10 Behaviors Optimistic People Have

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10 Behaviors Optimistic People Have

There some behaviors all optimists tend to share that immediately make them stand out in a crowd.

Some believe that practicing these behaviors every day could actually turn a pessimist into an optimist.

1. Optimists Tend to Think in Idealistic Terms

Because optimists tend to see the positive side to everything, they are also more likely to think in idealistic terms. For this reason, it’s great to have an optimist around when you’re embarking on a new project because they can give the courage and motivation you need to take on any challenge. Idealism tends to be contagious.

2. They Are Forgiving

Optimists are really great at finding the good in every person or situation. This is way, they never really hold a grudge. They may be a little bit disappointed, because of their idealistic nature. But they’ll always be quick to forgive and forget, because, deep down, they know everything happens for a reason, and nobody is really to blame in most situations.

3. Optimists Lead Healthier Lives

It’s a scientific fact that optimists are healthier than pessimists. That’s not just because having a positive attitude every day tends to lower your stress levels. Optimists are more likely to engage in healthy behaviors, such as exercising and eating healthy. And because they tend to have a really positive outlook on everything, they’re more likely to continue with these behaviors, even if they don’t see results immediately.

4. Optimists Don’t Give Up

Because they tend to focus more on the positive side of things, optimists tend to stick with a task for a longer period of time, even when things aren’t working out as expected. It helps that they don’t stress out about all the things that could go wrong, and just focus on what they have to do, and that great feeling of having accomplished something that comes in the end. They can look past minor setbacks, and see them as learning opportunities.

5. They Focus on Future Possibilities

Optimists don’t really focus so much on the present. When they look at current actions and events, all they see is the world of possibilities behind them. It keeps them motivated, and willing to put in the extra legwork to see their vision achieved. But it can also lead to some frustration, and sloppiness when things aren’t moving as fast as they would like them to.

6. They’re More Prone to Taking Risks

Optimists can’t really see all the dangers involved in a task because they don’t see them dangers. They think more in terms of challenges, or puzzles begging to be solved. As such, they are more likely to be risk takers. This tends to make optimists more successful in the long run. All they really focus on is the rewards they are bound to get at the end of the day. Optimists also tend to have higher self-esteem, which means it’s easier for them to see themselves as being capable of accomplishing anything.

7. They Care About Helping Others

Optimistic people make a habit out of helping whenever they can. This practice comes from their belief in people, and what they can accomplish. Because optimists trust not only themselves but everyone around them as well. They know, deep down, that the small amount of time and resources they are gifting is going to bring great benefits for everyone involved. And because they tend to take a genuine interest in other people’s lives, they are more skilled at reading those subtle signs that let them know exactly what others need.

8. Optimists Sleep Better

Pessimists and people who tend to overthink stuff, in general, have a hard time falling asleep, tossing and turning over every little thing that might go wrong in some distant future. Optimists don’t worry about these things so much, and as a result, they tend to sleep better and wake up more refreshed.

9. They’re Proactive

Instead of looking at a problem from every single angle, considering every possible solution, and all the ways in which they could fail, optimists tend to just jump straight in. They are confident in their abilities, and the abilities of those around them. They believe that if anything comes up, they are sure to find a solution as they go. And they find it easier to think as they go, rather than sitting around, making plans.

10. Optimists Tend to Look for Creative Solutions

When it comes to a solution, optimists have a talent, and an inclination, to move away from the beaten path. They tend to be more creative in general, but they’re really excellent when it comes to problem-solving. This is partly due to their natural self-confidence, and partly due to their dynamic and active personality. Since they have the ability to see so much potential in the world around, optimists have a tendency to get bored with stuffy, tried and tested formulas.

Optimists, in general, are distinguished by their strong belief in the ultimate good of the world. Practicing these behaviors might help in that direction, even if you’re not yet thoroughly convinced.

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Back To The Start: Dating After Divorce

Dating after a divorce may sound like a tiring and unpleasant experience. Some people even prefer staying in a dysfunctional marriage just to avoid getting into new relationships. However, all the people in the world are wired to connect with others, and if you take it slow and open up your mind, dating can be one fun and liberating experience.

