5 Habits to Help You Stay in the Present Moment in Everyday Life

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Living in the present is a goal most people have tried to re-commit to, but it’s a lot easier said than done. Most of us spend a lot of our time reflecting on the past (the good and the bad) and planning or worrying about the future. The ability to live in the moment is rare, and it takes a lifetime of practice. Rare are the times we’re truly aware of the awesome moments as they unfold. It’s why most people say their wedding day and other major events “fly by.” Fortunately, for some events, we know how important it is to have photographs and videos. Hence the massive wedding industry advertisements. It’s great to preserve those memories, but they’re still in the past.

How can we actually stay in the present moment on a daily basis?

Here are five habits to help you hone present-moment living and shake off the negativity that can come with trying to live in the present or future:

  1. Actively take note of what’s happening at the moment.

    Tapping all your senses including the tastes, smells, textures, what you hear and what you see is one of the best ways to pull yourself back to the present. It isn’t easy. However, the influx of experiential marketing showcases that as humans we’re hungry for full-sensory experiences. We’re so used to just energizing a few senses that the others are desperate for attention. Throughout the day, take note of what your senses are discovering, and you’ll be whisked back to the present.

  2. Try meditation.

    Meditation isn’t easy and “true meditation” means you’re living in the moment with zero to minimal distractions. There’s a reason meditation guides will so often remind you that, “If you feel yourself getting distracted, simply acknowledge it and bring yourself back.” We’re both in need of more sensory experiences and always trying to distract ourselves. Meditation doesn’t require any special equipment, and you don’t need to force yourself to sit for hours in vain. A few minutes per day, preferably in the morning and night, is a great help. There are also countless tools from candle gazing to guided tapes.

  1. Tackle your technology addiction


    Most of us struggle with some form of technology dependence. Download an app that keeps track of how often you check your phone to give yourself a reality check. Make a pact with loved ones that when you’re together during certain events, such as dinner or a date, phones are on airplane mode. Technology is a major distraction and can do more harm than good when we depend on it too much. How can you lessen technology usage in your life?

  1. Get in touch with nature.

    Whether you live in a metropolitan or a rural area, you’ll be able to find green spaces that help you get centered. Check out parks, nearby trails, or take short day trips to the great outdoors. Forest bathing is a way of connecting with nature on a deeper level. Leave the phones at home and make yourself aware of the awesomeness of your surroundings. Nature is a natural antidote to living in the past or future.

  1. Start writing.

    Whether it’s starting a journal or writing a handwritten letter to surprise a loved one, writing forces our brain to focus and slow down. Our brains tend to work faster than our hands, which is why so many studies have shown that writing things down helps us remember them better than typing. For a double whammy, write positive affirmations and work towards cognitive reconditioning of your self-talk. Penmanship is also a fading skill, and if we don’t use it, we lose it. Focusing on bettering penmanship is an easy, accessible, and fruitful goal that also has calming and meditative properties.

Living in the present isn’t a resolution that requires waiting until the New Year. Know that you’ll slip up, but making it an active goal on a daily basis will get you closer to living a calmer, more joyful life. What can you do right now to make the most of this moment?

Author’s Bio:

Trevor is a freelance writer and recovering addict & alcoholic who’s been clean and sober for over 5 years. Since his recovery began, he has enjoyed using his talent for words to help spread treatment resources and addiction awareness. In his free time, you can find him working with recovering addicts or outside enjoying about any type of fitness activity imaginable.

 

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Tips For Parenting Your Teen In a Positive Way

Parenting is not an easy task for many people, but it is much harder if your kid is facing difficulties in his way to adult life. What can you do then and how to parent a teenager in a positive way? Moreover, how can you develop a friendly relationship with your teen? Today we will try to answer all these questions, thus here are my tips on how to cope with this:

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  1. Be Friends

Amidst the easiest teens tips on getting along with your children are staying friends with your offsprings. Children do really need to realize that their parents understand and appreciate them and treat them as solid individuals. Having a friendly relationship with your baby is a starting point for any family, thus your duty is to teach your children how to trust you from his early age and maintain this sense during the entire life.

