of time is a very effective system. However, in a workplace setting, cortisol being pumped into your system in much smaller and much more consistent doses is something we want to work positively to avoid. This steady stream of the stress hormone has been linked to depression, weight gain, weakened immune system, and a shortened lifespan. The power of positivity on your health can be measured in loads.

Get Moving Towards a Brighter Day

Endorphins, also known as the activity hormone, are a cortisol suppressing hormone. These are released in almost any physical activity, from running a marathon to spending some quality time with your partner in the bedroom. To release this hormone at work, start scheduling some activity into your workday. See if there is a lunchtime workout class close to your office or a nice running trail. If not, set an alarm on your phone or utilize an app for a predetermined set of time. When the alarm goes off, get active! Calisthenics, yoga, or walking lap around your building will do the trick.

Have Your Cake and Eat it too

You know that feeling of euphoria when you bite into a decadent piece of chocolate cake? How about that wave of comfort or relaxation after finishing spring cleaning or organizing your desk. That’s dopamine, the “mission accomplished" hormone. How do you release this hormone? You guessed it, accomplish missions! Start every day by writing down a “to do" list. As you accomplish the tasks, deliberately scratch the items off the list. Consider doing it while listening to feel good music that has been found to have positive effects on the emotional areas of your brain. With each cross off, you’ll get a healthy dose of dopamine. By the end of the day, you’ll wonder how you were ever feeling down, to begin with.

Get Talking

Serotonin is quite similar to dopamine; it too is a “mission accomplished" hormone. However, this hormone is socially engaged. It is very hard to trigger a serotonin release on your own. The emotion most often associated with serotonin is pride — not pride in yourself, but when you feel how proud the people in your life are of your accomplishments. Feeling proud of someone else’s accomplishments can create a rush of serotonin as well. Try fostering a mentor/mentee relationship where you commit to using only positive language with one another. Regardless of what side of the relationship you are on; as soon as one of you has a great accomplishment, the serotonin will soon follow.

Servitude and High Fives

Oxytocin, the most powerful cortisol suppressant, has been proven to help aid with depression, substance abuse, and can even increase your lifespan. Like serotonin, this hormone is difficult to release all by yourself. There are two effective ways to release oxytocin in a social setting: physical contact and acts of service. A hug or even a high five time can help to lighten another person’s day, as well as your own. Committing acts of service, such as organizing an office blood drive, park clean up, or soup kitchen staffing will help create a positive working space for yourself and your colleagues.

Author’s Bio

Avery T. Phillips is a freelance human being with too much to say. She loves nature and examining human interactions with the world. Comment or tweet her @a_taylorian with any questions or suggestions.

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How to Empower Your Communication Through Writing

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How often have you judged a person by the way he talks? How about the way he writes? Heck, if you’re a woman, you might even judge me now for not including “she" in my introductory sentences. You may think I’m a superficial writer and that reading this post would be a waste of time. You see how quickly judgments show up?

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Most of us come across unpleasant situations which concern requests, business proposals, or even introductory emails that are poorly written.

Bad grammar, bad spelling, bad text structure – how do these people expect us to bear with such a terrible piece of text. How can they expect us to reply, accept a proposal, or do business with them, individuals that barely know how to write and speak?

Alright. Maybe my example was a bit exaggerated. However, most people don’t react well to bad communication through writing. It’s annoying, unwanted, and it could hurt your personal and professional reputation big time.

Well, in today’s post, you’ll learn several powerful ways to empower your communication through writing. Simply put, the simpler, easy-to-digest, and readable your written communication is the better your message will be understood and treated. Let’s get started.

1. It’s Not About You

Let me say that one more time. It’s not about you. Got it? The ugly truth is that we’re mostly separated from each other. Egocentrism is at its peak, and the majority of people care only about themselves. Therefore, if whenever you write something, don’t talk about yourself.

In fact, you should use the word “I" as less as possible, and you should ensure that the main focus of your piece of text goes on the reader or the recipient. Developing the right mindset will get you far, especially in a world where people want to hear what’s in it for them.

2. Develop Your Own Voice

Every author develops a voice. He does it in time, with consistent practice and with a lot of patience. Even though you may not plan to become a highly successful author, you should still try to develop your own’s writer voice.

For example, some people are extremely serious while writing, using formal words and only “acceptable" expressions. Some may joke around and transmit positivity through words all the time, some may be inspirational, or sad, or whatever. Find your voice so the messages you mean to send will be perceived and understood better.

3. Write Short Sentences

Short sentences are key to great text readability. Use Hemingwayapp, a free online content tool that allows you to see how complicated your text is. The tool also highlights jargons and complicated words that could be replaced in order to make the text simpler.

Nevertheless, writing short sentences helps the reader process the information without having to turn back to read the sentence again. Therefore, this simple practice will improve the overall quality of your communication.

4. Break the Text into Short Paragraphs

Always break your text into smaller and shorter paragraphs. Take a quick peek at this article. As you may see, I never allow more than 4 to 5 rows, then I separate them. I write 1 to 2 ideas on each subheading, then I go on to the next.

What does this do? Well, it makes the reader’s experience better, because his eyes won’t have to “work" to capture the information. Blocks of text (unbroken rows) are always disastrous when it comes to text readability, so ensure that you always avoid them.

5. Reassess Your Text from Your Reader’s Perspective

Your readers may not have the same thinking, knowledge, and expertise as you do. Therefore, you may think that what you’re writing is definitely simple and understandable. But is it?

Step back and see your text from an objective point of view. Look for misunderstandings or complicated terms. Never put your reader into difficulty or you may just lose him!

6. Proofread and Edit Your Text

Never hit the “Send’ button or never put that letter into the box before you proofread and edit. These things may sound obvious, and most of you are probably proofreading and editing your writings. Yet, my question to you is this: what is the process you use?