Take it Slow

Right after the divorce, you should be patient and take some time to heal. Never rush into things and don’t even think about rebound relationships. Those could only cause more problems and unnecessary emotions. During the first few weeks after the divorce, take the time to rethink your desires, talents and reconnect with yourself. After you have a clear image of your future, then it is a good time to get back on the horse and look for a new partner. Remember to have some fun first, before you decide to enter another serious relationship, just so you would not miss out on perks of being single.

Have no Shame

The good thing about divorces today is that they can be done quickly and they are considered normal, rather than an exception. Most Americans want to get it over with fast and, for example, filing for divorce in Oregon is not that complicated. The positive thing about online divorce is that everything is done without any fuss and piles of papers, which gives you the possibility to start dating again in no time. When reentering the world of dating, don’t be ashamed of your past. In real life, relationships fail, people fail and that is perfectly acceptable in today’s culture. So don’t feel sorry for yourself, be confident, accept the reality, and you will have no problem reconnecting with people and fully trusting them.

Have a Support System

You should never date alone. Of course, that does not mean all of your dates should be in a group, but make sure to surround yourself with good friends to support you. Let your best friends cheer for you and gently encourage you to date and have fun. It is always good to have a shoulder to cry on in tough times, and someone to advise and listen to you whenever you need it. With dearest and nearest friends, everything seems easier. You can turn a new leaf and bravely start dating, when you know there is someone to watch your back.

Date outside the Box

Everyone has a type. That is how you ended up with your ex, and it may seem hard to imagine dating someone completely different. However, how can you know that is impossible if you have not tried it? Open up your mind and date different people. If you wish, you can try and stay within “your type”, but it is always fun meeting people that are different than your ex, or even try and find a complete opposite of what you think you like. You will be surprised to see what type of people and personalities attract you, so have fun with them. Better yet, if the person is different than what you’re used to, the future relationship promises completely unique and unusual events to get you outside of your comfort zone for a change.

Talk to your Kids

Having kids at home may make dating after the divorce a bit tough. Now you are their model for everything and you want to be careful. Make sure to talk to your kids about the present situation and what is going to happen. Tell them that you will date again, but that you will not bother them with that too much. Be selective and choose partners only if you know they will be a good role model and that your children can connect with them, too. At the beginning, it is best to keep the dating details to yourself, and only introduce the date to your kids if you are certain about the relationship, in order to avoid causing anxiety with your children because of all the new people in your life. Also, tell them that they are your priority so they can be assured that they are loved and taken care of.

Don’t be discouraged after the divorce. It may seem scary, but dating is one fun experience that will encourage you to heal and have a bright future. Take things slow, talk to your kids and everyone will be happy at the end.

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Alex WilliamsMy name is Alex Williams, born and raised in beautiful Sydney. I am a journalism graduate and a rookie blogger trying to find my luck. Blogs are the perfect opportunity for presenting yourself to a wider audience, getting the chance to showcase my expertise and receiving recognition. I am a regular contributor at BizzMark Blog.

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Love is Action Movement ~ The Word Rocks Project

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Love is Action Movement | The Word Rocks Project

I truly believe in the power of love and kindness. This power is the reason for which every day, in the past five years, I’ve been painting #wordrocks and scattering them everywhere for people to find.

Almost five years ago, my son Antonio created Word Rocks Project. He was only ten years old at that time and willing to leave some joy around to make people smile. We never expected the idea to grow that much. But it did. We are all over the world now. And we keep trying to make people happy through our message rocks.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project

I always have them with me. No matter if it’s walking my dogs, Sgt. Pepper and Hey Jude, or doing groceries,if it’s mailing a letter or having a coffee with a friend. Sometimes I pass by a playground and will pull over the car to leave a wordrock. I will always find a nice spot to surprise someone.

Many people have found amazing comfort and encouragement at the exact right time in running into one of these rocks and being able to keep them as their own.