  1. Take Part in Your Kid’s Life

Today many parents are too busy with their careers, duties, and material things of adult life, completely forgotten about their children. Most of them realize a problem too late, that is why it is essential to prevent it at an early stage. How to do this? You can start with making regular things together; such as spending few evenings a week together, getting university coursework help done together or regular eating meal, or spending at least one of the weekends doing what you both like. There are numerous ways of how to become a part of your kid’s life, thus do not blink these opportunities until it is too late.

  1. Respect your child

Children tend to think of themselves as independent and mature while they are growing up, thus try not to harm them by denying this. I am speaking of refusing the fact that they need more freedom as they become older, but you should always be aware of where your teen is going, who are his friends and their parents, this will help you to trust your kid even more and be secure he is safe and sound. Another bad thing you should avoid is arguing with an exalted voice, this will only lead to nervous breakdowns for both of you, thus think positive and do not tie yourself up on knots.

  1. Teach Your Teen and Share Your Own Experiencechildren

We learn something new every day even when we are adults, thus for children it is an integral part of their lives. Some parents say that their kids should live their own lives and make their own mistakes and only this way they can become solid individuals in future, but do you agree with this statement? Of course, we cannot impose our own sense of life to our kids, but we can advise them by telling how to avoid small mistakes or pitfalls our life is full of. Frankly speaking, positive thoughts and good vibes are what your relationship should consist of.

  1. Keep in Touch with Your Children, but Do Not Annoy

People, especially teenagers, get angry easily if they are under total control 24/7. If you think that regular check-ins are your daily duty, then you are completely wrong. Of course, you must control your teen, but it should be in a friendly manner, harsh and strict parenting will make your child only pull you away. If you develop a good relationship, children will share with you everything they feel or think, thus the golden rule for every parent is to find out the balance between over control and positive mentoring.

There are no exact behavioral patterns or positive thinking you should follow in order to become successful parents, thus you must do everything at your own risk. Of course, you can buy a thousand books on how to parent your teen in a positive way, but all children are different, thus they need special approaches. Where to find a key? You must realize that you have to listen to your kid and treat him as an individual with his own fears, believes, opinion and behavioral patterns. Only by keeping in mind all these factors, you can remain friends with your teen during your entire life.

Author’s Bio

Helen is a prolific writer who inspires other people to find their predestination in life. Her life motto is, ‘Do what you care for, love what you carry out.’
She also believes that each individual on the planet has special expertise, and the only complication is to be open in order to see this talent in its full volume.

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7 Things Successful People Avoid

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Do you consider yourself a successful person?

Before you answer, remember that the term “success” is somewhat relative. You may consider your cousin Larry a success because he has a Ph.D. and a high-paying job. But if his sights were set on Bill-Gates – level success, he may consider himself a failure.

When you reframe success as something you determine for yourself, it suddenly becomes attainable.

There is one common trait that successful people have: They consider themselves successful. These people are happy with what they have even though they may strive for more.

While they are busy reaching for their goals, successful people keep their eye on the prize. They understand that this means avoiding anything that could stand in the way of their productivity.

Successful people don’t bother with these seven things that could stand in the way of their productivity.

  1. Excessive alcohol

    There are many types of alcoholic drinking, but successful people avoid them all. They know their limits and stick to them. Because alcoholism is a multifaceted disease, it’s easier to fall into the trap than many people realize.

  1. Saying yes to everything

    Saying yes to the wrong thing can eat up your precious time and keep you away from doing things that are more productive. It’s true that opportunities are everywhere, but successful people are stingy with their time.

  2. Lottery tickets

You can be successful and win the lottery, but successful people don’t rely on luck to get ahead. If you understand that your choices are what makes or breaks you, you are on your way to becoming successful.

  1. Perfectionism

    In order to achieve your goals, you’ll need to know when to walk away. It’s easy to get lost in the pursuit of perfection when you should be focusing on greater things.

  1. Dwelling on the past

    We all understand that we can’t change the past. Unfortunately, that doesn’t stop us from obsessing over it. Successful people, on the other hand, don’t waste their time thinking about the past. They take the lessons learned from past mistakes and unfortunate encounters and move on.

  2. Negative friends

    You are the average of the five people you spend time with. This advice famously comes from successful motivational speaker Jim Rohn. If you want to be successful yourself, try spending time with people who are more successful than you. If you waste your time with Debbie Downers, their negative voices will always be stuck in your head.

