This Week’s Positive Word is DEVINE

This week’s positive word is

DEVINE

By Victoria J.Brown

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Ask yourself …

Are you living a Devine life?

Do you know how to live a Devine life?

What does living a Devine life actually mean?

D is for Devine

When we talk about living a Devine life, people often think about God, living spiritually and connecting with a higher power. This is essence is true, but there is a simpler way of looking at life and understanding how you can live a Devine life.

It’s as simple as – Do what you love.

Once you are filling your days with things you love, you can’t help but raise yourself to another level. Your frequency levels will move higher in connection with the Universe. You can’t help but push your mind beyond the everyday mundane tasks that may be holding you back from reaching your potential.

D is for Devine

Ask yourself, ‘What is my passion?’ ‘What would give me joy?’

What would you do every day that would fulfil you? What plans can you put in place to make this happen?

Here’s my top tips on how you can start living the Devine life you deserve:

  • Remember small steps count – put a plan in place that will ensure you are starting to work towards your dream.
  • Do something today that your future self will thank you for – when I think of my future self, I think about tomorrow; what can you do today that will bring you closer to your dreams tomorrow? Do something daily will ensure you work your way closer to those goals.
  • Being grateful for where you are at the moment will help you feel more settled with your life. It’s good to want to challenge yourself and push yourself forward, but being grateful for your present moment and feeling love for all that you have and all that you are, will ensure your life is Devine.
  • Once you become grateful for your life, trust that you are going in the right direction, then all will become clear and you will realise your life can be as Devine as you want it to be.

Devine Life

The word DEVINE is different from the word DIVINE. DEVINE is an adjective and means: super fantastic; righteous!; pretty much the coolest ever. Here is the definition in the Urban Dictionary. DIVINE means better than perfect, what people will say if they read a book or eat something that is better than perfect.

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How Writing a Novel Helped my Friend to Find Herself

How writing a novel helped my friend to find herself

How Writing a Novel Helped my Friend to Find Herself

I had heard that writing could help you to improve yourself. And not only in the sense of giving you the tools required to get a new job or better grades at school. But also as a person.

That when it is only you and a piece of paper something magical and also scientifically proven can happen, that your mind just takes a turn for the best.

What I didn’t expect was that writing a novel would have such an impact on my friend’s life.

This friend of mine had always been quite shy and insecure. Confidence wasn’t one of her strengths, really. Since childhood (as we lived in the same neighborhood), I had seen her struggling to make friends, to speak her mind, and to get what she wanted.

It was usually I who had to make a stand for her. I would notice her embarrassment (what wasn’t really hard to spot considering she would turn herself into a beetroot), and there I was, from asking to buy something over the counter to defending her against the newest bully in town.

It was never a problem for me to do it for her, to be honest. I kind of liked it. But as soon as I started getting a bit older, and with a bit more of sense, I began to worry about what would be of her in the future.

It wasn’t like I could be with her on a date or a job interview, for example. She would have to learn to say what she needed to say and to do what she wanted to do by herself.

And yet nothing much changed until we got into our 20s. We were both attending the same college, but I had enrolled myself in Marketing studies while she was doing Literature and other things of the genre.

I am not afraid to say that the only thing that I could think at that stage was how she was planning to get a job with that sort of knowledge because it wasn’t like she was going to be a teacher. She wouldn’t be able to speak in front of a class full of students, I was sure about it.

But, one day, she came to me and told me that she was writing a novel.

My first reaction was “oh, well, another thing to get her even more isolated”, but then she started telling me about the plot, a story about a young girl who had been kidnapped and was trying to deal with her feelings of fear and despair by writing a journal.

She said she had found inspiration on Anne Frank’s story, the German-born Jewish girl who wrote a remarkable diary while hiding from the Nazis. She thought it was impressive the way that Anne managed to leave so many inspiration to us and to keep such a positive image of human beings despite what she was going through.

But what I had got more impressed about was how similar was my friend’s book’s main character with herself. I could see how she was pouring her own soul in those pages, that the girl’s words were her own, that her dreams were my friend’s so-long-forgotten dreams.

Over the time that my friend spent concentrated writing her novel, I also noticed an improvement in the way that she thought about almost everything. She sounded less confused, her speaking was more clear and direct, and she even sounded a bit more confident.

Thanks to the criminal plot she was working on, I believe she became more capable of thinking logically and seeing problems and challenges from a new perspective. But, more than anything, she sounded happier and motivated.

I understand now that examining her own feelings carefully, but under the impression that she was talking about someone else’s life, my friend set herself free. She released her frustrations and started managing to say what was going on in her mind without fear.

Not that she has changed from water to wine, but the improvement is there for anyone to see. I wasn’t the only one noticing her confidence blossoming out, as our other friends and even her teachers were impressed by her progress.

So I am sharing this with you so you can also give it a try. Don’t worry if you don’t have an original idea to write about Set fire on the pieces of paper after you finish your story if you like.

Just grab a notebook and a pen, or your laptop, and start writing any piece of fiction you might like. The benefits of this decision will remain in your mind and in your heart from that moment, and so on.