Knowing that random acts of kindness can bring so much for people, I was encouraged to expand my ideas. Love notes, golden tiny fairies, sparkle unicorns, autumn leaves, messages in recycled med bottles. So many ideas! Energy flows where attention goes. I turned my heart to leave these love messages and love keeps flowing.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project
Word Rocks Project
Picture from the Word Rocks Project

Not a long time ago, I created another project: Love it, Forward List. In few words: every time I get to know someone who is going through a hard time I send a mail to my #loveitforwardlist volunteers explaining what is going on with this person. So they start to “lovebomb”  the person, with letters, cards and a lot of other amazing love things. Right now I have 2.000 volunteers writing the letters with me.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project
Word Rocks Project
Picture from the Word Rocks Project

In this world that is so digital, the power of a handwriting letter is amazing. So, can you imagine when someone receives a couple of letters full of encouragement? The feeling just lifts them up, brings them pure healing joy.

Every day I learn with this project. The world is full – very full – of people in need of love. Or affection. In need of attention and comfort. And this has been a great and deep lesson in my life. It’s wonderful how the rocks have connected me with people around the world I would never have known otherwise.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project

It fills my heart daily that with a simple act of kindness I am bringing positive feelings to people. I truly believe that when you open your heart to a greater love, everything makes sense, and life becomes more beautiful As I always like to say: love shared is love multiplied.

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Picture from the Word Rocks Project

These wonderful and inspiring positive words were written by Carol Arêas – a Brazilian living in California, a wordrocker, a kindness encourager, Beatle maniac, Boston Terrier lover & other fairy tales.

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Contact:  wordrocks.me@gmail.com

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Everyone Needs Help Sometimes

 Everyone Needs Help Sometimes

Everyone Needs Help Sometimes

The golden rule of overcoming mental health obstacles reads, “you have to want to be helped”. I’ve learned this over the span of my mental health journey after some devastating abuse I experienced in my childhood. Sadly, my mother turned to drugs when I was just 8 years old. She became addicted to methamphetamine and needless to say, it was devastating for my family. My brother and I were severely neglected during this time and were put into some very uncomfortable situations. Drug dealers coming and going, a missing mother for extended periods of time, strange paraphernalia around the house – we just couldn’t process it all. Luckily, after just a few months we were court ordered to begin living with our father and the nightmare was over.

It took me years to come to terms with the fact that I would never be able to accept my past and continue positively into my future without help. Asking for help is not always easy, but keep in mind that no one should have to keep abuse a secret. No one is meant to handle it alone.

Unfortunately, I have also had many friends and family members who have struggled severely with their own mental health. However, often times the illness continues untreated because people will not help themselves. No one on earth can help you if you aren’t willing to help yourself. This is a problem that I struggled with for years. I put my family and friends through hell from time to time because I was miserable and they didn’t know why. It wasn’t until I revealed the intricacies of my abuse and asked for help that I was able to separate myself from the events and know that my abuse does not define me as a person. I was a victim of abuse, but I am not my abuse.

If you are going through an emotionally trying time or are trying to come to terms with past events, I urge you to first think of your family before you continue on your current path. Many people fall into a black hole of depression and don’t know how to get out and/or simply give up. You must remember that it is not the job of your loved ones to lift you up, you have to want help first.

Just because you are suffering from a mental illness does not mean that the world has to treat you differently. It is your job to work towards you mental health goals, thus, you can move into a better future that you create for yourself. Again, imagine your friends and family. Do they bring a sense of well-being and helpfulness into your life (or at least try)? What are they receiving in return? If the answer is only anger, sadness, and no appreciation because of your mental illness, then it’s time to take a stand against your mental health. The fact of the matter is your mental health may be affecting theirs.

I understand this all too well, I tried to hold in the sadness and anger I had for my past and of course, it didn’t work. I went through spouts of deep depression and occasionally dragged friends and family members down with me or didn’t speak to them at all. It was absolutely not a way to live.

On the other end of the spectrum, if you have a loved one whose mental health is suffering, you may understand how incredibly trying it can be to try to make the situation better. The truth is, you can’t. No amount of love or friendship can erase a traumatic experience and if it isn’t dealt with, the emotional scarring may only deepen.

Regularly, those who suffer from emotional damage turn to drugs in order to self-medicate the pain that they feel. This may occur because of a lack of support or a suspected lack of support, especially if the victim is young. They may feel like there is no one to turn to, no one will listen, or that no one will believe them. I am genuinely lucky that I never seriously turned to drugs or alcohol. Several of my friends and family members used drugs as an escape for the anguish that they endured.