  1. Skipping breakfast

    If you want to be successful, take time for breakfast in the morning. A 2013 Italian Journal of Pediatrics study review found that people who eat breakfast have a better overall nutrient consumption and cognitive performance than people who don’t. The simple act of eating a healthy breakfast will give you a better chance having a productive day.

Author’s Bio:

Trevor is a freelance writer and recovering addict & alcoholic who’s been clean and sober for over 5 years. Since his recovery began, he has enjoyed using his talent for words to help spread treatment resources and addiction awareness. In his free time, you can find him working with recovering addicts or outside enjoying about any type of fitness activity imaginable.

 

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Perfectionism Ruins Your Life! Here Are 7 Tips to Overcome It

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Why can’t my skin be perfect?

I’m doing my best, but what if my boss hates the project?

I will win this thing!

If you dig deep enough, you’ll recognize some aspects of perfectionism deep within.

Everyone has faced the challenge of wanting to be better than anyone else. Being better than we already are is a good aspiration. But that’s not enough for us. We strive to perfection, and that’s when the problems begin.

The strive for improvement is an absolute necessity in life. It pushes you to learn more, try harder, and make progress. However, when this strive turns into perfectionism, it’s a reflection of your big ego. It makes you constantly unsatisfied with the things you achieve.

Have you ever had to deal with a perfectionist? Maybe a partner, a boss, or a parent? How impossible was it to make them happy with your achievements? Why would you impose such high expectations on yourself?

Perfectionism can really ruin your life. Daniel Winslet, a team leader from Best Essays, sees that from a student’s point of view: “Do you know how many students are striving to make their perfectionist parents happy? Too many. Since they are so used to being pushed, they start imposing impossible expectations to themselves. Although they can write well, they are not confident in their abilities. They hire professional writers even when there’s no need for that. A perfectionist doesn’t recognize the it’s good enough limit. That complicates their lives to a great extent."

Is there a way to control this state of being? Yes. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. We’ll list 7 tips to help you with that.

  1. Appreciate the Journey

Winning at something is easy to celebrate, right? But the moment when you meet a goal is not the only one worthy of a celebration. All small steps that get you there are important. Pay attention to the progress, no matter how insignificant it seems. This will teach you that every move forward is important. You’ll still keep an eye on the goal, but you’ll understand that the wider perspective is what matters.

  1. Understand the Value of Mistakes

When you look at the photos of popular Instagram yogis, you’re mesmerized with their power and grace. That’s because they show you the final result of a long process of making effort. Throughout that process, they fell down from a handstand countless times. They went through misalignments and pain. They are still not perfect. No one ever is.

Don’t let mistakes stop you from working further. Acknowledge their value. They teach you lessons. When you correct a mistake, you’re getting a lot better at what you do.

  1. Don’t Turn Ideals into Absolutes

Everyone has ideals. A perfectionist translates them into goals. If a perfectionist is a writer, they want to be the next Dostoevsky. When they write something, they don’t believe it’s good enough for that ideal. So they don’t bother publishing it.

Turn your ideals into guidelines; not absolutes.

  1. Don’t Rush with Your Judgments

Growth is a process. Goal-achieving is a process. Overnight success? There’s no such thing.

Let’s say you start a YouTube channel and you want to make it a huge success. Chances are, you won’t achieve that with a single video. You’ll have to keep working and engaging your audience. Each day, you’ll be attracting more viewers.

If you get disappointed after the first video because it doesn’t get you millions of views, you won’t continue doing this. If you keep going, you’ll reach the millions at one point.

Do not judge your achievements too soon! Let the process take its time.

  1. Avoid the Comparison Trap

Why is it called a comparison trap? – Because comparing yourself to other people traps you in a place of constant disapproval. You feel like you’re never good enough, since there’s always someone accomplishing more. This behavior is harmful.

You can compare yourself only to yourself. Think about where you are at this moment. Envision where you want to be. Pay attention to the progress and that will be good enough.

  1. Acknowledge Your Uniqueness

You can’t be someone else. You can’t meet other people’s expectations? That’s okay. It’s more important to find out who you want to become.

You’re a unique individual with special preferences. Your attempt to be perfect in the eyes of other people gets in the way of achieving your unique potential.