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5 Reasons Why Doing What You Love Is the Only Way to Do Great Work

5 Reasons Why Doing What You Love Is the Only Way to Do Great Work

5 Reasons Why Doing What You Love Is the Only Way to Do Great Work

You know that feeling when you wake up in the morning and for a moment you’re floating in a haze of well-being, only to have it torn apart by the realization that you have to go to work soon? I do. Those moments were horrible. It wasn’t always there. Some days were better than others, but it was there often enough to be a serious bummer. After all, that shouldn’t be the way to start your day!

The thing is, it turns out I’m not the only person who feels that way. In fact, less than half of Americans are happy at their work. That might not be so bad as in 2010 when only 40% of people liked their job, but that doesn’t change the facts. The vast majority would experience more mental wellbeing doing something else, doing something they love.

And the thing is, that would be great for employers too. After all,

1. A happy employee is a more productive employee

Research has shown that happy employees are on average 12% more productive than their less happy counterparts. What’s more, they’re more protected from stress and illness, they’re less likely to experience negative emotions, they live longer, they take less sick days and they’re much less likely to leave for another company. In other words, there are nothing but benefits. And yet so few employers are really doing anything with this information.

Well if they aren’t, then we’re going to do it ourselves! The first step for finding the best job is writing the stunning CV (you can check some top websites for help). So, let’s look at some of the best reasons why you should think about finding work that you love. The best reason has to be:

2. Flow

Flow is wonderful. It’s a mental state where everything – your problems, your to-do list, your itches, your cold feet – for a time falls away as you lose yourself in what you’re doing. It leads to positive emotions as well as an experience of wellbeing. It also makes you far more productive, as you bend yourself to the task at hand and let nothing distract you.

The thing is, Flow is not something that is just achieved one, two, three. You need to actually be completely engaged in the activity to have it. And the only way that that can happen is if you actually truly enjoy doing it. Even then, you’ve got to practice, so that you have enough confidence that the doubt monster doesn’t pull you back to the surface. For that reason, it’s vital to try to find work that’s more engaging so that you don’t only get to experience this in your free time.

Then there’s:

3. Intrinsic Motivation

In psychology, they talk about two kinds of motivation, intrinsic and extrinsic. Intrinsic means that it comes from inside of you, so, for example, you are motivated to do the Sudoku puzzle because it interests you and when you finish it you feel satisfied and don’t expect any other kind of reward. Extrinsic motivation, on the other hand, is external. This is money, praise or anything similar.

The research has shown that when your primary motivation is external, you’re far less likely to enjoy what you’re doing. In fact, often the simple act of giving somebody an extrinsic reward will make them enjoy the task less and will generally not get them perform better at it either.

The only counter agent against that is if they love what they do. Then chances are good that they will continue to love it, despite the introduction of extrinsic rewards such as money. In other words, they continue to be motivated by the act itself, instead of seeing it as a means to an end as jobs are for most of us.

And that’s important because:

4. If you love what you’ll do you’ll keep doing it

And that’s a vital part of what makes doing what you love so important. Even in the down times, you’ll still gain satisfaction from it – heck, you’d do it for free if you had to. That means two things. First of all, it means that instead of your work dragging you further down on your bad days, it lifts you up. It acts as a high point in your day rather than something that you need to recover from.

Secondly, it means that you’re going to put in the hours to make certain that whatever you’re working on is going to be at the top of its game. And that is how you get noticed and make a splash. As nothing impresses quite as much as something that’s perfect.

Except, maybe, for something made with:

5. Real Passion

I don’t know what it is about real passion, but you can see it in an end product. If you visit a restaurant where the cook cares about what they’re doing, the food somehow has something that an uncaring cook will never have. You can see it in everything – words on a page, paint on a canvas, even in the bricks in a wall.

And wouldn’t the world be so much more beautiful if everything around you was filled with the passion of the people that created it? It certainly would feel us with more passion if we get to look at what we do and be proud of it.

Conclusion

We’ve got to do what we love! Because if we’re doing it for money then where does the joy come in? After all, beyond a certain limit where we can put food on the table and meet our friends at a café, money doesn’t really change how happy we are. In fact, I suspect most people buy all the stuff they do in part because they’re trying to fill the hole left in their lives because they’re not engaged with what they’re doing. But you can’t fill the absence of meaning in your life with a new coach or a new phone. You can only fill it by finding meaning. And that means doing something we love.

So what are we all waiting for?

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How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

How to Succeed When Fighting Against the Odds

Success rarely comes without any challenges or hurdles.  It is far too common to see people succeeding after a reasonable delay. So what’s so special about inspiring success stories?

Once in a while, we come across individuals who rose from anonymity and the depths of despair to become a scion of success and inspiration. These people succeed when the odds are stacked against them when the chips are down and all seems lost. This kind of success is sweeter than anything else in the world. Would you want to know how do they do it?

In order to know how to rise against the odds, we must know why most people cannot do the same.

Why do we give up?