Do you simply read your text one more time, identify a few mistakes, edit them, and move on? This could work when you’re sending your text to someone “less important". However, when your writing work gets into the hands of someone who may influence your future, exceptional proofreading and editing will save your skin most of the times!

I’d often check for the best paper writing service before turning in my most important academical assignments. I can’t tell you how many benefits this smart decision brought me every time. So. Bottom point is this…never send/turn in your texts before carefully ensuring that they’re well-written.

Conclusion

Improving your communication skills is one of the best things you can do to improve your overall experience here, as a human being. In this age of technology, we all write to communicate.

Whether you like it or not, you still have to write that essay, you still have to write that important email, that text message to your neighbor, and that important pitch your client. Put our tips into action, slowly and consistently, and soon enough you’ll notice significant results.

Author’s Bio

Mark Delarika is a professional content writer, teacher, and a blogger. He taught in more than 10 countries for students all over the world. Mark helps students to improve writing skills, shares his personal experience and gives practical tips for educators.

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5 signs you are giving up on your dreams

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Some people are just so lucky.
They seem to know what they want in life since they were kids. They work their ways to do things that make them happy. Also, receive support from their families and friends.

These people become extraordinary in their fields. They love their works and people love them, give them so much attention.

It sucks right? Because life seems so unfair.

While they know exactly who they want to become, you cannot even imagine how you will be in 5 years. Yes, you still remember the childish dream when you were a kid, but come on, who can make a living out of it?

Plus, even if you want to pursue it, it’s too late now. You are already settled down. You don’t like your job but at least it pays you. You have a family to support, you cannot be reckless and risk it all.

Yes, one day you will be working on your dream. It’s just not today. You are way too busy and occupied right now.

When is that “one day"? You don’t know yet. But “one day" you will do it.

What do those successful people know that you don’t?

Not all successful people were born blessed and lucky like you imagined. Many of them struggled in the past, many of them had their own sad stories. Some of them thought of giving up more than one time.

But they have something in common.

They don’t give up on their dream and do everything they can to pursue it.

Do you have that?

Yes, you have a dream. You are passionate about it. Yes, you decided to pursue it. But you decided to work on it “one day". They are working on their dreams now.

Instead of making excuses to delay it, they decided to work right away.

Do you want to know if you still have the mindset of “almost successful" people? Here are 5 signs that you are giving up on your dream. Tell me, how many of them are you guilty of?

  1. Your “should do" list becomes more important than your “want to do"

You know that working and achieving your dream takes time. A very long time indeed. You don’t know if it will be 5 years, 10 years or even 20 years.

Since it is so far away in the future, it can wait a little longer. Because you are busy right now.

You have a long list of things you should do. And you have to do them right away because they are urgent. So “now" is just not a good time.

The more you delay it, the less important your dream become. Your daily chores and errands can even come before your dream.

  1. The “I am fine" syndrome

How are you feeling exactly? Frustrated, depressed because of your reality or you are feeling okay and “not too bad"?

Let me tell you about the frog boiling experiment.

If you put a frog into the hot boiled water, it will jump immediately. But if you put it into cold water and cook the water slowly, the frog will stay put until it dies.

The more you get comfortable with the situation you are in, the less chance you have to step out of your comfort zone to get what you really want. Before you know it, your dream is dead without any jumping!

  1. You compare yourself with less fortunate people

You often compare yourself with other people. You get jealous and anxious when you see how perfectly talented and happy people are. You become frustrated and think of yourself as a victim.

To get over this feeling, you then decide to compare yourself with less fortunate people. But it’s not because you appreciate your life the way it is. It’s because it makes you feel better about yourself and the situation you are in.

It’s easy to compare yourself with your peers, realizing they are doing worse than you and stop trying to achieve your goals because what you have today is enough.

  1. You are not willing to give up other things in your life

Following your dreams is a hard work. It requires commitment and sacrifices. And you are just not ready for it yet.

Do you love watching movies? You can watch series after series for hours. However, you are not ready to stop yet.

Do you love going out to relax at night after work? You are not ready to go home and start studying yet.

Maybe you love traveling. You are not ready to bring your work with you when you travel, and you are not ready to give up traveling yet.

There are many things you love to do, and suddenly they become so important that you feel regretful giving them up. So instead, you put a hold on your dreams, because they are so far away after all.

  1. You doubt your dreams

The more you spend the time to think about your dreams, the more unrealistic it becomes. The more you plan it, the more uncertain it becomes. As a consequence, the more you talk about it, the sillier it becomes.

The truth is, it might not have any problem with your dreams and your plan. But in fact, you are doubting yourself.

What you are doing is not planning, it is making excuses and convincing yourself to give up.

Don’t spend your life thinking “what if"

You are ambitious and talented. You might not believe it but you have what it takes to succeed.

Only if you stay with it.

Yes, it is hard, it is painful when you follow your dreams. You will have to sacrifice many hobbies, many chances to have a good time. You will feel vulnerable, scared and excited at the same time.

Only if you stay with it.

Life is short. Don’t spend your life thinking “what if" and regret later.

Your dream is your baby. Your dream is still inside you, screaming and trying to get out and see the light. Give it a chance. Give yourself a chance and go for it.

So stop making excuses, and let’s do it. Together. Right now.

Author’s Bio

Mai Pham believes we can create our own happiness. She helps overwhelmed and frustrated people to ditch their stress and enjoy their lives again. Grab her free actionable cheatsheet: 5 Simple Tips to Release Stress and Bring You Calm in Under 5 Minutes and join her free 7 Joyful Days Challenge email course. Find her on Facebook and Twitter.

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