  1. Stay in the Now

Perfectionists constantly think about a more successful future. That’s not a bad thing, as long as it doesn’t take you away from the present moment. Do not keep your focus on the goals all the time. You can envision a better future for yourself, but perceive it as the growth you’ll achieve starting from this moment.

Staying in the present moment is not just a random mindfulness technique everyone is talking about. It’s wisdom. It works.

Will you sacrifice your happiness to perfectionism? Of course not! You’re already great. You can become better, but you shouldn’t be unhappy if you don’t become perfect. Each step forward is important, no matter how insignificant it seems.

Author’s Bio

Joan Selby is a life coach and a blogger; a graduate of California Institute of the Arts and a fancy-shoe lover; a writer by day and reader by night, giving a creative touch to everything. Find her on Twitter and Facebook

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Reduce Stress By Positive Thinking. This Guide Will Help You

Have you been feeling empty and tired recently? Okay, these are the first signs of coming depression. Not to develop it to the full extent, you need to get out from the darkness and come back to the light of life. We know what you need to cure the upcoming disease – positive thinking! If you wish to find out how to reduce stress by positive thinking, then keep on reading!

Stop Negative Self-Talk

Everyone talks to oneself, right? The point is how you do that in various situations. For example, you failed the exam in college. The first thing that comes to your mind has to be probably: “I am useless" or “I failed it again." Guess what? This is a completely wrong way of thinking. You should get rid of such thoughts right away!

Instead, you have to forgive yourself and motivate for the future: “Next time, I will do better," or “It is okay to make mistakes. I have still passed the test though the score is not the best." If you are feeling the depression is coming, change the strict attitude to yourself by comforting kind words.

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Be Grateful

You should always be grateful to everything that surrounds you. In the period of upcoming depression, you should remind yourself of how grateful you are even more. To embrace a more positive attitude, you have to stop for a moment and see how much you have: the loving family, the opportunity to study in college, two arms and two legs that allow you to function fully, and many other things.

To understand clearer what you should be grateful for, write down all the things you have, both material and nonmaterial, and smile when the list is over. Why smile? Because there are many things you should say “Thank you" for when you wake up each morning!

Positive Thinking Meditation

If you do not feel that anything mentioned above helps, then try positive thinking meditation each day. 20 minutes a day will be enough – concentrate on positive thoughts and observe yourself from outside.

Make slow deep breaths and reflect on something that brings you joy – it might be the sunny day at the sea or walking with your dog or spending time with your funny friends. Reflect on how much joy it brings you and smile inside and out.

If you try and think positive, stress will never appear in your life again! Can you not think positive because you are overloaded with tedious essays? Relax! Have a look at our editing services for students and get back to meditation!

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Laugh More

Laughter is an amazing thing that is able to reduce the stress and make our lives longer. If you do not find any reason to laugh in your everyday life, just look at its funniest part!

First of all, you should surround yourself with people who are able to make you laugh. If you do not have any, watch the comedies on TV or enter the groups on Facebook that will post one joke per day minimum. After waking up, visit the group, read the joke, and get the positive vibes for the rest of the day. How to find the correct group? Well, do you love the animals? Then, enter the group 9GAG Cute where funny videos with adorable pets are posted. Seriously, you will not be able to resist and not laugh and melt looking at the cute puppies and kittens.

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Justify the Person’s Bad Behavior

Each time you hear something negative directed at you, do not take it personally. The polite and thoroughbred person will never say anything nasty to anyone. If the person still does something bad, you need to understand that s/he might be upset or angry, s/he might be going through the relationship crisis, or someone is sick in his/her family.

The person says it to lash out and not to hurt anyone. Plus, you might misinterpret his/her intentions and understand him/her wrong. You need to think positively and say to yourself: “I simply misunderstood him/her. S/he did not mean what s/he said," or “This person had a bad day – I should not feel grumpy about what s/he said."
Think positive and do not allow anyone to ruin your day!

Author’s Bio

Helen is a prolific writer who inspires other people to find their predestination in life. Her life motto is, ‘Do what you care for, love what you carry out.’
She also believes that each individual on the planet has special expertise, and the only complication is to be open in order to see this talent in its full volume.

Here at Positive Words Research, we are looking to share with our readers original content that hasn’t been published on other sites so if you are comfortable with Positive Words Research being your sole publisher, we are more than happy to share with our readers your inspiring and empowering story.

 

 

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