People give up easily when the going gets tough because they are afraid of failure. We all come across a point in our lives when we fail numerous times and nothing we do seems to work for us. These are the times when we have to push ourselves the hardest and tap into our mental strength to see those failures eventually become a success.   It takes years of training to think positively and for the brain to have that mental strength. There is a lot of hard work involved and it is something that people are afraid of when it comes to following their dreams. No one is willing to put in the required time, effort and patience to endure the hardships.

Until all people are willingly going to accept the fact that nothing comes without a price in this world, there will be fewer success stories and more people listening to them.  If you think you have little time to develop your mental strength owing to your regular job or any other work, think again! We all were given an equal number of hours and seconds in a day, it’s only a matter of some utilizing it to its best, while others just not being able to manage it properly.

We also give up because of being surrounded by discouraging emotions and people. Hearing negative things about our capabilities and that too on a consistent basis can lead many of us to actually believing in them and hence becoming weak enough to give up easily, sometimes, even without trying. You must develop a strong will power to remain unaffected and immune to what others are saying. Plus, choosing your friends wisely can help a lot. Stick around people who are successful and have nothing but positivity to offer. Mere observation of such personalities can teach you a thing or two about fighting against the odds

Another big reason why our lives blow up in the face under tough circumstances is because of our lack of patience. It’s a huge struggle for us to be constantly patient especially when nothing seems to be going according to plans. Our impatience either makes us do something stupid or leads us to give up before the goal could have been achieved.  Changing this habit can make a lot of difference.

What needs to be done?

The first thing that one should do when a storm comes is held the ground. The same is true for you as well. Instead of getting bogged down, it’s important to create processes and methods to get yourself out of the rut.

Be creative

You must have heard that tough times call for tough measures. However, tough measures without any thought going into them cannot help you out. You have to be creative with your solutions when there is little that you can do to change your situations. Before you take any decision, you need to have multiple ideas in mind. The first alternative that comes to the mind in such a situation is pretty obvious that have been used earlier also. However, if the solution would have been so simple, you wouldn’t have probably called it a tough situation.  Truly creative alternatives remain hidden in the depths of mind which require too deep and persistent thoughts to be revealed.  See the bigger picture; you may discover something that can help you.

Find support

As you look back at your life, you would find that all your success had some minor or major contributions from someone you knew. Asking for help during tough times won’t make you appear weaker. There are too many of us who suffer in isolation, just because we are afraid of asking for help. By hiding our hard times from our connections, we will end up feeling more miserable. Everyone faces challenges in their lives and if you share them with people you know, it can become easier to overcome them. Always remember, you are seeking support today, however, you can always return the favor when the time comes.

Keep feeding your mind with positive thoughts

Just like the body needs all sorts of healthy food to recover from any illness, the mind also requires a healthy dosage of positive thoughts and inspiration to face challenging times. Talking to leaders, achievers, and successful people who have fought against the odds in their lives is a good way to start. Reading their biographies or their articles will also help you prepare effective strategies to face challenging situations.  Feeding your mind with positiveness will do a lot for increasing your mental strength and as they say, most wars are won or lost in the minds before they are fought on the battlefield.

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Author Bio:

Saurabh has written this article keeping in mind the needs of the job seekers community, to help them be a better professional.  His write-ups extensively cover all the aspects of job searching and working life, right from subscribing to new jobs, to getting ready for an interview, and working at an office. If you want to read more of his articles, follow him on, LinkedIn and Twitter

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This Week’s Positive Word is CHOICES

C is for Choices

By Victoria J.Brown

www.victoria-brown.com

Sometimes we are faced with difficulties in life that we have to either overcome or dwell upon. However, choosing to look at what you have rather than what you don’t can definitely overcome any difficulties.

C is for Choices

But once you understand that life is a journey, and every stop is meant to be, you can choose to embrace it or fight against it.

If you are experiencing some hard times at the moment, depending on how you choose to think about these life events, will result in the next part of your journey.

C is for Choices

 This may be hard to comprehend if you feel as if you are stuck in some kind of rut or are facing some true life or health difficulties.

Let’s do a mini exercise.

Ask yourself these two questions …

  • On a day to day basis do you feel as if you’re plodding through the mud?
  • Do you look at other peoples’ lives, envy them and look at the bad in your own life?

If you answered yes to the above questions, here could lie the reasons behind the problems you are experiencing in your life.

C is for Choices

Now ask yourself these two questions …

  • Which part of your life do you feel is running quite smoothly? (One rule with this question – you can’t answer ‘nothing’ – find something! There will be something!)
  • When was the last time you did something with LOVE for someone else?

Life is about making choices; to choose to see the good around us or choose to dwell upon which isn’t good. Sometimes we could dislike something so much in our life that it can take over our whole being. So much so they can’t see the goodness in their life. They choose to see the darkness.

What people don’t realise is unhappiness leads to more unhappiness.

It’s as simple as this –

C is for Choices

Now ask yourself another question …

Who do you CHOOSE to be?

Do you choose to be the person who focuses on everything that is wrong in the world?

Or

Do you choose to be the person who focuses on all that is good?

Life is simple when you look at it simply! Life is beautiful! We must choose to see the beauty. Once you see the beauty … it all becomes clear.

C is for Choices

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