If you believe that someone in your life may have gone through a traumatic life experience, please offer to be a part of their support system. Strangely enough, I never considered therapy or counseling until I had become an adult, years after my abuse took place. All it took was one little seed planted in my head by a loved one and I knew that’s what I needed to do. So, just know that all it takes is letting the person know that there are options available – they do not have to continue suffering. It may take some time for them to come to terms with this fact and ask for help, but someone who wants to be healthy will eventually take the first step towards a better life.

Trisha is a writer from Boise, ID. She is a dedicated vegan who promotes an all-around healthy lifestyle, including mental health. You can find her on twitter @thatdangvegan or check out her blog thatdangvegan.com 

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Practice your Spelling! by Kari Erkkila

The idea that words have power is still new to me. I have loved playing with words to tell stories and make rhymes since I was a young girl, but it wasn’t until recently that I started to realize that words have power.  I shouldn’t be surprised. I learned in Sunday School, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” (John 1:1).  Words are the foundation of our reality. Everything we see in the world is a manifestation of a thought, and thoughts are made up of words. If we choose positive words, then we can create a positive world. It’s that simple.

When I came across the list from Positive Word Research, I started brainstorming all the different ways I could use the words. The first idea was inspired by the water experiment by Dr. Emoto. He discovered that consciousness can affect the molecular structure of water. Water infused with positive intention formed beautiful crystalline forms when frozen.

I started by selecting a few words from the list and writing them on a post-it note. I would stick the word on a mason jar full of water and put it out on the deck so the sun could infuse the energy of the word into the water.  I would drink the blessed water and let the positive energy electrify my veins.

Then, one evening I was sipping my infused water as I relaxed at the kitchen counter. My doodle pad, Sharpie, and word-list happen to be right next to me. I picked up the pen and started writing the words in alphabetical order. What happened next was amazing. I got in a groove and just started writing. I started playing with each word as an individual art form. I copied each word in different styles and flourishes.  It made me appreciate the nuances of each word, as if each word had it’s own flavor. I would visualize the quality of each word, and feel the feeling that each word evoked as the pen scrolled across the paper. The words became me.

It shouldn’t surprise me. Our stores are filled with adult coloring books and markers. Social media is full of articles on the meditative practice of coloring. But I found something different about doodling the words. Maybe it is because words access a different part of our brain than coloring does. Maybe it is because it is so simple, you can   do it anywhere. (All you need is a blank paper, a pen, and words. No need to tote around a hefty book, or box of colored pencils.)  Or maybe it is because the words truly do have power. And with each stroke of the pen, I am infusing my spirit with the essence of each word I write. There is something so soothing, so therapeutic, and yet so simple about just sitting down and writing the words. As a writer,  I also noticed that it is a nice break to relax and pluck the words directly from the word list. No need to stretch my brain for words.  They are already there for me to draw from. Each word is it’s own vessel of positivity.

As I write this, it feels like the words are magic. And in fact they are. A magic “spell” is the very act of using words to manifest a desire. It’s inherent in the actual word, “spell” as in to spell a word or cast a spell.  So by  “spelling” these positive words, we are casting our own positive spells. It gives new meaning to the idea of spelling practice.

I am still exploring ways to use the fabulous words found in this treasury. (Did you notice how I tried to infuse the above sentence with more positive words? Another fun way to use the word-list in everyday interactions!)

Infusing our life with a bevy of positive words, can only help us to create a positive world. I am going to call this art, “spelling practice.”  By using these words in our journals, in our conversation, in our thoughts, we are building our positivity muscles. And the more we continue to practice, the more we are infusing the world with our positive energies. The world can’t help but become a better place. Let us start practicing our spelling, and cast spells of love! Namaste.

—  Kari Erkkila

Kari Erkkila is an explorer of the world, and enjoying the process of discovering the powerful impact positive words can make in our lives. Follow me on Instagram as Skurlfriend. Facebook as Kari Erkkila, and watch for her forthcoming blog.

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